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Hey /adv/
I'm in my last year of school (or at least in this program) in a city that I just moved up to last year for said school. The only friend I had last year moved away. I somehow went all last year without really making any friends in my program.
I'm sitting here in my empty apartment (it's a 2br that the friend I mentioned earlier had moved from because he moved home) and it's all empty and it's making me really anxious and depressed. I'm hopefully finding a room to rent somewhere near the school soon.
How do I make friends this year? how do I not be horribly depressed? I wanna cry thinking about how I have no friends up here.
Being this alone honestly makes me suicidal.
Any advice for making friends in the second year of school? It feels like everybody's already got their cliques and I'm all alone all day in class.
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>>18693876
Hello.
Can i sit next to you?
What do you study?
Hey, i study that too. Wanna be my friend?
Yes it is that easy.
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation
Also psycholog and CBT for your depression.
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>>18693885
>Hello.
>Can i sit next to you?
>What do you study?
>Hey, i study that too. Wanna be my friend?
that makes you sound autistic anon, not friendly
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>>18693956
Sure way buddy, never do anything, never ever reach to people around you amd stay single / forever alone just to avoid being percieved as creepy or autistic.
Maybe as a last question use something less direct like do you have facebook? Wanna play games with me? Wanna go grab dinner after? What do you do for fun?
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There is no justice in this world
>Date first girlfriend for 2 and a half years
>She cheats on me
>Be emotionally destroyed from this
>Finally meet a new girl after a few months
>She's really cool, we get along well, finally feel like I can trust again
>We start dating
>After 6 months, she cheats on me with a close friend then breaks up with me over snapchat
>They're now dating
>Both my exes cheated on me and are now doing great in happy relationships
>I'm as alone as I've ever been, every day is an emotional struggle dealing with my loneliness, anger, and bitterness
>I try to channel as much as I can into my lifting, I feel like I'm just lifting to get better looking to show them what they "missed out on"
They treated me like shit and did an act of total betrayal and yet they won, they got off scot-free while I have to deal with the damages they inflicted
There is zero justice in this world, people do things with zero regard. Love means nothing to me, I have no friends who give a shit about me. If it weren't for me being the one always inviting people out and initiating conversations I'd have no friends
Add all this onto the family trauma I've dealt with in my life and now the fantasies of killing myself have gotten progressively more vivid and intense lately, I don't know what I am supposed to do
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>>18693875
You just have to keep trying. And they werent really cheating on you. Girls break up long before they actually tell you.
It is called monkey branching. Now man up, figure out what have you done wrong in dating game and try again. And no, life was never easy nor fair.
>killing myself
Psycholog + CBT.
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>>18693875
>2 girls cheated on me
>There is no justice in the world
Shut the fuck up you whiny sack of shit. The world isn't fair. Shitty things happen and sometimes no one gets punished for it. Pull yourself out of this cycle of self-pity and you might actually attract a decent girl instead of the toxic garbage you keep getting involved with. Consider the possibility that being a self-defeating, self-pitying whiner with thin skin and an eternal victim complex is the reason you don't have love or decent friends.
You need a fix, OP. You need to flip this shit around 180 degrees immediately. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and take your fucking life back. The world isn't going to mourn for you. No one is going to feel sorry for you. Take it back.
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>>18693875
I know this seems a bit bland and you're probably expecting something more helpful, but it doesn't get any more basic then to move on. Once a person cheats, they will cheat again. That's the order of things. Yeah, it's shitty that they opened you up and then threw you away after so much memories, but it's better that they revealed themselves now while you still have the opportunity to make a lot more memories. Keep trying. You had two bad hands. Whose to say the next hand will get you that royal flush? The reality is that life is full of shit and you're going to get shit on. Move on and keep trying.
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What can I do to improve my profile? I have a disgusting Jew nose (but I'm not Jewish afaik) and it seems like my chin and my neck are one. Obviously changing the nose ridge will require surgery, but what can I do about the neckchin?
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Lose weight you stupid fatass
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>>18693872
I'm 164 pounds and 5'4, aka king of trebuchet manlets. How much weight should I lose and when do I stop and start to bulk? I've read the /fit/ sticky but haven't figured out what I should actially do.
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>>18693872
This will work
I have a disgusting double chin too because of crossbite and being overweight. Can't get two birds with one stone I started losing weight and dieting. Until I get results I'll continue judding my fucking chin out to make it look less doubley.
How do you turn 0$ into 1000$ without working a job or doing illegal shit?
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Find a dollar on the street and buy a scratch and win and then win $1000 with it.
Or just find $1000. That's probably easier.
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>>18693857
You have to get triples and i will tell you.
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Should I cut ties with my parents?
Here's some background:
>2007
>Get job and buy shitbox car
>Work constantly and buy cool stuff
>Younger sister bitches that I have stuff and she doesn't
>I work hard and get scholarships and accolades because our family is dirt poor
>Graduate college with decent degree and okay job
>Meanwhile, sister turns 16
>Parents go into debt and buy sister a new car
>They tell her to get a job
>She refuses and says she wants to have fun
>They start giving her money
>She parties
>She totals the new car
>Parents buy her mediocre car
>She graduates with shitty grades
>No financial aid because parents make a little more now
>She parties in college
>Parents co-sign for loans so she can finish school
>She gets pregnant her senior year
>Parents guilt and beg me to do homework for her
>I give in because I am a weak pussy
>She barely graduates
>Has baby (with a felon fleeing the law, I may add)
>Parents renovate my grandfather's home after his passing
>Let sister and felon live there, rent-free
>They get government assistance
>Parents pay for everything
>I decide I want to start a business to fulfill a life-long dream
>Need a co-signer
>Parents refuse because then they would have to co-sign for sister a car loan
>Find out that sister isn't satisfied with free car and no bills
>She wants a new car because she "deserves" it
>Get hopelessly depressed
How can one couple be so blatant in their bias towards one child?
Like, she is given life on a platter and appreciates nothing.
Pic Unrelated.
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Your parents are actual retarded people, it's a miracle their offspring can form coherent sentences.
Leave.
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>>18693809
Classic
They know you can handle yourself so they don't cut you as much slack. It's the same in my family
Address the issue to them directly and they'll probably tell you the same. You're not entitled to their help one way or the other; succeed despite lack of assistance.
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>>18693809
Don't cut off ties.
They seem stupid not mean.
One day real life will slap your sister in the face, you'll feel better then.
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I just started my first year of college and living on residence.
I'm really worried that I won't make friends or know people like I did back in my home town. I'm not interested in clubs, do wanna focus on studies.
What should I do?
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>>18693771
>Want to make friends
>Not interested in clubs
Alright dude, a lot of the people you're going to meet are through clubs. You're a freshman, honestly you'll have time to attend at least a club or 2. Get out there man.
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>I won't know people like I did back in my home town
Good. Get too drunk as often as possible and snatch as many used panties as you can for your collection.
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join a sports team. just do it even if you dont like sports(choose a weird one if so). guaranteed friends.
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How to get my bf to stop eating like garbage
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I have expressed to my boyfriend multiple times that I am concerned about his eating habits because I want him to start healthy habits now so he doesnt have to deal with heart problems/obesity in later life and I care about his longevity. All he says is I know and acts pissed off at me/ passive aggressively afterward. I am trying really hard not to manage him-I just try to use logic/rational arguments (for his health to save money) but they dont seem to be working. I offer to cook dinner and make him lunch but he'd rather buy fast food than plan for meals.
He started jogging for around 20 mins per day which is good - I make an effort to appreciate it - but he has made no effort to change his diet which is what worries me the most.
As an example of what he eats in a day:
breakfast: pepsi and 2 mini pepperoni pizzas
lunch: 3x cheesy gordita crunch from taco bell and large soda
dinner: large soda, carls jr bacon burger, side of onion rings and fried zuccini
late night snack: pepsi and 2 small bags of chips
should I tell him I'm becoming less attracted to him based on his diet? he has gained around 30lbs since we started dating 3 yrs ago and was always chubby so his looks have never been a big deal to me, I just dont know what else to resort to at this point.
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get an actual man
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>>18693744
I wish it was that easy (x
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Tell him he can eat that shit when he can squat 300 pounds and deadlift 400. Sweeten the deal by promising you'll let him do anal, too.
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Is it selfish/controlling for strip clubs to be a deal-breaker?
I have been with my SO for 6 years and we're both 25. He hasn't expressed any desire to go, but the topic came up recently because of his brother's second wedding and possible bachelor party.
I don't want to control him, and I don't want him to miss out on bachelor parties especially if it's his siblings/close friends. I know going to strip clubs is the norm, but it really bothers me. Sex is a big part of our relationship, and I can't imagine feeling the same way about him if I knew he had just gone to a strip club and received lap dances/touched another woman/etc.
I know it's possible to go and not get a lapdance, but with alcohol involved, it's never going to be a guarantee. I don't know what I should do. I guess it's hypothetically speaking at this point as he hasn't even been invited to one yet. But he has brought up that if he was invited to a bacherlor's party and they ended up at a strip club, it's clearly out of his control. But I just know that if he did go, I know I wouldn't feel the same way about him afterward, and I'm worried it could be relationship-ending.
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It sounds like you're overly paranoid.
If he cares about you it means nothing to him and it'll likely have him avoid it even if he attends.
The issue is entirely on your end deal with your hangups.
I get pangs of this from time to time but I just remind myself I trust them and they care about me. If I get burnt by that oh well.
Plus even if he gets touched by another woman its likely brief and completely unattached. You've been with him six years and you're this possessive? He clearly cares for you.
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As long as you don't cheat on him sexually or emotionally we don't consider your concern valid.
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You're going to have to work that out with him.
I mean I don't think it's a big deal, but I'm a guy.
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So I went on a semi-date with my buddy and two girls. This qt 3.14 9/10 girl was talking to me for like 20 minutes straight without stopping. She got closer and closer and eventually started placing her hand on my chest and grabbing my shoulder. At one point she even embraced me out of nowhere. Is she into me or nah? Want to know if I should take this further.
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Nah, that doesn't mean anything.
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>>18693674
Definitely sounds like it, OP. >>18693676 is being sarcastic because it's pretty obvious that she's, at the very least, interested in you.
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>>18693681
So should I take it further?
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Girls, or guys with experience, do you usually text a guy first if you're interested or do you wait for him?
I recently moved into a new apartment at my uni. I met a group of girls that lives across from me Friday night. Two of the three girls left after meeting, but I talked to the last one for about 50 minutes before I had to leave for a party. I invited her out but she said she had plans and would try to make it (she didn't). When I got back, we talked until 3 am. The next day, she wanted to see my apartment and she said she'd stop by for about 5 minutes. She ended up staying until 2 am for 3 hours and texted a bit more after she left. We exchanged one Snapchat yesterday but haven't actually talked since Sunday night.
I'd like to pursue things with her because we hit it off well. I want to text her but I don't know what to say besides "Hey, what's up?" or open up with an inside joke from the other night. I don't even know if she's interested in me so I feel like I'd be bothering her. What do I do? I really don't want to fuck things up.
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Tell her, that you enjoyed her company from the other day and would like to meet up some more, if she's available.
Have some idea for an activity already prepared, just in case. Sightseeing, parks, some converstaion topics, etc.
You miss all the shots you do not take.
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>>18693668
Ask her on date.
>dumb frogposter
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>>18693668
>Girls, or guys with experience, do you usually text a guy first if you're interested or do you wait for him?
Talk in real life you autists.
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This is my last day on 4chan. I'm getting shipped off to a place where I won't be able to access the internet more than 5 minutes per day.
I've been here since 2007 and I'm 28 years old. Ask me for any advice you want.
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>>18693629
Why would we want advice from someone thats getting shipped off back to india? Dumb pajeets these days lel
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>>18693629
>getting shipped off
>being a poorly paid killer going to foreign soil to fight war of aggression to protect the interests of multi-national corporations.
why would I want the advice of a retard?
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>>18693629
How about you learn to use a goddamn toilet you filthy curry nigger
is it worth it getting into drugs if you dont give a shit anyways?
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Depends on what drugs we're talking about here. Few are relatively harmless, like weed
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Generally speaking, no.
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>>18693627
anything that can make me feel good
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>googles how to make friends
"go to events and make some hobbies and you will get LOTS and LOTS of friends!"
>checks community ads
>three ads - one about a theater for kids, one about karate for kids and one about some obnoxious coverband
"go to the gym and you will make likeminded friends!"
>tfw worked out for three years and not a single friend made, only social people there do cross-shit. I also only find it appealing to actually work out and not discuss it
"go to the bar"
>still lives with parents and live far away from town so I can't get to town at night or whenever people hang out there
"get a job"
>every job ad require super social skills and past work experience
I need friends to get social experience to get a job, but at the same time nobody wants to be a friend with jobless loser who lives with parents.
I don't even want friends I just want to move out, experience love and get a job in the first place. I also feel suicidal and it makes me sad and demotivated as hell so I just end up spending time in front of my computer everyday.
What the heck am I supposed to do? Everything feels so hopeless
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Not all jobs require social skills, you just need enough not seem crazy in an interview and be able to answer the common questions like a normie (there are guides that can help you prepare). But going away to study seems really obvious, why havent you?
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>>18693535
You need to break your routine, man.
>I can't get to town at night
Then go during the day. Try to find a club or a hobby in town if your community is so small.
>I need friends to get social experience to get a job
Not really. You can still look for a job while you try to make friends.
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Appreciate the advice but I think my weak will and sadness is holding me back. I barely feel like doing anything but feeling self-pity
>>18693562
Actually I do study but I feel too sad and unconfident to approach already established social groups who don't need a loser without humor and only 3 fb friends in their circle.
I also got nothing interesting about me and I never feel like doing something.
I think people would only feel weirded out if I approached them and disrupted their nice time together
>>18693564
Nothing in town feels interesting though. Like I mentioned there's only kids club karate being advertised. I acknowledge the town having a football club but that's it, they only seek professionals and people who actually like football.
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I love a girl my family doesn't approve of, disown level disapproval.
Anybody got any experience with that kind of stuff?
If so how'd it go for you?
Got any pointers about it? Or just opinions? I'd be happy to hear them.
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if your family would disown you for loving someone then they're not your family. what about her is so appalling to them?
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>>18693540
Well.
She's 18, I'm 25.
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>>18693552
Well, she is young and history dictates that her tastes will change.
It sucks that your family will disown you but it may be their way of warning you about getting involved with someone who hasn't fully matured (mentally).
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How do I break up with my girlfriend? I have no backbone.
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>The respectable thing
Take her somewhere public but away from other people, explain to her why the relationship isn't working anymore, bear the brunt of her reaction to the news, and leave separately
>The shitty thing
Write her a long text, chat message, or email, explaining in detail why the relationship isn't working anymore, and refuse to answer the phone when she inevitably calls
>The cruel thing
Become a gradually more distant and shitty boyfriend, deliberately going against her expectations and hurting her, until she is forced to break up with you instead
>The absolute scumbag thing
Ghost her.
Choose OP. What kind of person do you want to be?
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say you have a drug problem and need time to go over it
say you are gay
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>>18693529
oh jeez, I know how you feel.
first realize that at the end it's not that bad and realize that you should better end it now because
1. you don't want to keep the entire thing in bad memory
2. It's incredibly selfish to not love someone but keeping a relationship with them. you are locking her u basically.
She might, and if she loves you, cry and you will feel shitty and maybe at the ending moments you might feel love with for her again but don't let yourself get fooled by that. If you have no intention to work on the relationship and try to fall in love again, it's all for naught anyways.