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>>18171988

I quit a year ago on new year's cold turkey. The first few weeks were uncomfortable, but it got easier soon after that. What helped me was to change the habits that usually set off smoking. I used to smoke in the mornings and between lectures and when I was drunk, for I went sober for a month, drank coffee on each break, etc. Basically, figure out when you smoke and then make a decision not to do it and arrange other things to distract you at those times. Also, I kept two last cigs of the last pack "in case on an emergency" and I still have those. It was sort of like a ritualistic token that I could do it and it also gave me a reason not to buy a new pack, because technically I had some left.

>>18171988
I quit cold turkey, but still have the occasional cigarette when I'm super stressed/angry or I'm out drinking.

I was pretty in the dumps. Couldn't really kick it. I stopped smoking by reducing the amount gradually. There were little spikes in smoking when I became stressed, but at this point I am smoking like one cigarette a month.

>>18171970
I recommend you take the long view, do whatever you want for the next two weeks and then take steps towards MOVING THE FUCK OUT and starting your own life. Then, sure, get on Tinder.

>>18171970
hookers are a massive waste of money, especially if you need something more than sex

sounds like you need a girlfriend, try online dating

>>18171970
I suggest you watch the movie risky business.

Yeah??? Why wouldn't it be?

>>18171925

would bang.

Yes, but I'll track you down once you post it.

Hire cleaners that deal with heaters/furnaces

>>18171982
I'm kind of living paycheck to paycheck atm, I'd rather handle this on my own if possible

>>18171914
cover your floor with trashbag cut to make a flat piece. Then fill a fogger with lot of detergent and complete with water. Spray it and use a brush swab

>>18171823

>good

define good. are you looking for pick up lines or what?

>>18171842

Pick up, take her number ASAP

>>18171823
>Are you tennis shoes?
>Cus' you're the only 10 - I - choose

Its shit and cheesy as fuck but in my experience it got them laughing and you go from there. Had quite a few dates using this.

Hopefully you even get the joke and can word it better than I have.

>>18171816
I wish i could help you but you beat anxiety by finding out how to controll your body and brain yourself.

Also placebo is very effective on things like these. So you can try to eat some chocolade to calm yourself. Take a bit, say out load
>chocolade is proven to help anxiety and generally bad feelings and therefore it will help me
Eat it deeply exhale and it will calm you.

Stay cool OP, if you can lose your friends so easily they werent friend worth keeping anyway.

And seek profesional help. You cant work in society if such minor thing crushes you.

>>18171835
I didn't know chocolate could help, thank you. It wasn't like just some friend, but someone I considered a best friend. See, something like this happened in the summer and he came back about 2 months later. It's strange how someone could go from talking about possibly becoming roommates to gone within 3 days

Does anyone else have any tips on how to calm down with anxiety?

>>18171815
No idea what you could do OP, but don't take sleeping pills. Sure you'll sleep when you take one, but if you don't take one, you won't sleep. They're also addictive which is why you only get around a weeks worth of supply prescribed in the UK, no idea about where you're from.

>>18171815
Do you wake up at the morning exhausted?

If not, then you are ok OP, no need to abuse happy pills.

If anything i bet you are stressed, eating crap fast food and not doing any sport.

>>18171850
I'm not doing any sports at all, but I am eating relatively healthy. Stress is part of my life because of work and college. You suggest that working out could solve the problem?

>redneck father
>pedophile fiance

Your answer was in your post OP.

>>18171837
Well I'm fucking sick of living with these freaks

>>18171860
So move?

>>18171693
Don't be friends and just move on to the next girl. Getting hung up on her is the worst thing you can do.

I've thought about that but we have quite a few mutual friends so we always end up being around each other

>>18171727
You don't have to completely avoid her, just when you are hanging out in a group focus your attention on your other friends. Treat her like an acquaintance.

That and find another girl to focus your energy on.

>>18171648
"Demisexual" is not a fucking sexuality. This girl isn't special because she doesn't want to fuck a stranger--but she thinks she is, which is probably the biggest problem you'll have.

Do you really want to date a special snowflake?

>>18171648
Try dating women without mental illness

>Demisexual
...so, I've been out of the loop lately.
The fuck does this mean?

>>18171630
This isn't r9k faggot go cry about it there

>>18171639
no

give me advice

>how do I become asexual
Idiot, that would imply you fuck yourself to the point where you REPRODUCE LIKE A SPONGE. LITERALLY MAKING CHILDREN OUT OF EVERY ORIFICE YOU HAVE.

The correct term is how to become celibate or abstainant.

Also, you can't deny it. You're already doing above average doses of porn, so your sexuality is clearly in favor of women. Your body is proudly engineered just to go after women, wired mentally, built specifically, and hormonally balanced just for that purpose. Either way, fucking point is that since your lust for pussy still continues, you literally cannot make yourself celibate (unless you stop porn and stop fucking yourself literally).

But I know you won't stop, because stopping now would just hurt you more.

Be happy. I mean you gotta live 24 years of your life without a soul sucking leech on your back. If you want one so badly just focus on your life for improvements. Girls naturally gravitate to those kind of men (I wonder why?)

>>18171606
>It's not like I obsess over it, but sometimes I get a bit sad
23 and same here. However, when I met this qt who was really nice to me it made me realize how lonely I actually was.

I asked her out and she rejected me of course.

>20 and never had a girl or boyfriend
>stopped caring around 16

I don't even get sad about it anymore, life is good really.

>>18171602
Holy shit nigger just fucking ignore her. This is the 3rd fucking time you've ignored our advice. Why are you even here?

>>18171602
Oh my god who fucking cares what that whore thinks or feeös
Just write "who are you?" and then block her

>>18171605
I know anon. i have stopped hanging out with her since the first post. i'm just wondering whether i should just ignore this or call her a slut

(2/2)

But then things got better for a little while, we were back to normal although I still wasn't feeling 100%. We started doing things together again, had more sex, he acted like he cared and was actually interested in me again. He seemed happy. He got a job, wasn't home much so I did most of the housework and had dinner ready for him coming back. We went on some dates, played games like we used to. Until the stress hit again and I started worrying about my holiday.

I decided to fly to the other side of the world to spend Easter with my family and meet the new baby. I was obviously excited, but worried about leaving my boyfriend back home, about whether he'd be okay on his own, what he would eat, and the time difference between us if something went wrong. The last week I was scrambling to finish all uni work, get the house all clean and take the pets to where they were going to stay. One day we had made plans to go somewhere and I just wasn't feeling up to it - he got mad, went by himself and I ended up spending the day crying in bed. But I apologised and the last days together at home were amazing: we spent lots of time together, were close, he took me out to cinema, we had amazing sex.

And then the night before I was leaving he called. He was drinking and said he couldn't do it sober, and he couldn't do it face to face. He said he did it just before my holiday because being with my family would take my mind off it but to be honest, I don't even want to be here. He said he still loves me but if I want to see other people that's fine with him. I don't. I just want to be good enough for him.

Right now I'm laying in bed with tears pouring down my eyes, biting down on my pillow because I don't want my family to know. I have his scarf here, it smells like him. I'm on the other side of the world and all I want is for him to hold me, I want to hear his voice and feel his touch. We're not perfect but I love him.

And I just don't know what to do.

>>18171435
Iktf
Talk to your family please. They'll understand you and be there for you

What did you do at new years?

I dunno. I find that when I dress nice it improves my self esteem.

I have no self esteem so idk

What makes me feeling good is being clean

>>18171414
what I was told getting sober was to improve self esteem by doing esteemable acts. For AA that meant helping other alcoholics who were desperate, and it worked well for me. I imagine the same principle would apply for anyone with low self-esteem.

Gotta make a quick note though, building up self esteem takes time, so don't go play with puppies for a day at the shelter and expect to come out a confident, self-loving person. It takes some time and effort making a positive difference in the world to feel like you're worthwhile. It also takes work to maintain that feeling.

No, it's not fair that normies don't have to do this just to feel 'ok', but by the Gods, the simple fact that there IS a way to feel 'ok' at all should have you overjoyed.