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>>18139202
Who cares? Some girls like feeling used, others like knowing they're with a guy other girls find attractive, some just like being slutty for sluttiness sake. Simple fact is that you get to use her the way you want, and she has no problem.

>>18139202
She enjoys having sex with you. That's it.

>>18139202
Women don't mind sharing a high value male, in fact the fact that other women are interested in you makes you even more attractive to most women

>>18139194
Don't fuck, or get really turned on by the danger of fucking her when she's unchecked.

Sadly, I'm in the second class

>>18139194
Do not have unprotected sex with her unless she wants to get tested. Absolutely.

It's risky as fuck.

>>18139194
dont need needles for an STD test you retard

>>18139173
It is not the only thing that matters, but it is the single most important thing by a long stretch.

You could be a perfect match in every way, but if you're not taller than her you wouldn't ever be considered, despite whatever positiveshe you have.

We are not all equal

>>18139173
Tallness has no bearing on my attraction to a dude. At all. I'm a tall person myself, and I find short guys (that don't have angryman complex) kind of charming and cute. Like a teddy bear I'd also want to fuck. A lot of girls have this as their number one requirement, but not all.

The face though- yeah. I have to think your face is attractive. That being said, I find a lot of 'ugly' faces desirable.

Post a pic and I will 100% give it to you straight, bc your friends won't.

Height and face do matter a great deal.

I am 6'4" and around 30 pounds overweight, but i have a handsome face, and good facial hair growth.

I have never had much trouble getting a girlfriend, i have been with my current girlfriend for a few months. Looks only get you in the door, they don't keep a relationship going. Good luck!

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I used to think about being a doctor and going into surgery when I was younger, but there's 2 obstacles stopping me from this - I didn't get the grades to get into medicine and they do not accept resits for 99% of medical schools, and 2) I am unsure if I will be able to study as intensely as required, because like I said I don't enjoy just reading out of textbooks and sitting exams, and while medicine does get more practical, you still have to study super hard through the entire course. My sister is a dentist and studied every single day even on holidays for hours, and I don't think I can do that.

Engineering courses also interest me, because i've heard it's basically practical applied science, but the problem is that currently my only skills are computer related. I never had the chance to see if I was a good craftsman. I also don't know which course to go for, aerospace interests me but it's very specialised and I don't want to be stuck in one field for the rest of my life. Similarly, electrical/electronic eng interested me because it seemed like it encompasses a wider variety of topics so I could maybe have a wider choice of career paths and since electronics are in everything, it should be easy to switch careers later.

Finally, I don't know if Uni is the right life path for me. I hate the 'grind' of studying but I know I can do well academically if I could get over the boredom. I did really well at GCSE but flunked A level because GCSE doesnt require studying, just knowing the topic. I was thinking that I could possibly join the military and when I leave after 4-5 years I could try tackling Uni then as a more mature person. But, I come from a pretty poor family and im desperate to get out in the real world and be independent without being shackled by another authority like my parents, so Im really not sure what is the best choice. Obviously I also want the best money I can earn, but money is a secondary thing to happiness for me. Please advise!

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I graduated from a physics masters in Aberystwyth last july. I got pretty mediocre A-levels and accepted my placement because the thought of staying at home any longer made me want to die. I'm from a pretty poor background too.

Uni was the best 4 years of my life so far desu. Living by the coast has been lovely, I've made great lifelong friends and learned a crazy amount. You don't need military training to mature as a person.

I think for STEM subjects, uni rankings matter less. Aberystwyth is pretty low on league tables but basically all of my classmates have gone on to do rad shit. I'm looking at starting a PhD this year. Your job prospects are pretty decent in computing & physics, irrespective of where you got your degree. I'm not sure what you mean when you say you'd prefer something more practical; both subjects are a decent mix of theoretical and practical.

>Obviously I also want the best money I can earn, but money is a secondary thing to happiness for me.

Find a compromise. All the subjects you've listed as "maybe" have pretty decent job prospects. Just pick one you find interesting.

>>18139484
What do you think of Aberdeen? I have heard too much negative stuff about aberdeen from friends and the Internet, people have actually laughed at me when I told them where I got a place. I also heard it has no students union which might affect my socialising prospects, albeit slightly, but still.

I could potentially go to Manchester foundation engineering which would also be 4 years but i would start 1 year later. Or am I just being paranoid and really, Aberdeen is worth going to?

I just don't wanna be laughed at after I've graduated because that would be indescribably shit for my self esteem and probably job prospects, I doubt I will get into a good company if I'm academically inferior to everyone else that applies

It just feels like any uni other than aberdeen would be worth going to, but there's no guarantees I can get into any other and it would be dumb to throw away the offer without anything else lined up.

>>18139057
You can't do it which is exactly why you will be paying her for it.

>do
>use a condom

>dont
>do anything involving your mouth
>expect it to be better than your hand

>>18139057
>trying to impress a hooker
really faggot

The kid isnt your responibility. Dont put this on yourself.

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Can you make his room airtight?

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If she HAS to take care of the kid, i.e. no one else in their family will even try, then it sounds like they come as a package. So you have to make a decision. Are you OK with getting an apartment with her at the cost of having to also deal with her brother? Or is it more worth your time to find someone new?

You're going to have to choose one of these options eventually. You can't force her to abandon her brother, especially if he's this stupid. That'd be unfair both to her and him. This is a no compromise situation. Pick one.

possible explanations:
a) as you said, she is living her life. Not everyone is active on dating sites.
b) your message was unsettling in some way. Also, you messaged her twice, which is a big no-no.
c) she swiped on you accidentally.
>What the hell do I do tomorrow when we see each other at work?
Smile. Give her this casual surprised 'oh, I recognize you!'-smile, but don't initiate a talk, since you already seem a bit desperate. Wait for her response, either irl or on tinder, and if there's none, then move on

>>18139004
I know you're right and I keep reading your message, but I am actually pretty hurt.

I am fucking insane right?

>>18139220
Mature people have this passive skill called patience. Use it dude.

Also you can try chat her in person to get fast reaction.

Stay cool dude.

>>18138920
I guess one could say just pull through until you have a steady income and then find a new place but i guess things won't be that easy?

How great is the risk of you losing your job there because of what happens?

You said they are simple minded, you probably won't be able to identify yourself with them but it could be a wise move to play an act to become one with the general personality you can find in this place. Perhaps this could give you somewhat of an advantage to be friendly with everyone and you can play your cards with less worries.

Your superior is a dumbnut, there is no way you can engage into a serious conversation about your problem?

If this is a place that attracted you because of it's fancy online presence then i am sure it will not be something you'd have to regret or even hide in your future resumes.

Financially fucked as in your payment is not as good as promised and it won't last in the long term?

Advice can only be as helpful as the information is accurate, give us a better idea on what you think is going to happen yourself too.

>>18138958
I think they are already looking to get rid of me and i am in the first 3 months of employment so it would be easy for them to do. I have yet to talk to him seriously about the problem. Im already looking for another placement.

By financially fucked i mean im still paying off loans i took to come here.

Should i risk leaving for a new placement if the opportunity comes my way?

I dont want to end up like one of these..

Hey OP, I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I live in the south too and I don't know what I can tell you, people here are distinctly nasty. I keep to myself a lot, I've lived here my entire life, and it's harrowing to go abroad and meet friendly people and then come back here.

I would suggest you find somewhere nicer to live, but I understand your predicament, I just have no real remedy for it. What I'll say is, this entire country and especially the south is a black hole, designed to trap you and keep you in place through fear and poverty. If you get the chance to cut your losses and get out, seize it. There are plenty of places across Europe that will take you.

>>18138911

are you a man or a woman?

regardless thats way too much info for what you need.

>>18138921
>>18138921
a woman. Me and the guy, we are both in our early twenties.
Yeah, I guess you're right. The sweet smell of oversharing, huh

He's thinking about how your head would look like on a spike. Stay away from him.

I'm in undergrad and going for premed and I love him but I need this stop

>>18138871
ignore him. completely. how old is he? how old are you?
that really sucks man. im sorry for that.
sibling relationships have insane potential for bringing value into you life. your sibling can really be there for you in ways others can't, being that they have always known you and know your entire past.
i feel really bad for you and sad that your brother would throw away that relationship.

There is like a 7 year difference. I really do love him and he is smart but anything he says to me that is nasty it doesn't matter but if I say something mean it is the biggest thing. My parents get it and agree with me. I just feel after I am done with undergrad and move onto medical school that our relationship is done. I will always love him but I don't think I can care for him.

Kill yourself.

>>18138786
Linkedin

>>18138786

online dating.

>>18138750

by waiting til one returns your eye contact. you smile, nod, and if they dont look away all awkward, you can go over and say hi.

>>18138750
Drink until your lack of confidence fades. I'm not even joking.
Or try your best? Smile, nod, don't be TOO awkward and try to make em laugh.

>>18138750
Preferably don't but if you must just do what he says
>>18138834
Drink till you can do it

I have a very neurotic personality, and have no friends around at the time, and I really need something to help me with stress.

>>18138772
pot.

oryx and crake is a good novel
the rum diaries, good novel (please don't judge based on the movie)
if you like USSR stuff, darkness at midnight is solid af.

>>18138788
sorry, "darkness at noon"

>>18138703
Self improve and try to meet new people

>Loner hangs out with his mother

yeah there's your problem. Not healthy, make new friends who'll be interested in new relationships

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I could relate to this feeling particularly. I will never get invited unless I invite people by myself, except my friend of eight years who invites me and writes me first. As soon as I stop logging in social media, basically dropping out, nobody would ever contact me. I don't exist in other people's life. If I don't sit at home, I usually fuck around the town sitting at restaurants and mindlessly spending the money on food.

Courses, hobbies, self-improvement, revealing and exposing yourself -- everything is bullshit. One more sort of escapism. It hides the fact that you need other people and other people don't need you, by subtly saying that "one should enjoy their own company".

>>18138703
I tried doing the same thing once. Don't lie to yourself... It's not an experiment. It's a self-validation test of "Am I important to them?"

Then answer we got (Me and you buddy, the same result) is NO. But I realized it might not be that bad of a thing. We can initiate a conversation and a hangout whenever we want, which means they still will clear time for us. But if it really bothers you that much, find new friends and try establishing a deeper relationship, not just "lets hang out".

>>18138701
Girls,

does getting wet work just like getting a boner? Do you simply become wet once you see a very nice guy and think some dirty thoughts about him?
How often do you get your panties wet this way?
Are the panties uncomfortable later or is it unnoticeable?

Girls, multiple different questions :

- what do you feel, do you enjoy the view of a guy who's doing "manly things" like working on his car, chopping woods, physical labor work etc ?

- what the sexiest part in a men body ?

- do you take a discret look at this body parts often in the street or whenever you find someone that you like physically ? Does that make you wet or at least a little bit horny ?


Thanks for the future answer

>>18138740
>does getting wet work just like getting a boner? Do you simply become wet once you see a very nice guy and think some dirty thoughts about him?
No, I don't honestly think dirty stuff about strangers. I barely notice them.
Unless I am flirting heavily or being physical with a guy I don't get wet.
>How often do you get your panties wet this way?
Never.
>Are the panties uncomfortable later or is it unnoticeable?
A bit uncomfortable.