female virgin
Been getting intense sexual urges lately. i am happy being single besides that and definitely don't want a relationship. I do have a potential FWB but to be perfectly honest pursuing it would kind of make me feel bad. Ideally, I'd prefer to have sex during an actual relationship.
Am I wrong for repressing my sexual desires for my personal values?
Depends, it's a personal matter. There are healthy reasons to want this FWB (wanting to experience freedom while young, just lust itself or good chemistry with this guy, feeling like it's time to lose it and you are in the right place in life) and healthy reasons not to (being true to what you believe in, being certain that it won't offer what you want, not such great attraction to this potential lover).
Likewise, saving your virginity because you feel you would be worth less without it isn't a line of thinking you want to follow. Nor is feeling pressure to lose it because you are afraid of being an older virgin.
How old are you now?
>>18174923
Nah...have sex when you're ready. No rush.
>>18174933
Early 20s.
I don't think I would feel worthless as a non-virgin, just kind of wrong if I did it with someone I didn't really feel anything for. Intimacy is pretty important to me and I like the idea of saving the experience for people I love.
I just feel like this also makes me a bit prudish or putting too much meaning on sex.
How do you feel living in a world where babbies, toddlers and puppies are killed, people are burning alive, children are hanging themselves and you could be walking on the street one day as your heart stops or someone shoots you in the back of the head or a car goes astray and pummels through you? Darkness. Eternal sleep. And you will never even know it.
What if this is the only heaven we get? This shithole where everybody is a slave for somebody or a system, the evilest go unpunished and still enjoying their acts while the good and innocent are tortured, killed and dying of painful deseases without anyone knowing. How do you feel about that? How do you feel about all of them? How do you feel knowing you could be next?
Nobody will ever love another human being like a mother loves her child and even then it's not "love" but just a biological need to further generations. Otherwise it's just sex and reproduction.
I feel like all the world lost it's magic and mystery. It's all just pain and pointlessness. Not wanting to die of fear, knowing what comes after could be worse. But living being no different than a hellhole. I can't be a stoic anymore. I can't live in illusions of positivity and normalcy. What about you?
If you find my rant annoying feel free to ignore it.
>>18174910
indifferent
babies. retarded typo
- OP
>>18174910
I just chill and do things I like to do. Everything IS bullshit no doubt, but honestly this only weighs you down if you let it
When is it appropriate to set up a second date?
Should you suggest it at the end of the first date if it is going well? Or, if meeting first over a quick brunch, to text the same day and suggest dinner that evening or the next day?
is it with this girl?
>>18174783
Anytime really.
If she likes you she will accept. If she doesnt like you she will not accept.
Or you can be the interesting man and ask her yourself. Because i bet nobody asked her this question yet.
The best way to go about dating is to:
Step 1: Meet qt, ask if she wants to meet up sometime for a drink or dinner or whatever, set a definite time and place sometime that week, exchange numbers and say "looking forward to it"
Step 2: Meet at definite time and place for date. Texting and communication is best kept to a minimum before the date, it's best just to save all conversation for the date. Don't text her to confirm the date, just show up. Most guys confirm dates, it looks weak. If she's insecure she'll most likely confirm the date, if she's confident she'll show up without saying anything. She might say "oh wow I didn't think you'd show, most guys text me to confirm." Smile and say you're a man of your word.
Step 3: Have a great date. Ask her about herself, get her doing most of the talking, don't talk about yourself unless she asks, ask genuine questions about a girl you are interested in getting to know. Give her a goodnight kiss, and if she makes out with you invite her to go to your place. If your place isn't an option, don't invite yourself to hers. If she asks, go and fuck. Watch netflix, smoke weed, etc.
Step 4: Say you had a good time and leave. Wait to hear from her. If you did well she'll text you within 3 days saying she had a great time or just Hey. This is your signal to arrange the next date! Respond with "i had a great time too, when are you free to get together again?" And set a definite time and place, then again avoid texting and communication.
Repeat this process and over the course of 1-3 months she'll ask if you're exclusive/if she can be your gf. You can agree or disagree, stay casual or whatever you like. Within 1 month of using this process you'll probably be hanging out every single day.
Good luck OP. Remember take things slow, don't move too fast, go with the flow. Don't become needy, ever.
So as I'm a dude who lives in an eastern european shithole and have the oppurtunity to study abroad.
I have a name which is really only linked to this country and literally means "male" or "boy".
It's Momchil.
I'm really not self-conscious about it in the context of this country but living abroad I could imagine it being pretty awkward.
How could people call me abroad?
>>18174770
you can just give whatever name you want, though i think having a name that means 'male' is pretty cool, though my name is literally 'Dick' so maybe im biased and compensating for the fact that people make fun of it a lot.
regardless, you can tell anyone any name you want. I have a different name for every aspect of my social life. at the office they call me Richard, at home they call me RJ, at school they call me Dick, online they call me Rick, in writing they call me Christopher and at the bar they call me Johnny.
give hwatever name you want, people are used to nicknames and such
>>18174770
>Momchil
Just roll with it dude. It's honestly not that big of a deal, I have chinese friends with crazy names, and I just butcher their names like the gweilo I am. Nobody gives a fuck
This is definitely a non-issue, don't worry about it.
I'll keep this short:
How do you start a conversation on a dating site?
How do you keep it going/keep it interesting?
Looking for long term fyi
pic semi-related.
>>18174760
>how do you start a conversation on a dating site
mostly by messaging them. beyond that, many many ways. if there was a one size fits all then there'd be nothing unique about relationshipss.
but thats kind of the problem with dating sites, and modern dating culture in general, you guys dont treat relationships like they are anything special, you treat them like a toaster brand, one thats hard to find but that you can just go get to fulfill a need.
looking for long term is a dumb statement to make when you don't have any girls you're interested in.
Imagine you don't have a job and you're going around saying 'I'm looking for a 1 year lease'.
>>18174760
>Don't use a pickup line
>Mention something on their profile to prove you read it and care about them beyond their looks
>continue to talk about said thing
>End all messages with a question
There you go
The goal is to meet in person. The conversation needs to end with a plan for a date.
>>18174797
>looking for long term is a dumb statement
>Imagine you don't have a job and you're going around saying 'I'm looking for a 1 year lease'.
It's like saying I want a long term job or career instead of a summer job mowing lawns. There's clearly going to be different actions involved in achieving your goals.
>>18174801
>>Mention something on their profile
>profile is sparce or empty
What do
I need to check if I'm being an asshole here or not. I am the owner of the house, renting to a roommate. Rent is due monthly, on the 28th.
>Roommate lost job about two-three weeks ago
>Has had problems paying rent on time because he's irresponsible with money, spends it on toys and his girlfriend and videogames and snack food
>Promises he's okay, he's also a Lyft driver, will make money there
>Haven't seen him leave the house to do a single Lyft run, spends all day playing PS4, or going to his girl's place
>Remind him on the 26th, rent is due, and he needs to do the dishes that have been in the sink since before he lost his job
>Okay
28th
>Dishes aren't done
>Money is not on the counter
>Call him
>"Hi, are you going to have rent today"
>"Well I'm at my girlfriend's across town"
>"Okay, are you going to have rent today"
>"Well can I bring it tomorrow"
>"No"
>...
>...
>"FINE, I'll drive all the way over there"
>"Okay and do your dishes"
>I'm not home when he comes by, money is on the counter, dishes get done
30th, today
>I'm on the couch working
>He walks in
>Money is still on the counter
>"Did you see I paid you?"
>"Yeah thanks"
>"Why'd you make me come all the way over here if you weren't going to take it?"
>"Because rent is due on the 28th"
>"You couldn't have waited a day?"
>"I needed you to prove to me you were going to pay me on time"
>"That was a waste of gas yadda yadda yadda money is tight yadda yadda yadda"
So, am I a shithead, or should he have planned ahead and had his money to me when it was due? I kept it on the counter just to jab at him.
>>18174759
You're the asshole. You could have given him the benefit of the doubt if he's never failed you, and in retrospect he obviously deserved it.
>>18174766
>You could have given him the benefit of the doubt if he's never failed you
>Has had problems paying rent on time because he's irresponsible with money, spends it on toys and his girlfriend and videogames and snack food
I'll take reading comprehension for $5000, Alex
>>18174759
sounds to me like you're just defending your territory. the dishes thing might have been a little dick-ish, but only a little.
you wanting the rent on the 28th and him expecting you to just take it when he has it is unfair.
your teacher doesn't grade your assignment til a week or two later sometimes, it doesn't mean you can turn it in late.
I've been planning to move 500 miles from my hometown to get a new start, I have a nice job lined up in this new state and a house with reasonable rent as well. The problem is I only have family where I currently live and I'm not sure how they are going to take the news.
Am I being stupid trying to move so far away or is this the proper step for my life?
I've been having a hard time living in my hometown. The rent is too much here and I've lost two apartments already. I can't get ahead here I'm almost 22 and have no idea if I have a future here
Bump for some help
Do it. It's not dumb to want a change. We can't say whether it's a "proper step," but you seem to have your plans together. I moved away from my family over a decade ago and am happy with it.
Worst case is you move back, which hopefully won't be a big deal.
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Delete system32
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Its been a year now and I still haven't fallen out of love with her.
Six months ago she broke my heart.
I'm broken, bad at best.
I don't know how to stop thanking of her.
>>18174713
Meet other girls
>>18174713
How do you thank of someone?
Love can be a kick in the ass anon, especially the ones that feel like they won't fade. It sounds so fucking cliche, but more time will help you. Feeling impatient for the thoughts to go only frustrates you more, so accept your mourning, don't look back, and try to mindblock, if you get stuck on her, look for engaging activities
hello /adv/, so to keep it short I've been taking a lot of days off school recently.i have teacher who whenever i miss his class or im not in that day always gets fucking mad and asks me why i wasn't in and try's to be an all around asshole towards me,and since i missed today and yesterday i know he's going to get pissed tomorrow. I've used every common excuse to why i didn't come to school, and if i keep using them it will just seem like i'm lying, any ways to stop him getting triggered or to stop this shit?
>>18174676
>I've used every common excuse to why i didn't come to school, and if i keep using them it will just seem like i'm lying
You are lying.
>What do?
Go to school, you retard. And get of 4chins until you're 18+
>>18174676
Get yousef a baseball bat.. hammer some nails to it.. go outside and bash some poor sod's face with it!.. go to jail. NO SCHOOL PLUS FREE FOOD and some teensy tiny bit of work to get them toned body, FOR YOUR WHOLE LIFE!!.
Disclaimer:
I (in this case me.. duh) cannot in any way what so ever be held liable for what you ( really.. you!) do after heading this advice.
>>18175865
alright cya in jail faggots
Does this mean I have to stop looking at online porn, now?
Eh, just do what I do and don't give a shit.
If people want to know my degenerate fetishes, let them. It won't matter one of these days.
Eh Pornhub already suggests stuff based on my taste and cookies so whatever. I just wish I could get a cut of the cash from selling my privacy.
Just use VPNs my man. I use Cyberghost cos it's free.
Or you can go full paranoid and use Tails OS.
I need some help. I'm talking to a girl, and she's so perfect. We're kind of similar, and she has said I'm hot. But, I feel like she may not be interested. How can I tell?
>>18174654
bump
Ask her out?
If she said youre hot you should ask her out. Get some coffee, frogurt, i dunno. If she said hot, thats a good sign. Cute or good looking, those could just be compliments but hot seems like the odds are in your favor.
What is the best way to get friends if you're recovering from trauma? I need people as non-threatening as possible.
>>18174650
the same way as normal.
OR
go to support groups.
>>18174663
Normies are mean
>>18174650
toddlers are non threatening. Go to a local school and talk to them. Make sure its right after school or you'll interrupt their school work
Is there any way to improve morbidly low self-esteem on your own?
My shrink refuses to believe I have any problems, and I don't want to bother trying to get a new one because that'll just be the same.
>>18174636
by acknowledging the good and changing the bad.
self esteem is rarely ever all encompassing. as a general rule the guy who is confident he can get the promotion is not the guy who is confident the cutie in reception is going to accept his dinner invitation.
>>18174667
None of my good is any good and I have no idea how to fix the bad.
>>18174706
surprise! you're broken. You need therapy. Your perception of yourself is inaccurate. You can't fix that alone.
So like, make sure to read the WHOLE thing before you judge me, alright?
I'm just sharing my story because people asked... Wow... okay, I wasn't sure if I was ever going to tell anyone about this, but it's late and I'm sleep deprived so i guess I'll just write it now and regret it in the morning
First of all, - just for some background: My mom died right when I was born, (she was actually really, really hot- but this isn't about her. I guess that's ****ed up to say, but whatever.) I actually grew up with my dad's family, because my dad has all sorts of emotional issues and he bailed before I was born. So you can see, my childhood was really kind of messed up.
Anyways, growing up I feel like there was always a lot of distance between me and my sister. When I was about 17 or 18 I first noticed that my sister was a hottie.
I don't want to go into to many details about it, but basically what happened is that I accidentally found a video that she made of herself. I knew she didn't make it for me- but I thought she was so ****ing beautiful that I watched it twice. (probably would have watched it a hell of a lot more, except that like right around the time I found the video, all this crazy **** went down and I had to leave home. (My dad's family who I was staying with got in bad trouble with the law. I never talk about it).
Sooo... I was totally lusting after my sister at that point. She was also having bad trouble with the law. She was actually in custody when I left home.
My friend and I went to go pick her up. When I saw her that day, after seeing the video, I have to be honest, I just wanted to **** her brains out. Looking back on it now, it's pretty messed up- but I think she had feelings for me too. She actually kissed me right after we came to get her... and it wasn't a sisterly kiss, you know? I mean, it wasn't like ridiculously sexual or anything, but it definitely wasn't sisterly.
After we left, we all went to crash with my Sister's friends. On the trip there, my friend sort of implied that he wanted to get with my Sister, and I got a little jealous. He's a good looking guy- and even though she was my sister- I just felt like he was competition. Not much else happened between us for a while except some maybe-sexy hugging.
Pretty much everyone in my life at that point was wanted by the government, so we all moved around a lot. I'm not saying that I'm proud of it or anything, but it was kind of an awesome time.
My friend and my sister never hooked up I don't think- but I thought there was some serious sexual tension going on between them. It was around that time that I got really badly hurt in an accident. It was ****ed up. I almost died. But when I was in recovery my sister came to see me, and out of the clear blue sky she started gives me this awesome, slow, passionate kiss on the lips.
Sadly (although, I guess for the best) nothing ever came of it. We spent some time apart... and I started to get really religious, so I tried not to think of her that way. It was actually going well for a long time- like I was totally over her. But I have to say, like a year or so after all that stuff went down, we were out sailing (not like a date or anything romantic like that), and she was wearing like the hottest bikini I've ever ****ing seen and it brought back all the old feelings. Sigh.
A little while later she actually wound up with my friend from before (the sexual tension guy). I can't say I was surprised.
But even after she was shacking up with my friend, there was one time we were at a party... my friend was inside, and my sister and I were outside alone. It was a really intimate moment. I think something might have happened, except that I killed the mood when I told her that Darth Vader was our father and that I had to go face him.
Damn man that's crazy. I guess it's really not... That? Fucked up, I can see how you got there, and you didn't initiate the first kiss, but now man you should find a hotter girl and move on, fuck someone else's brains out
Share vid pls