Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 2224. page

>>18117421

with weddings becoming almost entirely about the girl, there is no ceremony left to showcase a boy becoming a man. Every culture had their own thing, but we just lost it.

Ceremony is considered important to humans because it gives us validation for what we've done. but ceremony is slowly being done away with.

think of it this way. They could just make schools be 12 years long without reference to grade. you dont need to know the grades in order to function. but we have a term for each year (freshman, sophomore, junior, senior) because its important to acknowledge growth. otherwise humans feel no reason to move on.

the graduation ceremony doesn't make you a graduate. completed the courses did. but graduating validates it.

women get weddings to say they are now a woman, a full grown woman, that she is doing what women are meant to do, that she is successful.

but men don't have that. weddings have become about the bride and somethign that men should fear in general, and even if it could be about becoming a man it unfortunately skips over male bonding.

the frat itself is meaningless, but it does give validation for what you're doing, swearing to a brotherhood, putting behind the nuclear family unit, and being a wild 'lost boy' for at least some time.

it means you're taking care of yourselves and your brothers.

you can have all that without a frat, but the frat offers ceremony.

>>18117429
Interesting insight. When you put it that way, it feels kind of pointless. I guess it works if you're able to psych yourself into it.

>>18117438

remember how little kids had 'clubs' ? its kind of like that but this signals your independence from your parents.

>it feels kidn of pointless

it kind of is, as much as anything is, but its like joining the army, you become really close with everyone in your squad, even if you hate them you live and die for each other.

obviously this is less intense, but you get the idea. its kind of like adopting a kid, but instead you're adopting brohters.

ultimately it seems pointless now but one day you'll look back and feel like you missed out on brotherhood, and bonding, and etc. and think that joining a frat would have fulfilled your desires,

>>18117392
>>18117392
Need more details of her in-person reactions to you, but sounds like she either has a big crush on you, or tho KS youre a big creep.

>>18117392
Either really likes you or she's gay. More details

>>18117423
We have like 20 mutual friends, I'm really polite with her, never try to overstay or be flirtatious. My one friend said she kept looking at me when I'd get up and work. It's odd, she can laugh and chat with others but me she's super tens

>>18117383

whats your fetish?

>>18117383

Only bumping because I too kind of feel this way. My fetish is useless and can't be incorporated into the bedroom.

>>18117389
bbc interracial cuckoldry with white girls

>>18117370

you're exactly where you should be, young with your life ahead of you and no idea where it will go.

what would be the point in living if you already know what your future holds?

do your self a favor and stop worrying about what other people say about you. its mostly meant to be compliments and not taken too seriously.

my mother always said i was going to go on to do great things, to change the world, and thats a lot of fucking pressure to instill on an 8 year old. but it didnt stop. the older i got the more she harped on it.

>>18117374
I just want to do something great with my life. I just want to know that path. I just need someone to point me in the right direction. I'm going to a CC and make dean's list every semester but feel I'm never going anywhere with it.

>>18117393

> i want to do something great with my life
> doesn't even have any particular direction or desire for WHAT

typical millennial. you allwant to change the world, but none of you know how.

the sad thing is what you're essentially asking for is to have importance bestowed upon you, to be famous for no reason

>>18117352
You simply record a loop with one knob on your DAW and play the other as an overdub.

>>18117360
also, you should try downloading Synth1, it's free.

>>18117362

Can i twiddle more than one knob at a time?

>>18117341
Its a career that's respected and pays fairly well. You'll see some of the worst of society and get extremely frustrated on the job sometimes. Physically demanding until you can make specialist duties (usually) if you're smart/skilled enough for it.

Joining the police in my country (Australia) is extremely competitive however, specialist duties even more so once you're in, having a degree is even recommended now at this point.

Its a great job in England, just look it up on online and read up on the CKP which is whats required to apply to any UK constabulary

>>18117367
Thank goodness all I need in my state is a highschool diploma
>>18117368
No offense but you guys don't even get paid that well, and you don't carry guns.

>>18117323
>I've been hitting the gym and running to get my mind off of it
... why is this your problem...?

>>18117323
she sounds like she wants someone who agrees with her a lot and is attractive

>>18117337
I meant about her friend that dumped me. We all work together and it's just stomach churning seeing those two walk around after what they did to him and me. I just go hard on myself and seek to improve when I fail. He's just been eating junk food and watching depressing stuff. He's found it difficult to walk away from her(Even though I'm sure she's fucking a new guy already) Ugh. I fucking hate these bitches.

>>18117317

Funny thing is the best way to get nudes doesn't involve asking-

Hi, I'm Steve Nudeson and with my simple formula YOU can get a nude picture today!

Step1: Select eligible target
[parameters for target]: It must be perceived that this girl is likely to send a nude picture. Nude pictures are a huge part of the self obsession of the selfie culture so you will have a better chance of receiving nude pictures if the girl you've targeted for nude inception is heavily involved in the selfie culture. Does she post pictures of her self on social media- are a large portion of her photos only of her? Has she made aesthetic modifications to her body deeming in your perception as non-traditional? Has she been known to be promiscuous?
If you answered YES to any of the above CONGRATULATIONS! you have a nude in your future!

Step 2:Engage the girl on Snapchat.

You need to use snapchat. I know. But it's the most likey way trust me. I hate snapchat. Engage the girl in a snap conversation starting at a time when she is alone or likely to get nakey. For most girls this is at night. If you know a girl who likes to get naked and take pictures of herself during the day and around people I want to meet her. Do not ask her if she is alone [that's very creepy] use your smarts and figure out. When you sense that she is alone or in a state when she is in good rapport with you and likely to get naked it's time for-

Step 3: Inception.

Now is the part where you incept the idea of sending a nude picture [WITHOUT ASKING] by steering the conversation in such a way that she is aware of her body. If she feels like she looks good naked she is very likely to nudie you. You want to give her this idea without saying it. This can be done either by a tactful compliment or by a reflexive response to your own body. If she is attracted to your body make sure your body is in the pictures you are sending. While you are snapping back and forth she needs to be thinking about her body.

>>18117317
If it's a friendship, and it isn't already sexual, you just don't fucking ask for nudes. If you were already fucking this girl it'd be different. But you don't kick things off by asking to see photographs of her naked body to keep forever

Or maybe I'm just getting old already

>>18117467

Regrettably this last step cannot be accomplished without confidence and tact. Buck up jhonny and it's nudie town for you.

Step 4: Receive Nudes

At a certain point of snapping with you and really thinking about her body she will send you a nude picture. Be patient, have a good conversation steered towards the ideas of each others bodies and physical sensation (how each other is feeling) will lead to lewd thoughts where attraction exists. The only way for that kind of conversation late at night on snapchat to end is with a nude photo. Never send first nude unless your dead sure. Be aware of how bad the downside of that choice could be. Never send a pic of your dick if it's ugly or a micropenis. What a world we live in.

Godspeed Nude-lad

Ditch the friend and get over the fact that your girlfriend acted single when she was single.

>>18117301
I'm not upset over that. I'm upset st the fact that they BOTH never told me. she was afraid to tell me because she thought I'd judge her sexual activity. I'm judging the two of them for keeping secrets from me.
any advice for an 18 year old black in finding girls outside your race to smash? I wanna fuck an Asian girl to even out her fucking a half white guy. I never got interracial puss before

>>18117327
Why would they tell you? How is it any of your business?

>she started crying

wow youre a cunt

If you want a fleshlight, buy a fleshlight.

>>18117304
I paid for a service, I expect to receive that service

>>18117278
>How do I find a good therapist without cycling through them
You don't. No two people have the same experience.

>>18117279
so there isnt anything i can do to cut through the bullshit?

>>18117278
Have you thought about trying a peer support group? I've found them loads more helpful than some fuckwad wit ha degree staring at you in a chair. Sometimes talking to multiple people who have been through similar things can be a lot more helpful, because they've earned it you know? They've been through the shit too and have a better understanding of where your issues are coming from.

Peer groups also lack one critical factor, they aren't in it for the money, people run them because they genuinely care.

Changed my life honestly OP

>>18117229
>job at chipotle
Don't come across as an autist and you'll be fine. As for what to wear, just wear neat clothing. Presuming you're male, a button up with nice slacks should do.

Wear a polo and dark blue jeans.
Be respectful and attentive.
Customer centric answers are.the best.
Be relaxed and calm.
Be there 15 minutes earlier and present yourself to the manager or whoever's doing the interview

>>18117229

Dress for the job you want. You'll be decently served with a polo/collared shirt, some khakis, and a decent pair of dress shoes.

You probably don't need a tie, but you could always go with the collared shirt/tie look if you want to step it up.

Talk about your enthusiasm, that you like working with people toward a common goal, and come prepared with SPECIFIC examples of times you've dealt with conflict and how you've solved it.

Good luck anon - just be friendly and open... you're not saving the world here.

>>18117227
You need to close the door to fake Kingdom Hearts from the realm of darkness, friend. We already have someone who's gonna seal the door from the realm of light.Seek the Kingdom Key D, a keyblade of darkness; It's the only way.

>>18117233
Fuck you man, I just picked a random picture. I jacked off with bloody knuckles last night.

>>18117227

this isn't as weird as you think OP.


I've always been a little aggressive with sex, but i didnt realize just how aggressive i wanted to be. I met a guy and he wanted to have sex, and i said no, but then he asked if i could just hit him. i thought, why not, so i did. i smacked the shit out of this guy, and i had an erection the entire time, didn't even need to touch myself.

we are animals OP, there are monsters inside us that want to fight and then when we win sexually dominate our victims so they know they belong to us.

neat.

Put him in a normal school.

>>18117237
But that will not resolve the main issue about his behavior

>>18117500
No, but it'll mean you stop wasting money on private education.

One of my friends has a masters in psych, and I'm a kiwifag so I imagine our environment is similar to yours. I can tell you that the lucrative jobs, or any of the jobs, are really only available if you have a degree in CLINICAL psychology. A regular psychology degree is about as useless as something like philosophy or English due to the sheer volume of people who study it. That said, a masters is better than a bachelors since there is a high research component.

>>18117232
Clinical psychology... so like, actual "hi you fucked up person, what's your problem I have to listen to today"?

>>18117254
You have a bachelors in psychology and you don't know what clinical psychology is?

And to answer your question, yes. Therapy and psychiatry is clinical psychology.