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So my friend has been on a downward spiral for a while now, about 2 years. He went from living with his grandparents when I first met him (15 years ago), to living with his great aunt when they died, and when she died he ended up living in a motel (provided by welfare). A year after that, he ended up in a homeless shelter in a bad neighborhood, when welfare refused to pay for the motel any longer. Before his great aunt died, he used to drive her car, and when she died, my dad got him a car and put him on his employee's insurance (which was relatively inexpensive). A few days ago he got into a car accident, my dad had already warned him that if he got into an accident, he'd have to get his own insurance, which is impossible because he's never had his own insurance before and it'd be too expensive for him (he literally has $300 to his name and makes $150 a month from welfare). I foresaw all this years ago and told him he could live with me, but than I found out he's a sex offender (shortly before his great aunt died), something I had no idea of for over a decade. I'm feeling quite guilty about the whole thing, after his car accident I had to drive him to his homeless shelter and it was extremely depressing. I can't stop thinking about it.
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Sucks man, you're a good friend for all you've done. But I dunno how much this kid wants to help himself if he's not working grueling hours and walking to and from his job miles away. Some people have to grow up quick, it's just rarer in the west nowadays to know one of such person.
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depends if he's willing to help himself, if so then support him for some time like a couple of months and then if he just slacks fuck it, but if he tries to achieve something then i'd respect it and help him more.
also depends if you're good friends with him
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How much makeup is too much?
I have horrible skin. Hyper-pigmentation, spots of psoriasis, dark circles under my eyes, pimples, etc. I used to say whatever about it and not wear any type of makeup which obviously made men not notice me at all but recently I've been wearing just concealer and foundation. Needless to say, I've caught a quite few looks with my new clear skin but how disappointed is whoever I choose going to be when I take this paint off my face?
Bonus question: I've been to 5 dermatologists and nothing has worked. Should I just stop hoping and stock up on makeup?
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There's nothing wrong with wearing makeup, but I think you should read into it first. gotta keep it classy, which takes a lot of practice and yoututubing and stuff.
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Isnt makeup bad for the skin as well?
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>>18117803
I'm pretty proficient in wearing makeup. For the most part, I just want it to look natural.
I do wonder how it will factor into dating. Up until 2 or 3 years ago, my skin was clear with only 1 nonpigmented pockmark.
What sort of reaction should I expect when I eventually have to take off my makeup and whoever I'm seeing gets a good look at my face?
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18 y/o straight cis hetero male here. I have a really weird problem that I have yet to find in anyone else. Gotta preface this by saying that I'm not misogynistic, homophobic, etc. Great start, right?
Essentially, I feel...cucked(?) by lesbians. It's a conjunction of being pretty sexual, having a lesbian fetish, and being unable to be a part of lesbian sex without it not being lesbian sex anymore because I am now a part of it.
This is really stupid baggage on my part and it kinda makes me feel like a piece of shit because I imagine that most lesbians would resent this sentiment, being fetishized by that weird nerdy dude. I feel like I'm harboring some deep shit that has yet to come to light, but it might just be a conjunction of the aforementioned issues plus my loneliness/thirstiness.
Weirdly enough, once I get to know a lesbian or bi chick, this dumb shit is shut off for me. Steven Universe, Princess Bubblegum, friends IRL, etc. Doesn't mess with me at all. But seeing two dyke-lloking girls holding hands in public? Hits me right in the feels/dick.
Anybody relate to this, either exactly or have a similar issue? Sorry to any LGBTQ ladies that I may have weirded out/pissed off with this little rant. I hate it just as much as you might. ;-;
>inb4 numale libcuck
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You got some issues, man.
SORRY IF I OFFENDED ANYONE WITH THAT SENTENCE IM NOT JUDGING YOU IF YOU HAVE ISSUES ISSUES ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I DIDNT MEAN TO MISGENDER YOU IF YOURE NOT A MAN.
ffs
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>>18117773
I mean, I don't expect I'll actually set too many people off. It's just been stewing for so long that I've gotten kind of self-conscious about it.
People tend to be most critical of the flaws they see in themselves and hate and all.
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Can someone really change?
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My boyfriend told me that till 3 years ago, he was a complete slut. He fucked around a whole lot. He had sex with nearly 100 people.
He said he changed, and that now he doesn't think casual sex is fulfilling and doesn't want it. He also told me that he didn't have sex for a year before we met.
While I don't care about virginity all that much, sex to me has always been something very meaningful and I had sex just in long term relationships.
It makes me feel weird that we feel so differently about the subject and we have such a different experience when it comes to sex/relationships.
Should I worry? Can someone really change so deeply? Will he just miss casual sex and go fuck around at some point?
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He rode the pussy carousel and now wants to settle down with someone because he feels dead inside.
Congratulations.
Only joking ;) It's great that he felt he could be honest with you about his sexual past, so I would assume there's definitely some truth in him wanting to change. People go through different stages in their life and it's perfectly natural for people who take part in casual sex, especially when they're younger. If you can handle the fact he has slept with 100 people, there is no real reason why this should be a problem.
Perhaps to try and alleviate your worries, you could focus on making sex as interesting as possible for you both. Generally, the allure of casual sex dies off quite quickly when you realise you have no real connection with a person. Sex with someone you love is incredible and not many people would choose casual sex over this.
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>>18117750
give him a chance if you like him. i am in more or less the same boat as your bf, and i have known others like this as well.
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>>18117770
I'm a good beta provider :^)
We have great sex, we're very compatible - we share the same kinks, we both have a high sex drive, we're really each other's type physically. And, obviously, we're close emotionally. It feels amazing, for both of us (I hope?).
I don't know how I feel about the number itself. It makes me feel gross for a few seconds, but then I rationalise it and I understand I have no reason to feel like that.
>>18117771
I love him. I've been with him for a while, he is a great dude.
I do want to give him a chance, I just feel a bit insecure I guess.
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>be me
>never had a girlfriend, don't even shows interest in the childhood / early adolescence
>discover porns at 12
>start to masturbate
>never approached to the female world except for porns
>don't know girls can be different than porn
>don't know dicks can be different than porn
>start to have some relationships at 16
>feeling awkward about my penis
>start to feel insicure about size cause the massive use of porns that suddenly enter in contact with reality
>be obsessed by expectations
>don't even have sex to confirm if my paranoia is real or not
>girlfriend didn't even watch my dick
>feel insicure anyway
>don't have sex till 19
>first blowjob failes cos feeling insicure and can't get a decent boner
>girlfriends loves me and doesnt care
>try again months later and everything starts to goes well and have sex and stuff
>don't feel insicure anymore cos sex works so who cares?
>be me nowadays at 24
>starts a new relationships and being brought back to the point when i feel insicure about dick and everything fails cause anxiety won't let me get a decent boner
p.s.: size is about 14cm or something. will this situation go on till the day i die? (not talking about the size, but the feeling of being judged and the obsession of expectations)
I didnt ever get humiliated so i starts to think that it's all in my head but i had sex with only two girls in my whole life and maybe they just didn't tell me my dick is tiny or something even if they think it.
If i can't improve the size, i'd like to improve the mind at least, and just don't give a damn.
I usually think that pornography ruins the vision of sex and women in the early years of life.
What do you think?
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Welcome to "Low scale of average", my friend. At least we're not alone.
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Sucks to be below 7 I guess.
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Your penis isn't tiny OP, it's actually the average size and is big enough to pleasure a woman.
(14cm | 5.5 inches)
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I had crushes on guys when I was a teenager but in my twenties I havent been able to develop feelings for anyone
What happened to me?
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>>18117705
Could be anything. If you were too sexually active in your teens, you may have destroyed your ability to pair bond, but this can be solved by simply staying away from sex and relationships for a few years. Or, it may be that as you got older, life has gotten more stressful, so you have less time to internalize the simple things that attracted you before? Maybe when you get to 30 or 31 you may feel different. I thought I'd never fall in love again, but recently I had to scratch that after 9 years of waiting. Sadly, it was only the attraction I felt and weirdness and anxiety messed it up.
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>>18117716
funnily enough, the girl I was crushing on is in a noise band.
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>>18117716
I lost my virginity when I was 21 and Ive never been in a relationship
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I want to study bachelor of science in computing but I'm worried I won't be smart enough to pass the courses. Already failed intro science courses a few years back and worried the same thing will happen.
Is a Bachelor of Arts really useless? I want to know I can get a job after college and I don't know if BA will do that for me.
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Think about the other side of the coin. Look into trades. Union jobs can net you just as much, or even more than some college degree required position. I know there was this carpenter meme floating around here for a few months before, but I'm serious. You just need to make sure its union. The wait for the listing will be worth, you just need to work an okay job until then
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>>18117706
I am a woman and can't work trades, unfortunately.
not being a male really makes it difficult to make money and get jobs.
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>>18117699
Going to college is a risk, you might land an amazing job or become unemployed at the end of it. You actually have to try hard with your marks, job experience and ECs and compete with your fellow classmates and those from previous years and unis to land a highly competitive role in a top tier company. A Bachelor of Arts isn't useless so long as your major is challenging, hopefully relevant and you're good on the experience + ECs front. Most of my friends who went the humanities route studied a double degree of Law/Arts and have been mostly successful. A lot of my colleagues only did a BA. These guys were exceptional and driven students however and did challenging stuff they were passionate about like Indonesian Studies for instance.
I myself did an engineering degree so I have an outsider impression of this. The majority of people in Arts I met when I was in university were utter drop kicks and unmotivated. You will not get anywhere if you follow in their footsteps (though that's not to say you shouldn't have fun in uni). Furthermore a degree isn't as limiting as you think as you'll end up finding lots of people with unrelated degrees working high level jobs they simply fell into after getting hired for something completely unrelated (like myself). A lot of graduate programs simply ask for a Bachelors, not caring which one so long as your got high marks in it.
I work in the Foreign Affairs department for my country and majority of my colleagues did BAs and some did graduate degrees in it too
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My boyfriend of three years and I broke up almost a year ago. Since then we've been very close, calling and texting almost every day. I had also spent that entire time trying to convince him to let me see him, and he finally let me last week. We spent an entire week together. At the end of the week he told me that he was very hesistant about seeing me, but he was glad he did because after we broke up he had spent the time we were apart trying to convince himself that he didn't want "this" anymore (never specified what "this" was), but that, again, he was glad we did and that he loved me and that he would miss me. He also talked about us seeing each other again and maybe going somewhere nice (he always insists on paying for trips and such). Anyways, all in all, it was great. Our last morning together I was feeling a bit down and he kept asking me why I was being so distant, and I didn't want to tell him I was afraid he'd go back to being cold himself. Considering the amount of times I've tried and failed to get him to see me, and then to have this amazing week with him where things finally seemed like they were just like they used to be, but something is wrong.
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He's acting like we didn't have this amazing time now, like he didn't have all these revelations about us and our relationship. I started casually talking about plans and maybe attending a school that I had always kind of dreamed about attending but would put me very close to him. I asked if it would make him uncomfortable and he said, "you're not giving me a break." What the Hell? Did I cross the line? Or is he being kind of flakey? Anyways, at the end of the conversation, he said that it wouldn't make him uncomfortable, but something still doesn't feel right.
I want to talk more about this stuff in person, because he seems so much more receptive in person, but he works in the outdoor industry and his work season pretty much starts now until about September, sometimes mid September. I'm taking summer classes to help fill up my time but then my fall classes start up in August. This was never an issue for us in the past because we were a solid couple, but now I'm feeling so nervous because of how uncertain things apparently are with him. It seems like I won't really get to see him until November, though December is more likely because of the length of winter break. Should I be more patient with him? Am I jumping the gun? The time we spent together and the words he said to me led me to believe so much, now I don't know, I can't tell what's happening. What's your take 4chan?
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He should just be honest with how he feels about you. He's being unfair.
You need to move on. You can't be with someone who wants to be with you one moment and then decides to break up the next. Not only is it unfair to you, but he's torturing himself trying to be with someone he doesn't truly like.
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>>18117702
I wouldn't say he doesn't like me; we're best friends, and literally just two days ago he was telling me about how happy he was that we met up and that he loves me and he'll miss me like crazy. That was two nights ago. So why the sudden shift? I know his life is hectic. I'm wondering if I'm pushing him too hard.
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Took 10 gram of paracetamol last night, can't stop puking. 2017-03-11 08:57:31 Post No.18117695
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Took 10 gram of paracetamol last night, can't stop puking.
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So like, should I go to the hospital or something or am I just gonna be sick for today?
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Yeah.
You need an inr and ecg done.
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Yes, go to the hospital OP.
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>>18117695
Uh, you absolutely need to go to the hospital.
What you did was stupid.
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Anons, I'm pretty sure one of my exes is going to try to hurt me if I don't return their advances. How do I deter them from bothering me, because everyone knows the authorities don't do shit to help victims of stalkers in burgerland (or really anywhere). I'm a weak thing and I am alone frequently and that can be exploited as they know my schedule. Thoughts?
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>>18117693
>no contact
>change up schedule
>maybe spend a week at someone elses place
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>>18117693
You are very wrong about the authorities. In the past few years they have become very sensitive to the dangers of stalkers, and will take you seriously.
Go to the cops. At the very least they'll have an "informal chat" with the guy and suggest firmly that he leave you alone. Meanwhile he'll be on their radar, and if he bothers you again they'll move on him.
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>>18117693
why dont you have a gun?
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Is a MMF threesome gay?
My friend knows this chubby girl with a great ass who's willing to do it with him and I. If I say no they'll probably still have sex, but I don't think this girl would have sex with just me alone. And I REALLY wanna fuck that ass, even if its while she's blowing my friend.
But then I would lose my virginity in a MMF threesome and I don't want to look back and regret it . I'm pretty sexually frustrated right now so might not be thinking clearly when making the decision.
What do you guys think?
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>>18117686
Honestly, do it. It's how I had my first and I have no regrets. It's also one of those things everyone should experience in their lives, so why not knock it off the list?
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Why cant you just bang someone ugly on tinder.
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>>18117691
There are like no ugly people on Tinder...I went on there and all the girls were out of my league so I didn't bother.
Let me sum up my issue like this:
>Having trouble feeling spiritual/close to God in prayer
>All started when I begin to get distracted in prayer/thoughts towards God
>now whenever I think of God, I think of another 3-letter word: sex
>just because its something completely wrong that I should not be thinking about in deep prayer
>when I think or see the cross, I imagine it turn into a cock
>when I think of Jesus, I think of him engaging in a homosexual bang gang with cum shots.
I wouldn't be surprised if my disease spread to any other devout Christians who pass by this thread. It's a simple word connection in the brain, that I don't think can easily be destroyed. You could ruin any other word or concept that you are devoted to by doing this. For this reason, I'm afraid to even go to an actual holy man like a priest for help with this, because I don't want to infect a holy man with my "thought disease".
How can I get rid of these thoughts? Basically, it's like I've added a definition to God, the cross, and Jesus, each one being something sexual, gay, or weird...Is this curable? Or am I stuck with this for life?
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What the fuck did I just read
Unsure how to advise
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sexual desire and many mental illnesses start at puberty.
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You can train your mind, but you will need professional help to do that
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This girl I've just started dating, but talked with for almost two months, has a birthday coming up very soon. I have no idea what to get her. Obviously it's too early to spend a shitload, thank god, but I'm a bit stumped. I know she's big on jewelry. I know next to nothing about jewelry, but always assumed girls like expensive or it's tacky. Is there anything modestly priced that ladies dig?
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>>18117676
Simple silver jewelry with small gem. Its hard to go wrong with that. Alternatively just pay attention to what she wears and get something similar
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>>18117676
You don't like her anyway. Just break up.
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People don't seem to want to associate themselves with me because I'm unemsym/pathetic. I don't get it? They'll tell me that something horrible is going on in their lives or that one terrible thing they saw on the news and I am just not able to care, so they assume I'm a toxic person and go no contact.
What do I do? I've driven so many people away just because of this fact, and to be honest I think it's stupid. I just want friends. How can I become empathic/sympathetic?
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>>18117675
Eh, I was the same way when i was younger. I kinda had to teach myself empathy. You just say cliche shit lile "Oh thats terrible" or "Im so sorry to hear that". It feels/sounds fake you you but ppl eat that shit up
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>>18117682
Really, that easy? It's just when I go to do it it'll sound really robotic and fake and I don't want that.
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>>18117728
Anyone actually trying to connect to you will be able to tell that crap is fake.
Why not follow the logic of empathy instead of expecting the feeling to just click?
I used to think I couldn't feel empathy because it wasn't an automatic thing for me. With effort and practice I can now reach the emotional responses expected of empathy by trying to put myself in the situation or relating it to something that did actually effect me. It can be very taxing and take a lot out of me but if you really care about the other person then it is worth the trouble to try to understand how they feel and comfort them.
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I have never been good with taking a shit. It's almost always constipation or diarrhea, and often with blood not in the stool from internal bleeding but on the TP when wiping thanks to anal lacerations (from too big shits I guess). And I probably have hemorrhoids too. But the last few days my anus has been hurting not just when I take a shit but the entire day. It is not so awful that I can't go about my daily activities but it hurts quite a bit. It's a stabby, achey sort of pain right on the anus/lower rectum and it is aggravated if I tense the muscles as if to do a kegel. Any suggestions to do anything, because this is a real pain in the ass! HAHAHA ba dum tss etc
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>>18117667
>puns unironically
>ass problems
Just kys
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>>18117667
Here's a really wild, off-the-wall idea.
See a doctor.