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Should I pursue my fantasies? 2017-03-31 10:58:33 Post No.18176253
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Should I pursue my fantasies?
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I live in a fairly rural area of the UK where's there's virtually nothing to do and few people my age. I go to a uni that's in a grey city with little culture. Most of the students seem very business-like and alternate exclusively between getting drunk and studying. I haven't been able to connect to anyone here and have no friends (I had plenty at school...). The people I get along with aren't my type and I secretly don't like them much.
I constantly think of how the grass is greener elsewhere. How I could be living a more interesting life with people my age. In particular I usually think about Canada and the US Pacific Northwest as places that look interesting (strong youth culture, good balance between nature and city, cities not too big, etc.). I often think of how more interesting the people will be there.
I know I'm probably kidding myself and, even if by some means (I have no idea how) I was able to move there, I would probably have the same problems. But there is a part of me that wants to believe and wants to do something about it.
Is is worth it? Or does the grass just look greener?
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how much money do you have to spend? educaiton in america is fucking expensive.
If you are kind of extroverted, which you sound like from having lot's of friends, maybe learning a new language and living abroad might lift you up. Try the northern countries, denmark, sweden, latvia. Or the eastern europeans, where there is still a conservative culture.
Germany has lot's of job offers aswell and is quite good with english aswell.
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Thanks! I have virtually no money, I would like to finish my degree in the UK (which is the financially best option now). Although maybe I could do an MA abroad.
I think about Scandinavia a lot too - they sound sort of cool, although I don't know as much about the people and culture.
I must say I'm not extroverted - I'm pretty introverted. I was just able to get lucky in school.
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Are you in Aberdeen? Grey city sounds familiar
If you are... I'm coming there in 4 months so maybe we can do drugs together
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>let my gf borrow my debit card cause she said she had to pay for some bills and needed an extra $100
>she withdraws $100 from the ATM and then uses the debit for another $100
why are women like this?
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>>18176249
What's your complaint?
She said she had to
1. pay some bills
2. take an additional $100
And that's what she did.
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>she said she needed the extra $100 to pay some bills
ftfy
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>>18176249
Women are like this because this is what they have been doing for generations.
If you strip the emotion, you simply trade having babies and securing them by trading various resources and energy.
If it bothers you that much, you can always try to talk to her about financial stuff like mature grownups. Sooner or later you have to talk with your partner about it anyway:
>who will work
>who will hold the bank
>how many bank accounts
>how many babies :-D
>etc etc
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>meet girl in college
>befriend her, take friendship outside of just class
>live 1 mile from each other (we're in LA), get to hang out a lot
>we're both shy, awkward fucks but I totally loose with each other. Feels really nice.
>we have very similar interests, have deep, amazing conversations both online and offline, we connect really well
>naturally, I begin to really like her. Go on this board to seek advice, take the advice, basically I made a move and we kissed on two separate occasions
>feeling confident in myself more than any other time. Even then mentally prepare myself for rejection
>ask her to be my gf
>gives me the "I want to take it slow" line, I take it as straight rejection
>feel fucking devastated the next two days, then I move past those feelings
Shit sucked. I did some thinking and the day I asked her out, something was off. She was quiet most of the time and she really didn't seem to be in the mood for anything. I didn't catch it until days later, of course. My timing was terrible. That being said,
>being seen her much more lately since our classes are next to each other, we are unavoidable to each other
>we still talk, pretend nothing happened, no value in our friendship was lost
However, more recently the times I've seen her she puts up this big ass smile as if she's happy to see me. She's been interacting more with my Facebook posts (rarely online before vs. very active on my shit now). She initiates conversations randomly on messenger. She has no experience with relationships as she's this shy, introverted, quiet girl, so I assume she's trying to hint at me.
What's your take, /adv/? I believe these are all hints, but how do I go about knowing 100%?
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>>18176211
You'll never know 100%, unless she flat out tells you.
IMO, if she said she wants to take things slow, maybe she wasn't sure whether or not she's ready for a relationship. If she's trying interacting with your social media shit, then she's trying.
Ask her out for a date (and make sure she knows it's a date when you ask her), if she accepts then I'd say you're in. Take her out for a drink, then go for a walk and lean in for a kiss before you part ways.
That's how I usually do it with girls that are shy. But then again, I'm also a social retard I might be off.
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What i learned from shy girls are that they need someone to trust before they can open up. When she tells you something about herself make her feel secure. After that its just time. Youre on the good road my friend, she is hinting you, she likes you. What you feel for her is what she feels for you
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It's 3:32am, I messaged her a pic relating to what she's doing up this late (pic related; we have mutual shit humor), her response was "I was wondering the same about you before this message."
Is she keeping tab of when I'm online? Is this, in any way, valuable information?
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Hmm. I've been told the same in regards to her feeling she's not ready for a relationship. Although I really do not understand what that means. How does one prepare themselves, or know that they're ready for one? I never had those thoughts on my own.
What's the difference between a date and a hangout, and how do I communicate that it's a date?
I would very much like to go out for a drink with her, she's never been drunk and I want to give her that experience, but it's a few months before I can visit a bar. I'd invite her to my place but it's ALWAYS occupied.
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My brother has been really suicidal lately, so I typed a letter and sent it to his psychiatrist asking her to help him better
I feel like I kind of "ratted him out" as the letter was a page long and kind of detailed. But I didn't feel like he was giving his doctor the full scoop and may have been understating the severity of his issues.
Did I do the right thing? I just don't want my brother to kill himself mang
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nah it's fine. If he's about to kill himself like, right now, then you can call the police for intervention
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>>18176117
Here's the plan anon, you must connect with your brother in order for you to understand his situation.
It might be a long-term plan, but it would work, regardless of your personalities.
And tell him this:
Hard times create strong men.
Strong men create good times.
Good times create weak men.
Weak men create hard times.
Thus you must tell your brother to stand up and ask for more aid, an easy way for that is by regularly contacting his friends.
Find the reason why he's having suicidal thoughts.
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>>18176117
You did the right thing. Let the therapist deal with it, he/she knows how to use that information and will probably not tell your brother any of this, because it would mean losing his trust, which is essential.
/adv/ please help me,
I have come across a dilemma that may affect me for the rest of my life.
I am a high school senior in SoCal and I am planning to make a career as a musician (jazz bass) in LA. I know I am good enough because I regularly play with professionals, have won many awards, etc. I just don't know what decision I should make to facilitate that career path based on the following two options.
Option 1: Go to Cal State Northridge (a middle-tier state uni about 45min outside downtown LA) and study economics, while simultaneously try to build a music career in LA.
Option 2: Differ enrollment from Cal State Northridge for a year and move to LA with a friend of mine. With this friend I'd be living around 20min outside of downtown LA and paying either no rent or around $400/month. I'd probably get a job working at Starbucks or something like that, I'd have my own car, and I'd be recording/hustling gigs nonstop (seeing as I already know a few musicians in LA).
Wat do /adv/?
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dont go to uni
win at life
???
profit
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>>18176118
What do you mean?
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>>18176125
The smartest people right now are the ones who don't go to college.
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If I hate all of my boyfriend's friends is the relationship doomed?
Or is this something that will pass/can be worked around/is unimportant?
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Depends on why you hate them.
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immature, irresponsible financially, and going nowhere in life in terms of future plans.
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>>18176096
It is not too important, being friends with them is a huge plus but it's not essential.
However it sounds like you judge them more because of their life choices than their actual personality. You don't need to be so hard on strangers, if they haven't influenced your boyfriend already, they never will.
My advice to you is to just take it easy with them, try to be more friendly if you really care about this issue.
Otherwise just shrug it off but be prepared to be irritated in the future because this might lead to fighting.
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Someone is blackmailing my brother with a nude photo of him (He's 14). They're demanding money via Western Union. They're threatening to send it to all his facebook friends and family. What do you recommend as a solution?
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well it's child porn. Just take the evidence to the police, they will get a warrant and take the computers and v& the guy
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>>18176077
This
The guy doesn't even realize what a shit move that was.
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>>18176077
The person is using a fake facebook profile. Does this matter?
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Hey /adv/, I need some help with my homework.
I need to write a 1,200 word essay, with a large amount of referencing, interpreting the meaning of this image, and what it communicates to the reader.
Basically, all I'm asking for is some help in finding scholarly/academic references for Neon Genesis Evangelion/End of Evangelion.
Thanks.
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>>18176041
If by the minuscule chance that this isn't bait and you're serious ... there are none. EVA is basically Twilight level so no one takes it serious but at least the latter invites itself for deeper analysis due the success it had.
Also the writer himself confirmed that it was just for shit and giggles. At best you can attempt to write an essay over neckbeards looking for depth where there is none to justify their onanie habits.
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>>18176075
Fuck, really? I could probably come up with a bunch of bullshit interpretations, but I need to have some sort of academic references at the very least.
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>>18176078
That just pick some shit from Shakespeare, hell there is tons of anime inspired by his stuff be it Romeo and Juliet or The Tempest.
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Hey guys I need advice. There's a girl I like very much and I want to take her out on a date and see where it goes, but I'm also so insecure about my shitty job and my achievements in life and I hate myself for it. Shall I just drop dating and let her slip away :( . I And focus and invest on my self like a year or two. Thanks.
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>>18176024
At least you have a job. That's a plus right there.
>I'd add a Just Do It! GIF, but fuck that plagiarizing piece of shit.
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>>18176032
I'm 22 and I work as a bellboy and I still live with my parents. I'm currently studying an online course to get my deploma for becoming a certified personal trainer and train people cuz it's what I'm passionate about. And one my own gym one day.
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>>18176024
Let a girl figure out her own reasons not to fuck you, you don't need to make that decision for her
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yo /adv/ need some advice 2017-03-31 06:52:56 Post No.18175950
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yo /adv/ need some advice
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I met a girl online and she lied about her age, she said she was 18 while she was 16, I am 18 btw. Well we talked for about 2 weeks+ and we like each other, we spoke on the phone one time and we have exchanged a lot of photos. So as it turns out she wants to bang on the first date, I told her some fantasies of mine and she loved them, she wants to do them for real. But now that she told me her real age i feel a bit weird, I like her but I don't know if i wanna do as much as she wants, I mean she is young. A counteragument of hers would be that we are only 2 years apart. What are you guys suggesting?
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>>18175950
Don't break the law
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>>18175982
In my country age of consent is 15
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Boyfriend no longer enthusiastic during sex 2017-03-31 06:20:25 Post No.18175916
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Boyfriend no longer enthusiastic during sex
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2017-03-31 06:20:25
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He's changed quite a bit during the past 6 months. For one, he started going to the gym. It's not that he was fat or anything of the sort, it's just that he never did anything like that before. He started going with one of his friends who showed him the ropes of things, helped him out with what to eat and what not. It doesn't take much time away from our time together, but still it's about when he started to change.
See, in the bedroom, my boyfriend was vocal, he really loved dirty talk and he's about the only guy who I ever liked hearing doing it, so it became our thing. Now? Not so much. It's more... restrained, I guess? He still drops the occasional line in bed, but I can tell he's not in it anymore. And I can tell by the way his body moves that he's not 100% there, that he's just trying to get it over with. To his credit, he makes sure I get off before he does so himself, but after that's done it's like he doesn't care to get himself to the finish line. There were a couple of times when he just straight pulled out and held me there, but didn't want to fuck anymore. It's weird.
I tried talking with him, but it's just "I'm fine" and "Nothing's wrong" and I have no fucking clue what to do anymore.
No, he's not cheating. That much at least I know. His mom was cheated on when he was very young and the experience scarred him emotionally, so he has nothing but utter loathing for cheaters.
I have no idea what started it all. I have no idea what to do to bring us back to how we were before.
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I guess he is loosing interest, i was like that too, and my and my gf broke up cuz there were no new things in our relationshit just boring routines, even sex felt like a routine, i wish she came up with something new not just in bed but in our relationship in general coz i lost interest first and it was pretty hard for me to come up with something so i think you get what my advice is you guys go do something you never did before !!
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>>18175916
You might try regaining his interest somehow. Have you let him do anal, or tie you up, etc..? Are you and he pretty vanilla, or already kinky?
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>>18176046
The sex is pretty varied. We did try anal, bits of bondage, but honestly, what got us going the most was missionary. I know it sounds weird, but we tried pretty much everything within reason and we always came back to that. Anal is just... I don't understand the appeal and neither does he. We tried it, didn't care much for it and moved on. The one thing that gets us off more than missionary is public sex or sex with the risk of getting caught by someone.
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What do I get a dude I don't know so well for his birthday?
I was invited to a bar for lunch tomorrow to celebrate a birthday + deployment. I don't want to show up empty handed but I don't know what to get him. I don't really know his interests. I know he's an army guy, has cats, likes video games, and tech.
We were on the same team together last semester.
Please advise. I was thinking a fragrance but /fa/ said >>12360495
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Nice card and some scratch its work all the time
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I would say just buy him a drink when youre there or buy him a bottle of something generic/drinkable
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>>18175912
Buy him a drink.. a bottle of aged alcohol is always appreciated :)
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TL;DR: how cal i poison several dogs?
I just moved and there're EIGHT fucking dogs in in my block, they have no legitimate owner, but rather old stupid people who like to pet them and feed them. google translate says they're called mongrel stray dogs , you know, the type that live in the streets and nobody cares about in a third world countries like mine (except old people). the problem is they bark religiously EVERY night and EVERY morning (1:00 am and 5:00 am) they wont let me sleep, plus during the afternoon whenever a bike rides near them, a person walks by or this fucking girl that walks out her 2 dogs stands anywhere near the mongrels, a barking contest fires up for like half an hour. i need to kill them, not necessarily fast but discretely and in a stealth manner, so the neighboors wont know what happened to them and who did it. how can i poison them?
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>>18175879
You can slowly poison them or just outright kill them by feeding them onions. Feign ignorance if you are ever caught
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I think killing them is illegal.
Change your windows to have a more soundproof room so you can sleep.
Take sleep pills.
Plugs in your ears.
Call the animal protection or whatever it is that you have in your area and have them deal with the strays.
Adopt all the dogs and teach them to shut up. This is unlikely.
If you do want to kill the dogs, I've heard of an effective method. Basically, take some wurstel, chop them up in large pieces, and stick nails in them. The dogs will eat the things whole if the pieces aren't too big and swallow the nail within as well.
I don't recommend this though, it's inhumane and illegal.
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This is a technique used in my country to kill dogs. Buy a bunch of minced meat or if you have old minced meat lying around, use that. Second, stick a bunch of needles in it. Make sure they're small, so the dog can't detect it as it's eating the minced meat. Grill the meat and give it to the dog you want dead. The needles will cause massive internal bleeding inside the dog's gastrointestinal tract, causing death.
Do not use this method if you have any ounce of remorse, because it will be a very agonizing death for the dog.
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I'm a stay at home mom with trust issues, mainly with friends. Through all my life, people have left me over one thing or another. My bestest friend and our group left me because I got pregnant and figured I wouldn't have time for them ( I was 20 at the time ) and then I made another group of friends some years later..who started drama about me because they stole my camera with a private video of my husband and I ( they couldn't see his face and assumed it was another man ), so they started calling me a slut.
Made nothing but online friends for the past years and it's great. Except, I fell for a guy in another country after a year. We talked for hours everyday for a year but today I had to cut him off because it was jeopardizing my marriage. He was the best friend in the world and I love him...
I'm about to turn 28 this year and I have no friends...I feel so alone and now I feel worse than ever. Sitting alone at Yogurtland eating my sorrows away because I have no one to talk my problems to.
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So your kid is 8 and youre a stay at home mom.?
Get a job and make work friends.
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>>18175867
Forgot to mention I got injured at work almost 2 years ago and my back is messed up. Lawyers had to be involved and I'm classified as permanently disabled...plus those work friends forgot me too...
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>>18175870
>classified as permanently disabled
Suggested you're not actually/not very disabled. What do you when your kid's at school?
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Im looking to change careers and wanted to get some advice. Im 25, looking to get in to programming because from what some of my friends have said - it pays well and there are still many positions available. It doesn't matter to me if its not my passion, I work to enjoy my passions. Im thinking of joining a bootcamp and putting 100% into it in the next three months with my savings.
Is this a good idea? Has anyone else done this or is in the industry?
Thanks in advance codefags.
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>>18175853
Not a codefag but you could try to teach yourself.
Read the /g/ AND /sci/ wikis, learn lots of programming languages that are most needed for the industry and learn the Linux CLI.
Also I hope you will enjoy sitting in your computer all day typing, OP.
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>>18175854
Thanks for your reply. I have done some self study, and it's going well. I just feel like I could get more out of courses and some one on one with people who know what they are doing.
Im not too keen on being on a computer all day, but I don't plan on doing this my whole life. I currently do manual labor, so this would be a nice change.
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Gonna be studying comp science soon and all the people I've spoken to say coders are being outsourced and the job will be overrun by Indians soon
Most people in IT aim for management jobs.
I guess it varies from area to area but in many places the idea of becoming a 'coder' and making big bucks is dead