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>How often?
Almost daily, maybe 3 times a week if not
>Relationship Length?
Together 11, married 6
>Live together?
Of course
>Could you live with someone with a different libido?
Like outright your libido is incompatible? Then no, I would not risk the relationship.

However, there are many fluctuations in libido that can happen. We are very sexually active, but a few years ago we went down to having it just once a month or less. That was due to a birth control I was on. It also made me depressed and gain weight, so I stopped it.

Depression and change in routine/jobs can affect some libido.

I'd say it is very situational.

A. Historically on average for the length of "relationship", Every three weeks. Lately much less do to wife getting fat and depressed

B. Like 19 god damn years

C. Yes

D. Yes you can if alimony and child support payments are daunting enough.

>>18217018
>How often do you have sex?
Every other day at least, usually a bit more.

>How long have you been in a relationship?
9.5 years.

>Do you live together?
Yup.

>Could you live with someone with a different libido from you for the rest of your life?
Yes. My boyfriend has a lower libido than I do but he tries to accomodate me, so if he's stressed we have sex much more rarely. It's fine, I don't mind it. I just masturbate and enjoy intimacy otherwise.

>>18216991
It helps for me to think about how that happens to everybody who drinks alcohol at some point. Humans do stupid shit all the time, and we never completely stop doing embarrassing shit until we die. Learn to laugh at it, and realize that no lasting consequences happened as a result of you being silly

>>18216999
Thank you, thinking that it also helps to anyone who drinks usually help, and no lasting consequences happened, but the anxiety feeling keeps coming back all the time, and sometimes not even thinking what you said and saying "fuck it" helps.

And all I did was to get really wasted and speak incomprehensible nonsense and not remember a single thing next day.

Usually the feeling of not remembering is what fucks me up.

Blocking it out with other thoughts, like I'll have a cringe memory and then I immediately start trying to think of something else

>>18216990
Are boy or grill?

>>18216994
Male, yes

>>18216990
>5'3"
>can't drive

What? Lots of girls are shorter than that and drive just fine. Do you really want to admit that you, as a male, are worse than women at driving?

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؜>>18216984

Lift moar

Don't be afraid

Be attentive

Stop anyone doing bad shit

>>18216984
>bone bartenders
>after work parties
>light workload

It's a pretty ideal job. I'm sure you'll get punched in the jaw a few different nights, but it's not that bad. Worst case scenario you'll have a group of out of control niggers and you'll have to call the cops.

>>18217004

Ok for $26/hour I will take it I really need the money 2bh

>>18216979
All kinds of blue collar work available across the country with fellow working class whitebois who voted for Trump.

Considering all the health issues regarding inactivity, I think truck driving should be a last resort. There is lots of other blue collar work out there. I have a cousin in law who's wheelchair bound, and he has constant issues due to always being sat down, especially on his kidneys. He's in his low 30s.

This is the problem with Conservatism. It doesn't understand that the Left gained it power through dominating Media, the Arts, and the "soft" sciences. Especially culture.

How does "being red pilled" stop you being a social worker or studying social studies?

>>18216979
>truck driver

Don't do it mang. You will be out of a kob in 20 years, possibly less, due to self driving cars. Watch this vid for a real redpill.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=7Pq-S557XQU

>>18216967
Just go for it

Sounds like she needs sme therapy. I hate to break it to you, but unless she gets some professional help or has the patience and wisdom to deal with her abusive past on her own, your relationship with her is going to be difficult to say the least. She has serious intimacy issues that I can assure you will get in the way of you being in a long term relationship with her, which sounds like where you're hoping this goes.

>>18216967
Try forcing her really hard to give you a bj till she calls you daddy? Tell me how that goes

>>18216941
Calamine lotion.

Scratch them...? I mean do whatever you want dude. I don't really see why you are asking this

>>18216941
ben affleck is such a cunt

Try ice?

> you might need your tonsils out. I'd see a doctor.

>>18216903
It's completely devoid of dicks and you have some sores.

>>18217058
The dick that is notnally there is currently in another state so we solved that issue.

>>18216886
what?

>>18216886
That would be a reference. He would go under references.

>>18216886
Under a section called "references". Or give his phone number directly with the entry in your resume talking about your role in the study he oversaw.

>>18216883
Just be yourself.

>>18216883
Step one: be hot
Step two: flirt

If you have failed step one then I suggest a gym membership, a good haircut, and some good clothes

Don't shit where you eat, OP.

>>18216878
Who the fuck has chick friends? Like what for?

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>>18216878
>I don't have a crush on her
>However, I want to be her boyfriend
Anon I'm sorry but it sounds like you might be retarded.

if you are ok with talking about having a crush on each other, go ask her, what she is looking for ATM.
Make hints and take hints, invite her to do stuff, get more physical etc.

I know exactly how you feel, maybe it's just a girl thing

>>18216874
You can't and trust me, you probably don't want to get to the point where you don't give a fuck about anyone no more. My tip: Take it slow and try to not stress about others too much. Think about how you'd react if a friend was fired, for example. Would you consider them a failure? Probably not, since they're more then their achievements. And so are you.

>>18216874
Get into individualism

read the fountainhead, watch westerns, listen to 2pac and waylon jennings

Depends on a few things. First: do you have a CV/Resume? Any prior experience volunteering or working anywhere? Does your University have any on-campus jobs that you can apply for?

I've had good luck using Indeed or SimplyHired, but you're gonna have a trickier time of it if you don't have much experience. There should be some easy jobs around campus to do if you want to start there--some colleges only hire from within.

>>18216851
local hiring agency
minimum wage, but hey, little dirt raked it never hurt nobody.

>>18216887
Yeah, I've got a resume with about 4 years of work experience and lots of teaching-related volunteer work.

How does Indeed work? I've heard of job-search websites like that and Monster, before, but I'm not familiar with how to use them effectively.

Unfortunately, I went to school about 200 miles from my house, so it's not really feasible for me to work there. I'll check with other local institutions though. I've heard they give some tuition-related perks to employees. Is there any truth to that?

Also, how do people progress relationships?

Also interested

Hello

What's wrong with you is that you treated someone who liked you like shit. Change it by being kind to her if she contacts you. that's pretty cruel that you don't actually care about her

It's hard to say, OP. My experience in a long time surfing internet is that there is no real universal way to be human. Every time I've seen people post stuff about how they don't experience enough empathy, or how they are faking interest/enjoyment in a variety of things, faking having a personality etc... there will be replies pouring in from others saying it's normal.

Now I don't think what you describe is necessarily normal. Just the excuses people come up with to cover their bad behavior shows that most people don't like to think of themselves as the bad guy. But I do think there's plenty of people who are below average in empathy or other stuff like I mentioned, and just fake it on an everyday basis.

I am no psychiatrist but I've often heard that if you worry/wonder whether you're a psychopath, you aren't. I just think you are emotionally underdeveloped, no doubt at least in part because you grew up in a loveless home.

>>18216792
Do you don't care for other people, but you always assumed others felt the same way until it struck you that you're the weird one and actually hurting others with your behaviour? Well, it was this way for me.

>Can I change this?
Yes, you can. It takes commitment though. Sounds like you're a functional psychopath like me. For some reason psychopathy is always thought of narcissistic, self centered personalities who don't care about others and therefore only use them to their amusement or other benefits. But I hate this definition, as I think of myself more as indifferent to most things. I think you should try and invest in people. Invest time and care into relationships like you invest time and care into other interests. Eventually you will form some sort of attatchment. I think we kinda need to trick ourselves to care more. Because while we don't care about others, I feel like we want to care. And we definitely don't want to be alone.

I hope this somewhat applies to your situation and I didn't sperged out for nothing.