>graduated a couple years ago
>no friends IRL or online
>just work during week, sleep/ video games at weekends
I need something to change my life, totally. I've had teaching in Japan as a plan for a while now, but I don't know if it's a great idea. Is there nothing else that I could do to reset my life? Some country far away with some society/community I could join and inevitably integrate into?
I live in Japan and it's great
I'm not in any community and don't have any friends other than my wife and other girls I meet on the internet tho
>>18140506
Get a gf.
>online dating
Do not come back until you had a date with at least 30 girls in person.
>>18140533
>getting a gf without a social life
>'So what do you do for fun, anon?'
>'Wait, you don't have any friends?'
Making a thread as per advice from the other thread.
So here it is I have recently come to terms that my psycopath/sociopath cousins who are also a compulsive liars has done to me more damage than I could ever imagine.
What could I do to reverse the damage?
Should I confront them?
Is it possible this is just some sort of misunderstanding since both of them is also a social recluse/introvert?
Do not confront people with ASPD, they tend to react unpredictably in situations like that. The best thing you can do is walk away, they tend to feed on emotional responses. Just stay away from them and get out of the situation, do not give them attention, do not engage them.
>>18140509
The thing is, i think I have fallen for my cousin. She's constantly been inside my head.
It dread me to saw her going out with other person, but when she's with us (she live in our home ever since her parents died) she act so cold and distant, even treated us with disdain/indifference like some kind of ATM, just useful for money.
But when she's with her sibling or with her friend/BF, she'll laugh and talking openly. It's like everything we did to her is meaningless and she's not shown any signs of being grateful to our help.
I know it's some kind of stockholm syndrome, it ruins my ability to find another girl to have relationship with.
I think I'm fine, not some kind of virgin because I used to have 2 GFs long term, and both of them ended the relationship with me because they either moving out to another country or constantly on the move because of her job.
Should I tell her to move out from our house?
Should I be firm and start treating her the same? (ie. being a shit to her)
Link to previous thread pls, need context.
Okay /b/.
I think I have a problem.
When I take a shit, and when I wipe my ass, so much hair is in the paper.
Literally at least 20-30 strands of hair are lost when I wipe my ass to get rid of the shit, do I have cancer or something?
I'm germanic, got hairy arms, hairy legs, big beard, and i've never shaved my asshole in my life, and i've a lot of asshole hair.
I've searched on the internet for topics related to my problem, but can't find any.
Does anyone lose a lot of asshole hair when they wipe their ass? Surely I can't be the only one?
>>18140489
Balding a-hole ... A first even here. Try the doc or wash btw your buttocks with Rogaine or similar. Whatever you go by, do please report back on results
>>18140498
Opie, this is advice on how to grow back your lost ass hair.
I would encourage you to do the exact opposite.
I'm about to get a free 11,000 bucks from an inheritance. Let's say I set aside 2-3,000 for stupid shit, what's the smartest thing I can do with 8 grand??
>>18140455
Invest them on yourself, to improve your education.
>>18140455
save it
Invest it, put it in a Roth IRA.
My ex asked for a break, I broke up with her. Plain and simple. I figure, our relationship had its share of issues, and yes, we could have worked on them, but to do that you kind of have to be together and not just go on 'breaks'. Personally, I think breaks are bullshit. You can give your partner time and space without going on a break just fine, but no, my ex wanted a break so I went for complete separation instead.
Naturally, she's freaking out, but that's not why I'm here now.
See, I know this girl who's had a thing for me since quite a while back, we actually met and befriended each other due to some shared hobbies, then she moved abroad and we kept in touch via Skype, IM and so on. After a while I realized I was starting to crush on her, and just after that happened she confessed her feelings to me. Given that I was in a relationship, I turned her down and minimized keeping in touch. I was also honest about this to my girlfriend, though she didn't like that I hadn't completely cut off the girl. Whatever.
Now I've been single barely a week and started talking with her again and she's brought up me visiting her or her coming back for a brief spell to our country. I know that she's not looking for a casual hookup and I'm not either, that's not what we're like.
But I never really went from one relationship to the next, and while I don't feel particularly torn up on the inside for this one ending I guess I still have some feelings left for the ex, and I'm not sure if it would be wise of me to just jump into a new thing with this other girl.
Or am I just overthinking here like crazy and I should give it a go?
>>18140449
Is it a break, or did you guys break up?
>>18140458
No, she wanted a break, I said that was bullshit and tried to talk with her about it, but she kept insisting on a break, so I basically said "Fuck it, you wanted a break, here's a break-up" and ended things between us.
Like I said in the OP, I can understand giving your partner some space away from you, and I offered that, but she kept insisting on a break, so I just cut through the bullshit and went for the end result of most breaks.
>>18140449
Mind sharing more about your ex freaking out? I want to know how the whole "break" idea is working out for her.
I feel like I need to be the polar opposite of everything
> if the group that Im in is into something, I wont be too passionate about it
> if the group that Im in hates something, Ill be into it
> if a girl likes me, I probably wont be crazy about her
> if a girl doesent show interest, Ill go mad over her
I cant work in groups - after school I had to get myself self-employed. Every relationship that I ever had failed because of this (and I am still thriving the girls that I couldnt get).
What is wrong with me and how do I fix it?
>>18140422
Therapy?
>>18140425
I want to get atleast some feedback before going to a therapist
>>18140422
I am very much similar OP, and idk too much about your background. But in my case I think I'm an inherently selfish person who craves attention and approval. I have had this desire to "win" at what I am doing, which drives me to win a girl over and as soon as she is interested in me, I will lose interest. Maybe you are the same?
What I found that helped me, is really do some introspective thinking. Look back at your childhood, your upbringing, the dynamics of all your family/friends/romantic relationships. And I agree with the other anon that if you can afford therapy it'll likely expedite the process and offer more insight than anyone here
Why do so many people now have commitment issues?
>>18140416
Women are whores due to the jews and thus destroying the family unit etc.
>>18140416
The world is a changing place, you can't just wish things were the way they were x amount of years ago. Adapt or don't function in society. Also if you are a teen/young adult, it's just how they are, constantly changing and growing. They may have a completely different outlook on life than they did the previous day. As an older person you tend to solidify your views on life and your goals/desires.
>>18140416
me personally its because every marriage I've ever seen has ended in divorce or extreme unhappiness
I'm happier alone anyway
TL;DR - How do I make my boyfriend feel less awful about the fact that I am providing for him financially?
My boyfriend is currently doing an unpaid internship. I pay all our expenses, and help him pay for his school debt.
He's working really hard to find a new job, but sadly in his field the job market is dead.
He broke his phone recently and I thought I could get him a new one. It is complicated to look for a job if you don't have a mobile phone. I didn't spend much, a friend gave me one for nearly nothing, but it seems to be a huge issue for him. He has been grumpy for days.
I don't mind providing for him, I know it's a matter of a few months before he's back on track, but it makes him feel really uncomfortable. What should I do to make him feel more relaxed about it?
>>18140392
Sit him down. Talk to him about it.
>>18140398
I did. A dozen times.
It doesn't change a thing. He still feels like shit.
Unfortunately you can't do much other than tell him it's not a big deal, or maybe joke (be sure that he's comfortable with joking and he gets that it's a joke) that he'll pay back everything, even if it's not true and you will never ask him.
Society pushes the idea that to be a man is to provide for your family, so inside his head if he doesn't earn money but has to sponge off he probably feels "less of man". He may also have personal problems with accepting help, I for one consciously avoid putting myself in a position where others give me help because I don't want to feel indebted to them.
This is just how social/gender stereotypes work and it can't be fixed overnight.
Should i seek medical/psychological help if i see faces in places when i walk? because i am beginning to become paranoid and i sometimes find myself reading things i have written backwards...
>>18140344
I don't understand what you're trying to say, so probably.
>>18140344
What kind of faces are they? What do they look like?
>TL;DR I mistreated my ex, should I apologise or leave her alone?
My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago after a 6 month relationship which got intense quickly. I don't want to to get back together but I feel a bit guilty about the circumstances of the breakup. Sometimes when she told me she loved me, I could honestly respond that I loved her back. But I often didn't feel anything and I would say "I love you" and not mean it. I'm probably not that a great actor and I'm sure she could sense when I did and didn't mean it.
I kept deciding to break up with her because of this and then changing my mind because she was adding value to my life and because I felt bad about the prospect of abandoning her after saying I loved her and letting her get attached, considering I was lying basically half the time and pretty much cheating on her (read on to understand why I say "pretty much").
1/2
I got involved with her despite not really wanting a committed relationship because something about her drew me in. But I pretty much used her for emotional support while I fucked other girls (which she had agreed to, but only reluctantly, because I made it clear the only way we'd be together was in an open relationship). I feel like I manipulated this girl, who is honestly one of the most genuinely kind hearted and sweet people I have ever met. (I'm just glad I didn't take away her kindness.) For example one time she helped a random blind guy take his shopping home, carrying his bags and guiding him with her arm around him, just because she felt someone should help him and nobody else was. This kind of behaviour is typical of her. Other examples include making sure a guy puking in the street was only drunk and that he had somewhere to go, or even getting between an arguing couple because she feared the guy would hit the girl. She's a really decent person while I'm selfish and only occasionally kind.
I'm sure we're better off apart - I want to sleep around but she's a couple years older and wants a relationship after having banged probably a fair number of dudes (never asked for specifics but I got the impression she had a high count. I didn't care since I knew on some level how I was going to treat her anyway). She needs more stability as she has self-esteem issues - but I want to apologise for how I treated her. I have mental health issues, which she knows about, but this is where her tendency to try to help everyone worked against her and I basically played her (without meaning to).
2/3
3/3
Should I say something or am I being selfish if I interrupt her healing process to clear my own conscience? She was really deeply in love with me but I'm basically a narcissist who can't really love others, even though I tried my best. I care about her and want to make her feel good because I fear that she is hurting. I truly care and this is not self-serving, but maybe it is still a selfish thing to do. Maybe I should keep my guilty feelings to myself.
If I say something to her, what should I say?
I would say go ahead and apologize. The things you've said about her are very kind, and I think anyone would appreciate hearing them even if they don't come from romantic feelings. A little flattery goes a long way in soothing hurt feelings as long as it's genuine and heartfelt. I don't think it would disrupt her healing process as long as you don't give her false hope and don't tell her hurtful things she doesn't know about (it's not clear how much she knows but for example, don't go into detail about saying you loved her when you didn't mean it).
She will get over you eventually, so the important thing is to give her a self esteem boost and create positive associations with the relationship. You don't want her to look back on it and wonder if you faked every little thing, you want her to look back and remember that you thought she was a really good person even if she wasn't right for you.
Hey guys, I'm fucked for school and need a study drug such as adderal but it's banned in my country (aus), what's a good alternative and how do I get it?
If you need drugs to be proactive and succeed then your not fucked for school. Schools fucked for you.
Haha look at this fag. Taking drugs to be smarter. You should be taking drugs to get fucked up.
modafinil
Help me dudes, I found my brother doing something quite illicit online, and don't want him to go to jail. He is not using a vpn, proxy or even spoofing his mac address, he is using a computer directly traceable to our home.
I'm also afraid that he will blame me for it or some shit, but honestly I'm considering calling the police.
He is a lazy c**t and a liar at every corner, he is no use to me but for emotional support as our mother passed away about 9 months ago.
I really do not want him partaking in this behavior.
P.s. The behavior is not piracy.
Give us some advice for stopping his Internet access discreetly
Snitch on him to avoid getting introuble. Tell him you will snitch on him if he dose not stop and your not taling the fall. If that dosent scare him then fuck em
Destroy his computer officespace style. Its not like he can tattletale on mom and get u grounded
If he isbdumb enough to not use a vpn hes proboly dumb enough to not have virus protection. Download a duplicatinng vbs virus that will destroy the computer
I was seeing a girl and things were going great. However I have a problem where sometimes when I'm overly stressed or dealing with a lot, I can distance myself from people and be very short and not as bubbly or chatty. This is a problem that I have had since childhood and my siblings also share due to our upbringing, I'm trying to work on it; but sometimes it's really hard talking when you feel terrible. Anyway the girl and I talked about this and I told her that I was going through some things, and trying my best to deal with them. She was fine with this and told me she loved me and that it was okay. I took this in confidence and assumed things were okay. She'd text me now and then and ask if I was okay, and I'd respond shortly with a "Yeah. I'm good." or "Trying to deal with things still". Long story short, about two weeks of this and I try to rekindle things; only to find out that she's on a date with another guy. She apparently really likes him and they've been together for about a month now. We had a fight about it and made up afterwards, but haven't spoken in about three weeks and now she's on vacation with that guy in Cuba. Was I in the wrong? Did I take her for granted? Or did she not really listen to me? I feel so terrible and hate myself that maybe I didn't give her enough attention, but it was only two weeks. I don't understand. Was that too much?
You took care of yourself M8 and there's nothing wrong with that. She didn't stick around. She's not worth it.
>>18140593
So was my behavior "okay"? I've known this girl for a couple of years and only got to know her better over the last couple months. My close friends understand that I have this problem at times and they're always understanding. I thought she did as well, you know?
>>18141125
Your reaction to stress is entirely normal and the above anon was right. You took care of yourself, and did so in a way that (to most people) would be considered fairly polite (I'd rather you be short and distant than an enraged asshole every time we spoke), she didn't stick around and that's her problem.
I got back together with my ex a few days ago.
We were together for three years, lived together of all of them, had a horrific drawn out breakup because we were both idiots.
Didn't speak for a year, have unofficially dated off and on for the past 6 months or so.
She recently quit her shitty job at Apple which was making her hate life and be a cunt to everyone not just me, so I told her to make time for me now and we decided to be official and exclusive again.
As soon as we decided to take the plunge into being committed again we started talking about the future, marriage, kids, the future of our cat, etc. We talked about it years ago but we haven't been serious since then.
Is this too fast or understandable since we have such a long history and haven't been on bad terms in a couple years?
>pic not related
She was an ex one time. Whats foing to stip her from being an ex a secondtime. Girls with no jobs are trouble. Shes going to be bored and annoy the shit out of you
>>18140209
>She was an ex one time. Whats foing to stip her from being an ex a secondtime.
Nothing, but I'm not fucking retarded and can understand why things go wrong and the poor decidions I made that fueled the fire. We're both much more mature now, we're not college freshman anymore.
>Girls with no jobs are trouble. Shes going to be bored and annoy the shit out of you
She already found a normie wageslave job, she's desperate to move out of her parents again and get her own place, and refuses to live with me even though I'd love it. She was never annoying when we lived together.
What is the purpose of your reply? You obviously have never been in a relationship long enough to answer my question.
Why are you settleing for a normi with wageslave job. Recepie for dissaster. Beleive me
I've been spending lots of time with this girl recently. We've been friends for awhile, but these feelings have only emerged after I've gotten closer to her.
For clarity, neither of us are single. Which is why this is such a problem.
This probably happens quite often, hopefully someone with experience can help me out.
I'll provide more details in a subsequent post. Ask any questions if needed.
tl:dr:
girl treats me really nice, I want to be nice to her too
hang around her too often, start to develop feelings
suspect she might feel the same (to some extent)
have strong urge to confess
we're not single and I don't know how to proceed
I really want to give it a try but is it too wrong/selfish/greedy?
If I don't bring it up, how do I purge myself of these feelings?
pic not related
This girl is one of the nicest people I've ever met. She's simply a joy to hang out with, has never shown any anger or malicious intent. She often did things for me out of the blue and it made me wonder what I ever did to deserve such a nice friend (I'll admit that I've not always treated my friends very well in the past).
When we chat, she brings up the things that are troubling her. Sometimes, it's about her friends being terrible. This is what tugs at me, I don't believe a nice girl like her deserves to treated this way by anyone, let alone people she calls "friends". So I made myself more available, offered to hang out so she wouldn't have to with her other friends (didn't say it explicitly). At this point, I had no ulterior motives, I just wanted to be the kind of friend I thought she deserved.
Cut to the present, we've been meeting qutie frequently and some not-so-honorable thoughts have been forming in my head. I find myself really enjoying her company, and I can tell she enjoys mine too. It was getting to the point where I had the desire to meet her even more, but I held back because I felt this might pushing the boundary of "platonic".
To make things worse, she starts bringing up problems with her bf. In short, she doesn't like the effort (or lack thereof) he's been putting in. This is what really pushes me off the edge. I still don't think someone like her deserves to be treated like this, and I know I could do better.
Cue the sleepless nights and indecision. I wish I could just push these feelings away and just be pals, but I don't think I can manage. I think I should get this off my chest and tell her everything. If she doesn't feel the same, I'll just have to deal with it and just focus on being friends. I'm just not sure if I can continue being friends if my subconscious really wants to give it a shot.
>>18140165
So you have girlfriend that you completely ignore in this story but instead give all your attention to not single lady because she is nice and doesn't deserve to be treated unfairly but you're basically want us to tell you its okay to cheat on your gf because fuck dude she is so nice.
GET A GRIP MAN YOU ARE BEING A HYPOCRITE. YOU'VE BECOME THAT BOYFRIEND THAT TREATS HIS GF LIKE SHIT.
Whip put your boner. If she declines then why invest anymore time. The other thing that could happen is that she turns out to suck like a hoover vacuum