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>>18177317
Your family doctor should refer you to the appropriate specialist.

>>18177317
none of them, keep it to yourself and move 150 Km away not telling anyone and learn to be self sufficient.

unless it's downs

>>18177321
How would I go about learning to do this?

>>18177313
1) the best solutions are the easiest ones. She sends you cryptic emoji? Send her hearth emoji back. Dont think too hard about it. It is like a game where the only losing strategy is to not play.

2) stop fapping. Seriously stop consuming porn and fapping. You will be horny teen unable to conceal your hardon in notime.

If you still get nervous, remember you have hands and tongue. Lick that pussy until she screams and then dick her. Remember you can always fall back to hands and tongue in case of penis error. This will allow you to relax so your penis wont get error.

Stay cool bro and buy condoms unless you are into teen and pregnant show.

>>18177390
I appreciate you so much anon.

About 2, I stopped fapping a week ago like I said. Will it be enough? And what're the chances it'll turn her off hard if it won't stand?

>>18177419
>turn off
Lol, you wont give her chance to being turned off. Kiss her, touch her skin, boobs, ass, neck, whisper her how beautiful she is in her ear while embracing her, cuddle her, ask her how she likes masturbating and tell her to show you using your hand. Be sensitive and if you get lost, you can always ask her what she likes.

If you do it somewhat good, she wont even notice if you wont be super hard and probably even you. Also condom is somewhat tight and it also helps with staying hard.

>week ago
I dont know about you anon, but i fap every day and if i went on 7 days nofap, i would be horny nonstop.

Stop overthinking problems and whip dat pussy. If you want to shine, make her cum before you insert your dick in. That will be ride no matter what happens.

Glad to see others freeing themselves from that porn degeneracy

So fucking stupid... I've banged over 2 dozen chicks and I jerk off every day.

Only the most pathetic unloveable losers could think about doing this. Some people actually have a relationship or just get laid too often for this - not ejaculating for multiple days - to be a consideration. Doing this is admitting you are not desirable on any level.

>>18177234
Oh btw, that confiderence and ability to see the future? That shit is all placebo. You can have the exact same shit while ejaculating every day. It's all in your mind. Swear to god. I'm pretty sure Brad Pit/George Clooney/Justin Bieber/etc, all are confident enough and get tons of ejaculation in their daily lives. It's like you autistic assholes don't even think before talking.

>>18177080
15-20 minutes is a lot dude
Are you addicted to porn/jerk off a lot?

>>18177080
Same issue here, really there's not much you can do but reassure them but they will feel bad no matter what

Can't you dick their pussy for 14-19 minutes and just finish in their mouths?

It's a really shitty thing for a girl to get upset for, most women would love to have a guy who doesn't cum after two strokes (I know cause I take a bit more to cum too)

>>18177072
>lazy part
put it into bank. Decide how long you can wait and how high risk you can accept to optimize interest rate.
>clever part
Get into stock market. But that requires you to spent time and energy to study which firm invest in.
>normie part
Buy gf.

>>>/biz/

https://www.moneymetals.com/south-african-krugerrand-gold-coin-one-ounce/20

buy four of these and hide them somewhere in your backyard

>>18177072
Thought about stocks but, yeah I would have to research a lot.

How much is gold appreciating these days?

>>18177050
Google natural alternatives to deodorant or try and different brand, gels give me a rash but the other ones work fine

Baby powder and a light cologne maybe.
Powder for the moisture, cologne for the smell.

But if you're fat it probably won't be enough.

Idk what your cosplay is or if you have options, but maybe choose something that's got more breathing room and stay inside (or out, if it's still cold where you live like it is where I live). Take breaks, pack some baby wipes to freshen up if you can't shower.

>>18177185
My mom says alcohol prep pads work too, I guess it kills the bacteria that makes you smell. Also this is just a temp fix that's only been tried by females. Cornstarch is real good at keeping up things dry. Idk man. Sorry you smell ;(

Which of those options do you think a mature adult would pick.

>>18177015
Crackhead

>>18177015
Obviously I think your implying I should leave it. But I'm worried about him coming back as the dude obviously planned the situation and has a history of violence. I'm not a pussy but I can't fight for shit

This coupled with my complete inexperience with women puts me in a big hole romantically. I don't know how to date, never been on one. I cant recognize signals of interest from women because I never even thought a girl would be interested. My friend group is also primarily male, and while I have a good friend who is female, her friends dont go out or arent single, so meeting women through mutual friends is difficult.

I feel like I lost out a lot by being so fat during my schooling years, where there were plenty of girls to talk to and interact with daily and inexperience was normal, if not expected. Im far removed from those days, but only now feeling confident in myself physically and wholly as a person, I'm proud of the changes I've made and the person I've become. I know I shouldn't invest so much in a relationship, but I honestly feel strange and so alone that I've never even come close. I should have felt whats its like to be in a relationship by now, to share the experience of caring for someone else and them caring for you on an intimate level. It's a fundamental part of the human experience and I'm missing out.

Rsd on you tube.

>>18176981
What's the obsession red pill shit on this site? It seems like OP is trying to figure out how to better himself and connect with somebody, not just try to manipulate women into sleeping with him (although that would help).

>>18176959
Part 2 -

So within the past 6 months I realized just how much I was wasting my life and how lonely I was. I don't really have a clue on what I want to do in my life. I say I want to do something with Computers so I started studying for the Comptia A+ certs on Cybrary. However I am half-assing it because I'm not even sure I am passionate about it. I picked up drawing and it has been about a year ago now since I started it but once again I half-assed it. I do workout, I like to go for walks along the river and I like hiking. However I really need to break my addiction to Twitch streams. I waste more time watching/listening to Twitch streams than actually playing games these days. I have only one friend who I've known for 18 years but we don't really talk much anymore and I have only seen him once in person in the past 10 years. I have acquaintances at work and a few gym buddies. It really hit me about 6 months ago though. Basically my little cousins came in from out of town and for the longest time I was trying to see them. After trying to get a time frame to where I can spend time with them it had been like 3 months. So I was super excited to see them. They came over for 4 days and I had a great time with them. My quiet room was filled with the girl's non-stop yapping and the boy playing COD. Then I took them back to their dads and I didn't make it down to the end of the street before I started tearing up. Pretty much had tears running down my face the entire drive back home. Then when I walked into my room and opened the door I felt how solitary my room actually was. It was extremely painful to just sit in my room and do anything because of how quiet it was. Family told it me was time that I finally realized how lonely I was and that I should get out and do things. My grandma offered to pay for a couple of college classes but I wasn't really sure what I wanted to do. So now I am studying for Comptia A+ cert.

>>18176963

Part 3 -

I just started getting into dating. Been with two girls, granted only went on 4 dates with one and 2 with the other. First girl I believe faded on me because even though we really liked each other we had no ALONE time for us. Due to her situation that she had with her landlord, she couldn't have guys over. Due to my situation of living with my mother and grandma, there was ALWAYS someone home. We would have fucked but I got cock-blocked by my mother coming home and knocking on my door. The girl got nervous even though we continued making out but she didn't want to go further because my mother was home. Second girl, long story short, was just too much of an age difference and her parents didn't approve. However the main thing was comparing how much they actually did in their life compared to mine. First girl worked two jobs, volunteered for a preschool and tutored kids after school a few days a week. Second girl was studying for two majors in college and volunteered for an elementary school two days a week. And here I am "working" two jobs and watching twitch streams while half assing to study for a cert.


What the fuck do I do to "get out there"? I tried finding some meetups but it seems like no one in anything I am interested in actually goes to any of them. Example being "Event on X day 1 person showed up (out of 150 people in the group)".

life sucks doesnt it

you have low self esteem but are qualified to work a comfortable job in a field you like. see a therapist for like 4 weeks and work out instead of helping humanity build weapons. einstein regretted working on the bomb.

>>18176643
Try for the French foreign legion. You'll learn a new language and have an adventure.

If you are having doubts about the military now, run very far away from it. It will only get worse during the incredible amount of stress they will place you under. See a shrink and sort yourself out.

It's a meme, brother. The entire purpose of being a straight guy is to find a straight girl but chicks want to play like there's this third and fourth sex out there for us to also take into the equation and not put all the pressure on them. Why do you think they try to push so hard for the making of more gay/ bisex dudes?

Majority of chicks don't even like guys, they've just been living with us for centuries and dealing with it. The best deal they had was, "shut up, look pretty, stay home" and they fucked that up.

>>18176464
>For me to "not care" about what anyone thinks of me would me to move back into my parents home and play videogames and eat pizza and not even try to maintain my hygiene.

If this is true, it says a lot about your personality and it probably reflects through whatever image of yourself you've been trying to create with your stable job and personal improvement. That probably influences your success (or lack of, really) with women more than the fact that you're concerned with other peoples opinions.

>Is this true /adv/?
Kind of. Obsessing over what other people think of you is a sign of insecurity and dependency, which are very big turn offs. If you're confident in yourself, if you're happy the way you are and are content with your life in general you won't crave the validation of everyone around you.

So yeah, not caring about what other people think is a very attractive trait. But you can't really fake it. I mean, right now you're trying to not care about what other people think so that other people think highly of you. See the issue here? It doesn't work like that, you shouldn't try to train yourself to not care about what others think, because you will only put up an act that will make you unhappy, anxious and that will be seen through sooner or later. Instead you should try to train yourself to become the kind of person who doesn't care about what others think.

First of all you must find something (or multiple things) that gives your life meaning, preferably something you can dedicate yourself to and can make a living off (although it can be a hobby too). Something you're interested in, something you want to excel in (and not only for money or fame). This is much more important than you can imagine, it's what creates (or rather, exposes) your personality. Then you have to destroy your insecurities, become someone who's not ashamed of the way he looks, the thing he does, feels or thinks. To do that you must expose your vulnerabilities. Be honest with yourself and others, don't try to put up an act or hide your not-so-flattering traits and beliefs. This is how you actually train yourself to stop caring what others think about you and although it is painful and scary at first it will become liberating after a while and it will allow you to form meaningful connections with others. True honesty is endearing and pleasant.

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>>18183213
>friends
>blackmailing me

you sure theyre your friends OP?

>>18183220
They are the only ones who are willing to hang out with me and even invite me over sometimes so I consider them friends.

>>18183221
Ive never had a friend blackmail me to get me to do something I dont want to do, thats some toxic behavior and I wouldnt want to hang with someone like that

>>18182791
You feel entitled to his attention yet make no moves whatshowever to show him you're interested in him.
You made your bed, now lie in it.

So to answer your question, yes it is normal to have to deal with the consequenses of your own (in)actions.

The dude sounds smart though your loss

>>18182808

She already said she wasn't super attracted to him, but she would have given him the chance, you dolt. Don't make entitlement out of a rational mindset.

>>18182791
It's normal, don't worry.

Actually, he's kind of an ass. Why did he even mention that? Maybe he still likes you and was baiting you into showing him your reaction without having to deal with the consequences.

leave her

>>18182643
Easier said than done

>>18182629
fuck her right in the pussy

bumping for replies, please help me

>>18182476

Yes, you should absolutely break up.

This isn't even really worth spending a bunch of my time on, but this guy is holding your life back, and his own. He needs a swift kick to the ass, not a mom. You're being held hostage by what you're worried he's going to do, not because of love.

You don't even have similar life values, he doesn't know what he wants out life, and you clearly have real, tangible goals.

if you can get someone better then you should hurry up and bump your lazy piece of shit bf

if he kills himself it's his decision, you're not responsible for it