Have any of you managed to reinvent yourselves while going to college? What did you do and what were the results?
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yeah, I went from a shut in, socially awkward avoident, to a fun social party girl.
A few things allowed this to happen:
First of all, I started taking classes about subjects i was actually interested in, and made real connections with classmates that way.
I started drinking and smoking weed. This put me in a different head space where I enjoyed going out and socializing more. It also allowed me to be more open with my emotions/needs/opinions.
I decided to say "yes" to everything for a month. If people asked me to go hiking with them I would say "yes," even if I didn't want to. If they asked me to play basketball I would say "yes," If people wanted to take me out to dinner I would say "yes." If they asked me if I would do mushrooms with them, I would say "yes." You get the picture.
What you work on also works on you.
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>>18111874
i think its less about reinvention and more about self discovery.
i moved around a lot in highschool so every time i moved i was able to try new things without being judged for having a radical change.
people act like trying new things is somehow wrong, that it can't be okay because if it was you you would have magically been doing it since you were a baby.
its okay to try new things and if you dont like them as much, scale it back.
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sort of. in highschool i was an invisible loser so i wanted to change that in college. on some level i did, made friends and went to parties, drank alot, got laid for the first time and all that
i overdid it though and i got kicked out of my living situation for some really dumb shit, ended up blowing off school pretty much entirely and failed a bunch of classes
so idk have your fun but keep your head on straight. easier sad than done and i definitely wouldnt have listened to me when i was 18
ive been out of college for a while and im still an invisible loser so end of the day not much has changed
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I'm such a pathetic person. I want to lose weight, I want to get in shape, I want to eat better, I need to change but I keep falling back into the same habits as before. My biggest demon is fast food, if I can get rid of my unending desire for fast food then I will be at such a better place. It comes to the point that at least 3-4 times a week I have fast food. Maybe more. I would come home from work and just grab burger king or taco bell because I'm do hungry and there's never anything when I get home made. It's not only making me gain weight it's alot of money. It's like 10 bucks per meal and sometimes I have 2 a day. It's just so easy to get food there and it fills me up nice unlike most foods do for some reason. Please I need help stopping my urge for fast food, it's hurting me in so many ways.
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I know it's not the same and its not what you wanna hear, but just buy a bunch of vegetables and cheap meats and make stews and soups. Food shouldn't be a drug. Eat to live, not live to eat and all that. Also you'll save a shitload of money. Maybe to buy real drugs with.
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>>18111858
The only thing keeping me from being super over weight and it messing me up more is I love eating veggies and drink water and all that stuff. But still fast good just messed me up so badly
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>>18111850
You can eat fast food and lose weight. Just don't get a extra large fry with a diet soda cause that shit aint helping. Just get a grilled chicken sammy. Filling and lower in calories and fats. If you are spending $10 a meal at fast food places you are getting like 2 sammys and shit.
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Is there a way to save my Google Chrome android app's current tabs to bookmarks? I have 100+ tabs that I haven't cleaned out and I'd like to save them as bookmarks.
Please help. Step by step instructions would greatly be appreciated
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help please
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>100+ tabs
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>>18111967
Let's just say that 100+ is a VERY conservative Number... Which is why I need help with this..
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I'm a 26 yr old virgin. That may or may not be relevant.
I recently got involved in a sort a fetish hookup thing. She and I shared the same kink, which we are both very private about. We like farts. I know, gross. So you can imagine finding an attractive, cool, funny women who shared this kink was exciting. It was incredible.
She also seemed pretty into me and would tell me how much she missed me, how she talks about me to her friends, etc. I ended up asking her if she wanted to date- probably not a wise move but I was developing feelings. She said yes. It felt right. We fooled around more and I always made her cum, I know this because she would get wet as hell.
Then out of the blue she decided she needed time to figure herself out. I was confused and I gave her some space and then texted her like 3 days later (keep in mind we went from communicating every day to not at all). then I kind of pushed the issue and she said "we didn't even talk that long, I have to look out for myself, it's not selfish".
So now we're pretty much done talking and low and behold, I'm a blubbering mess. I feel embarrassed, inferior and like an idiot because I trusted my gut and opened up to her. I tried to be careful and take all of this slowly but from her reactions it just felt natural.
Things to note here is that while I made her cum many times via our fetish we never had sex because I wasn't able to get fully hard, I guess nerves. She said she didn't care.
This type of scenario has happened many times. I get attached and suddenly they pull away unexpectedly. This time I went out of my way to keep it casual.
I don't know what to do, how to proceed in the future. If you have any tough love, harsh truth, real talk, please give it to me, I need to hear it. If you know of any philosophies, readings, anything you recommend to improve my situation, let me know. I need to take responsibility for what happens I just don't know how.
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im a 32 yr old virgin in los angeles and i have the same fetish. where did u meet her. do you still have that fetish
kik: zsasza or just reply here
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It's usually super disheartening for the girl to not be able to get you hard. They always say it's ok to be polite but really they sometimes find it offensive or frustrating. That's probably the problem if it happens every time. Try pills.
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I'm a 21 year old college student and look like a 14 year old kid. People in the workplace don't respect me because they think I'm one of the teenage minimum wage lackeys. I'm treated like a child - for instance, one of my coworkers said something about sex and my manager said "hey please don't use that kind of language around her" and pointed at me. I had to tell him I was actually many years older than the person who had made the "offensive" comment and he was shocked.
I'm 5'3", 115 lbs, and have small breasts. My face is squarish and not very feminine. I know it's good to look young in the long run, but how do I get people to start treating me my actual age and not how I look?
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>>18111810
You don't want to look older. You want people to respect you. You don't want to be 20 and have people think you're at least 35. On one occasion, three people were trying to guess my age, and their guesses were 35, 37 and 41.
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>>18111810
Dress like business women and makeup appropriately too. It's good to look young hough congrats. I'm 22 and just grew a moustache it's total baller haha
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Just act like an adult woman and they should start treating you right.
You know what to do.
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Is there any way to know if I have autism?
I like to repeat some things and I like to spend time alone, I do not have many problems to talk to unknown people or communicate, but sometimes when I do not find a topic of conversation I get very nervous, a doctor I met with just looking at the pupil of the eye he realized that I was someone nervous and ask me if I was nervous all the time.
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>>18111801
if you had autism you would have been diagnosed already. and if you somehow had it without getting diagnosed than you're high functioning enough that getting a diagnoses would only hurt you, not help you.
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>>18111808
I know, only that sometimes I feel that I dont fit, I worry about what people think of me and I understand that it's stupid, sometimes I try to avoid thinking that way, but I end up doing it inconsiderately,
Autism maybe was a bit exaggerated, maybe I'm just a little idiot
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You won't get a diagnosis as an adult. I got mine by acting like a normal little shit and I had behavioral/authority problems. But, the older I get the more I can admit, it's autism.
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my wife just took her 19 yo son to an LBGT meeting, because he professed to her that he is a female, not a male.
I'm a little freaked out over it, but sympathetic if that's how he feels, however, I refuse to live with someone going through that transition. If and when he starts taking hormones, and is still living with us, I said to her I'm leaving. He hates me anyway because I'm fucking his mom.
I need advice, what would you do? Thanks for listening.
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>>18111755
You don't have a wife or a son.
Just a computer.
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>>18111761
actually I do sir!
there ARE 40-somethings on 4chan, dontcha know. We GREW UP and created the internet, you're the newcomers bruh.
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>>18111755
>My wife's son
>Is a literal tranny
Kek this writes itself
Alright /adv/ I need help.
What advice do you guys have to get over my own insecurities when it comes to my girlfriends number of sexual partners? She admitted to me shes slept with 36 people. I've only been with 12. I guess I feel really inadequate and shit now, I've always believed the number shouldn't really matter, but it's just fucking with me more than I expected it to.
We agreed that we wouldn't tell each other and leave that part a mystery, but she got super drunk and blurted it out which really pissed me off to say the least.
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>>18111739
>shes slept with 36 people
That's slut level honestly. 12 is quite a lot too, but not as bad.
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>>18111739
>I've only been with 12
That's still quite a bit
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>>18111747
We've been together almost a year now and were doing great until this. I'm trying really hard to forgive and forget, but yeah, if it looks like a duck...you know the rest. Just feeling inadequate about dick size and sexual prowess if I'm being compared to that big of a group of people.
Also I never thought of 12 as that high. 10 of them were while in relationships of that makes any difference.
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I really want to start eating healthy, but I find myself still consuming junk food and soda daily. The problem is that these pretty much ARE my diet.
How do I change my habits? Has anyone gone through this succesfully?
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Buy other shit. Can't eat what you don't have.
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Do you know how to cook?
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>>18111704
this mostly. having a buddy system in place helps
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Who here /inherently creepy/?
>get scared looks from strangers -- mostly women
>cashiers and service workers try their hardest to avoid eye contact
>people always avoid the empty seat next to you on the bus or train
>if a passerby does make eye contact with you, they turn around and walk away fast
>professors, employers, or coworkers talk to literally everyone but you, especially in your presence, and avoid acknowledging you
>bar patrons, even bartenders, go out of their way to ignore you
>catch people constantly looking at you in fear, and they oft pretend they weren't
>the few times you do say something, everyone just blankly nods in your direction, and go back to talking like you're not even there
>the only time people acknowledge your presence is when you're alone and crying, and then it's just to avoid being in the same room as you
It's been like this since I was six. Even in preschool, I was treated by the staff like I was unpleasant being within the same presence. And on here, anything resembling creepiness is taken as if you're ought to be shot and disemboweled in front a live audience. Especially as I'm approaching my forties. So, what's the best caliber bullet to put in my temple?
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you're crying in public. That's not your appearance. There is something wrong with you
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>>18111694
if you don't have a horribly deformed face, you're just paranoid and the reason people seem to ignore you is because you are socially awkward. might also be your choice in clothes. tell us what you normally wear
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>>18111702
Along the lines of...
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Hey /adv/
I've had a crush on one of my friends for like three years now and I just found out he's straight. Been a little depressed ever since. How do I cope with knowing I'll never have him?
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>>18111691
you were crushing on someone for three years and only just now found out they like girls?
you were crushing on a guy for three years and never made a move?
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Easy
Kill yourself
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>>18111691
Find someone who looks like him.
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I have trouble sleeping guys, in that i get into bed and it takes several hours for me to get comfy and fall asleep, several hours to get that 'numb' head sensation that tells you if your about to fall asleep or not.
I think its mainly because my room is constantly hot, anyone know how to cool a room down? Plus general sleeping tips
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>>18111687
Reading helps me fall asleep. Also, get a fan.
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>>18111687
yeah cold helps the body go to sleep cuz your temperature drops when you fall under and shiz.
get a fan, a ceiling fan, or an AC. whatever you can afford.
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>>18111687
Put your pillow in your fridge, that way you have something cold to lay your head on while you sleep if you think your room is hot.
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I am trying to find a couple that moved to Australia in 1976. I have both their full names. There is a massive reward if I can find these people. What is the best way to find them, I have money to spend on help.
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>>18111657
facebook if they're basic. if they're not basic, then you might be able to bribe someone with that money for one of those software programs that have the history of everyone.
an associate of mine had that until recently.
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If I do it, can I have 1/3 of the money?
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Check dental/hospital/dmv records if you can, if they're off the grid or something similar I can't help but good luck
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I am looking for help with male hygiene. I will give you what I do now and you guys tell me if I need to change anything.
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I shower about one time a week. Maybe 2. Is this too little? I really fucking hate showering because its so time consuming and you have to rinse the shower out after because of body hair and such.
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I shave maybe about once every 2 weeks when I go to get a haircut. Is this too much, too little? My job isn't too strict with facial hair but I don't have much face hair to begin with.
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Sweating is like the bane of my existence. Swamp ass and that rank ass sweaty cock smell is horrible when I take my pants off at the end of a day or so if I have been sitting all day. How do you prevent swamp ass? Like I could take a shower today in the morning and smell of swamp ass by the evening if I sat around and played video games all day.
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Should I shave my pubic hair? I don't have a girlfriend and probably won't have one anytime soon. Is there any point in shaving it? What about ass hair and what not?
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How often should I be changing underwear? I change them like once every 3 days. Someone was saying that you should change your boxers EVERY DAY. That seems kind of a lot to me but I can see how that may be the best solution? I don't know.
Anyway, how can I improve my hygiene? Is it possible that I have poor hygiene for a male? I hoping some male here who knows how to groom well can give me some pointers.
Thanks
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>>18111618
>I shower one time a week. Maybe 2.
>Sweating is like the bane of my existence.
I think you'll find showering more to be very helpful.
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>>18111618
1. EVERY FUCKING DAY
Depending on how long your hair is, you can maybe cut it washing it every second day, but your body every day. And a shower takes like 10 minutes. 5if you put your mind to it.
2. If you have a beard, keep it. Otherwise, shave often. Half grown doesn't look good
3. Deodorant. Lots
3. Up to you. Not really a big deal
4. EVERY DAY. How are people comfortable having their balls encased in 3 day old sweat soaked underwear
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jfc, 4chan how did your parents fail you so hard.
Shower every fucking day. Wash your hair every other day.
Shaving is whenever you feel like it so long as it doesn't look scraggly and shitty. If you look like a bum, trim that shit.
IF YOU FUCKING GET SWAMP ASS MORE THE GODDAMN REASON TO WASH YOUR FUCKING ASS EVERY GODDAMN DAY HOLY SHIT.
To avoid, lose weight, wear clean clothes every day, SHOWER EVERY DAY.
Shaving pubes is subjective. Do it only if you want. But keep in mind, the hair might be holding in some of that stank you're talking about.
Ffs. Clean underwear every fucking day anon. Thats what you're smelling. Pants can get 2-3 wears if you aren't sweating profusely, but since you are, I'd go ahead and wear fresh ones.
Shirts can get 2-3 wears as well so long as you use proper deodorant and don't sweat a ton.
>Responding to an obvious troll posting
I know, nobody is this retarded. But I'm stuck in a boring ass 4 hour lecture so fuck it. I'll take the b8
im very depressed today. no friends. and i cant find boyfriend. yes i am a boy. is my experience unique?
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>>18111616
then why cant i find someone else like me, no matter how much i actively search, i never find kin
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>>18111619
because you want to be unique, and admitting that another gay guy who isn't social exists would ruin that for you.
i was you until a year ago