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>>18147477

it depends. for a lot of youtubers its just that they go on REALLY LONG rants, and the cuts are there to cut out the bullshit.

in other instances, they are doing multiple takes from different angles / positions, so they are cutting between takes for which delivery of each line they like, though this also can be used to cut the fat out as well.

>>18147477
They probably fuck their script up

Imagine yourself right now turning on your webcam and talking about your day yesterday without any prior thinking. You're gonna start talking and there is gonna be pauses. You're gonna say stuff with a lot of "uhs" . You're gonna occasionally fumble over your words. You're gonna start saying one thing and then 5 minutes later think of more clever/funnier way I to say it with a joke includes. They blabber for 30 minutes then edit it to 7 mins of a TL:Dr

Talk to a girl while drunk. Tell her she has a nice body

>>18147472
When is the last time you talked to a female with a romantic intent?

>>18147472
Look here
>>18147446
and try to guess what OP did and you did not.

>>18147461
Watch Penn and Teller Bullshit with her.

I dunno OP, your aura is red to me.

Just be like "will you help me?"

Then your gf will both be going against her mothers wishes and changing you, two of women's favorite things to do.

Also as the above poster said you probably do have a red aura.

>>18147446
Don't cancel it, say you have something else to do that day, and that you'll make it up by inviting her somewhere, buy her a present too.

IS there anyway I could back out of it without looking like im too scared? If we met in person at least once then i would be fine with it. but meeting her + all her friends on whats supposed to be her special day seems too much.

>>18147446
I would definitely cancel in your shoes, I'd imagine going to some party where everyone probably knows everyone else except for you would be pretty difficult, even if you were pretty charismatic (or maybe I'm just an autist). Do >>18147457 if you do cancel

>>18147397
I was in a relationship with and lived with my spouse for years before we got legally married. No it didn't feel any different for us. Why should it?

>>18147397

just say 'yes' and they'll leave you alone

>>18147402
Same here. Idk, it's mainly my in-laws who keep asking but I'm starting to get annoyed with the question. I don't think it's as huuuuuge a thing as people make it out to be. You don't just suddenly change overnight. I just wasn't sure if it was just me or not.

Sorry to rant
But also
OP parents dont approve of OPs hobbies like playing ball or being a car enthusiast
And always complain about uni money (20k for a year) even tho I offered to go to college where i got to go for free
So Im rly stumped on what to do in my life

Make a list of thing you would like you do ,within reason of course,. Number them. Put said numbers in random number generator. Find answer. Go forth in life.

-A Helpful British Chap

>>18147391
>>18147412
what classes are you taking, if it's shit like art, mathematics or physics, then your parents are right, bro.

you already know the answer.

>>18147390
That is one beautiful guy

I have anxiety too anon, take your vitamins and get lots of sun. It helps

I mean how do I stop envy everybody achievements I want to be happy for my friends but only feel envy and hate

>>18147364

sometimes it feels like we help everyone else, but no one ever offers to help us.

ive been there, and even with people with shitty self esteem that i help, they seem to return the favor by never reaching out again.

were not perfect, we have flaws, and unfortunately those flaws are glaring enough that people dont want to hang out with us if we dont pressure them.

such is life.

>>18147372
So i'm cursed to superficial relationships built on the condition that i'm the one who builds it?

>>18147380

not always. things ebb and flow. sometimes I feel less like this, othertimes it goes to an extreme. we also have a bit of a 'honeymoon' phase where people think were charming before our repetitive behavior makes us annoying.

>>18147349
Bump for adv. This IS a stupid idea after all, isn't it?

>>18147349
There's no harm in at least trying therapy to find out if it's for you OP. If not either push yourself to change or kys, preferably the former

>>18147388
I'm just worried it'll end up being like it was back when I was younger and end up doing more harm than good and not helping a thing. I don't know how I should get this whole process started though, I haven't tried therapy in 10+ years

Your mentor? What the fuck is that

>>18147333
A teacher in a martial art discipline

What are you talking it is so confusing?

I've been in a relationship for 5 years now, and I'm at a stand-still emotionally I feel like my feelings for my partner are hanging on by a thread (but is still there). I don't know what do, my partner loves me undoubtedly and respects me. And I have as well.

I'm not particularly interested in anyone else, I just feel like, little by little, i'm getting tired of the situation i'm in. But at the same time, I'm terrified of loosing something that's great and may potentially be good in the longer run.

I'm in a long distance relationship and haven't seen my partner physically for the last 4 years and its not an open relationship. We've kept things going because we're very communicative and spend a lot of time working out each one of our problems. I really do feel like this person has been worth the wait.

My partner doesn't want me to pay anything and wants to get to my country on their own as a matter of pride.

The distance has rarely been an issue and since i don't care about having sex with anyone other than with my partner i'm lead to believe that this is an exclusively emotional thing.

I really appreciate some opinions on my situation because I feel completely at a loss.

not op but also curious

In a LTR, you are (virtually) never in love all the time. It's an ebb and flow. Sometimes you feel more sexual desire, sometimes less of that and more deep familial love, sometimes the romantic spark is suddenly back. This is entirely normal. Hell, if you look at a long term friendship you'll even see that you don't like them equally all the time, and look differently at them one year vs another.

Having said that, some signs of completely having fallen out of love (it's about seeing a pattern, not "see if you recognize any of these at all" are;
>not caring to tell exciting news to them specifically anymore - when you don't think of them first or even second/third to share in your joy, and updating them is just a practicality
>when you feel annoyance when you see they've sent you messages
>when you start finding their touch/smell unpleasant, you find yourself thinking they sit too close often or that their touch is clammy, essentially feeling physically smothered or downright repulsed (but masturbating is fine)
>when you find that none of your daydreams for the future involve them in any way
>when your mood lifts as soon as you leave them/are alone, or you dread seeing them
>when their compliments or affections don't touch you deeply anymore but annoy you, make you feel hollow or vaguely guilty
>when you realize when interacting with the opposite sex that solely differing from your partner, even in the most trivial aspects, is exciting and attractive to you
>when small things about them (loud breathing, a nervous tic) that never bothered you suddenly make you want to kill them, and/or you start finding stuff unattractive about them physically you never even noticed

PART 2(was too long and didnt fit in one post)

But i know that with attitude like that i wont have any relationships with women.

So three questions:
How should i act like around women to not be perceived as an asshole and also not be perceived as a typical nice guy weakling?

Are there any ways for me to become a nicer less harsh person? inb4 go to psychologist - no way

And the most important one for me is there any way to get her back? Or we are done and i should try to forget about her? That would hurt.

Btw to all those frustrated nice guys saying that girls like jerks and stuff like that its not true. Being a nice guy is still better because you have contacts with women anyway.

Btw2 you can call me however you want - dick, prick, asshole, idiot-whatever. I realised im like that. Keep in mind that im trying to change but its fucking hard

Literally be an asshole and girls will come flocking.

They literally FEED off the drama you provide as well as experiencing a feeling of danger that you bring while still being completely safe.

Women are boring as fuck and never have any real interests apart from fishing for male attention, gossiping, spending your money or sitting on their ass and playing with their feet so that's why they all want an asshole and not a good boy beta doormat, they need to get excitement from somewhere.

>>18147282
Fuck if im gonna read this long as shit. Pc out.

>>18147237

where would you rather be 10 years from now?

8 years into a civil engineering career or 6 years into a computer engineering career?

this is the REST OF YOUR LIFE anon.

plus a lot more of your classes will probably transfer over than you think, i mean the first two years tend to be a lot of GEN ED.

>>18147254
Definitely a computer engineering degree. But the way things work in my country, I can't transfer over any classes. If I manage to change majors, I would have to start anew from the first year again.

>>18147290

bummer. financially speaking how bad would this be for you?

>>18147198
>Girl B
She's 19. She's very friendly, physically more attractive to me, doens't smoke or drink except socially. She's been really into me for about a year now and I admittedly was worried about her age(I'm 28) and the fact that she hasn't dated(Is very picky like I am) and wants a stable and clean partner. Which is what I want. We've talked a lot and I never pulled the trigger for those reasons, but also because I spent the last five months heavily invested in trying to help out the other girl. Today I tried sleeping(it's been hard) and dreamt of girl A. I want to make it happen. But I'm worried also that perhaps I'm just craving a relationship and not necessarily her. I try to be very careful in showing people if I have feelings for them or not, because I hate causing unecessary damage to people. This girl is really nice and I'm considering it seriously. I've been working out, I'm in better shape, feel better and am working towards starting my own business.

>>18147200
Part of me is still thinking that girl A's relationship will blow up and that she'll come running back to me. But that makes me feel guilty for thinking ill of that and secondly, I just feel like if she came back; I'd probably just resent her, sleep with her, treat her poorly and it would end sooner or later in a bad way. I don't think I can ever trust her again or the things she says. We haven't talked in about a month and she knows why, but we see each other at work. I promised her to always be there for her when things got serious, and I take my promises seriously. But her selfish and unthinking behaviour is a huge turn off and I just want to insult her when I think of her. Do I go for girl A and see where it goes, or do I even consider girl B? The reason I ask is that I don't necessarily care to have a girlfriend, I'm a bit of a loner and consider girls additional happiness and not happiness itself. I know relationships are a lot of work and often you have to do things that you don't want too for your partners happiness. I don't treat them lightly because I know the damage bad ones can do to people. Girl A? Or keep working on myself and "wait" for Girl B?

>>18147198
Stay far the fuck away from A

Entertain B but unless she's mature for her age, or you're an immature shithead, then the age difference and life experiences may create problems later on. Not necessarily, but

If B doesn't work out, then get another prospect.

Business as usual

>>18147188
email the company theyd probably have a better idea. is this viral marketing?

>>18147188

everything you've ever ordered will come in a basic normal looking brown or white box (depending on the carrier) with a normal label saying who its for and where its from.

if the name of the company is so ludicrous that you could not stand the idea of a receptionist maybe deciding to read yours instead of one of the other 50 packages she has to hold on to throughout the day, then dont do it.

but its just a box that MAYBE one person will see the label for.

No, the box will not come plastered wtih 'THIS GUY BOUGHT A SEX TOY' signs.

>>18147188
just fucking go in a store and buy one holy shit OP