How do I ask a girl out properly?
I went through a bad breakup about a month ago, and I'm ready to start a new relationship. My problem is that I've never actually asked a girl out, my last relationship just kinda happened when she came onto me while we were watching a show together. I'm not looking for sex and all that, and I'd be perfectly fine not having any tbqh, I just want someone to take care of who will appreciate me. Like someone to just hold close to me and watch movies with and all that.
When I asked my dad, he said that if I go with flowers I should get a single rose. Is flowers too much, we're friends but not super close? Am I overthinking this? What do I do?
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>>18229817
Say hi to her and ask her what her plans are for the weekend. If she will respond positively, ask her to see movie / zoo / park / whatever.
Buy condoms and stop overthinking problems.
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Just kill yourself you beta cuckboi
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>>18229863
Is it that easy? Does it matter where I ask her out? What should I say if she says no? Is "ok" an acceptable response?
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I'm considering what to go to college for. I've always had an interest in music and psychology - I'm thinking about it all the time, but I've discovered that life is a little bit cutthroat, and people in general are a little bit ridiculous, so maybe I don't want to go to school for art or philosophy.
I've thought about being a medical doctor, but something about most of the environments medical doctors work in seems less than desirable to me, not to mention the ridiculous hours and mental stress they incur.
What about being a dentist, though? Is that a good idea? It seems a little bit more relaxing and positive than dealing with sick patients. Going to the dentist, unless you're phobic, is a relatively painless (and hopefully you consider it necessary) procedure. I even had three route canals and caps, yet my life is completely unchanged, since even the cheap plastic caps are convincing to most people.
I'm looking at the Bureau of Labor Statistics, and it says the average dentist makes $160,000 per year, and that the profession has been growing at a rate of 18% this decade.
What do you think?
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You say that like anyone can become a dentist.
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>>18229619
I'm not looking for encouragement, just thoughtful and informative input from someone in college or graduate school.
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If you are a dentist, your whole world is a mouth.
I'm fucking terrified of being social and I want to get over the fear.
In any social situation, no matter how positive, I'm always anticipating how it will end. People put on edge.
How does being social work?
How to human?
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You wake up one day, and decide to say hello to every bus driver and clerk you meet. When you feel like it, take on the challenge of asking these people about something, like how about this weather we're having, huh? And then progress, talk to people waiting in line, shopping for the same kind of groceries as you, ask for more interesting stuff like any good ideas about what to do in local area this summer, y'know since you'll planning on staying. Always push to a comfortable limit of social interaction, and also remember to count your gains and pat yourself on the back for even trying.
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Number one thing, you gotta practice. The more you practice, the more you'll realize that there isn't much to be afraid of and that acting awkward isn't going to kill you. And the more you practice, the better you'll get.
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>>18229550
I remember how insanely nervous and awkward I was when I got my first job. Was out of school for four years before that, being a shut-in who was already shitty at social interactions.
I'm way better now, because I'm forced into conversing with people on a daily basis, multiple times each day.
Moral of the story, like people are already saying, practice will desensitize you to it all, and make you better and better at it.
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Is the wine industry worth getting into? I have no clue in what career im gonna do but ive put off the thought of working in an office
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>>18229513
Where do you live?
Many famous vineyards hire staff for tours and tastings and shit.
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>>18229521
England, not exactly famed for its wine but i plan to expat somewhere else one day
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People are always buying booze, so as long as the population grows, and there's no fucking stopping that, there will always be someone who wants a bottle of wine.
Not sure how you can feel good about yourself knowing you sell booze though. Alcohol ruins a lot of people's lives.
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Hey /adv/ what do you think of this situation
>closing at work last night
>everything goes smoothly
>manager gives me the ok and I clock out about 30 min early
>on the way out I take out the trash
>lift up the bag of garbage and it snags on the dumpster
>spills small pieces of metal (about the size of a quarter) all over the damn place
>they've fallen in a puddle of who knows what on the ground
>nothing around the dumpster that I could clean it up with
>left it all on the ground and went home
I'm sure it was obvious this morning that I had left that shit there, but I didn't want to crawl around and pick it up by hand. I was already off the clock, so I didn't want to do anything about it.
Pretty sure my boss is pissed at me, and I'll be at work in a few hours to get written up.
What would you have done in this situation?
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>>18229489
Sounds like you are working at some shop for minimum wage.
Ask yourself:
Do i really like my job so much to make such stress about it? Do they pay me enough to match my commitment for the job?
It is not worth to shorten your own life worrying about shit job and having stress.
Cheers op!
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>>18229523
>Sounds like you are working at some shop for minimum wage.
Not minimum wage, and I'm supposed to be one of the more reliable employees. I just didn't want to deal with all that right after I had clocked out. Someone else probably cleaned it up right after while they were still clocked in, but I'm sure they were pissed about it.
>Do i really like my job so much to make such stress about it?
I like my job, but I not enough to rummage around the dumpster at 2:30 in the morning. Still, I've been feeling bad about it all morning.
>Do they pay me enough to match my commitment for the job?
No, they don't.
I guess that's why I'm torn about it. I hate leaving shit for someone else to take care of, but it was just an accident at a bad time.
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>>18229544
>I'm supposed to be one of the more reliable employees
There goes that reputation.
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>want a girlfriend
>don't care about having friends
Is this a bad thing?
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No but your face is
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That's messed up, I was just realizing how i'm tired of girlfriends and I just want a bestfriend.
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>>18229465
Can't have one without the other. Friends indicate social worth and grills want someone that is worth something.
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>Yesterday night
>Hang out in a friend house
>Beer conversation and laughs
>Came home at 10am
>ZZZ.exe
>Wake up at 1pm by my father
>My dog is badly injured
>Hes literally dying in front of my eyes
>16 years old dog, almost with me since i got memories.
>0 tears, nothing
>My dog in my arms suffering a strong deep pain
>Take my car to the vet to finish his life so he dont suffee.
>In the middle of the journy i broke up
>Start crying like fucking hard
>Cant believe this is happening
>I was playing with him 20 hours ago
>Last goodbye in the vet
>Father crying, me also
>One last kiss in the head
>My dog died today in my own arms
How can i deal with the lost, i feel like trash right now.
Dog is the one on the left.
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>>18229429
You will be fine anon.
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>>18229429
I know how you feel. I had a toy poodle mix that was a smart lazy bastard and after 13 years he finally started fading away. I went by myself to put him down because my family are just a bunch of pussies. They gave him a shot to numb him while he was in my arms and all I could do was comfort him while he faded away. His veins were to small so they gave him a shot straight to the heart. It's hard, anon, I know but it's for the best. Just cherish the memories you had with him and don't forget about him. We all have to die someday.
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First of all, I'm really sorry for your loss. I know what is to lose a pet.
As to what to do with what you're feeling right now, I don't have much to say. I'm still dealing with a recent loss. But I know this; time heals everything. Just remember the good times you had with your dog, but don't think much about it. Go out, enjoy your friends and family. Do things that distract you, but when necessary , deal with what you're feeling right now. There's no point in suffering in vain. Maybe I'm to hard, but life goes on and so should you. Just enjoy what you have right now because as you saw, you could not find it again when you come back home.
I can't express how much I empathize with what you might be living right now.
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How do I stop finding trump funny?
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Don't see why you should, I've been laughing my ass off since he first appeared.
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>>18229407
You can't. He's a funny orange retard.
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>>18229414
He's smarter than you
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So I was talking to my mom about cutting (lifting weights and dieting so you burn the fat and get pure muscle.) She did not like the idea of cutting, but to each their own opinion. So about 2 hours later she made a awesome breakfast and I said "stop tempting me with all this awesome food haha." She then told me "Just because you are cutting doesn't mean me or anyone else wants to hear about it, so just keep it to yourself and don't talk about it." She made me feel like a huge fucking narcissist which I am not. I was just trying to start a conversation. Did I do something to upset her or what?
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>>18229401
It's her insecurity about her diet/weight or how she was raised to talk about weight/food
It's really not that big of a deal, you're making a mountain out of an ant hill
Just don't mention it again and move on
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>>18229401
You're not a bad person, just oversensitive as fuck to anything criticism mommy directs at you. Chill out dude, not a big deal.
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>>18229401
She's jelly mirin and insecure about how fat she is and her poor diet choices.
You do you nigga
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Been trying to lean basic social mores but I think I fucked up.
A friendly acquaintance (but not really a friend) posted a selfie with him + his gf on instagram and I commented "cute *smiley face*"
i checked back 8 hours later and hed deleted my comment and disabled commenting on the post completely. I assume this is my fault, ofc.
we're both guys, but i can be pretty campy sometimes + i dont know him that well, so maybe it was inappropriate of me?
should i apologise to him or something?
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>>18229307
>A friendly acquaintance (but not really a friend)
There's your problem.
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>>18229314
How big of a fuckup is this?
is there anything i can do to mitigate things?
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>>18229318
Just apologize to him the next time you see him.
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Sup /adv/
any math fags over here ?
I need some advice on how to find the antiderivative of pic related
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>antiderivative
We don't want to do your high school homework for you. That being said, are you sure that's correct? The denominator has no rational roots.
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>>18229356
Good job making fun of him for an integral that clearly isn't a high school level problem haha
>>18229306
You gotta split that shit man:
1.) int(x/(x^2-x+1))+int(1/(x^2-x+1))
2.) Then, you can integrate the left side as a typical log (1/2*log(x^2-x+1)+1/2)
3.) The right side is a bit more tricky, but I think you can do it as a trig substitution for x=tan(u), dx=sec^2(u) du , but I'm still working on that side
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>>18229306
https://www.wolframalpha.com
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How to drop the feel of constant anxiety?
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depends on what you're anxious about and why
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>>18229230
Deep breath and Repeat after me
"I am enough."
Now chug some cheap vodka
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benzos
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Yesterday I went on a partying date with this chick, we had a great time, I blacked out, I think we made out. This morning I texted her, asking for a summary of the night, she told me what bars did we hit and shit. I said "we'll have to hang again" and she with answered "Yes!" and the dancer emoji.
When will it be fine to ask her out again? I don't plan on conversate with her via texting betweenwhiles.
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>>18229225
Friday
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>>18229225
Wednesday
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>>18229231
Do you guys think it will be too long if I wait a couple weeks?
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How do you get out of your own head?
I'm constantly overthinking social interactions, every word I relay, how I look, what other people think of me, etc.
I just have this unshakeable feeling that life is a lot simpler than I make it out to be.
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>>18229223
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You can break your thoughts with using a key sentence that you repeat to yourself whenever your mind begin to wander down that route. Such as "I'm the master of my thoughts." This is to snap out of the bad thinking so you can focus on positive thoughts.
You're insecure and can fix that by thinking of yourself in a positive light. Things you're proud of you've done. Repeat to yourself that you are good as you are. Eventually you'll start to believe it and worry less about what other thinks. In the end it is what you think of yourself that gives you value.
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>>18229223
Alcohol.
And lots of it.
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I hate holidays. I get uncomfortable in groups, even family. Most of my regular hangouts are closed. What should I do?
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>>18229180
enjoy a day inside, or just out and about.
sometimes not having anything to do leads to just relaxing and enjoying existence itself.
a little sun, a nice walk, some pretty scenery. its good.
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Shit post on 4chan like you're already doing.
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>>18229180
Learn to manage your autism better