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>>18223914
>I was also thinking about going out and joining the Kurds in Syria to fight ISIS

The NSA is wathcing you. Bad post my friend...

>>18223914
Change your mind set brah. You don't need to do something extreme to feel better.

>>18223914
Same. I was thinking before I go out id go to IKEA and hide out in the shelves and live there undetected as long as possible by buding a fort in the boxes and stealing from the cafeteria at closing time for sustenance

>>18223708
Cucked*, not keked

I'm confused. Were you, or were you not, dating her? And when did she fuck this other guy?

>>18223719
Sorry for being vague, yes i was. For a year.

And also it was around a week and a half ago

>being hung up on a girl you spoke to a few times TWO YEARS AGO
Jesus Christ.

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>>18223636
I know but what am I supposed to do.

It just happened, I can't control my feels.

>>18223649
Get therapy, because this is indicative of other issues.

>>18223525
Cringe

>>18223525
That's insanely cringeworthy. Do not give your dick a name. It's not cute, funny, sexy, manly - none of those.

WE WUZ (VI)KANGZ

Just go for it? What's the matter?

>>18223513
Their mouth is just as wet op

>>18223522
how do i proceed, i don't like women that much and i want to get into them

>>18223403
Need to edit your mannish jawline too desu

>>18223403
Take off that huge earrings (safety first) and we can date baby.

Also i wonder how you look like without make up. In this pic you look a bit plastic. I like my girls without makeup so when we cuddle, i am not painted afterwards.

7/10

And no, i cant see anything but cute face.

edit your obese jowels

>>18223290
Suck it up and break up with her. It's a poisonous relationship and she cares more her comfort than your sanity.

>>18223290
>she gets mad
Open-palmed slap her. It sounds like you're her bitch, not the other way around.

>>18223302
> slap her
virgin detected

Now as some background for this post, im having a hard time holding conversations with her because she is "busy" plus she works a lot of hours atm

so i asked her what i was for her right now, and she said that i was a guy that she was meeting

now, since i know im not at the top of her list right now, i need to have a better understanding of how to go around and make her fall for me

>>18223189
I don't have the full answer for you but try the following two things to help nudge you a little closer.
1) Make her laugh. Send her small texts that will make her smile. Don't be rude, don't have kindergarten jokes. Sort of like dad jokes after she texts you. Try and make her smile when she reads them, girls like that shit wether they are whores or nerdy feminists.

2) do little things for her. Little things have big meanings. Don't go big from the beginning as this scares them. Do a little action or buy them a little gift. Do the little actions regularly, don't make a big deal of it. They pick up on these things.

That's all I've got as the rest is made up on the spot and depends on each individual

>>18223278
Thanks for sharing your bit anon, i know this is quite a specific request so i appreciate your post

i dont think you can really change anyones minds, and despite the PC culture saying that everyone is equal and blah blah blah, everyone has secret or at least subtle insecurities about gender and race and such. and thats okay.

whats important is that we believe what we want, but we act in a way that benefits everyone. So if you're in charge of hiring, don't turn down women just because they're women. don't turn down blacks just becuase they are black. everyone gets an equal chane to prove themselves.

me personally i feel pretty much the same about women as you do. but if you look around you'll find that men do the same thing just in different ways.

for instance, there was a thread the other day about a guy who had been married so long that the sex had grown stale, and the wife went to therapy and ame out as 'asexual' and basically said she doesn't want sex anymore.

the guy was bugged by it but he just put it on the backburner of life while figuring everythign else out. along the way he stopped caring so much, not just about the issue, but about her. he still 'loved' her and whatnot but he found himself treating her differently, the way he would a friend. She apparently hated this, some loss of power in their relationship, and suddenly asked him to have sex again.

the moral here is that men also use women. we think we treat people nicely because of love, but in the end its just because of sex, we want sex, and when we stop getting it, well we dont even have a reason to be kind to our own wives anymore, or at the very least we dont have a reason to submit to them.

ultimately were all just people all of us some balance of selfish and selfless, most of us leaning towards selfish. and thats okay. were all just living our lives.

no, we dont want to know your one long experience that made you hate all women tho.

Through my experiences with people in general I came to the same conclusion.
Its just you need to find your girl and let all the other whores burn in hell.

>>18223166
You've experienced a lot of pain. Your brain, ever in survival mode, has tried to determine why this pain keeps happening. In order to try and prevent you from feeling further pain, emotional or physical, your brain has decided that the cause of the pain is women.

It's easy to put people into categories and generalize them. It's something the human brain does really well and was (and is) vital to our survival. But doing that has flaws, like sacrificing accuracy for safety. Assuming that all women are evil creatures and avoiding them will make you less likely to get hurt, true, but at the cost of never giving yourself the opportunity to learn that not all women are like that and grow from it.

A man molested my dad. My dad molested me and contributed to anxiety issues I will deal with for the rest of my life. A boyfriend spread rumors that I was an alcoholic because I had a sip of a beer. Another boyfriend didn't stop when I told him anal was hurting really badly and I thought I might be bleeding (I was). A cousin tried to get a video of me naked one day, then jerked off beside me another day. A boy tried to convince me that we got drunk together one weekend and he fucked me using a balloon as a condom.

I've had shitty experiences with men. But I didn't have shitty experiences *because* they're men. They're just shitty people, and to shun all men because of those who have hurt me would be doing the rest of men a huge disservice.

>>18223145
there is a 1 out of three chances you're popular, 1/3 chance that they're just being polite, and a 1/3 chance they think you have special needs and feel bad for you.

>>18223149
could you explain the third part furhter more?

it's also possible that they just want to bone you, assuming you're female or surrounded by homosexual males

Please note my mental health is shit

I can't have a nap without intense nightmares and thoughts of suicide

>>18223141
fuck church my dude, hit up your local comic shops and ask if any of them do tabletop games and if so when.

>>18223144
I love tabletop games, I've tried. I was friends with a group who did D&D. Although I dated one of their best friends and after I broke up with her he didn't really want me around.

Me trying to kill myself upset her

this is a question only you can answer yourself, trust your guts.

>>18223090
Hey anon. You hit the nail on the head in the second paragraph. That's just life. The healthiest thing to do is to discuss how you feel with your SO when you decide what to do about it.
It helps to map out ALL solutions, and pros and cons of each, and decide from there what's right for you. Don't take into account your SO feelings. Your happiness comes first, always.

>>18223090

how old are you? there's a difference between a stable relationships and one thatyou're used to. its a myth that we need to stay with someone simply because we aren't experiencing something overly negative. you're not married. you didn't promise the whole 'for worse' bit.

if you're young enough to still get with girls, i dont see why you should settle into a routine with someone you're just perpetually bored with. chances are you will eventually break up and this 'safe bet' you thought would be a stable relationship into death is suddenyl gone.

people and relationships arent toasters. you can't just say 'well this one works' and stay with it simply because it makes toast.

whats the point?

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I've been waiting for one of these.
Do it op.
Ask her out.
Post results.

>Implying incest is normal somewhere

Keeping that aside, is she/he giving u any kind of signs por clues, about if she/he likes u back or not?

>>18223112
It's pretty normal in the Middle East.

therapy blows you should find something else

>telling her about how unhappy
No one likes this. Not because they don't care but because they don't know how to help. Need advice on what to do in a tough situation? Sure. Feeling down and want to do something to take your mind off it? Ok. But having your friends talk to you about how much their life sucks and not being able to help them just makes you feel bad and not want to talk to them.

Obviously your self identity is in turmoil right now. That is probably why you feel your relationships are meaningless and you don't know your place in your relationships. To solve both those problems you need to work on yourself. If you have a solid foundation of who you are, what you believe in and what you are worth then fixing the rest would be easy. You probably need to start by looking at your career.

I am in a similar situation. I'm 24 and am (was) working on my B.S. but my mental health beat the shit out of me (huehue). I've spent the last year not progressing on my degree and it doesn't feel great. I wanted to be in graduate school by now.

It is OK to fail. The issue you might be having is that you've failed "being who you are supposed to be". I have that thought sometimes. I'm assuming you wanted to work with the Peace Corps so you could help others? You may have failed at the objective goal of working with them, but you haven't failed with the second notion. You still have a lot of opportunity to do so!

>>18223078

I do want to change careers and go into medicine or something of the like. I have even considered the military so I could learn other skills. I am just not sure. My identity is in turmoil like you said.

clearly what you really need is to find yourself, I mean, to know yourself a lot more, because right now you don't really know what you want to do but you really know that you dont like what you do right now.

The real way, i would say, is to gather a lot of experiences and to do tons of activities: Learn an instrument, gather in some kind of meeting, improve some artistic skill or do an sport, but never stop trying things until you really found something you love.

And I really understand how you feel: the educative system really gives rewards to do what you are told to do, but they never teach you anything personal, any social skill or anything that is not purely productive to society, but they always forget that we are all people and what we want is not to "fulfill a society necesity" but to "feel happy an make happy other people".

Dont get depressed, I mean yeah if you feel like to be sad you will be like this (im not english sorry if I dont really make any sense) but you have to love yourself, to experiemnt a lot and to find what you are, and I know this is not something easy, I have been in a similar situation before, but it really is worth the reward of fulfilling personal goals like this.

>seems difficult to predict the outcome
Isn't that the point?

You could cause some delinquent mischief. Or ask groups of black people inappropriate things.

You could try this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jzysxHGZCAU
That guy has balls of steel

>>18222988
>seems difficult to predict the outcome
>Isn't that the point?

In a way, but when you make the wrong prediction you wind up in jail instead of idk just not killing that deer, or maybe falling from a tree or something. I've tried the nog one too but nigs here are not like american nigs, they're pussies who make a lot of noice, kindof like small dogs. Camera man looks kinda cringey though, maybe I'll try it and see if it gives me a rush or something anyway. I would probably start laughing as I did it though

>>18223016

you sound like you just need your ass kicked desu. Just go to a bar and start shit.