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Cue in our new roommate, who is a young fresh 20 year old college girl and little sister to the religious valuing roommate who just left us because she got married. The three of us have been great friends. I noticed about 2 months ago that their friendship though was getting a little too close for me to be comfortable, they hung out all the time and would go out and do everything together, but he was still very sweet and caring towards me and we were still having sex no problem, so I felt okay.

About a month ago though he broke it off with me again because he is into the little sister, but he still wants me to be his friend because he says he still really cherishes the friendship and couldn't imagine me not in his life at this point. He feels bad because he thinks I don't deserve this, that I deserve perfection in any relationship I'm in. However I feel really heartbroken, I really love him and the idea that I would have to live with watching him pursue another roommate in front of me is pure torture. So I'm in the process of moving out and he got really sad about it, he even cried. He felt really guilty knowing his choice was the cause. He feels so close to me and is super confused, saying that the whole situation just seems so grey, nothing is black and white for him. He doesn't want me too leave and kept trying to coerce me to stay, saying that I could just live in both places, or only leave temporarily while I take online classes. I told him I certainly don't want to go, I simply have to for myself. He hugged me super tight, held my hands and looked me in the eyes, then teared up, hugged me tighter and once again reiterated I don't deserve this... then got stiff a bit, but nothing came of that. However I felt mixed with my decision to leave and felt like maybe we could be okay.

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Anyway, I'm was back in my parents house this weekend. He came to visit a friend who actually lives pretty close to me, and invited me out to hang with them. I went over and it felt like a mess. He treated me nice enough, but I felt uncomfortable when he kept telling the other people I was moving back down and stuff excitedly. The other girl got invited too (she visited from an hour away from her parents since she was away for spring break). I felt kind of out of place there and he kept giving her all the attention in the world, and wasn't really paying attention to me too much until she left. Then after that he barely spoke to me even though it was just the two of us gaming at that point. He kept being concerned for her since it was late and she had an hour drive. Kept thinking to call her. I felt so uncomfortable! Then it was awkward when I left because it felt weird to be treated more like a visitor than a close friend. But then while driving away he immediately acted the same way he did with her, worrying about me getting home. I felt nice knowing he cared about me well-being. Then today he ignored any of my texts.

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I just feel so thrown about. Should I bother trying to keep this man in my life? I love him so deeply and I do want him to be happy. I really don't want to lose him in my life because despite how shitty everything has been, I want to be by his side and keep loving him. But it hurts immensely to love someone who can't help but look at someone else and becomes so hot and cold all the time. I want to be his friend and everything but I can't just backtrack on the feelings I let cultivated and develop for years. I also can't tell if he is really serious about the girl he's into right now, or if that will go anywhere. I really want to be with him and I don't know if I have any hope of that anymore... What do you all think?

>closing
>seal the deal
Why are those terms so cringey?

>>18143024
>I can get girls
>She told me she wants to f(t)uck me
>I take her home
>We talk

lol no you can't get girls.

You get over it by just doing it, rejection is a part of life. Shit happens, even if she says no, so what??

>>18143124
I didn't have any other way to say it, you're basically making a sale anyway. You're selling yourself, and I just can't close the deal.

If he really was following her, I suggest you tell her to ask the manager who his name is, or if he comes back again, try to make your sister get his name.

Or wait at the restaurant and when he leaves, follow him and beat his ass and break some bones. He might be a potential rapist, so kill him if you want to.

Jerk of into a squirt gun for a week. Follow him like this dude says^ and if he gets to your sister just super soak him

>>18143027
what kind of weapon should I use?
a blunt object or something sharp?

Us whites bred the best niggers with the best niggers. Seriously, you think I'm fucking kidding. I've known alot of blacks from other parts of the world, they do not compare to black americans.

>>18143016
Oh shit that kinda makes sense. Like in the slave days they only kept the strong ones?

>>18143019


I'm not even a racist man, but I can assuredly say that black americans are LUCKY we enslaved them. Many blacks I know don't workout, eat like shit and do drugs yet have awesome physiques, age incredibly well and like you said have great hairlines and relatively low body hair.

Blacks I've met from africa, or the Afro-Caribbean area are very different physiologically.

CS is still fine, but the trick is that SW Engineering is probably closer to what you really want.

Colleges just didn't use to have SWE, or at least not distinct from CS.

Just like every other STEM degree, CS is becoming more and more saturated. People are being pushed towards CS and other STEM fields because they're essentially seen as get-rich-quick degrees. It's just happening faster with CS than other fields because it's 'easier'.

CS is still probably the easiest degree that you can make 60k out of college with

Its just harder to get a software job now then it was 10 years ago due to saturation of market

Do it if you want, its pretty boring though

Source: software dev, 2011 college grad

>>18142983

Have sex with someone else

>>18142983
she could be lonely, maybe she doesnt have a lot of friends. usually those people are depressed if they have to stoop to those levels. (unless she looks like a whore)

>>18142983
You fucking her good OP?

If not, she might still want a second ticket on the cock carousel

Either way, you need to be in the mindset that you have multiple women that you are currently seeing/fucking even though you have a GF so if she leaves you it doesn't even fucking affect you cause you had other hotter women and multiple partners that she didn't know about and that it was just her turn to fuck you.

If not you will be stuck in a void of depression and alcohol, my man.

I highly suggest start flirting with more girls outside of your comfort zone and getting numbers/spinning plates

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>>18142978

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>>18142979
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I'm the only person he talks to.

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>>18142980
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I genuinely want to help but I try to listen but he tells me I don't understand. I no longer think texting and talking to him will help, what can I do?

>>18142967
Yes it's real.
>just to scare people into paying attention to their health

You're a special kind of stupid, are you anti-vax too?

Prediabetes is a real thing. Does it mean you're going to get diabetes for sure? Nah.

Like you said, mostly a thing to scare people into taking better care of themselves.

>>18143005
my next question is, if someone with "pre-diabetes" starts taking care of themselves, will they still be "pre-diabetic" for the rest of their life (i.e. pre-diabetes is under control) or is it a condition that can be cured?

>>18142952
>the most slowflake orientation of all
>patriciansexual

>>18142954
I'm really not trying to be a snowflake, I hate all that sjw shit, I just have this sex roadblock and I don't know what to do.

are you traumatized by having sex with him? do you watch too much porn?

>>18142951
You could lie and tell them you had a vasectomy that isn't reversible.

On the other hand, you could go for the "overpopulation" meme. Say the world is already too crowded and you would adopt a kid from Africa before overpopulating your first-world country with another mouth to feed.

The second is more likely to work.

>>18142951
Im your age and in the exact same position but female. I just keep saying 'yeah for sure in the future!' meanwhile my biological clock is ticking. Basically procrastinate until it's too late. Im sure people will feel bad and think you have reproductive issues so will stop asking eventually. Not the best advice but has worked so far. Might wanna let your girl know though because its not fair to lie to her. Just drop comments on the shitty things parents have to deal with and say how happy you are that you don't have them. She'll take the hint

>>18142992
Just make sure she doesn't find out that first world countries are actually experiencing declining population.

>>18142924
Gun-fu

Judo

Krav maga or wing chun

Actually writing is helping me not just churn thoughts in my head, so I'm going to keep doing it.
>in the morning her alarm goes off and she tells me I better go home
>we have a laugh about a couple things
>she doesn't bother to put her pants on

>I'm awkward to her the whole day, responding with one or two words
>she keeps some conversations going throughout the day despite this
>at one point sends me "So happy we are all such good friends now :blush:"

I don't know WHAT to make of her behaviour. I've been unsure about how women feel about me before, but I've never been unsure about how I want them to feel about me.
She doesn't seem upset at least, but she's a crazy friendly person.

I guess I just don't love my girlfriend anymore, but not enough to break up with her. I made her a promise that she could come here and she's not bringing any of her stuff. I feel like the clock is ticking on if I want to break up with her without ruining her life. I'm incredibly selfish. As you can probably tell by my behaviour, I'm also a coward. Breaking up with someone is hard.

I've never written out my difficult memories as they've been stuck in my head like this before. Helped a lot.
Probably going to go to sleep soon but I'll keep this thread open so I can absorb any advice.
Now that I know I just need to do this to get it out of my system, I'll keep it to "get it off your chest" threads.

>>18142878
Yeah. Whats up

>>18142878
hello, how are you

I feel like shit internaly, its easy for me to put on a happy mask and be happy but the existentialism eats me up.

Turn in the written resignation letter, not phone call. The resignation letter needs to be as short as possible. No explanations or poetry. Simply state you are resigning. That's it.

Just contact your manager first thing in the morning and inform him/her that you're re-signing and that you're giving your two weeks notice.

If a resignation letter is required, just open up Microsoft Word and type a quick one out.

>>18142974

Like I said, I work from home. I can't just leave a letter in an inbox and never email anyone again. I need to talk about my end date and shit too.

>>18142749

kek whyd you get married?

>>18142752
Loneliness, inability to take risks, settling too early

>>18142756

>inability to take risks
>gets married

marriage IS a risk anon