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>>18132069
Should add that meeting people intoxicated from drugs (alcohol, weed, heroine) is also detrimental to the future of those relationships, but since our culture is so toxic-oriented, I don't believe you can help your addiction.

Finding females to meet online is good, but talking to females online in an attempt to get to know them is detrimental for your future relationship.

Also how fast you need to have sex (because you are so bored of each others company and need that sex to glue yourself together) it is pretty large signal on the commitment and seriousness of your relationship.

>Sophomore in Uni
>Every girl I've met that I'm actually interested in has turned be down
>Only girls I get attention from just want to fuck and ghost me afterwards
Why bother?

>>18132074
>goes to parties that are defined by alcoholism, hypersexualism, loud music so you can't talk, and lack of intellectual discussion and contacts
>suprised by lack of meaningful human contacts

Meet females outside your workplace, of course. College is workplace. In college you focus for your studies, and let other people focus for their studies, because the wellbeing of them, their family, and entire society depends on how their attitude and study skills improve in school.

Meet girls normally, not in these "hey this college party is very boring, expect that we get drunk as fuck; then it is decent, because there is maybe something epic like a guy throwing up on the floor, or with a sliver of chance you get something sexual"

I met my wife in sport event

Make a dedicated effort to get better or just stop caring

>>18132072
I'll be honest the last part sounded a bit harsh

>>18132077

How? It's solid advice, get confidence or stop caring and just sing like shit.

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>mfw this happened to me the first time
>mfw its happened 4 more times since then
>mfw still a virgin
JDIMSA

I would say just make sure you're comfortable with her. All my things have been awkward flings/one night stands, because all the girls I meet seem to just be interested in fucking. I'm fine with that, but I'm just not confident enough to perform, and then I psyche myself out about "disappointing" them or some bullshit that I tell myself.

>>18132071
I've know her for about 2 weeks, been with her for about a week, stayed on her room twice. We're taking it slow, I've made sure of it. Plus it was all good just before I tried to put the condom. Idk man I feel like shit

>>18132082
1.- Realize that we're all shit at sex the first time, just like everything else everyone does for the first time.
2.- Realize that you will not magically become a sex god the second time around.
3.- Relax, enjoy and do your best.

Did somebody forgot to teach the post-millenial kids to enjoy things? I tought the emo culture died with MCR.

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>>18132065
Hosts file, but you'll only undo it when you come crawling back

>>18132065
Blocking access to site wont solve your problem:
>you have nothing better to do
Solve your life first and the symptoms (like wasting time here) will go away itselves.

>>18132063

buy her a dress and say that she would look really cute in it

>>18132063
Trying to change your gf makes you an asshole, I think you should just break up with her and find someone that suits your tastes.

You can say "oh babe you look so nice when you wear this" or "I love this hairstyle/trend and bet it would look amazing on you" but if she doesn't feel comfortable doing that, leave it.

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>>18132063
So if she wanted you to be less macho, you'd be ok with that?

She's not going to change and she shouldn't have to. Since she's assertive, she's going to end up resenting you. Either get used to it or move on.

>>18132055
That happens to every person you met in high school. You realize you wouldn't be friends had it not been for public education lumping you together for years at a time. At least you didn't invite him to move in with you!

dont DONT do the mistake of cutting ties with him. I highly suggest you get back to being friends because if these new friends ditch you you'll be alone. If you didn't have that one friend you'd be alone, just remember that. If you're "burnt" out, then just leave it at that. Half the shit my friends say i disagree and hate them for having that opinion, because i think they can have disgusting opinions, but i just leave it at that, change the topic and move on.

just don't fight, just go back to the old topics that got you two together

>>18132263
I hope that didn't happen to you anon

>>18132280
thanks, problem is when I change the topic because I don't think arguing about an irrelevant matter is worth it he says im running away and avoiding the topic. I just don't want to fight. I'll take it casually from now on and just agree with him. Thank you for your point of view

>>18132037
Dating is outdated.

>>18132054
thanks for the advice you fucking piece of shit

>>18132037
Bump while I drunkenly get it together

yes you should
and dont agree to something you dont actually agree with in the future

>>18131989
We need more context, OP. Where did you ask her to go with you?

Did you use the word date?

Ive done this before and ended up dating the girl after. She said she wanted to bring a friend just in case I was a creep. All three of us had a good time

Who cares if she doesn't like you. You're probably young. Just go get trashed with her and her friend and just have a good time, who knows she may introduce you to other girls.

You can never go wrong on a night out with two chicks.

>>18131958
I just quit talking when the topic has expired itself. Ive got tired of trying to make small talk and shit so I just pretend I have something else to do and excuse myself. Dont listen to me though because I have 0 friends. Im fine with it because Id rather be alone than pretend to enjoy someones company.

Get to know what the others are into.
Ask them. Then act interested into the subject.
Make the person talk about it.

>>18131958
I had the same problem as you. I recommend you find internet friends. Instead of limiting yourself only to people you are able to meet, you can find people all over the Earth. It took me some time, but I eventually found some people on Steam.

If she's not a nigger I don't see a problem here

It's impossible to live a life free of judgement. Fuck it, be happy.

>>18131948
Well she is obviously a nigger. I personally dislike race mixing, but as a med student i can tell you that from a genetic standpoint mix-race individuals are healthier than 100% blacks/whites. And yet, imo mulattos are ugly.

>>18131902

I've gone through many different meds, the only bad side effect of some are you'll feel even less motivated to get out and do things. Meaning you'll probably gain a good amount of weight.

But hey, if they keep you from blowing your brains out, it's worth it.

>>18131902
The work if you stick to them. Don't listen to the fags that took them for like 2 days and acted like "why didn't they magically fix all my problems?" That's retarded.

Think of them not as cure, but more so as ammo. It won't fix those issues, but it'll sure as hell make it easier to fight back against it. Just don't be a dumbass and quit because they didn't immediately fix your entire life.

As for side effects, they are mostly rare and mild. Either way, which would you rather, some side effects, or to keep being depressed?

Antidepressants are most effective when combined with counselling/cbt and healthy lifestyles.
However, every single person reacts to each drug differently, and also it can take some time to get the correct dosage. Add to it that there is an initial 'settling in' period when you start most antidepressants (2 weeks for most SSRIs) and the result is that there is no simple answer here. The truth is you just have to work through them with your doctor, although usually things are fine after the first tweak.

I personally did not do well with SSRIs (brain zaps and felt like a zombie) and instead moved on to a strict exercise and healthy eating plan, however I have about 5 friends who swear by Citalopram in order to function. Neither of them seem like 'zombies' or whatever, and they are all doing fine.

In short, please talk to a doctor or counsellor

After re-reading this in a non-tiny-as-fuck-post-window format, there's a ton of things I should've made clearer, it's all somewhat blurted out on top of my head because I was just typing what I was thinking out loud.

If anyone cares at all to have a chat / listen to my situation further, I'd be glad to elaborate on things.

Basically to clarify a few things, I worked total for about 3 years in IT only to feel like I was 'sold a dream' in my school, and it felt like I wasn't able to actually deliver what those companies want to get. They want stats, production, delivery of things, they don't care about the customer being happy and giving in good words to your higher ups, they just look at the cold, hard stats and figure if you're worth their time that way.

For some reason, I was gullible enough to believe that by going into the car sales industry that I could change that, and actually *help* people, hence my taking that course. (worth about 3000CAD$)

After 3 months of stressing, not knowing if I'll have enough to eat by the end of the week unless some random person walks in and decides to trust my dealership with their money, I broke down in the accountant's office.

Way, WAY too stressful not to know if I'll even get enough to eat (base salary was 2/3times below minimum wage, only the commissions made it 'ok'). So I freaked out and 'ran' from the job in a flash without thinking of the repercussions.

I tried taking a job at a corner store but they only had 2 days to give me per week.. that's about 120CAD$ of salary per week. Just not enough for one to live on. After my 4th day of training I had a panic attack and quite litteraly 'ran' from the job, and never heard from them again.

Subsequently went to see the doc to get prescribed anti-depressants to try and reduce the panic attacks, and it's helped, mostly..

I'm just genuinely wondering if I could get any bit of advice to help me out of what feels like.. the bottom of the barrel..

Anyone..?

>slut house
Explain.
Are you whoring yourself out, or is it just a normal house?

>>18131875

Proactive my senpai

>>18131875

No one cares. Dont bump your thread on this board. Its slow and if no one replies its because no one fucking cares.

keep the meds, then try r/skincareaddiction for their basic routine.

Fuck >>18131925, proactive is too harsh for most people and makes the irritation worse.

>>18131872
I think it must be nice to have friends.

>>18131877
It really is.

Want to be friends? (no joke)

>>18131872
Are your 3 friends mutual friends? Plan a trip or something and offer to pay for air fair and the hotel, I mean if you have the funds of course. That`d be pretty grand imo.

Take out a loan to build a multifamily house (at least three, ideally four) and then live in one apartment then rent out the other 3. When you're ready to upgrade, rent out the 4th apartment and you'll have 4 people paying for the mortgage. If you have enough space, you can build a second complex when the 1st one is paid off and then you'll have 8 people paying for mortgages.

>>18131869
Sadly I'm not in a position anytime to take out a large loan, also the community is a lot of older folk and mainly a cottage town. Apartments arent really a thing out here but i guess i could change that!

>>18131857
Find out what lots around your property are appraised/selling at. Theres a cool resource that most U.S. states offer for free called GIS maps, you can find them online and search by your county. It will show you property lines, who owns the property, and what it was purchased for. See if the lots around you have been recently purchased. If they have there might be development going on so you should hold out for better offers.