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I think my spouse is manipulative but I can't tell for sure which I know sounds moronic. We got together as kids that partied a lot together and we fought all the time, they would yell out embarrassing things or secrets about me or us to people we knew. When we argue sometime they will leave the house to cool down but I have never once been allowed to, they stop me by blocking the door. Once I waited until they went to the bathroom to leave....they followed me in their car. when I get upset about something like a broken promise, laziness like not helping at all with house work, them losing or quitting another job, or numerous other things, I am made to feel like the bad guy. They also get really depressed when I need space.
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>>18194706
I think your missing a few sentences in your paragraph.
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>>18194706
Who are "they" and what is their connection to "we"?
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>>18194809
Her spouse you dunce
>>18194706
OP this does sound like manipulative behavior the way you phrase it but we only have your perspective and its all disconnected rambling.
You seem to feel like you got the short end of the stick in your relationship and this will keep eating at you your entire life untill you put an end to it and adress the issue, or emotionally detach yourself from your husband and start having affairs.
If you feel you need space, you need to enforce this. Don't wait for them to allow it. Don't let them bargain with you about it. Put your foot down, and take a week for yourself or something. If they resent you for it or try to guilt you for it, then that's textbook manipulative behavior.
What you need to understand is that if that person doesn't give you much, then you need to take whatever you feel like you need. Need to leave ? Leave. Need some space ? Take some space. Don't want to do the chores ? Don't do them. Try to be honest and firm about your needs, and if they refuse to give them to you, consider that this relationship is going to leave you frustrated your entire life.
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Hey /adv/, I just wanted some advice on something that has gotten me down recently. So I've known this girl for almost a year and she's been my best friend. It wasn't until last week that I messed up and realized I actually loved her. Idk what to do. I know that if I remained her friend I would get too hurt by her getting bfs and talking to other guys (she's currently in a relationship). More importantly though I know that if I said anything that it would probably jeopardize our friendship which had been the best I've ever experienced . All that said I don't know if she has any feelings towards me but she probably doesn't. Rn I've been an asshole and have started to ghost her because idk what to do. Should I just let things be and walk away. Should i go through the pain of being her friend and dealing with never being with her? I just want some help. Thanks
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I was the same as you OP. I got to the point where I was literally crying over her which where the first tears I have shed in over a decade. It took me half a year to transition from being in love with her to loving her but I have always had strong control over my emotions and mental faculties so it may take you longer.
Do you love her enough to be happy for her even at your own exspense? A relationship is more or less friendship + sex. You can still have the friendship part which I am sure you would agree is the best part or you wouldn't really love her.
Just don't obsess over it and realize that it is possible to love multiple people and find yourself another girl.
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>>18194665
USE A FUCKING HEADLINE SUBJECT YOU FUCKS SO WE CAN SEE IN THE CATALOG WHAT THE THREAD IS ABOUT
IF IM GOING TO HELP SOMEONE AT LEAST DONT MAKE US WORK FOR IT
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>>18195554
Wow you helped so much anon. Thanks
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Hey guys I'm 19 and still can't drive. I know that it's mostly my fault, but my father died before I was born and my mom is always busy with work . I'm a broke college kid so a driving course isn't an option desu. If any of you have any ideas please help. fyi, I also know the basics of driving and do have my permit but I've never driven a car yet.
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>>18194616
Have you tried asking your mom?
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>>18194766
Nah she works too much I don't want to get in the way
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>>18194784
Do you have anyone else you can ask? Uncle, cousin, friend, etc.?
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Any anons from Ukraine here? Or catholic orthodox 2017-04-06 08:35:09 Post No.18194606
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I am invited to the babtism of my BFs god child in Ukraine and I am worried about how to dress for it. I was told that I will have to wear a long dress that covers my legs, which is fine and I have one but it might be too fancy. (purple and open shoulders/clevage)
I want to buy a new one just to be sure, but I don't know what I have to look for. Are there special colors, or patterns that I have to look out for? (I heard the ukrainians can be a little superstitious and I don't want to offend them by wearing something considered unlucky)
Also, what is better, a full dress or just a long skirt?
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not ukrainian nor catholic. but i think you would do good to get something more conservative. something unoffensive like dark blue and make sure the cut is not too revealing. maybe something like pic related
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>>18194627
Ok yeah I was thinking about a one colored dress too that has long sleeves and no clevage. It's actually pretty hard to find something like that in a normal store that doesn't look too festive
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>>18194631
i know... kind of sad that they only sell revealing stuff. what you can do is go to a bit more expensive boutique. people who buy their clothese there have to dress modestly but chic for stuff like business parties and such.
i'd go with a solid color maxi dress.
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Why was I trust into this life with no guidance, tutorial, or a purpose? I want something, but I don't know what it is. Why is God so cruel? Leaving me to my own devices, to meander about, not knowing where to apply the little potential that I have.
Nothing in life seems to bring about what I yearn for. Maybe it's because I don't know precisely what I want. I'm chasing an emotion, an ephemeral feeling that disappears when the moment inducing it passes. Can one ever be satisfied with that? Struggling so much only to grasp a fleeting glimpse of achievement, and then revert back to the status quo. Am I stupid for pursuing something like this?
I wish I was an emotionless robot, capable of finding the most logically reasonable goal and applying everything it has to accomplish it. Yet I'm a slave to the cruel master that is emotion, spurring me on but giving only pain in return. I'm tired of being torn apart. The sweet release of death seems more appealing by the day.
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Man up
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>Why was I trust into this life with no guidance, tutorial, or a purpose?
Congratulations, you are going through the same thing that literally every other person has gone through. Yet how many of them have to complain and pretend that God is doing it to them?
Man the fuck up.
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>Why was I trust into this life with no guidance, tutorial, or a purpose?
What, exactly, do you consider your alternative?
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My girlfriend thinks I'm gay but I can't stop dreaming about my exes 2017-04-06 08:28:21 Post No.18194587
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My girlfriend thinks I'm gay but I can't stop dreaming about my exes
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Okay, I have two main problems here, which sort of overlap
>be me
>fit, care about my appearance, kinda flamboyant/outgoing
>friends always call me "gaybait", running joke that I'm a closeted gay and hide it by sleeping with women
>I've got kinda gay mannerisms but whatevs, I'm still stronger and fitter and more confident than all them and get laid more m
>start dating woman
>she doesn't think it's as funny
>she's seriously worried I'm gay
>like actually concerned
>keeps asking me if I'm gay or bisexual
>I don't see the big deal. I'm straight, but as long as I'm attracted to and exclusive with her it's not even an issue imho
>fuck her brains out on the reg
>can't cum because I'm on SSRIs
>this just convinces her I'm gay even more
>since I've started dating her tho, can't stop dreaming about ex gfs
>have nightmares they come back into my life and ruin my current relationship or try to convince me to cheat
>had a couple of abusive exes. Thought I got over it with therapy tho apparently the damage is still lingering
>girlfriend sleeping next to me asks why I toss turn and yell so much in my sleep
>can't tell her.jpg
Aside from making my girlfriend watch while I fuck one of my exes, how do I convince her I'm straight and stop feeling so guilty about recurring dreams about my exes?
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You gay niqqa
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Holy fuck lmao. Not the same situation but pretty damn close.
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Hi, I'm a pretty ignorant 22 year old. My father recently passed away and left me the house in his will, and showed me where the deed was before he died. He was the sole owner of the property, and I'm his only child, so no one else has any claim. Now, I'm just lost; I don't know where to go to transfer the house into my name. I know I will need his death certificate, a notary present, and a lawyer? possibly.
I just need some direction; i.e. "go talk to someone at this company/organization, and bring this with you"
any website I could go to for help?
I live in Louisiana, USA, if that helps. I apologize in advance for my ignorance.
Thanks for any advice
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>>18194538
A lawyer must have handled the will. Go to him and pay him for advice and help with all your questions.
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>>18194834
do this or start searching on the internet, ask your friends which will result in
a, half information, wrong information
b, the need to read laws yourself and understand it
you will however need a lawyer anyhow for certification
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Get a Nolo book. They have simple and clear explanations of the law. Maybe start here:
http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/what-does-executor-do-30236.html
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What do I do with my life?
>dropped out at 16 of HS because depression
>moved to new country
>now 19
>still living there, found someone special
>want to do something with my life but I don't know where to start
>scared to get a job because anxiety
>I speak two languages, which is cool in this country because tourists bring in a lot of money, but I doubt they'll hire a high school dropout
Do I need to go back to the US a couple of weeks to get a GED or am I fucked? And after that, what do I do? I don't have any hobbies, but I'm good with designing and computers. Don't know if I should make that a career.
Someone point me in the right direction. I've wanted to die for so long and need to get my shit together.
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>>18194531
Just on the top of my head:
>Use your languages (teaching English, tourist guide, translating for a company since you are good with computers and design, etc.)
>If you're not sure about what you'd like to do, start by finding out the things you really hate (In my case is working in an office full-time )
>Check the reasons why you're still in that country (the girl you like, the emotional distance, a fucked up family, the job opportunities, etc.)
>Look for education opportunities in the country you're living (in case you want to study a degree or something)
"Anxiety" and "depression" are words that most millenials nowadays use in order to justify their lazyness and lack of discipline. I know that because I used to think like that. Getting your shit together means getting out of your comfort zone and stop being an oversensitive twat.
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>>18194591
Thanks for the reply anon!
Maybe it's true that I'm lazy and lack discipline. How did you get through that?
I'm 19F and I've been with 20M for two years now and I have never been happier. We're young, but (forgive me if I'm being naive) we know we're meant for each other and want to marry once our finances are in check. We've moved in together and know everything about the other person. The only scary part is him being accepted into the US, a process which I've heard is lengthy and complicated. So honestly, I'm just here because my mom and fiance are here. Meanwhile I'd like to get a job, but I kind of fucked up and dropped out of HS.
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>>18194623
For me, setting short and mid-term goals did the trick. You could try that. Figure out your basic needs and expectations and sort them out by lenght and difficulty.
May I ask in which country you're currently living? Because if you're in some kind of third-world natio you may be overestimating your actual chances of getting a job.
Look at what you're saying, girl. You're a very young woman living in another country with a guy you really love. You speak two languages and on top of that, you've got your mom by your side. That's more than many people can ask for.
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I'm a 22 year old Indian dude and my GF is 20 yo. She never reaches orgasm through penetration and after I get finished after 8-10 minutes of continuous missionary she asks me to provide her my knee. She rubs her Clit on my feet and while her doing that I have to talk really dirty stuff to her. She gets turned on when I talk about her boobs. She has pretty large boobs and sometimes she gets wet herself seeing her boobs.
She doesn't like porn instead watches sexy stuff on YouTube.
Anyone else having same kinda problem? She hates girls mostly because she gets jealous of more sexier ones and bosses out the Ugly ones.
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It's funny how the guys who are bad at sex are always the ones questioning whether their girlfriends are lesbians
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>>18194493
I was thinking the exact same thing.
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How do I improve? She resists all positions and never gives me head although I do it for her for at least 15 minutes. I even massage her.
She's really lazy BTW and she's doesn't allow me doggy because according to her it's a previlige that I'm getting Sex.
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Is it worth to return to school if I'm 27 yo?
I already have a degree in economics but after I got a job I realized that I don't want to do this for the rest of my life. I always loved computers and have some knowledge about programing. I was thinking to return school and get degree in IT, because if I want to apply to some IT job I'm not sure if someone is going to call me when they see i have degree in economics.
My other plan is to learn programing alone, one part of my job is to edit company's web site. Should I try to learn how to make web sites alone( I already started ), and then try to do something with that, I'll have experience and If i want to change job I can show people what I made, or is better choice to return to school, I would probably learn more there then alone?
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Second option is better and 100% possible
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For web development, I'd consider a bootcamp program over returning to college.
They're mostly a rip off, but less of a rip off than most colleges.
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>>18194477
There are few places that offer training for web development, programing, but they can be more expensive than schools in my country. I finished course for system administrator in one of them few years ago and it was awful, some guy literally read us from book every class, I had troubles staying awake.
>>18194470
It would be a lot easier for me to learn at home because of my job I probably couldn't go to classes.. My only concern is if I can get a job as self-taught.
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Trying to get my girlfriend into the idea of having a threesome, don't really know how to bring it up with her. We talked about having one earlier in our relationship but she got quite offended as she's strictly monogamous.
I'm super into the idea of bringing one of her friends just one time into our bedroom. The idea seems fucking hot but just don't know how to pull the trigger.
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>>18194459
Bring another man. that would probably make her happy.
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>>18194459
She doesn't want one.
Either cope with the idea of never having a threesome or find a new girlfriend.
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>>18194499
No thanks.
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What should I do about my autistic-looking ears? 2017-04-06 06:52:48 Post No.18194390
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Went through a big of a scenefag phase last year since I just wanted friends and I got to hang out with degenerates that way.
Still love metal, but I got over that emo horseshit. Now I'm a shut-in pseudo-NEET who doesn't wanna stand out.
I gauged/stretched my ears, had them in for about a year and took them out a year ago. Now I have these stupid-looking holes in my ears. Lucky for me, I treated them well so they're pretty small, but.. How noticeable are they to you guys? How do I hide the holes, or get rid of them?They look gross. I don't want them to hurt my chances at getting a wagie job. I've read shit about people using drills to irritate the fuck out of the hole, making it bleed and then just taping/surgically glueing it back together but I think that'll just fuck it up even more. Not really down to do that.
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Don't think its possible to completely remove the holes. Just stick normal earrings in them.
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Just ignore them and they'll probably get smaller over the years. It's probably best to not stick shit in there.
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>>18194390
Cut them off then blame the jews
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I always end showers with cold water, use deodorant, etc. but the moment I put on a shirt my right armpit sweats straight through it. My left side barely even sweats. What do?
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Botox that shit
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>>18194375
Not just deodorant, but antipersperant, prescription-strength if necessary.
Wear T-shirts under your shirts.
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>>18194829
What if I'm wearing a t-shirt
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My Roommate is an Actual Racist 2017-04-06 06:48:47 Post No.18194372
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My Roommate is an Actual Racist
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Long-story short, I'm living in student housing at college, my roommate is a black gentleman who watches a lot of videos that spout a lot of really worryingly racist shit.
Some of the highlights include:
>White people were sent to Earth as a test of black peoples' devotion to God
>Black men suffered more than any other group of downtrodden people because they're the only demographic of people to ever be lynched AND castrated; the reason this was done is because their dicks are so big, it causes feelings of inadequacy in every other race and that's why there's racism
>A black man who marries a woman who isn't black is a race-traitor who has betrayed his people and his family
>Mixed-race people can be okay, so long as they reject anyone who isn't black
>Schools and societies should be segregated
>Autism and ADHD aren't real, they're just excuses invented by white doctors to keep black children dumb
>Black athletes date white women because these women are sent to them to spy on them and destroy them from within via hypnotism and brainwashing
>Corporations weaponize food to kill off unwanted populations (ie. black people) by filling things with corn syrup which makes their kids hyper and incapable of being raised properly
>Men should handle 100% of the discipline since women are only good for nurturing, hence why white people try to sabotage black fathers to get them to abandon the family unit
Being a pasty white dude myself, this kinda shit has made me understandably uncomfortable. I haven't brought it up to him since I'm really just too busy/stressed to deal with that shit at this point in the semester, but... I dunno, what do you think I should do?
Like, I'm uncomfortable with it, but I also don't wanna give him an excuse to make me a target because I bothered to speak up/because of my race, you know?
>pic unrelated
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seduce him then kill him in self defense
black supremacists are gross and retarded
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>>18194384
Only way to not have a roommate is to either be an RA, severely physically disabled, or be rich enough to live off campus.
I'm none of these things.
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So I want to break up with my gf. I'm okay with it, I really am. But she depends on me so emotionally, so completely and I know that she will be an emotional disaster, even wreck after I do it.
There is no answer I can give her that will make her think it's not her fault, any answer that will make her okay.
What I'm asking is, how can I do it gently? I still care for her, but she is a risk to herself, and her friends are in not equipped to help her with this, I know them too. I don't know how to break up with her.
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>>18194345
cheat on her
get caught
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Fake your own death or tell her you are gay.
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lmao, there is no way you can break up gently.
just remember, you are not responsible for anyone's actions but your own. if you think she will commit sudoku, you call up the police.
you are not obliged to save anyone, senpai.