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itll improve your life if you do something constructive with the extra time regardless of whether you have an addiction or not

>>18217505
This

If you do quit and continue to sit around doing nothing then your life will not improve.

If you continue playing video games but also do something constructive as well then your life will improve.

I've always interpreted it as an "eerr" "umm" awkward type sentiment.

I would never recommend asking what an emoji means because that's really retarded though.

Like emojis are not that fucking important man, the WORDS are the main communication lol.

>>18217471
Can you give some more context? Like maybe the whole message, with perhaps a brief summary of what you said before?
I use it with my sexual partner to signify "this frightens me as I think my body will not be ready but I do somewhat want to try"

>>18217411

well there are different cuts for shirts. athletic cuts tend to be slimmer around the gut, which i find preferably in general if you're not a fatty.

BUT if your upper chest is extra extra big it might be TOO big around there.

post pics of your self?

>>18217434
http://imgur.com/3g73qr5

>>18217444

>imgr
>not just uploading

nice though. yeah id imagine an athletic fit t shirt would fit fine. might be a little tight but you could stretch out the top.

im wearing one now. comfy as fuck. i hate normal T shirts, they just make everyone look fat.

>>18217408
In a similar boat, bump

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>>18217626
>go on ...

>>18217633
It's a girl in a furniture factory, not many chances to go across the facility and talk.

>>18217393
that's a stupid mentality to have.

if none of them contact you
and nobody contacts them
who does the contacting?

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man, i'll contact u firstly if u wanna. :)

>>18217393

i find that deleting facebook helps you figure out who actually wants to be in your life.

that doesn't mean other people dislike you, yolu have to remember the world isn't revolving around you, people arent just for or against you. most people out there on facebook are only in each others lives becuase of facebook.

the reality is that most people like you but aren't 'close' to you, they have no reason to reach out to you.

and in other cases, some are just not instigators. girls in particular are known for this, but even men who get lots of attention are less likely to reach out.

other people are just used to the relationship dynamic. if you always reach out, they dont really know how to reach out back. they just accept your invite.

i had a friend who i thought didnt actually like me cuz after two weeks of me not reaching out he never reached out. bnut then i looked at the facts. He's a virgin, he goes to therapy, hes incredibly awkward, the truth is that he is probably scared to ask to hang out because he, like many people, is worried about being a burden, and is afraid of upsetting someone simply by wanting to be friends with them.

maybe you can relate?

>>18217293
Sex is aerobic exercise. If you want it to be enjoyable for at least one person, then you have to be in some kind of shape.

>>18217293

well, you can always aim for fat chicks. its not a perfect rule like if you go up to a fat chick and say 'me want snoo snoo' shes not gonna do you. you still play by the same rules as any man on their level: 90% of women wont naturally want to sleep wtih you, but if you keep at it some will.

but again, you need to aim for people in your league, fat and/or ugly women.

there is no reason for an attractive female to want to sleep with you.

Hate to say it, man, but being fat IS what's killing you. You can be a proper charming man, but you'll get no decent young pussy if you're fat unless it's in a scenario where you get cucked hard.
You don't even need to be strong. I'm a scrawny faggot, but I don't have issues with women. Just lose that fat however you can.

what for

>>18217291
After taking a shit

>>18217283
>take to the bathroom and back?

I do not think that is sanitary.

>>18217274
You can quit anytime.

>>18217274
OP, your not wrong, and your feeling a lot of these things because your not dumb.

Remember that just about every great philosopher starts with concluding that life sucks massive dick, and then going from there. Confronting that is the first step.

check out school of lifes videos on youtube on the self, they have some nice videos written by psychoanalysts and various others and they have some pretty decent advice on living today that we really lack these days.

>>18217274

>120 pounds overweight
>no discipline, and no self-control
Stop eating junk food and exclude caffeine from your diet. Caffeine is an addictive drug that causes impulsivity. It is only good for when you need to remain standing and walk sometimes.

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>>18217260

You do know how autistic you sound, right?

>>18217279
Yes, I know

>>18217260

>has barely graduated highschool (if that)
>I ALREADY KNOW IM NEVER GOING TO HAVE A WOMAN BECAUSE IM SO OLD AND WISE AND KNOW HOW THE WORLD WORKS
>YET SOMEHOW BELIEVE THERES JUST PILLS FLOATING AROUND THAT WILL FIX MY SEX DRIVE.

no. first and foremost, if you're too shallow to date someone on your level, thats fine, but realize that you don't get some get out of jail free card. we all have our burdens to bear, and if you dont want to seek out romance, you don't have to, bvut you still have to deal with the emotions like the rest of us.

everyone else manages to focus on school and career despite their penis distraction, and unlike you they get distracted by actually dating and having sex, so im sure you can still find the time to do your school.

its not like men who date are being fired because they're dating.

>>18217258
Its fine to not kiss on the first date. Would probably look desperate as fuck if u tried (unless she cleary shows really high interest)

an entire month of no contact from her? who knows. Could of found someone else. Nothing you can do but move on. Did you at least make any moves before she left?

>>18217280
She didnt show reeally high interest, but there were some things I'd consider as showing interest.
And no, I didnt try anything, But I didnt do anything to anger her, we just have days where we dont chat and after one of these days I tried to hit her up and the whole thing with not responding happened

>>18217258
You do not have a close relationship with this person, you like her more than she likes you.

Find another woman to befriend.

We're all going to die, OP.

So you have very little to lose if you think about it. If your ever in a situation like this, always go for it, always risk saying something dumb or sentimental or whatever. It might feel safer not to go for it but it isnt, you're actually losing something important, opportunities and the chance for stuff to happen.

>>18217239
When you have
>crush
on somebody, you do everything in your power to win them over. Ofcourse you go there. And buy lube and condoms or your ass hole will hurt after.

Stop overthinking problems and enjoy yourself. Also tell him you like furry drawings. So he knows what is he going into :-D

>>18217252
I just dont know how to make the first move. The thing is i never told him i love him but we both know and i dont think he is gay so he might just want to talk so he can gently reject me :/

>>18217237
I go through paranoia about this shit a lot. My solution is to stop worrying so much.

If people wanna spend time with you, they'll come to you.

Brother it's 2017. We can talk to anyone from anywhere at any goddamn time. If someone is ignoring your texts, it's most likely NOT because they have no time, or their phone died blah blah. It's likely because they don't wanna fucking talk.

Sad, but true. Such is life.

>>18217237
There is nothing to tell. We call it
>ghosting
>ignoring
>radio silence
Just send her message on X. Then X + 10 minutes, X + 30 minutes, X + 12 hours and then you can safely assume she is ignoring you on purpouse.

Cheers.

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>>18217253
I figured as much, but just wanted to see if I'm being too critical of the situation.
It's strange, though, because I thought we kind of bonded. I guess not.

for example "I feel ashamed and embarrassed that your his dad I'd hate him to turn out like you

That's fucked up Anon, either get custody of the little bastard after he's born or find a way to show that she's abusive to you so you don't have to pay child support or something, idk. Do you want the kid? If so pursue it in court, if not, convince her to get an abortion because if not you'll go for custody and make him turn out like you or something like that. Either way it's rough, Godspeed op.

>>18217135
If she feels that way, why doesn't the dumb whore get an abortion?

also

do i wave like an autist or go for a hug when i first meet my date? and what should i do during any awkward silences?

Always consider guys dating online are most likely trash with low self esteem, so chill out and relax.

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pop xanax before you go and pre-game a bit. it'll loosen you up. is not a meme answer.

if no xanax, try to identify kava root at a store near you. if under 21, then scratch second part.


past that, understand that he agreed to this. he's probably just as nervous as you are, and understandably so- in this day and age, meetups face to face AFTER months of talking are fairly common vs in days of past.

once you understand that, I feel it helps me considerably. dress and look as good as you want to. no place to tell you anything there.

try to think of casual conversation topics and write them down beforehand in case you two run into awkward moments of silence. since you've been talking, this may be hard. i can help you out with a few if you want but for the sake of time, here is my advice summed up:

1. He's just as nervous as you are.
2. Drink kava/get tipsy, if you want. (If you are a crazy drunk, do not do this. If you cannot hold your liquor, do not do this.) It will loosen you up.
3. Think of what to talk about beforehand.
4. Enjoy the moment. This is important. You guys are potentially starting a relationship. This could be a defining moment for you, it could not.
5. Don't overthink or overanalyze whatever he does.

That's it. You got questions? Let me hear 'em.

CBT Exposure therapy.

Judo is great on big dogs. When they lunge at you swipe them aside. If there are two or more you are fucked. Put your hands over your jugular on both sides and hope someone saves your ass.

>>18217092
I work at a dog kennel.
Don't run from dogs or they WILL chase. Unless its a big fuckoff dog you can just grab that fucker and slam him.
I'm NOT saying to hurt dogs, I'm saying you are most likely heavier/stronger than a stray dog.
Protect your neck in the worst case scenario, and when it comes down to it, you can hold the dog in a headlock and it won't be able to harm you.
Most dogs aren't actually going to attack you and will mostly just bark for territorial reasons, they are usually pussys and won't fight unless you are cornering them or if they are trained to attack people.
You'll be fine OP no need to scared