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>>18129006
>When people say "most girls like being submissive" what exactly do they mean by that?
Why don't you ask them...?

>>18129006
>>18129006
Who says that?

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>>18129017
/r9k/ I guess.

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I was thinking of offering him $300 cash? Is that enough?

>>18129005
generally he'll go to a body shop and get a quote, and you'll pay that amount. The advantage of this is that your premium won't go up, the disadvantage is that it will probly be more than your deductible. Also less time and hassle, generally

>>18129005

its hard to tell from pics.

if you scratched thru the paint down to the metal, then generally they have to repaint the whole panel.

if you actually dented or changed the metal shape, too, then it has to be body-worked, THEN stripped and repainted.

you're probably starting closer to $500.

just let him get an estimate and see what a shop says, don't offer money until you hear.

find out what your insurance deductible is, because thats the threshold you use to decide if you will involve insurance or not.

>>18128985
depends.

you want something meaningful, you're gonna have to cough up some meaningful context for us to work with.

cuz if you're just short and bitching about wanting to be taller...

>>18128985
I want to say it is, but I haven't figured it out. Depression/social anxiety/drug use?

>>18129085

Not OP, but I'm short. What do I do?

Why do they need to take this trip, and why do they need to take it together?

>>18128949
My long distance GF is visiting. We didn't start as long distance and being apart is killing us. It would not be comfortable to have either of them in the house, they never leave. I can't move out within two months, I'm still saving.

>>18128955
But it's their house...? They can be there if they want

There is nothing wrong with a movie date as long as you pair it with something like lunch or dinner.

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Movie dates suck by themselves, but not if you go do something afterwards where you can use the movie you just saw as a topic of discussion. Go get some food.

I've been on a couple movie dates, and on both occasions (different women) we went to go grab a smoothie or some cheap Chinese food after the movie. Also, make sure you either watch a really good movie, or a laughably bad one so that you'll have much to talk about.

OP here. Thanks so far. Would John Wick 2 be a good pick? Just so she knows the kind of shit I'm into and I can actually talk about it.

>>18128877
How did she feel desu?

>>18128877
Stop whacking it for a long time, and cut out porn.

Gotta stop jacking it. Your too used to getting off to porn. Not good for sex.

>>18128859
Hi Anon. I can imagine your pain. I too struggle with major depression. I've had quite a few people walk out on me too. It hurts so badly that there's no feeling sometimes, like all the sadness is suffocating and choking my neck and I just want to die. For me, I force myself to talk with my counsellor and my friends. I feel afterwards and it's not easy, but there are some days that are better than others. You can get through this Anon. Your sadness and isolation do not define you. Don't forget that.

>>18128880
I dunno bro, i tried CBT before. And i was in therapy a lot when i was a kid. My parents had forced me to go. I've seen 7 or 8 therapists total, and the three that i can remember were borderline abusive to me.

They told me things like "you're a terrible person", "how does anyone put up with you" and the most recent one told me "just do it then" when we were talking about my persistent problems with suicidal ideation. Thankfully i don't have those thoughts anymore, but it was still tough to hear.

I know my experience is not indicative of all therapists, but i makes me hesitant to try again. Like maybe it's something i can fix myself. Maybe I'll try another office or something.

It feels like the isolation does define me. It seems like if there wasn't something profoundly wrong with me, I'd be able to talk to women i find attractive, and not stutter like a retard.

Thank you for taking the time to type that out to me. It means a lot.

>>18128896
I'm angry that people with the title therapists would say such awful things to you and treat you without dignity and respect. How disgusting. You're a beautiful human being even if you don't believe it of yourself. I understand what it feels like to believe you're defined by the sadness and isolation. I used to feel defined by my sadness. I'd even come to accept it as reality and tried taking my own life on a few occasions. But I was wrong. How we feel, the chemical imbalances in our brain, the words that people say to us, none of that defines who we are as individuals, as people. Only you can define yourself. I mean what I say Anon. I believe there's a better day someday. I believe that you're priceless. I believe all humans have intrinsic value but that sometimes we can't see it in ourselves because of so much hurt and pain. You're not alone Anon.

>>18128781
Hes young. People are stupid as fuck at 14. Hormones raging, body changing, he doesnt know who is or his role in the world and discovering the world outside of home. Just take a deep breath. Most teens grow oit of it. Some dont. Just because hes family doesnt mean you have to love him or let him treat u like shit. Im assuming youre older if youre posting on here. Pull up your pants and put the fear of god in that kid before he gets too out of control. I take it your dads not in the picture?

>>18128781

hate to 180 you like this but if you really want your family to succeed, i mean really WANT things to be good & normal & happy, YOU have to be the one to make it happy. there is a void in your house and no one is stepping up to make things OK. things are going to rot from the inside out. instead of feeling sorry for how bad it is and having a fucking pity party why dont you just man up and build the family you want to have. your brother & mother are waiting for you to guide them and show them what it means to be a part of a harmonious family unit. you literally have the power to transform your life. you need to imagine a future and then take action to create it.

>>18128794

That is some great advise. I have tried intervening before, lots before, but it never really worked out. Despite all of those failed attempts, I guess I will just keep trying my best to make a change for the better then. Thanks.

>>18128726

i dont tolerate polyamory

Personally?

That wouldn't be a relationship, that would be a friends with benefits at most.

Do not expect any sort of emotional investment from me, and expect me to move on when I find someone serious.

Just my 2c though.

>>18128726
I would feel nothing. I would basically treat them as a FWB but I wouldnt grow much attachment to them. I would be nice to them but at the end of the day nothing real.

>>18128716

make some money for your family. every small bit helps. no job is too good for you.

>>18128716
Get a job. If this doesn't motivate you out of your stasis nothing ever will.

>>18128716
Time to start mopping floors or you'll be homeless

>>18128707
>tfw too smart to be agnostic or atheist

>>18128710
Thank you for your contribution to the thread.

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bump before bed

Iowa

>>18128692
What parts do you recommend?

>>18128700
Anywhere. No one gives two fucks about Iowa.

>>18128678
Who cares about what they think. Don't even worry.

Feminist here.

Your roommate's gf is an asshole. What you described is a perfectly acceptable thing to find attractive.

>>18128678
Should have said "well I just like wearing the pants in the relationship, as I'm sure you do, lezbola."

>>18128672
bump

Paper and pen.

read 7hohep

>>18128644
Join a frat, if I went to a 4 year that's what i would do. If you do that you have a network for life. If you like drinking and crushing puss it helps with that too.

>>18128644
It's why there are clubs and shit. I made friends by having casual conversations with strangers you see every day. Not being an autist goes a long way.

>>18128644
Ask your favorite professor if there are any jobs going in his lab. Wash bottles if necessary.