Why doesn't my bf want to be dominant? He's generally an angry/grumpy dude and I'm plenty bitchy to invoke those feelings outta someone. I just want to get put in my place, but he seems to act kind of like a bitch-boy when it comes to me. Asking my opinion on things before making mundane decisions, apologizing for small stupid things that don't warrant apology... Idk I feel bad about it. Is he afraid of me? He knows I'm secretly extremely submissive.. How do I undo his meekness?
>>18169403
>be woman
>behave like bitch, feels bad about it, expects partner to turn dominant
>behave A, think B, expects C
Have you tried to COMUNICATE about your wishes with him?
>dominant
In sexual life? In general? Tried to play games in bed? Roleplay? Master&pet?
>>18169403
He wants you to peg him in the ass with a strap on
>>18169422
Yeah i was going through a really bitchy phase and bad mental health patch for like a year and feel like the damage can't be undone... I feel bad about it and don't really know how to change a persons current "natural" disposition.. How do you suggest communicating? He knows I like ageplay type junk so dominance in and outside of the bedroom fits my fancy. It's hard because I am naturally a bit bullheaded and know part of it is something i need to work on. How can I come off as more... dominate-able?
I might just be a girl over reacting but please help.
So early this evening I was giving my boyfriend head while he was watching a documentary on his laptop. It was on his lap and I couldn't see what he was watching I could only hear the documentary but he started typing - that I thought was odd.
Late on I looked at the history on the laptop and he was watching porn on silent so I wouldn't notice.
I feel so upset by this? And almost not good enough? Idk someone help.
Ps. Ofc he doesn't know that I know.
Oops, sideways picture, sorry!
>>18169330
He just wanted to watch some porn while he got head, lots of guys think that's hot, most won't openly ask because they're afraid of this exact response. Let it go.
>>18169344
I can't just get over it though idk why
Why did he have to do it behind my back?
Why would he want to watch another girl sucking someone's dick? Why not just watch me?
I think it was because of the type of porn that has made me feel like shit, why watch pov of some other girl sucking a dick?
Let's say I want to work a decent job, and eventually get a wife, and have some kids.
How does one do this in the [current year]?
Do I have to be a feminist?
Do I have to into "social justice"?
I fell for the /pol/ philosophy, but the problem is that regular people don't think like /pol/ does. So becoming a /pol/ack basically means ostracising yourself from mainstream society (which is exactly what I've done).
I'm now realising I have to integrate with society. But does this mean I have to become a liberal, for one thing?
Please give real world experience in your answers - e.g. if you're a guy who's relatively successful, and has a girlfriend or wife or whatever, then please do post.
>>18169278
So, you alienated yourself on an internet borad, and now you are trying to fint into the real world by using ANOTHER internet board?
Can you see the flaw in the logic here?
>>18169278
Theartofmanliness does a lot of articles like this. How manhood is under attack by society and what to do to be a man in the modern world.
Some of it is cheesy and some of it is literally fedora-tier (as in, article about fedoras), but there are also a lot of good articles, too
>>18169313
You're on the same internet board so I don't know why you're acting like you're superior.
I'm 23 and I feel I'm obsessed with women. Like I literally can't stop thinking about them at times.
I'm just wondering if this is considered "normal" for a male or if I have like a deep psychological fixation which needs fixing. I already got an appointment for a therapist for unrelated issues, or so I think they are.
I feel like this should have been a phase at 14 but I kinda skipped that or something.
>>18169244
oh yeah and I think of sex all the time obviously
>>18169244
There's no "normal". Does this "obsession affect your life in any way? Then work on fixing the problem. If it's just being horny 24/7 then don't worry too much.
Your hormones are just going strong op, I'm 23 too and I have/had times where these feelings are intensely strong. Do you have sex a lot or a gf? Either way you should be happy that your libido is working fine.
I have a 9000-10,000 word dissertation due on the 6th of April that I have yet to start.
Can anyone give me advice on what nootropics are best to buy in the UK? I've seen:
http://www.healthdirectnews.com/iquzil.html?utm_source=Google&utm_medium=CPC&gclid=CP_MiIuQ-tICFRc6GwodM20GLQ
https://www.amazon.co.uk/d/4f2/Nootropic-Supplement-Naturally-Enhancement-Synergistic-Ingredients-L-Theanine/B01HRZG7SO/ref=sr_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1490736016&sr=8-3&keywords=provasil
But I'm a complete noob on this subject. Can anyone help?
tl;dr what drugs do I buy to get mega motivated and focussed
Sleep, exercise, fruit. Go buy some drugs called apples and bananas from ASDA
Or buy some adderall, it's illegal but there's enough in the country, it's expensive though like £10+ a pill.
Or buy some speed and snort a key to get your brain going
i take kratom daily, in small doses between 3-5 grams it is highly motivating. in hogher doses like 10g + it is a sedative. truly a wonder drug and i totally recommend it as it has a million uses.
i wont be in this thread anymore, just thought i ld pop in
>>18169257
Good luck getting kratom in the UK, you would have a better chance of rimming theresa mays asshole than getting it to be legal again.
Yay psychoactive substances ban!
Is it possible to reach anywhere near the same level of euphoria that drugs can provide?
Being drug free is lifeless and dull although I haven't even done any drugs yet.
>>18169214
I'll never say it could take you beyond the sheer overwhelm of pleasure drugs can give, but by doing a regular spiritual practice (meditation, a little charity,and even *gasp* prayer) I've felt so good that i would have declined drugs if offered. It's not really a high but a level of calm so deep that you wouldn't want anything else anyways because it would disturb the peacefulness.
>I don't pretend that spirits are real or my prayers are heard by some entity, but I will definitely vouch that spiritual actions have very real positive physical effects.
>>18169214
>Being drug free is lifeless and dull although I haven't even done any drugs yet.
Hahahahahaha, so how do you even know how they feel, dude? Stop glamorizing something with a single shred of evidence.
>>18169214
> I haven't even done any drugs yet
What the fuck? How can you think this way yet not have touched drugs? Stop fantasising kid.
I was smoking 1.5g+ weed daily for 6 months and lower amounts daily before that for a year, and drugs are GREAT for the first 2 fucking times you do them, then it's chasing the dragon forever.
Drugs will frazzle your neurons over time and you will become an incoherent, depressed, depleted fuckwit if you do enough.
Don't fall for the jew hollywood propaganda of doing quaaludes with your rich buddies and cocaine off strippers assholes, and learn from your own experiences instead of brainwashing from the media
>Meet girl
>She is strange very strange but funny
>Talk sometimes with her
>She sees my doing stupid shit and thinks that i'm funny
>But in reality i just have my autistic spurts and do kind of random shit
>Time passes
>Always talk a bit here and there
>Sitting in lesson suddenly teacher saysthere is a major announcment
>Girl stands up at says she wants to confess something and wants to clear things up because of her missing lessons
>Girl says that she is in depression since 2 years, cut herself in the past and now has bulimia and started a therapy some time ago
>Wtf.jpg
>She was always happy and had a good mood, and reminded me of myself a bit by doing random shit and......
>Instantly message her after class, say that i'm always there for her and that she can always talk to me
>She is speechless and says that she is very glad to have people around her that care for her, she got bullied at her las school
>Time passes again
>Decided to randomly message her because i was bored
>Play with her some stupid question game, how do you rate me and ......
>Says things like that i'm really handsome and funny
>Start to text her frequently and talk with her much more
>one time randomly in class
>Sit next to stacey
>Stacey like me but clearly as a friend and we always mess a bit around sometimes, Stacey is also a 10/10
>Suddenly the girl just turns around and says that Stacey doesn't need to be scared that she takes me away from her
>???
Cont.
>>18169209
Cont.
>Time passed again
>Just minding my buisness when she suddenly text me and says that she really like me and that i'm her best male friend
>Wtf we just know us for like 5 months and we just started to talk freqently like 2 months ago
>Says that i'm very funny and that she likes me a lot
>Tell her that i like her much too and probaly the most out of the girls in my class
>"B..But what about Stacey Anon?"
>Lie to her and say that i don't like Stacey and only treat her like a friend because i can't be mean
>"Yeah that absoulty sounds like you Anon"
>"A..Anon do you want to hang out with me?"
>Agree and we make someting like a "date"
>Fast forward to the "date"
>Greet her with a hug and i see how she gets more and more nervous but happy as i approach with my body
>We talked for like 5 hours and ate ice cream in the park, she was really upset that i paid everything
>"Date" ends and she says that she really enjoed it and invited me to her
>She also invited me to her best friends birthday party
>we continue to mess around in class and ....
Cont.
>>18169215
>About 1 week passed
>Notice that she postes a lot of depressed shit
>Sense that something is wrong and decide to message her
>"Hey do you want to talk about something or do you need help with something?"
>"No everything is fine Anon, the same goes for you, you can ask me to if you need something"
>"And what are you doing right now?"
>"Swiping away my tears and peparing myself to cry myself to sleep"
>Okay
>Prepared something for a situation like that
>Ask her if she remembers what she once told me
>"Everyone can draw Anon, you just need some pracice and bla bla bla in your heart"
>She is a very skilled artists but doesn't know that i'm also very skilled even more than her
>Pull out my preparations, a drawing about her and me, a special moment that happend at our "date"
>"Thank you X(Girl), you remembered me how much fun drawing is...without you i would have never found back to drawing"
>"ANON DID YOU REALLY DRAW THIS?"....."THIS IS BEAUTIFUL!"
>"YOU ARE SUCH AN IMPORTANT FRIEND FOR ME AND YOU ARE THE BEST"...."I'M SO GLAD WE GET ALONG SO WELL ANON"
>"You are important to me to X(Girl)"
>No signs of depressive shit anymore
Actually said everything like above, to be romantic and shit
Actually said everything like above, to be romantic and shit
>Some days before the party
>Flirt everday as hard as i can in class
>Sudddenly she message me after school
>"Hey Anon i noticed ow you looked at me <3"
>"How did i looked at you? :)"
>"You smiled and ......."
>"I just like you very much and i think you are very pretty"
>"That's really cute of you Anon!"
>"Hihi <3 you are my best friend"
Cont.
>>18169220
Cont.
>At this point i just get fucking wrecked
>Man up and write a 1000 word long text that i'm tired of this shit and need clarity, also tell her if she doesn't want anything from me she shouldn't waste my fucking time
>"Anon i think it is better to stay good friends, mabe it will develop into something more"......"But i need a timeour because of my EX friend"
>Tells me that she didn' want to play with my feelings and that i make her laugh and that she really appreciates that she can talk with me..
>"What did your EX did to you that you are so afraid to trust someone?"
>"PROMISE YOU WON'T TELL ANYONE"
>"I would never do something like that"
She basiclly just got betrayed hard from her EX and can't trust anyone more, she even wants a boyfriend but is to afraid to get hurt again.
Is there even a point in fucking trying anymore?
She said that she needs moer time and that we should stay friends, but that it can develop into something.
And what the fuck is wrong with women?
She says that she has trust issues but tores her heart out to some fucking random dude that she knows for fucking 3 months...
So i'm just not good enough for her?
Fuck women.
I'm currently a computer science major, I'm mid way through second semester and have down pretty bad
I may be able to scrape by with a pass after dropping some classes and schedule rearranging with some shmoozing but after that I'm not sure if I want to continue
First semester I passed decently and had flying marks in the non programming computer science class I had with a glowing review from the professor
After working with it more I'm not sure I really enjoy programming, I had fun learning concepts and other things in the non programming classes but I really suffer when it comes down to doing it. I'm not really good at it and I don't really like it. Another thing is I'm not really sure I actually want a computer science job after I graduate
My heads mixed up, maybe I just like the idea of being a computer scientist and am trying to push through with things I don't like.
I'm considering changing my major to Chemistry because I remember taking that in highschool and doing college classes in it in duel enrollment and I both excelled and had fun in it
The thing is that would set me back a year as Chemistry is very structured and jumping around/ trying to stack classes to catch up would be rough, I'd have to start from Gen Chem I, and try to get into Physics I Fall 2017 and take chem II and physics II in the spring. Everything else in the program requires these two semesters to already be done.
What do you guys think? Anyone with experience in both majors want to help? Am I just being a bitch?
>>18169184
A computer science-program is supposed to make you sweat a little. It does become better once you've gotten past a certain threshold. I'm not suggesting you don't switch because of this, but just keep it in mind. Also, it's perfectly okay to occasionally doubt your major of choice. It doesn't always mean you should change. However, if you're having doubts to the point where it affects your performance a great deal, switch.
>>18169241
It's either me getting cold feet at the first sign of trouble or actually realizing something about myself and that computer science isn't for me. I'm not sure which it is and that's what causes this indecision for me'
My classmates seem to just get programming in a way that I don't, and enjoy solving problems in it. I don't really get gratification from figuring something out it's more, "Alright now I have to do THIS" as opposed to others who seem genuinely happy and excited when they get a piece of their code working right.
Even if I can muscle through and get this stuff down and let's say I miraculously turn around next semester and can code like no other I'm not sure I really want a job in the CS field
>>18169276
Have you tried suicide?
My boyfriend's dick is too big for anal but he loves it. What do i do?
deal with it
Get a bigger anus or get him a smaller dick
protip: one's way easier than the other
Don't do anal
Hey /adv/ geniuses! How can I pass a nicotine test.
Facts: I'm skinny. Been smoking for about 14 years. Usually 1 pack every two days. Test is in 2-3 weeks!!
What can I put in my body to cleanse? Help!!!
After 4 days the vast majority of nicotine is out of your system. What are you trying to fraud a test? It's not like you're an occasional smoker, you've done it heavily for 14 years.
>>18169056
What kind of job can you not smoke at?
>>18169061
No not fraud. I'm stopping today. I want to know ways to rapidly clean my system of nicotine so I can pass the test in about two or three weeks. I'm guessing it's a standard urine test.
How can I get better at the SAT or test taking in general? I'm currently at a 1250/1600 (borderline autist-tier) but I'm normally at the top of my class.
(I'm 18 before anyone asks)
>>18169001
there are classes that cover the material seen on the SAT, as well as SAT test books that you can use to teach your self.
>>18169009
>test booklets
I never took the SAT, but these helped me immensely on ACT. Probably raised my score by 4-5 points per subject
>>18169001
Do you actually study for it or do you spend more time on 4chan?
Tindr/OKC advice thread.
>Tfw no matches
I am a decent looking guy, I don't get it. Is the market really that screwed for me? I feel like Chads just take all the women and leave guys like me behind.
>>18168998
maybe. before you start whining, post some proof. post a picture of your profile with the first picture uncensored, as thats really what girls see before they swipe.
>>18169013
This is it, no Chad but I hate feeling like bottom barrel because of this. I usually brose r9k but they are not really much help for those trying to get out of robothood.
>>18169023
thats not your profile, thats just a picture.
regardless you are not a 'decent looking guy'.
How do I get a trans girl to like me? I'm trying to be her friend, I try talking to her but she totally blows me off. What could I be doing to make her not want anything to do with me, I've shown interest in her art, in the games she plays (well try to, they all are old and kinda crappy looking) I have invited her to women's groups and she declines... she won't add me on facebook, I don't know what I'm doing wrong.
>>18168946
Maybe she's just not that into you.
>>18168946
1) dont treat her like a trans girl.
trans girls want to be girls, not trans girls. thats why they all want a straight guy and not a trans chaser. they want to feel like what they're doing is working.
2) be their ideal man.
its a lie that you can convince people to like you by acting a certain way. if that was the case all the ugly guys would be dating models.
no, the truth is shes either into you or shes not, and she probably checked out on your looks alone, let alone how you act.
>>18168946
>girl
>she
>her
>etc
its ok to be gay, anon. its lame to lie/beat around the bush about it
So I'm breaking up with my girlfriend. We've only been together about 4-5 years, since we were 18 or so. She's got a problem with my drinking habits, thinks I drink so much. I drink a good bit, maybe more than I should.
But the root of it is that her dad was an alcoholic. And her mom committed suicide when my girlfriend was 8. She blames it on her father. However, every time I drink she blames it on me. If I'm working on the car and get annoyed with busting my knuckles on the frame and go to get a few beers, she turns ice fucking cold and spends the night at her "female" friends house.
Fuck that. Even if I stopped drinking she'd find some issue with my behavior, some random shit that reminds herself of her father. Sucks for her mother and her, no shit, but I had nothing to do with it.
So here I am.
>>18168840
Great blog post, now add it to your blogspot and come back when you need some advice
OK, and?
>>18168840
You sound like a typical alcoholic who never sees the problem with himself. Good for your gf that you break up.
Sup /adv/.
I don't know what to do.
I just found out my 13 yo sister texts some 21 yo dude, sends him pics and all that shit. No nudes thank god. Tells him literally everything about her every fucking day, what she did in school, where she went, and acts like your typical teenage girl that thinks she's in love.
I love her and want the best for her, so usually I wouldn't mind, but not in this case. The dude is fucking 21, and for some reason she tells him about me, what I do, even sends her my pics. I went through all their messages and she just makes goddamn walls of messages, and that guy responds with just some emojis or single words.
My first thought was to go and beat the shit out of him, but that's not what adult rational people do, and there's no basis. And I'm positive that they never actually met in person, although looks like she wants to. Should I let it continue or what? I don't want to one day find out that my sister is 14 and pregnant.
Random pic for attention
Didn't try talking to her? Telling her how dangerous this is? Get your parents involved if all else fails.
Or maybe share this tale with her:
http://www.miaminewtimes.com/news/kiki-kannibal-a-story-of-stupid-hair-statutory-rape-and-online-stalking-in-south-florida-6535397
Honestly, you don't have to physically beat his ass but get some adults (the bigger and more intimidating the better) in your family to confront him and tell him to stay away from their child. That's not unwarranted. Worst case scenario replace her smartphone with a basic cellphone with no apps or camera if she doesn't listen. Discipline her ass and keep her safe.
>>18168785
That's quite a story.
Well, our mother actually found out that she hides something and asked me to look into this. I found what I found, and we tried to talk to her, but she rarely listens and seems to think we hate her. The usual kid-in-puberty behaviour.
Maybe I'll talk to that guy instead and tell him to stop that shit himself or else, since she clearly will listen to him first and us second. Not sure if that'll work though.