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You need physical and mental distraction until you're dead tired at the end of the day and you just jerk off and pass out like normal people.

>>18153233
>addiction
Are your habits preventing you to do reasonably good at school and in life goals? No? Then you are fine.

Adopt some sport so you dont have so much free time to consume all porn on the internet.

And dont worry. The only way how to survive puberty as a male is to masturbate through it.

Turn off the computer hahaha nigga just close your eyes

>>18153221
do shrooms with her. take a journey into your minds...

btw, not a chad :(

Tell her you'd like to have coffee sometime.

Or dinner.

Find a place. Deal with it

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>>18153241
I am all out of shrooms
>>18153242
there are no restaurants, as I said, small town. I've been going through hundreds of scenarios in my mind but I can't think of a place. our city has a park, thats it. she's also been there a thousand times, and saying "lets go to a park" sounds weird
thank for replies so far, I hope Im not a dick

Life doesn't work like that I'm afraid. Nobody cares enough about you to stutter in your presence.

>>18153200

be black. or the most degenerate version of a white guy you can muster up. to make people stutter you need to be so ugly and off looking on top of being big that people are afraid you will hit them for no real reason.

TL;DR be black / redneck

>>18153207
So become famous?
I noticed that people can't really look me in the eye without fidgeting, and guys are generally intimidated by me, like going "fuck, I wouldn't screw around with a guy like anon, look at his arms" and things like that. I'm also part of a literary circle and during most arguments, most people go "yeah you're right, sorry" by the end I'm done with them, or people at work often apologising for small things just to keep cool with me.
How do I cultivate this side? I've noticed the most change came after losing fat and building muscle at the gym. I literally want to make people sweat around me.

>>18153189

go camping

>>18153189
Iirc the introduction to The Game begins with a nihilistic depressed womanizer much like you attempting suicide because he destroyed his ability to bond with anyone. You brought this on yourself. The solution probably looks something like stopping your current behavior, taking an extended time to reflect and perhaps meditate, and then dating women the normal way, one at a time, and waiting until at least date 3 or so to actually have sex, focusing primarily on trying to build a relationship with someone based on their personal qualities and goals/trajectory. It helped me and one of my friends anyway. Hopefully it might work for you.

>>18154061
Gay

>>18153169
Setting boundaries is what you need to do. I just had to do this with my family. It is super tough and the boundary has been broken once, but things as much better

>>18153169
>bugging me
Be glad they do. It is your family after all. If anything goes wrong for you, they will be your safety net.
>birthdays, hoolidays
So like once per two weeks right? Big deal. Just say them no and be glad you arent lonely.

>>18153286
That sound awful. Almost like you were raised in anglosphere. But i bet they would still help you if you ever needed.

Whatever you do, dont burn bridges behind you unless there is no other way. And dont tell me your whole family is treating you badly.

bump for help

>>18153123

It only feels bad because there's a big gap. So make her feel very sorry for you and let you fuck other girls on the side or do threesomes with you until the numbers are more even.

Anyway, would you give her reason if you had 4 partners and her only 1, and she said that she's worried she doesn't mean anything to you because you've been with so many others?

Just chill, I know it's awful to know that, but there isn't much you can do besides increasing your own number or fucking her silly so that your total amount of fucks is bigger than the total sum of the other 16 dudes.

>>18153123
this is why i maintain a "dont ask, dont tell" policy when it comes to the body count

>>18153120

>i just made my pregnant friend cry
>i just called her to ask whats up and how shes doing and she started babbling about being a bad mother and started crying

pick one.

you clearly didnt make her cry, she made herself cry.

>BUT WHY THIS MAKES NO SENSE WHAT IS THIS WITCH CRAFT, I NEVER EVEN TOOK A BASIC BIOLOGY COURSE.

humans have emotions. those emotions can change based on our hormones and when women are pregnant they are extremely hormonal. shes also NOT really wrong about anything she doens't know its going to work out, taking care of a child in these uncertain times is fucking awful, we can barely afford to live on our own let alone with kids, and having a kid fucking ruins who you were before.

>>18153120
>scared shitless of giving birth, which is really weird since she studied to be a midwife.

Not following your logic there OP.
Studying about something is not the same as having to physically give birth yourself. I think in this case you could say "easier read than done." Why wouldn't it be more scary to have your body actually going through that?

You're the one that sounds a bit more schizophrenic here. You think it's all about you, something you did, and are paranoid that she'd going to call back and accuse you of lying.

>>18153152
This. Besides, she knows of everything that can go wrong.

Either way, OP, pregnancy hormones are crazy. It's some really insane shit. Don't worry about it and just accept that she ISN'T herself now, she's being doused in hormones that alter how she sees stuff at least sometimes. Just let her vent, it'll pass.

>>18153114
She was betrayed in a way that is hard to people who haven't been in that situation to empathize with.

basically someone she trusted and loved was fucking lying to her and manipulating her for a full god damned year. It's hard to trust someone after that. It's going to take time.

She should probably talk to him less, though, but if they have kids or something,that's going to be borderline impossible.

>>18153114
She can try meds. Antidepressants might help her bounce back.

>>18153114

it means that she was a married woman who got cheated on and now cant get over what happened.

>>18153080

define bullying, did you get bitched out because you walked in a hour late on your phone or is it daily torment over nothing?

>>18153080
You fuck his daughter

>>18153086
he just keep refering to me as "the big head" in front of everyone while in class

>unmotivated
I can tell. It sounds like your parents didn't really give you a chance to settle into your own before enrolling you into college. You're not pathetic, you're just overwhelmed right now. I don't blame you, it's a lot to take on all at once. If you're not studying something you want to do (or something that'll apply to what you want to do) in life, then you're wasting your time and theirs. Not the mention the financial shit which ultimately parents shouldn't care about more than your happiness/wellbeing.

You know who you are. What do you like to do in your spare time? What do you see yourself doing in 5 years? What task could you imagine yourself waking up everyday and being totally OK with doing? Feels like thats a good place to start but when it works, I'll let /ad/ know.

>>18153126
>It sounds like your parents didn't really give you a chance to settle into your own before enrolling you into college.
No, not really. I kept being told to find a four year school that matched my interests but was affordable. My parents do work really hard to maintain our standard of living, but it wasn't enough and I couldn't find a place in time so I settled for community college. I knew what major I wanted but was met with skepticism (Visual Arts) and told to go with Engineering. I do feel like a lot of this is my fault though. I should've gotten a job and scholarships to lessen the load. Too busy wasting time listening to everyone who said "don't worry, you still have time." I don't know what to do now.

>>18153206
>Still have time
Technically, you do. I've noticed that we tend to think of college as this finite goal that can only be accomplished during a certain time in your life and then after that, you miss your window. It's just not true. You have the rest of your life to go back to school, or drop out of school, or do whatever you want to. Honestly though, I think that might've been sound advice about the visual arts thing BUT I will say this-- people have stereotypes of each major and sometimes those stereotypes are wrong. Every actor in Hollywood constantly brings up positivity and determination, because everytime you tell someone "I want to be an actor" or "I want to be an artist" you hear "Thats stupid! You'll never make it! Its a hard field! There's no jobs!" etc. If everyone listened to those criticisms, those fields would be desolate wastelands and art would cease to exist because everyone got disheartened at some point by a bitter asshole at a frat party. "Doing what you love", on the other hand, doesn't always prove the most reliable source of income in the future. Engineering is a tough degree to do just for shits and giggles. The only people who make it through that degree are the ones with a SERIOUS passion for that kind of shit and even then, its about 50/50 because most drop out anyways. You have to have grit to stick it out in whatever you choose. It has to mean that much to you in order to satisfy these particular concerns, but in my opinion you don't have much to worry about in the moment. If you don't like that you don't work, you can get a job. If you don't like the financial situation, you can work something out with your parents. If you think you're not ready to continue your education, you need to tell them that so they can save the money they're spending while you wait and figure that out. They won't be thrilled but they'll appreciate how mature your concerns are.

>>18153037
Yes. He might even be a Bernie voter.

>>18153037
cuck·old
ˈkəkəld,ˈkəkōld/
nounarchaic
noun: cuckold; plural noun: cuckolds

1.
the husband of an adulteress, often regarded as an object of derision.

verb
verb: cuckold; 3rd person present: cuckolds; past tense: cuckolded; past participle: cuckolded; gerund or present participle: cuckolding

1.
(of a man) make (another man) a cuckold by having a sexual relationship with his wife.
(of a man's wife) make (her husband) a cuckold.

>>18153037
>>18153044

so by technical definition, kinda yeah, but thats like saying the girl who popped her hymen while masturbating is no longer a virgin. technicalities.

>>18153009
ask them with words from your human mouth. Let them know your situation, then just ask them plainly.

Transgenders who seamlessly pass are still quite rare, and I am real sure that a FtM with a penis is absolutely not going to have sex with someone without informing them of that. People get killed over leaving out that information, some men just see red when they feel like they got "tricked into being gay" or whatever it is that sets them off the very most.
MtF transgenders try to look like men most of the time so you probably have a clue. (Buzzed hair, boy clothes, zero make up.) For the rest it's up to them whether they'd potentially be with you and up to you whether you'd be open to that. Many FtMs never get the genital surgery because it's not that easy to make a functioning, "normal" penis.

As for whether she's queer, you should be able to tell to some extent by her behavior. A girl not interested in dating or sleeping with men will not flirt with you. A girl interested in sleeping with but not dating men, will make that clear before things proceed. And likely drop a "when I crushed on this girl I knew a few years back" at some point to give you a clue that she's not straight.
If she's bi, that's most elusive but also least important I guess. If someone is very private about their sex life or dating history, this could potentially only come up when discussing sexual fantasies or preferences, which obviously happens later on most of the time.

>>18153028
Yeah, I guess I'll find out soon enough. The suspense is tense.

>>18153025
I thought of that, but it's not a very smooth question.

>>18152990
You forgot to ask for advice on this advice board...

>>18152997
Well, what should I do? Has it happened to anyone else? I don't want to be gay, but it just shows up when horny. Should I hold it and wait for it to go or should I embrace it?

>>18153031
Here's some pro tip for ya: It doesn't matter.

If you are attracted to someone, you are attracted to someone.

Wanna fuck them? You wanna fuck them.

Don't make it more complicated than it needs to be.

If you end up attracted and in love with another man, then go for it.

If you end up attracted an in love with a woman, then go for it.

Why make it so fucking hard.

Book are little gateways to knowledge man. Every book I read I walk away learning something about myself, these are the ones that effected me the most.
Musashi
Grapes of wraith
Crime and punishment

>>18152969
Yes and yes. Very much so.

A self-help book helped me manage an anxiety disorder better than any doctor or medicine.

/adv/ had gotten me through several very tough times.

The key to both is knowing what questions to ask.

>>18152969

yes to both, though with advice I usually dont have to post, i learn more from reading other peoples advice to other peoples problems, or typing up my problem and finding the answer before i click 'post'

You are absolutely overdoing it. They can still smell it and likely smell it much too strongly after reapplying it.

>>18152951
So it's normal not to smell it anymore if I sniff my own skin?

>>18152958
Yes.