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Long story short I've known this girl for about a year and a half (We are both in grad school together), and recently she hasn't left me alone.

>For the past 3 weeks she has spent all of Friday, Saturday, and Sunday at my apartment. About 12 hours each day.
>Everyday she texts me asking to get dinner with her

Here is the thing...she has a boyfriend who lives about an hour away.

I asked her why she hasn't been hanging around her best female friend (Who she almost exclusively hung out with until about a month ago), and got sort of a perplexing response.
>Shes acting jealous and selfish that I'm in a relationship and she is not.

That's great, I understand competition between females and shes mad some guy is into you and not her. Ok great, so why is she hanging out so much with me. Why does she text me everyday of the week asking to get dinner with me, why does she spend 12 hour a day on the weekend at my place watching television.
>She has a boyfriend who lives a short hour car ride away, why doesn't she just go hangout with him?

It wouldn't bug me so much, but I'm going to be honest...I want to bang this girl.

I'm just a bit confused

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So I have been a massive fucking spazz lately. Overdosed because my boyfriend and I had a fight where I stole his car and drove home and packed all of his shit into a bag because I found something on his phone and misunderstood it. I cannot stop going off my head. Like seriously, whether it's an argument or just a noise, I get this dizzy spell and blurred vision and just explode and yell the shit out of my boyfriend and I need to stop.
Background: 21 years old, female, diagnosed depression, anxiety, OCD, borderline or bipolar 2 (not confirmed which).
I guess I just want to know if anyone has experienced such severe anger and mood swings, how you dealt with it, and ways to calm down in this situation before snapping. I know this sounds extremely immature but it's an actual psychological problem and the physical symptoms are excruxiating.

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Why won't my boyfriend get down on me?

We have been together for a year and he hasn't even attempted doing that. Says he finds it disgusting (but expects me to blow him anyway).

I feel like there's something wrong with me, though I wouldn't go to bed with him unclean or without wax.

I'm his first girlfriend btw.

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>about to turn 28
>zero achievements or good qualities

Be honest. Should I kill myself?

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, fart guy, platonic cuddling guy
Fuck off

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>grew up in a small 2-3 day per week school ever since k
>had no friends as everyone else knew eachother through family/church/etc
>only white kid at my texas catholic church and all the mexican kid hated me
>joined a small friend group in 6th grade, by 7th everyone from my friend group had left the school and i foolishly made no effort to keep in touch with them
>am currently in a friend group a grade above mine (junior) viewed as 'social leftovers'
>started lifting, bigger than 95% of people i know, receive compliments fairly often
>17, socially anxious, never had a gf, basically socially retarded
Advice?

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>want to talk to this girl
>had the chance to sit next to her in class last semester
>didn't
>talked to her once
>never talked to her again out of not finding opportunity
>add her on facebook a few months ago
>accepts
>still wanna talk to her
>being afraid of rejection

I've been crushing on this girl since October. She's nice and shit but I never had good luck with women. They either don't talk to me at all or I do something to fuck it all up. So my question is this I guess, I wanna talk to her but what should I do? We don't have classes together anymore so its a bust for talking to her in person.I've been meaning to talk to her on Facebook but I think it would just be odd. Where could I go from here? We don't have any mutual friends either. Is it a done deal?

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I can't make meaningful connections with people. Or, I don't gain anything from the relationships that I make. I don't gain any energy, I just lose energy.

All of my friends are nice, and some art smart, some are funny. I just feel no return, but the catch is I get lonely without friends but I don't care about the ones I make.

I am just so tired. It has been like this for 10 years or so. I just feel nothing, everyone and everything is grey. I have to act like I care because when its obvious that I don't feel anything my life is much more difficult as people cause problems with me, but acting is such a huge effort as well and I end up hating how fake it is.

I've seen a therapist, been on meds, nothing has worked and frankly I hate the idea of being on medication anyhow as it feels dishonest to who I am and the side effects dull me.

What's worse, the only relationship that ever meant anything ended with them essentially expressing how little they cared for me. Every time I think of trying I think of how they acted, ending our friendship without getting my perspective on things, without even trying to fix things. I hate it.

I'm tired, I am getting stranger and the ability to just pass as normal is getting worse and its stressful. I just can't care about anything I am supposed to care about, and I don't get energy from any of the people or things I should.

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So I last year I started to hangout with a girl in my friend group just us two. I liked her alot but she didnt like me past a friend which was fine because I still loved to hangout and talk with her. Anyway I would ask her to hangout about once a week and started to ask more and more, sometimes it was yes and sometimes it was no.

Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago and I asked her again and got like 3 no's from her in a week. I then started to notice I was the only one asking her to hangout even if she said yes or no, and that I asked like 2-3 times a week. I asked her if I was coming off as annoying or making her pissed that I kept asking and she said she rather I wait for her to be ready to hangout and want to then me just asking. I got confused because I was the only one asking and she still said yes at times. So I asked her if all those other times she hungout did she actually feel like it or just say it to shut me up. So then said when we hangout she doesnt think she'd have energy to hangout but when we do its fine. She then said im not gonna placate you here. So I didnt notice it until I said it but I came off like I was pissed at her for not asking at all, so I said I didnt bring this up to make her make me feel better I just wanted to avoid making you pissed or annoyed at me but I think I got that result by asking, then I told her sorry and that was the end of the convo. Two days later she texted two videos to me and I didnt reply, idk why I think I was trying to back off a little and cut my emotions from her but after that its been about 2 weeks since we talked. Now I dont know if I should be the one to break the silence and talk to her first or just wait it out becuase I dont know if shes mad at me or thinks im mad at her or just doesnt care that much to talk with me. If she doesnt care that much I dont want to just start talking to her and she's just like ugh its this kid again. Before this we used to text all the time throughout the day so I am just lost

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So it looks like I'm getting sued.

I haven't been handed any papers yet, but I'm getting a bunch of mail from lawyers saying they could help me file for Chapter 7 or Chapter 13. I'm apparently getting sued by LVNV Funding, the original debt was from a credit card I had about 2 years ago for about $700.

Not sure what steps I should take in this situation, I could use some advice.

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Second heartbreak in less than a year

Yep, fuck it. Has anybody else sworn off love? I'm getting the feeling that it's not for me...First heartbreak was from my first break up, second heartbreak was from my first rejection after making a move when hanging out with this chick.

It just sucks because at 27, I'd love to have a family around 30, and would love nothing more in life than having a family.

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Have any of you ever forgiven and forgotten someone who had sex with someone else? Does it matter if we were broken up for 4 days and got back together the day after the deed happened?

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>Me
>23
>Got dumped by gf of 4 years last June
>Since the fucked twelve girls, three were short term gfs.
>Was still cyberstalking my ex on the daily
>Her subtweets about me, posting pics from when we were together, made me feel like we were going to work things out soon.
>Didn't hear from her
>Months go by
>Now 10 months since I got dumped
>Stopped checking her social media last week
>Feel way better, notice girls are more attracted to me. Like they can sense I'm letting go of my ex and finally open
>Still catch myself typing my ex's name into social media to check her profile by habit.


I'm doing the right thing, right..? It's never okay to look at your ex's social media if you want her back/want to get over her? I literally have to convince my brain that she doesn't exist?

There's a good line from the movie Swingers "They don't come back until you really forget." Is that true? Can your ex really sense when you no longer care for them?

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How do I become more comfortable with myself when talking to people And especially women. I'm 19, 6'3, good looking, physically fit and all, fairly intelligent and spiritually more advanced than most. I have alot going for me in a sense besides a few things in which I lack, though I acknowledge my lacking. I'm not an insecure person consciously at least, and I would say Im happy with myself most of the time. Nonetheless every time I get in social situation especially with girls I find attractive, my mind goes blank. I can't think of anything to say or how to act so I end up just ignoring people that are blatantly trying to get my attention. Many, Many missed opportunity for pussy, making friends, going and doing things, all because of this anxiety or something I get when in a social situations. Any tips on getting better with this sort of shit?

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Hi /adv/

> be me, 25, never had relationship, as no one I fell for felt the same
> have best friend for four years, fall in love with her
> almost everything matches perfectly, but she has a relationship for 8+ years
> is in love with me, too, but decides against me, because "she can not give up everything for an impulse"
> we decide to cut all contact to make it easier

That was a week ago. I feel terribly lost and can not concentrate on anything.
The problem: All my good friends are in the same clique as her, plus her boyfriend is a good friend. We want to make a trip tomorrow for several days with some friends and the boyfriend.
I can not see him without getting super jealous/sad but looked forward to the trip for months.
Shall I cancel the trip and avoid my friends to get over this?