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>I had fun talking to you yesterday
>We should have some drinks/go do <activity> on <date>

Chat with her, enjoy yourself mang, suggest a drink or something. Don't think that if a girl has shown interest she will be the one taking initiative every time, and don't fool yourself that there is a love life without fails.

You both have the same taste in music. Invite her to a concert senpai

>>18121153
You don't. You make the choice whether it's worth coming back or you should go forward. If you aren't sure give it a bit of time, then make a choice and stick through it. Because you're a situation where you can't win without losing, unless you have 0 emotions for the old girl.

>>18121153
>ex
The ex contacts you,you can organize a date and you can trust yourself to not dredge up past problems.

>date a different girl
If you have bitter feelings for the ex and appreciate the different girls strengths enough that it feels like a new chapter.

>>18121298
The ex and I have been off and on for a while, it's like she always needs space from me or I need space from her.. but we just have a lot of history together you know? I'm talking years

>>18121301
My ex has been messaging me lately like she wants to get back together, I just don't know if I'm trying to make something work that just shouldn't. Most of my friends have been saying to let it go, but like I've said we've had this going for so long

The other girl has really become my best friend. She's helped me through so much, especially the ups and downs with my ex even though she's had feelings for me the whole time (which I was stupidly oblivious to at first). And honestly, I've had a crush on her for a while too. She's one of the only people I've really opened up to, and the only person not in my family I've cried in front of since I was a toddler. But now that my ex is talking to me again I've kinda backed off from her and I can tell she's hurt because this same thing happened last time, and the time before that. A couple nights ago she ended up crying on the phone when we talked and said that she really wants to be there for me at least as a friend, but it hurts her too much because it feels to her like I'm just using her when things aren't working with my ex and that she's just a second choice to me. The worst part is that I can't say for sure she's wrong, and it makes me feel shitty. She also said that she doesn't want to give me up as a friend but if I go back to my ex again that "we can't exactly be the same", even if we break up again. I don't know what to do

Not to mention that sex the other girl is the best I've had in my damn life

>>18119913
>I considered setting their unit on fire
The fact that you ACTUALLY considered this as an option and thought it through indicates that you're a fucking psycho.

>>18119913
Be very very careful, and keep poking an icepick in their tires.

Of course, if they catch you, you're a dead man.

>>18119913
>I live in Australia which is liberal as fuck so the police will do fuck all
/pol/ memes and real life are two different things

>>18124964

Maybe you pushed too hard. It happens. It's not like you ripped his clothes off.

Next time, don't drink so much and try to be more aware of physical cues to the guy's emotional state.

>>18124964

dont worry about it, if i had a dollar for every time someone made a move that i didn't enjoy, id be pretty rich. worse when they blame it on me
>WELL YOU KEPT DANCING CLOSER SO THAT MEANS YOU WANTED TO MAKE OUT WITH ME

when in reality they were the ones that kept dancing closer and closer to me, escalated in like ten fucking seconds.

regardless, being uncomfortable =/= rape. you made some one uncomfortable, you're human, other people are going to make you uncomfortable and were all gonna make each other uncomfortable.

According to prevalent liberal definitions that is sexual assault. But since you're a woman nobody would bat an eye.

So, would you abuse this nice double standard feminism has crafted for you?

>>18124532
just tell your family your ex hit you or force fucked you

>>18124537
I wouldn't accuse someone of hitting me or raping me unless it was true, and it definitely isn't.

Have you told them that it really bothers you?
Maybe say that they should be on your side and respect your wishes, and maybe tell that your friends actually do that, too. And also respect that they just have to accept your current bf.
I think that behaviour is pretty rude.

Sad thing is though. You can't really buy happiness.

>>18123618
the act of playing video games, quietly run laptop, watching crisp videod and looking at good pictures, folding it into a tablet, doesnt that help anyones depression

>>18123624
also bringing it on campus and sitting on a nice couch would be lovely, especially if u have no friends. or even a coffee shop if ur not in school.

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>>18123158
Wow, what a manipulative cunt.

What kind of advice do you want?

> I would need to get contacts/glasses to see, learn how to drive, get a license, get insurance and all of that.

You already know what you have to do.

Otherwise just ride the bus to her place and hang out.

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>>18123172
>What kind of advice do you want?
How I'm going to date her in the ~2-6 months it's going to take to get all of that.
>>Otherwise just ride the bus to her place and hang out.
I could ask but she lives with her parents so I really don't know if that's a great idea.

>>18123158
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My advice is to go back into college! :^)

where i live college's provide a default/automatic dental plan for full time students.

>>18123146
I'm thinking about it. I have a couple days to register actually but I'm not sure I can afford it.

>>18123154
hmm. well I am going to school out of state, I wonder if that works. I did go to school in 2016, but it was only half time. I wonder if that does anything. fugg man.

>How should I approach this?
If you give a damn about your relationship you should tell him why things were incredibly inappropriate and should stop talking.

You need to not hang out with this friend alone anymore and you are putting his needs above your bf and your own needs. I'm amaZed your bf didn't dump you immediately and I'm amazed you didn't completely stop talking to your friend after cheating with him.

You're not his therapist or girlfriend. He needs professional help. You aren't qualified to give it. Focus on yourself first.

>>18122987
You basically took advantage of an emotionally vulnerable person.

stay away from him. You will only fuck his life up more. I also pity your bf and the future prospects of that relationship. Now that he knows you do things like that don't expect him to remain loyal to you.

Good job!

This is one of the creepiest fucking posts I've ever seen here. You are a rapist waiting to happen. Do the world a favor and go rob a bank so you get put away for a few years and this girl can have some peace.

>>18122967
You find another hobby.

>>18122967
I can't tell if you're a future rapist or just profoundly autistic. It's pretty obvious you just see her as a fleshlight with tits for your desperate virgin libido. You can't say/do all that then claim you "respect" her as a woman and a best friend.

Maybe it's time to draw some boundaries and give you and her space. Have a wank or two, and try having more interactions with other boys and girls. If you really care for her as a friend, you'd want her to be happy and stop trying to manipulate her into tossing you a pity fuck, you creepy fuck.

I had about a 98% success rate pulling out.

From 19 till 26. Only got her pregnant twice

>>18122888
Nice trips.
Trashy? Like tattoos and piercings all over trashy? Also depending on your country you might have a higher chance.

>>18122908
yeah dude stop getting her pregnant

>>18122579
When I ask her for fkn support she has fkn said very many times "You're just playing games trying to get me to say what you want"

Fucking NO SHIT, trying to get me to say that my suspicions and worries are nothing. But to call it a fucking game? I cannot comprehend this mindset

What the fuck

Why are you with her dude? Just dump her she doesnt even want to be with you wtf

>>18122579
>"It doesn't mean that, you just don't get it, and I don't have time to explain"

If she cant communicate about things you are seriously concerned about then she is too immature to provide you with a healthy relationship. GTFO now.

>>18122263
Make it look like one of your friends framed you. Make sure that everyone, including yourself, have entertwing alibis including people who aren't on the list of usual suspects. This way, everyone get off scott free.

>>18122275
The important part is to nothing preemptively outside of some story building with some friends and allies. Make sure the people who aren't usually in your pranking group are callous to adult pressure and would find this funny.

What's the website?

>>18122231
Went through her emails and shit when it became apparent to me that she wanted to break up, but didn't tell me yet.

Regret every single bit.

Just don't fucking do it.

I just asked her "Can you please try to do something about your weight problem"

She would never forgive me for that for course. Fatties can't deal with the truth.
And that was the way it ended and i've been single since.

>>18122231
Got engaged to a girl that gradually became more physically abusive over 3 years

>kicked in all the doors when I locked myself in a different room
Guess who got the blame?
>Threw her wooden purse thing at the wall causing a big hole
Guess who got the blame?

I'd get scratched and clawed, got kicked in the balls ones, punched in the face

One day I was playing my guitar on the bed and she didn't like it, started kicking me in the kidneys

Went into the other room, grabbed a handful of catshit, held her down and smeared it in her face

We broke up after that night

>No regrets

>>18121928
Could try subliminal messages in audio while you sleep your brain is more susceptible to ideas implemented while you sleep

>>18121928
>Is there any way to deal with depression without medication?
Realize that it's not real and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

>>18121928
meditation