Do you need some sort of signal from a girl before you ask her out so that you aren't an autist for doing so? I mean, in the OP of the "ask the opposite gender" thread it says:
>I like someone. What do I do? >ask them out
But the internet says you need some signs that she likes you already before you should ask her out so Idk anymore.
I'm not asking so much about the outcome, I'm asking when is it socially acceptable to ask a girl out, what kind of relationship do you need to have beforehand, so that you are not an autist/retard for doing so.
I mean both for girls you just met or girls who you've known for a while that are friends or sort of friends with you.
Whoever wrote that you need signs is a retard. There is no such thing. You will only see things that aren't actually there. You simply assume that she is interested in you. And then ask her out.
Goddamn of course its socially acceptable
You can ask out anyone anytime
Like right now I have my phone in hands and want to text a girl from my class, its spring break and I suddenly started missing her even though we never interacted much, but when we did there was an immediate connection
Of course I have ALL the reasons to hit her up
But I still dont do and wait for... for nothing really
I guess you have to just push through the awkwardness and make the fucking move
And remember
A girl will NEVER (99,8% probability) ask you out even is she wants to
Hi guys, I've got a major bedroom problem going on at the moment.
My wife (40) and I (42) have been married a year. Our sex life used to be great - we did roleplay, anal, and she'd even call me daddy in the heat of the moment sometimes (this weirded me out initially but I ended up digging it).
Since our honeymoon, it's like a switch has been flipped - she's rarely in the mood, and when we do fuck, she's just lies there like a starfish, with pretty much nothing to indicate she's getting anything out of it. I'm not sure how to bring this huge change to her attention without it being awkward - is this common among women? What is most likely causing this?
fwiw, we both came out of failed relationships
>>18115473
You definitely have to talk about it.
Fuck, you're married - you should be able to talk about things like these with the person you're married to.
Maybe she's stressed. How's her life going other than that?
Maybe you both just stopped putting effort into the relationship.
Spend more quality time together, be kind and romantic.
It is normal to some extent that sexual life gets more boring after a long time together and as you get older, but it shouldn't be this radical and this sudden.
>>18115473
>have been married
I found your problem
>>18115473
Maybe you're the kind of person who can't go back sexually? So everything has to be extremely freaky to turn you on? In my opinion, it's not good to make for exp a fetish a standard if it bothers your SO. Maybe she's just happy with vanilla stuff and that turns her on the most? Talk to her.
Hey all. I need someone with advice on the court system. I was arrested on some bullshit and long story short, I'm now going to go through a jury trial upcoming shortly. The thing is I know I shouldn't have been arrested in the first place. Anyway, I got word that my trial date is getting postponed. Does this normally happen? I'm thinking this is happening for 1 of 2 reasons.
1) They can't get enough jurors together.
2) The prosecutors are struggling with the case.
>>18115470
I just spoke with my attorney and he told me that it was the judge that was trying to hold off on a trial, not the prosecutors. Since when does the judge make this decision?
>>18116504
Judge prolly just wants to set up his/her schedule as he/she wants. Don't matter too much about how you got arrested nut more of if you are guilty of a crime and if there is evidence of it.
>>18115470
This bullshit happened to me before. I shouldn't have been arrested and the prosecutor knew this so they kept delaying the trial. Just make sure you keep up to date on your court date and remember unless they formally let this go don't assume anything.
I moved to Austria from Croatia and I'm working currently. Im going to start uni in 6 months but Im afraid I wont be able to study and work more than 2 days a week at the same time, but since Im not a rapefugee but slavshit i cannot apply for any grants for undergraduates whatsoever. What can I do?
Yurai? :D
>>18115469
Niet
Wtf you moved already and haven't planned how to pay your studies yet?
Tfw I self sabotage because failing is easier than success
Why is trying so hard?
>>18115414
You probably had bad role models growing up.
>>18115434
I had none
>>18115414
Someday you will crush your competitors, and taste the outcome of your efforts.
But you have to discover what you do better than the average. That is life.
I have a really bad ache on my right shoulder, it is my dominant hand so I use it often especially at work. I've had this problem since I started carrying heavy ass books in high school. I've gone to doc and she said she didn't find anything wrong and that she could send me to a therapist.
Does anyone else have this issue and how did you help it? I sometimes smoke tree to help but it doesn't fully take away the pain. I'm only 23, is this gonna last my entire life? It even starts to hurt if I sit at the computer too long.
Rsi. Look it up. Most doctors have no clue how to treat it.
Have you fallen down and caught yourself with your right arm? That happened to me, and that ended up tearing my ACL joint which caused a lot of pain in my shoulder, then back, and then neck. I went through physical therapy, but in the end, I think resting the shoulder for a month or two really helped the healing process.
Try asking a physical therapist about it.
If you want, maybe you can buy a shoulder brace to help relive the pain from bad posture.
Do you ever wish you would've met your girlfriend later in life?
I love her from the bottom of my heart, I've had some girls before her and she's had some guys before me. The thing is I sometimes feel like I'm missing out on something. I'm currently 21 and in college.
I don't want to break up with her though, she's the one I want to have children with. She'd be the perfect mother.
I'm kind of stuck right now and it only makes sense to me to break up in order not to live in regret for the rest of my life. But as I said, I don't want to, there's really nothing that's not working out in our relationship.
What's your view on that?
I'm sure many are/have been in similar situations.
kys retard
>>18115314
Solid advice
>>18115300
People change
You're still very young, and what you/she wants is bound to change anyways. Just move on.
there's 3 girls I have crushes on at work, and they are single and two of them are good friends.
I dunno who to ask out first, and if I ask one out and it doesn't work out will I have a chance to date the others or will they feel like "left overs", i.e not my first choice?
They are all asian and speak broken english, if that makes a diff...
you have exactly one chance because if they're coworkers, they'll talk about it
don't fuk up boi
>>18115292
are any of these actually interested in you?
Why guys are so coward and gutless?
I had a few serious relationships with some 'bf material' guys, and any time we got to the point something isn't working right between us I saw my SO just trying to ignore the problem and being unable/unwilling to communicate if not directly asked to.
I even got to the point of being the one who ends the relationship because I knew it was what my SO wanted but "had no the guts to do it" - his words.
Is it just bad luck or are all men so eternal spoiled dickless asshole kids?
>>18115228
>are all men so eternal spoiled dickless asshole kids
Can't imagine why you might attract that type femanon!
>>18115228
Lot of men are unwilling to communicate cause they think it's not masculine to talk about or acknowledge issues. It's fucking retarded and I've had more male friends sit in disfunctional or toxic relationships because of it than I care to admit.
Probably because women are fragile cunts that will drop relationships at the first sign of difficulty, so many men have the learned behavior of ignoring problems so as to not upset the gf. Blame your fellow roasties.
Ok so lately I've been wondering how guys meet their girlfriends, every female friend I know seems to be annoyed by strangers talking to them... so my question is do people always meet in places like school? or are handsome guys an exepction?
Sorry if what I wrote sounds stupid but I'm really really unexperienced in social life and have not experience in romantic life at all.
Anywhere. School, work, parties. There are even couples who met in the supermarket. The trick is not to be desperate or to force it.
>>18115101
So it's mostly about just doing your own thing? I'm not asking because I'm searching for a girl, I'm just curious.
>>18115101
I don't get how people meet in the supermarket. Like you are literally only there because you have a mission to do.
>Hey buying lettuce are you?
>That's so weird for I too am buying lettuce
>Would you like to maybe grab a salad with me some time?
GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, that guy who says monogamy is dead and fart guy
Fuck off
>>18115096
I'd like girls to answer, but experienced guys can as well:
do you think I can start befriending (or even try to hook up since we're talking about a girl) a quite long-known acquaintance? I mean we're talking about the classmate of a friend of mine, i "know" her since 3-4 years, but we only talked a few times. Or would that sound weird?
>>18115123
Why wouldn't you be able to?
>>18115129
I mean why would someone who kinda ignored you for so long want to know you out of the blue? There's a limit to shyness.
So there's this girl Ive had a crush on for a while.
I realized fairly early on that I was in her friendzone and that there was no use in pursuing her, still I felt the attraction towards her.
Recently though, I think she's been starting to realize that I may actually be bf-material.. she's become more touchy and flirty and well, I play along..
Now she's coming here tomorrow and well, I think it's time to make a move now.
What do?
Smoothly kiss to a song like young folks by Peter bjorn and jhon or like electric feel by MGMT. Idk some shit chicks like... Build some tension(not to much) just a little bit more eye contact (don't look like a freak) get her attention and go for it, or fuck that hoe leave her , she chose you as her backup and only wants you because realized you can maintain her in such way....But idk it's just my opinion remember you make the choice not us so only blame urself for failure lol
>>18115110
Ignore this
>>18115233
Grrr still though she sometimes makes me feel friendzoned :/ just now for instance
How to get job? I'm 18 and only have a highschool diploma, no experience. I made a resume, but where do I even begin? I have no computer, no car (don't know how to drive), no connections, no references, and no money to kickstart anything, no one to help. I have my cheap smartphone with mobile data. I already went around locally and looked for fliers and stuff to e-mail my resume but I never heard back, it's been multiple weeks. Tried to apply to Dominoes Pizza but I can't make it past the references section online, cause none, etc stuff like that. What do I do?
>>18115077
>but I never heard back
Do you call them up and ask?
>I can't make it past the references section
You know you can use people like teachers and neighbours, right?
>>18115077
Walk the streets. Go into literally every single store and office you pass and ask for a job.
>>18115098
Oh, I didn't this would work so I never tried it. Thank you.
>>18115094
No I haven't called them. I didn't know I could use neighbors and teachers, thank you.
Should I reach out to my ex who dumped me because she wasn't over her ex?
Now I know what you're all thinking; no. But hear me out. I dated this girl for a month and a half and it all went perfectly until she started acting all down and then revealed that she wasn't over her psychologically abusive ex. We fought, I told her to shut him out of her life, and she pretty much said "no I can't do that". She decided we shouldn't date and now we're both done. Here's why I'm so conflicted, she is going through literally the exact same thing I did with my first gf who fucked with my head too. Like it's honestly pretty scary how similar the situation is. He dumped her twice, spread rumors about her, fucked with her so badly to the point where she has to hide from him if she sees him in public, and yet somehow still thinks he's a nice guy. She's already obsessive over him and he doesn't give a fuck about her, and even if she and I never date again I just can't sit back and watch her set herself up for disaster like I did.
So what do you think?
going after a chick that wants another dude?
yea sure buddy, go for it!
...you cuck
>>18115047
Well I guess that settles it
>>18115036
In the words of a really shitty song "Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved" You can't save people from making mistakes, all you can do is let them make it and be there to pick up the pieces at most. Even that is not your responsibility though
>gf breaks up with me 3 months ago
>I'm pretty sad about it
>haven't talked to her since
>last night she crossed my mind and I realized wow, I don't care anymore, I'm completely over her
>literally 12 hours later she calls me out of the blue and wants to talk
what the fuck! how did she know? why girls do this
it's like she had some kind of sense "wait a second!? he doesn't have feelings for me anymore!? time to fix that"
Not your problem OP. If you really moved on/don't care, just ignore her and live your life. Walking back through that door is only going to make you feel stupid later on.
Never step back anon. Mistakes shouldnt be made twice.
>>18114968
Cut all contact. The less you see and hear from her the less it will bother you that she doesn't want you. Block her number.