How do you get a girlfriend if you're a gentooman?
At church
emerge girlfriend
>>18147895
like everyone else ? leave your fucking basement.
I started hooking up with a girl 2 weeks ago.
Everything seemed healthier than many of my past relationships to start, but one week into it, we were at a party and she started making out with another girl right in front of me. They even went into another room to makeout, and I got up and left the party altogether. She was also leaning up against some other guy's legs while she was sitting, and patting his knee when she laughed. I felt like throwing up.
We hadn't applied any labels to what we were doing at the time, though, and we hadn't even slept together yet.
The next day I told her I needed to be exclusive if we were going to do anything, and she agreed. She apologized for making me feel uncomfortable and confessed she had feelings for me and also wanted to be exclusive.
I still can't stop thinking about it, and my pride feels a little shattered. We both caught some feelings, but I don't know if I should just walk away right now, or give her a chance.
We are in a tight-knit study program that means I have to see her / her friends for 4 more weeks, so a breakup would be rough.
What would you wise anons do?
>>18147830
Eh, stop being a teenager about it.
If she already agreed to being exclusive with you after two weeks (which to me seems laughable to me, but I can dig it I guess,) imagine where you'll be in another two weeks. Still butthurt? Okay, how about two months? Still can't cope?
Numbers and girls kissing and legs leaning is just cute little things that happen. Accept and let it go. They got nothing to do with what you're in for, or who you are as a person. Injoy your new girlfriend, and try staying in the moment instead of obsessing over your past insecurities.
it sounds like she just wanted a fuck buddy. from my past experiences, she sounds like the untrustworthy type so keep that in mind.
>>18147909
This
I would never do that if I was at a party with someone that I saw even the slightest hint a serious relationship in the future with
My little brother of 17 is underage to smoke, he's on probation and beckons probation officers dont test for nicotine. However I think otherwise. Is he right? Is he safe to smoke cigs whilist on probation?
>>18147824
he is 17
he shouldnt be smoking anyway
>>18147824
He's on probation. Pretty sure his PO thinks he's a degenerate already regardless of whether or not it is true. They most certainly do not test for nicotine though. Smokers smell like shit, so yeah she knows but she doesn't care.
inb4 someone says something about my comments on smoking. I smoked for 15 years. Haven't in 2 years and smokers fucking smell awful now that I can actually smell.
Smoking, in and of itself, is the least degenerate drug
>weed
Dude 420 blaze it lmao culture
>alcohol
Tell me how many fathers have beaten their kids or crashed under the influence of nicotine
>all hard drugs
No need for explanation
>be me
>highschool
>pretty normal kid
>freshman come, and almost every 8/10 qt gives me the look and smiles in the hallway
>me enjoys all the attention
>think to myself "hmm i need to use this situation"
>alpha mode on
>ask one of them qts to hang out in a caffe bar
>"sure anon"
>the day comes
>she comes with her bff i see them
>approach
>"hey qt how's it going?"
>the meting going fine
>start getting nervous, run outta things to say
>autsm mode on "hmm so yeah i gotta go hang out with my friends cya later "
>go over there
>sit alone
>think about what ive just done
>mfw
>never speak to her again
So basically girls give me signals and i pick up on them, but i dont know what do do when i get them, i dont know how to proceed,what to talk about with them without it being awkward,i do not know how to make them my gf.
Btw being deppresed last 2 years.
>>18147777
Just keep asking questions and make comments based on whatever benign things she says.
What's your major? Why did you choose that? Wow, I never thought of it that way. How are your classes going? Are you from here or out of state? What is your hometown like? Was moving here really different? What films do you like? What music do you like? et cetera
Yea i actually ask that kind of questions,but i start getting nervous and when it becomes silent i start thinking in my head "oh fuck fuck fuck what do i say now?"
>>18147777
It is really just trial and error at this point anon. You seem to have a good thing going just focus on talking and keeping the convo going. Try talking to yourself or ask a female friend to help you just make sure you don't force the convo out or else it will go badly. Just relax and imagine saying things you would like to hear them ask you.
HELP
>be me, november 2016
>ghosts beta orbiter who loved me and served as an emotional tampon from may to november
>call him today because i am lonely, sad, etc
>he has a girlfriend
>i want to throw up
do i leave him alone? :(
>>18147771
You leave him alone and have some respect for his relationship. You could have had him, but you treated him like garbage after he'd been there for you emotionally and supportive. Go find another guy.
>>18147771
there is not much you can do
you havent exchanged a word in months so you cant mean that much to him
you can wait until they break up and play second option for him or search for someone else
go with the last option because its the easy and less work and time intensive
>>18147795
I feel like destroying his current relationship. It's a new relationship and I know him. He used to be obsessed with me.
>liked this girl for a while
>asked her if she wanted to hang out
>she said sure
>when we talk in groups conversation is fine and natural, don't really talk to her one on one that often
>we hung out on saturday afternoon/evening
>conversation felt kind of awkward, she seemed kind of uncomfortable but i couldn't tell if it was because she was into me and nervous or just didn't really want to be there
>we hung out at my house for a while and talked about classes, our families, friends, etc
>we were trying to figure out something to do, but there's nothing near my place to do (live in a suburb) and it was too late to go downtown
>we go on a drive looking for something to do
>don't find anything, lots of weird small talk in the car and some silences
>we go back to my house and watch netflix for a bit, i don't make any moves or anything
>she goes home, but for some reason i got the vibe that she didn't want to leave? kind of like she was waiting for me to make a move but i'm not sure
but i still can't stop thinking about her. i don't know if i should ask her out on another date, if that was even considered a date. i have a plan for something that we could actually do (art museum then coffee). should i try again? or would it be better to move on?
She wanted you to fuck her lol
Ask her out again and at least go for a kiss
>>18147874
what makes you say that?
>being this retarded
Ok OP, listen carefully
You're a retard
Seriously.
This girl AGREED to hang out with you. You had literally no plan and made it awkward. She still CHOSE to stick around. You didn't make a move
If you're going to go for a girl, do it right man
Make a plan. Surprise her. Be confident. Make a move.
I met a girl a few months ago. We got along great but couldn't see each other because of different schedules.
She invited me rock climbing, asked my number and then I told her "Only took 7 months to get your number" and she replies "I play hard to get ;)"
The date went very well, we got physical, never had dead silence and at the end when I leaned for a kiss she said it's a little too soon and wants to know me better/trust before that.
Are there some girls that are genuinely more reserved or does that mean she is not attracted to me?
>>18147732
I am more reserved, but based on this it's kind of impossible to tell what she's feeling. I could act exactly like this and still have feelings for you, or I could not at all.
Just keep going out with her if you like her enough to deal with the slowness. Otherwise find someone else.
Final bump. Any other advice people?
Like the first post said, there's really no way any of us can tell you what she's thinking.
Just continue at it and see where it leads. If she takes too long for your liking, move on to the next one.
>So started having sex for first time
I have a question though. After she cums, is the men supposed to stop?
Thing is everytime we have sex we just stop after she cums (i do to). After that she does not want to continue.
Is this normal? In films i see people going at it for ages and mutliple orgasms. Is that just a meme?
When do you guys stop?
Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don't.
Sex doesn't have a formulae.
>You got yours, now help me get mine.
Only acceptable answer.
She needs to make you cum too.
I discovered that my GF of almost a year cheated on me last night.
She doesn't know that I know. Even if I have trust issues, I chose to believe in her since the beginning of the relationship, because I really liked and cared about her.
I am meeting with her IN A COUPLE OF HOURS, and I'm planning to denigrate her because of what she has done. Because betraying my trust after all I've done for her is unforgivable (I'm maybe sounding like the victim here, but I'm just really upset).
Is it the right way to deal with her?
>GF didn't cheat on you
>still going to treat her as if she did
Honestly all you're going to make her do is probably regret not doing it and go for it next time
>>18147694
>I discovered that my GF of almost a year cheated on me last night.
>GF didn't cheat on you
Clearly stated here.
How do you know that she cheated?
Also, I'd advice you against this OP
How the fuck do I go to bed in time? I just keep browsing shit. It's ruining my life.
>>18147649
Set up an alarm to the time where you have to go sleep.
Once it rings, stop the shitposting and go sleep no matter how many people told you that
>your waifu is shit
Easy.
>>18147655
Your waifu a shit
I used to do the same thing OP. Consider limiting PC use at night, check emails etc in the morning. Download a program called flux. Discipline yourself so that you turn off devices by 9:30 or whatever time and stick to it. Reading a book could help too.
Are you a uni student or do you have a job? I found that it got easier when I had a job that forced me to get up early, as I was tired and knew I had to get up for work the next day.
Good luck!!
tell me you weight loss success stories and tips please.
My situation: 6'1 and 240 pounds, so not the absolute worst of situations, but I don't feel like I have the confidence to talk to cute girls romantically because I am self conscious about my body. Otherwise I feel a girl would be very lucky to have me.
>>18147595
>stop smoking weed
>lose 20lbs
That's how I did it.
>>18147602
ehhh, I dont smoke, I think it fucks with my Gastro Reflux Disease that I self diagnosed myself with, anytime I get high my through feels like its burning. No other drug causes this, not sure why.
>>18147595
Go to /fit/ and read the sticky.
Also the easiest way if you aren't already don't drink your calories. I can't even stand the taste of a Coke anymore.
>be me
>18
>sixth former
>have chemistry teacher
>cute milf, sort of like pic related
>always touches my arm, seemingly more than for other people
>always smiles at me in the corridor, seemingly more than other people
>thought about her a lot when jacking off so may be seeing something that isn't there
>tries to engage with me in conversation in class more than other people - this one definitely happens
>only 2 months left of course
>say what's the point of living if I'm not going to take risks
>want some fuk
What kind of signals should I look for? How should I go about sealing the deal, if the signals are there?
I was thinking of leaving my number on her desk, then if she initiates the conversation, sending her surveys (so there's no incriminating text trail) with pictures and videos of people look me, and pics and vids of those who don't, to narrow down who she wants to be texting her (if anyone)
Also, she's married (with two kids lmao), so there's a very high chance of rejection.
If anyone ITT gets trips, I'll post a picture of her.
>>18147531
Just to clarify, I mean she smiles at me more than she smiles at other people, on average, of the small set of interactions I've seen
please be trips oh god!!
i cant give u /adv/ice but ima need u to tell me how thicc she be asap
>>18147541
She's not as thicc as pic related, but she's quite short so she really fills out jeans
How do I control my libido? I'm tired of being horny all the time when my husband isn't.
What are good methods of decreasing my hyper active sex drive? I want a solution other than masturbation and cheating.
Same here. I'll be lurking to see the advice! Unfortunately I have none-but I've had several relationships ruined because of this problem.
I was reading that soy products, peppermint tea, and chasteberry help reduce sex drive.
However, I'm not sure how true this is. Plus, I'd like methods that'd help me calm down during an instance of extreme desire, like breathing and coping mechanisms.
>>18147512
Anti pregnancy pills (and other methods) are known being responsible to kill libido with other funny side effects as limiting period pains and getting fat.
Why cant you just bang your husband more? Or do you have too much free time? Why is masturbation a problem? Age of you and husband?
When someone feels very uncomfortable about their gender, but also have a mental health comorbidity, how do they know whether it's the mental health issue causing these feelings or if they're legitimate?
I've always had these feelings and they got more and more severe with time.
Also, how does one overcome the fear of even talking about this?
(Got this phobia because according to the polls, 1/4 of the population of my country of origin (Russia) wants LGBT people to be killed. I'm living in a Western European country right now thankfully.)
>>18147504
its always a mental health issue. and i dont mean that to be edgy, but you're literally seeing yourself as a gender you are not.
that doesn't make it wrong or bad or anything, i just urge anyone who feels trans to think about how most of what we see as gender based is really just a social construct.
long hair is something both genders would have if they didnt have haircuts.
smooth/hairless bodies is not a trait of women, its a trait of children, which we are biologically programmed to want to fuck.
dresses are in no way feminine other than becuase we say they are, thats why many cultures have dress/skirt like clothjing for men as well.
nice nails certainly isnt a feminine trait, they're all dirty in the wild.
almost everything we associate with being a woman is just something we created in society. unfortunately society will still mock you, but unless you can 'pass' for a woman changing your genitals isn't going to make the burden any easier.
you should always ask yourself, are you actually trans, or do you just think you are becuase you like the artificial stuff associated with the opposite sex?
>>18147504
What gender you are, which one you want to be, what feelings you have and why do you think you are not normal?
And why dont you have at least one friend / relative with whom you are not afraid to talk about it?
Also dedicated board
>>>/lgbt/
>>18147525
How do I know, really?
I always imagine myself as the woman in sexual fantasies - ever since I started having any. My definition of beauty is that of a woman - I associate seeing myself as beautiful with being as feminine as possible.
I also tend to get jealous of other women. I would even say that I usually get more jealous of than attracted to beautiful women.
Also, most of my romantic crushes were guys.
All of this was always there. It's just that when you realize that you're stagnated in life, and start feeling hopeless, you wonder whether living a constant life is yet another of these burdens.
I can deny it, but it gets very severe with time, to the point of it contributing to the suicidal thoughts I tend to have.
So I basically have two years to get my SAT as close to 1600 as I possibly can, and my ACT as high as I can.
I know with this amount of time I can get extremely high scores if I apply myself, but I need some material. Does anyone have experience with these SAT prep courses online that could recommend one to me?
>>18147485
Princeton review. Get your test prep there.
>>18147489
Is the self paced one sufficient? What were your results if I may ask?
>>18147522
I only used them for LSAT. But Princeton review is the most popular and probably best resource for all undergrad and grad school test prep. You have plenty of time, just work through one of their books.