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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>*NEW* How do I ask a friend out without it being awkward, ruining our friendship or putting them on the spot?
You don't. Ask them out or don't ask them out, it's up to you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, and fart guy
Fuck off
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How true is it that college/sorority girls brag about their sexual exploits? Had one girl i know tell me this.
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>>18229584
Like to their friends I mean
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I got a dumb question, I'll greentext the story -
>go out last week with some friends
>spend night dancing and hanging out with cute girl
>she's clearly interested, so am I but I have gf so I restrain myself
>she adds me on FB next day and we haven't spoken since
So her birthday is next week, would it be weird if send her a happy birthday message?
I'm not planning on doing anything with her, but it could be nice to have some girls I'm not friendly terms with besides my gf.
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>female
>25
>from a religious household that repressed woman's sexuality (mormon)
>molested as a child
>in a loving relationship
Sometimes when I'm masturbating, right before I orgasm, I suddenly feel so disgusted with myself that I actually get sick and want to throw up at the thought of what I'm doing.
I remember my grandma caught me playing with myself when I was 7 or so and she called me a slut and told me that I should never do it again.
When my uncle who molested me was eventually arrested, he called me a whore and I remember feeling horrible about myself and my body.
How can I get rid of these feelings? I don't want to feel guilty about cumming, but the self loathing and disgust is so strong.
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To add onto my post, I could really use some reading material for people who experienced what I have gone through or some kind of support network. If you know something that I can get into, please tell me. I'm looking for a network to help people who were sexually abused as children.
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go to a shrink
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Your situation calls for nothing less than professional advice. You're not going to get any knowledge of value from here. The only help I can even think to give you is to GOOGLE the names of people close to you who can deal with this and set up an appointment. And find reputable online sources that can show you how to deal with it.
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>Best friend's little sister's birthday last week
>Known this family for a long time and close with them
>Invited to go to birthday party
>This is her first birthday party so it's somewhat of a big deal
>Am close with his sister so I wanted to get a nice gift
>Thinking about what to get her
>Her parents are poor so they can't afford to get her much
>She likes to play my games when she comes over so I decide to buy her a 3DS
>Managed to find a pink 3DS and bought Pokemon with it too
>Day of party
>Everybody having a good time
>Sister blows out candles and it's now time to give her presents
>She gets a bunch of different presents from friends, mainly toys and other little things
>Her parents give her a doll she wanted and she seems happy
>It's my turn to give her my present
>Give her my carefully wrapped present
>Best friend asks me what I got her and I say it's a surprise
>Sister opens up present and her eyes light up
>She can't believe what it is and asks if this is really a 3DS
>I say of course it is and she gives me a hug and says thank you
>She is completely obsessed with it and just wants to play it
>She says my present was the best one by far and asks her parents why they didn't get her one
>They didn't really have an answer for her
>Felt kind of bad in that moment
>Best friend takes me aside and asks what I was thinking and that I know his family is poor
>I told him I knew that but I wanted to get her something nice
>He says now she thinks less of his parents because I got her a way better present
>I apologize and told him that wasn't my intention
>Week later
>Best friend says all she wants to do is play and is always asking me to come over
>She hasn't even touched her other presents and he could barely get her away to do stuff
>Her parents feel like shit and he wants me to apologize to the
>Guilts me about not thinking about my actions
>Feel like I'm getting unnecessarily hated here
Am I really the bad guy here? I just wanted to make her birthday special..
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no you're not the bad guy here, that guy sounds like a douche and so do the parents. although it's her first birthday? I don't think children should be glued to the 3ds at such an early age.
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yeah you should've asked the parents first and should apologize to the parents now
you're not raising that child, they are
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>>18229376
Let me guess, you're/they are a minority or live in some turd world shithole where "saving face" is important
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TL;DR break, go or no go?
me and my girlfriend of 9 months, have just talked about maybe having a short break, she doesnt want to call it that, but she said that she doesnt feel loved by me, and that she has felt that for some time. she misses the old me. shes very good at showing love to me, she is still asking curiously about my day and being my best friend. so all of this came as a shock.
she just went in for a shower so we both can think about it, and im laying in my bed thinking about this shit so hard, i really love her, but at relationships i feel like a sperglord sometimes.
but im asking you /adv/ does small "breaks" ever work, the reasoning for all of this is that i will miss her and i will become more affectionate towards her i think.
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>>18229316
She's going to fuck the dude from work for sure
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>>18229316
Going on break is code word for wanting to fuck someone else without looking like a slut or a cheater. Dump her man. If you go on break its because she wants a fling only to come running back to you because she thinks your spinless enough to take her back
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>>18229316
Ask to see her phone. Gurentee shes talking to some dude
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Why do black people believe in Jesus and is their Jesus black?
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I mean, Jesus was not white. Dude was a middle eastern Jew. But he wasn't African either.
However, historically this is not exclusive to just whites and blacks. The Chinese christians depict jesus as Chinese, the Indian christians depict him as Indian. Etc.
They all want to believe god/jesus looked like them.
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People are fucking weird
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>http://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/buzz/20-faces-of-jesus-from-around-the-world/?pid=763
Here, here's some artwork and such with depictions of Jesus from around the world.
Now, as for
>Why do they believe in Jesus
I for the life of me have no clue lmao. God put some pretty clear words in the bible that blacks are lesser human beings, dude fully condoned slavery, idk why anyone who is black would wanna back this god and that holy book. Same with women, god specifically says women are also lesser beings who should be nothing but tools to support men. Hell god even thinks raping women is cool, as long as you marry her after.
But the thing about religion, is it's a powerful fear tactic used to control people. It's mindlessly passed from generation to generation, so it's easy to see how many people still hold on to these beliefs and often times do not even really know anything about what they believe in.
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How do I get my "dating partner" to start setting up dates?
I've been dating this girl for a while now. We've always had a lot of fun on our dates, and whenever I ask her out, she genuinely seems happy to go. But, she never asks me out, or even suggests what we should do. I've asked her before, if she wants to do something else, but she seems like she doesn't really care what we do. It's starting to bother me that I always have to set up the date, for a few reasons: 1) she's a college student, her schedule changes all the time, and she'll often postpone or cancel our dates, plus I always have to ask what days she's free before I even ask her out. I on the other hand, have a very predictable and open schedule - apart from going to work and the gym, I'm almost always free. 2) I share the apartment with my best friend who very rarely leaves. His classes are always done before I get home from work, and after that he almost never leaves. I've practically begged him to go out, but he'll always find an excuse so I feel bad for him. She lives on her own, which makes it infinitely easier. 3) I've ran out of ideas for dates that don't involve us being at home.
What do I do? Is she even into me, or is she just going with the flow - meaning that if I ask her out she'll go otherwise she'll continue her life as if I don't exist?
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>>18229286
Chicks don't often suggest what to do my dudebro.
She isn't respecting you though if she drops you a lot.
Leave her my nigga or fuck her and don't catch no feelings.
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Seconding, but on the opposite end of the gender spectrum.
I always have to set up dates with guys. They always accept, but I've tried to just go a week without contacting them to see if they would contact me but they never do. I'm always getting the impression they just don't give a rats ass if they see me or not, and that my offers are just "something to do" to them because they never make any effort with me.
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>>18229310
>>18229286
Yeah they're just not that into you.
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I fucked up on friday and had sex with one of my closest friends for many years. Now she is asking the classic "what are we" question. I don't really want to get into a relationship with her and I definitely don't want to hurt her feelings or stop being friends. What do?
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Friends with benefits.
Enjoy having an awesome sex without being on a serious relationship.
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>>18229219
just start hooking up. take it easy and have fun with it. see where it goes and and if it keeps going or not, at least you both had fun.
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>>18229237
The real question here was what to answer her. It's really bugging me.
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How do I nudge a high-functioning autist into recovery?
I used to be an insufferable autist myself but I managed to improve and my life is a lot better now. However I'm friends with someone else who has the same diagnosis but never managed to do the same.
He still has very childish behaviors for an autist, he has a "special interest" and is oblivious to social codes even though he is 25. It's barely possible to hold a conversation with him even if you talk about his favourite subject.
Is there any way I can talk to him and make him realize that he has a problem?
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if hes actually fucking autistic there is no fucking cure.
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>>18229217
>I used to be an insufferable autist myself but I managed to improve
Is this really so?
How have things improved for you?
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>>18229240
Autism is not the same as incapable of changing. This very attitude is probably the reason my friend is stuck in his development.
I'm not talking about changing his autism (in fact I'm not using the neurotypical norm at all), but the childish and immature part of him that just wants to play videogames and browse memes all day.
>>18229284
I started paying attention to my surroundings and picking up on more social cues. Which turned me from completely dysfunctional trainspotter to fairly competent, if eccentric, adult.
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Do guys care about a girls hair? 2017-04-16 06:52:30 Post No.18229107
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Do guys care about a girls hair?
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Type or color or hairstyle does it matter?
Ill never have thick lush hair. Mine is wild, frizzy and looks uncombed after a day or two, no matter what I do. I get paranoid that a guy who likes me will start judging me bc of my hair or look at other women with normal beautiful hair. Am i insecure?
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>>18229107
You're by definition insecure
The reality that will make you should accept is that some guys will like your frizzy hair and some guys will not.
Just like some people like hamburgers over hot dogs. It's really nothing about your worth as a person just different preferences of men. Don't confuse sexual value with the value of your self
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>>18229107
This is something your female friends care far more about than prospective male partners, much like makeup.
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Of course it matters.
Just not in the way you think it does.
If your hair is anything like the one in the OP picture, you got nothing to worry about.
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Femanon going on my first date, like real date, next Tuesday. What should I expect?
I don't know why, but I'm really nervous about it. It feels like there's so much at stake.
How to date?
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It will be awkward for the guy too, probably.
There's nothing at stake really, either you like each other or not.
The advice I can give is to give him clear signals if you like him so he feels more at ease with kissing you.
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You sit there and judge the guy for the smallest of things. When finished with the food you deny him whatever.
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>>18229074
This
A lot of head tilts with puzzling eyebrows and eye rolls with sighs
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Every day I feel emptier and emptier. I don't find joy in dating girls anymore, in flirting with them or even talking to them. I also avoid communication with other people more and more. I am trying to force myself to do it, but I'm just kinda starting to dislike them all and I just wish to be left alone. Every day I feel shitty and I've started to fail in finding a meaning in anything other than religion. Is there an escape from this? Or will I grow old and grumpy. I'm a 20 years old male employed in a mid tier job with a good financial status.
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>>18228881
What do you want from life?
Why are you pursuing woman when you are not interested in the first place?
What do you do in your free time? What would you like to do instead? Why arent you doing that instead?
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>>18228932
I really don't know what I want. Everything feels rather meaningless. I often fantasize about going somewhere in some deep woods and just letting the nature kill me. I really just wish to run away from everything, I wish to disappear. But this would make my already sad family even sadder, and I don't wish to make them go through this.
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>>18228952
>letting nature kill me
Lol.
Why is your family sad?
What do you enjoy in life? What do you like to do?
How long do you have this mind set? What started it? What have you tried to solve it?
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How do I motivate myself to not be an alcoholic when it literally makes no difference whether I spend the night getting drunk or being sober?
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My next work shift is tuesday-wednesday night. If I stay up drinking beer to 6 AM tomorrow and sleep 8 hours, I'll still have additional 8 hours to recover from the hangover before heading off to work. Another 24 hours shat off and closer to the grave.
From what everyone's telling me that should not sound like a tempting arrangement, not to speak of a great deal, but I can't think of any rational reason why not, for as long as I keep away from any social media and nobody hears of it.
If I'm not caught, nobody knows, nobody worries, no harm done. And apparently that isn't how it's supposed to work.
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>>18228920
Sounds responsible(ish)
The problem is when you do it constantly and you have work in 8 hours but you just can't not drink.
It tends to be a slippery slope, one alcoholic to another.
Some people can resist and be good with it, maybe your one of those. There are heroin users that manage it pretty responsibly believe it or not. Maybe you're that type, but maybe you're the type that will come in drunk to work from last night and get fired or worse.
One way to really find out and I'm always a fine of testing my limits. My mom would say stop being an idiot and drink on weekends like everyone else
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You see op, alcohol is legal substance which is considered more harmful and addictive than many other illegal substances.
There is nothing wrong going to bar with friends getting drunken silly while pretending you are normie.
But the catch is when you want to get drunken just for the sake of being drunk. Alcoholism isnt a meme. It is a thing which turns responsible men into something far worse than junkies.
Try play a videogame, read a book, get a gf, play some sport, anything but drugs.
It is better to not drinkbalcohol in the long run.
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>meet a girl the first year of high school
>we both fall in love immediately as we're extremely alike. she confesses and we begin a relationship.
>we're both italian, and we dislike our country. We both start dreaming of leaving and moving to Canada.
>I start working my ass off at school because I really believe in this dream. Meanwhile, she had to switch schools and go to an arts school because she found her previous school too hard. She failed to pass the following year.
>I'm now in the last year of high school and got offers to study EE at top UK universities, and she's still in her third year (there are 5 years of HS in Italy). I start to realize that our dream is not realistically attainable anymore.
>after some discussions regarding this topic, we break up in January. I tried to put it in the most peaceful way I could, yet she started calling me a dick, and said that our relationship was nothing but bad memories. That fucking hurt. I decide to tell her that we're better off not speaking to each other anymore, even though I had initially proposed to remain friends.
>she speaks to me the day after, she wants to be friends. I forgive her and we begin a 2-month long friendship, during which she tells me that her friends hate me and always hoped we'd break up.
>after a while she starts speaking a lot about this guy, saying that she's afraid she might be falling in love with him. I tell her that even though we're not in a relationship anymore I'm not comfortable hearing about her relationships and such at this time.
>"I thought you didn't care about me, anon, why are you so angry all of a sudden?"
>That's it. she didn't want to remain friends, she just wanted to make me feel hurt. Tell her that I want to go full no contact.
>"Alright, no one's forcing you. Our relationship has brought me nothing but pain, I was fucking blind to stay with you."
>what the fuck
Why is she so resentful, /adv/? Have I made the right choice?
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This is why you don't talk to exes, at least not when you've recently broken up. I don't understand who initiated the break up, but if you did, of course she's resentful. She doesn't mean the things she said (like it being all bad memories), she's hurt and trying to hurt you too to feel better. Stop talking to her so you can both move on.
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A month has passed since I broke contact, and I still can't believe how she forgot all the beautiful things we've done together. We grew up together, for fuck's sake. Why can't she just move on as an adult? Why can't she just admit, like me, that we've been through a lot together and we have a lot of beautiful memories of each other that we're gonna bring in our heart forever?
I honestly don't care about our relationship at all. What hurts me the most is the fact that I'm gonna go down in her memories as a fucking dick with whom she never had a pleasing moment.
On an unrelated note, she also dyed her hair blue. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is my favorite movie and she knows that. Fucking hell.
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>>18228886
Sorry, I sent the comment after receiving yours. I initiated the break up, but we both knew this was coming for a long time, it wasn't sudden or something. We still were a strong couple up until that moment, she just knew that I was very disappointed in how our dream was playing out.
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shit boys i got myself in a bit of a predicament. i am in nepal and overstayed my visa. i have to pay around 90$ at the airport but i dont have that much money left. no way of getting any in time because fucking easter
WAT DO, id rather not miss my plane
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>>18228795
you might have some luck going out and selling your american posessions, but you can also just write them a check (always smart ot have a check book) or use a credit card (always smart to have a credit card).
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Get in touch with your country's embassy in Nepal and talk to them
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>apply for visa to visit nepal
>want to live here but they wont let you stay longer than the visa
>accidentally stay longer than the visa
>dont have the 90 bucks to pay my late fee
>they insist i live here as punishment
hmmm.
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Advice Wanted
>Be me
>Have a little Cabin at the end of my Garden, 30 meters from my house
>Use it as an office, keep PC gear etc there
>last few nights I have heard people moving around nearby when I have been working late.
>came outside today to find a coat hanger lodged in the window
>Realized they tried and failed to break in
>lying in wait tonight with my dogs in case they come back
>Any advice on how to detain them/tools I should keep with me
>Britbong so no guns available
inb4 fuck you OP
inb4 hurdurr my guns
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>>18228737
First of all get a weapon like a knife or axe just in case.
Now there are 2 options. If you think that they are hostile wait for them to trie to break in then attack them (dont try to kill them just get them to run off. Or you can start shouting "What are you doing here?" when they approach, if you think that they are unarmed.
Also remember to stay calm and wear 2 jackets or something incase they have guns.
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Maybe you could wait until at least one of them are inside the cabin, then call the cops run up and wait outside with your dogs and a bat or something.
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>>18228737
Airsoft gun is the answer. about 200 pound, look like a gun and you get a new hobby as well.