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>>18235098
You'll need a ton of wet wipes and diapers. Baby poops like 5times a day you should also change dry diaper preventively.
You should pack some lotion for the ass, the diaper area gets burned quite easily. Best choice here is Bepanthen google it.
You should always have some fewer silencing medicaments in your closet/fridge, baby can die on fewer faster than cold even without fat. Beware on overheating your baby.
You should have some cotton diapers, theyre best thing to change synthetic diapers on, they suck all accidental piss, you can wipe dirty face of baby, you can wipe him after bath.Cotton is the best and it is easily washable and really hygienic since you can boil it in case.
always Listen to your baby and not tables, every baby need something else. Dont panic and buckle up for some real patience.

best wishes

Source:2 kids (1,3)yr ol'

>>18235108
great but where you put it to sleep? does it matter if its a crib?

>>18235118
No just put it with you in bed

>>18235072
>having a small penis and being a virgin at 22 makes med fear humiliation so much. I honestly am afraid of going home with somebody.
The real issue.

When you get over this, which probably won't happen until you've started having sex - so fake it til you make it, basically - you might start to realize that when you are having sex with someone, it's going to be with another human being. Sex looks way different to what you experience it as from a distance. It is communication, at its core. When you get your dick wet, it isn't just something that happens to you, it's something you do with a real person. How this happens is often a result of getting on well with her, so there should be a natural transition where both parties want to escalate. Whether it happens is often a question of not chickening out when push comes to shove. Flirt with her, but only if you intend on fucking her, even if she might change her mind (this happens when she feels you're not compatible, and convincing her is what game is all about.)

Start by talking to girls, whenever you can, and pay attention to what works and not.

>>18235089
I guess im uncomfortable with the entire try-something-out-and-get-rejected-part. I feel humiliated. I'm so far behind everyone my age, I don't know what to do.

>>18235122
Welcome to being a man senpai

Breathe into your balls and accept the learning curve.

>>18235059
Why don't you ask him?

>>18235065

I have and I've even tried to give him my phone. It's actually worked quite well. I met up with one girl. I just can't emulate what he does. I suck at conversation. I've met a lot of women and it doesn't get easier. Don't know what's wrong with me.

What I do on tinder is use a cheesy pickup line a funny one, then have a small conversation then as for her snapchat.snapchat is easier to talk to people on because you can see what they're doing that day and you can talk about that. It's more of a natural conversation too

>>18235032
Yes, it feels good to them

>>18235037
How come it doesn't feel good to me?

Do you at least get wet down there when about to have sex?

Since you gotta get really aroused and moist in order to feel good and have an orgasm.
If you still don't feel good after being more wet than a homeless doggo, then you should see some doc since that ain't normal.

also feels thread

>>18235003
Stop smoking weed. I'm sure that's why you mentioned it, because you actually want to quit deep down.
Weed is not the source of your problem, but if you have to sit in your room and be sober I guarantee you will do something more than what you're doing. Weed makes it great to hang around and do nothing, makes it the best thing ever. When you get sober you'll realize how much of your life you can actually waste without feeling severe guilt. I don't smoke weed anymore and I still waste a lot of time, but I want to get better and I try to get better. I still skip deadlines and I feel like the biggest piece of shit, but I have much less apathy about my life. I am actually motivated to accomplish something. Just throw out all your weed and all the accessories/ give them to friends

>>18235015
>>18235015
Thanks bud, It's just extremely hard for me to quit weed. I'm living with my gf and she doesn't see the problem and have no desire to quit. I only know a few people here where I'm staying and their all massive stoners. Sometimes I feel like I'll have to be the first to go cold turkey and then drag my gf out of it too. I get like loads of anxiety, nightterrorsweats, irritability. I know there's better. Just seems like a long road with not very little support.

>>18234939

Suicide trumps self-harm
As with either of the others though it will usually have a duration during which you can't join depending on country.

(IIRC UK is something like 3 years since last serious problem)

>>18234966
It pisses me off so much because I was a dumb fuck 18 yr old when I self harmed. And now it's going to follow me around for ever. I live In the U.S.

>>18234974
Nah, if they're chill with suicide attempts I don't see why SH should be an issue.

Not gonna debate it being a stupid thing to do though, there are invisible ways to self harm if absolutely needed.

I can't see why they'd still be keeping you out by 21 even if it is a problem for now.
So long as they find you mentally sound at joining and you're open about it when it comes up i doubt it'd hold you back for long.

Everything you said just solidifies that the right choice is to stay the fucking two months you have left. I'm in Art School, too, and I've thought about dropping out, too. The difference with me and you is that I live in a very small country in South-eastern Europe and my education quality will never compare to what you have in the US. The plus I have is that my college is tutto completo free, that's it. But I decided that I'll stay even though I have 90% courses I don't care about. Make yourself believe, if you already don't, that everything you learn there you will use in your work. Education is priceless, please use it. It's only two months. Good luck.

P.S. I know it'll make you cringe but if you want to see what my sketchbook looks like maybe be can share artwork or some shit, maybe it'll inspire you to see what others study and it'll hopefully help your personal work? I'll leave my e-mail if you're down.

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>>18234964
thanks for the great advice man, helped put things into perspective for me. i guess im just working through some anxiety/depression problems which is making the decision harder for myself. but i think ill take your advice, thanks again. yea thatd be cool man id love to share some work. im going to an atelier style school btw.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TOxhzAm7fY

what the fuck I know her

and I think I know who you are op

You can't make someone date you or like you. You're an entitled sissy boy.

fuck

>>18234900

>Why I sleep

As any other day I slowly awoke, groggily at first, the edges of my vision still filled with the figments and illusions of my half-dreaming mind. The fog clears slowly, leaving nothing but the dark void of nothingness as memories of another restless night. My mouth is sticky, half-dried mucus from the night undrinking, my muscles filled with the fuzzy cobwebs of disuse; half-failed attempts at stretching accompany the mental flailing of an addled mind trying to focus. A body feeling in disrepair, as unstretched as the mind beneath it, a machine failing for lack of a user to properly utilise it all.

I awake, a day like any other, I believe this is the second time? I can only presume so, though as the sleeping beauty problem touches, it may only be the second I remember; A brief lucid thought in the haze of half-sleep.

I am awake, not waking but fully awake, my eyes flick open as though I had merely blinked and my bedraggled form annoys me. The second or the seventh time, it matters not, the day has escaped me and my complacently drifting form irritates me.
The sheets flung from my body and my legs flung to the air, I land sitting to the side and roll my shoulders, the sound of the sheets landing behind me is disturbed only by that of my own deep inhale. A quick gulp from a half-finished glass of water I keep by the bed and I begin to drag this half-used flesh-machine to the bathroom, the slight nag of memory and habit at the back of my mind.

The shower, a brief whine as the pressure begins to flow, burning and refreshing as the water flows across my, still uneven, bodyheat. I feel awake again, some sense of humanity leaking into the cracks as yesterdays dirt washes away. The sense of purpose forgotten rinsing from my mind like the suds from my hair, the daily rote of things to do asserting itself and blotting thought from my mind. A nagging sense of responsibility and duty for all that must be done and all that has been forgotten.

>>18234903

Chores until my mind tires, except today is a day unlike many others... and it does not. A brief surprised relief followed by confusion followed by intense thought, scouring my mind for why; I can feel the intense point of focus tangibly scratching scores, searching for a reason, through my mind, brain and body. A tingling like electricity plays through my hands, restless and twitching, twirling and twiddling an ephemeral sense of misty thought congealed into something tangible.

A thought forgotten, a reason found and a something touched, the cause found but the change more concerning, a memory half remembered and reasons best left untouched. A cascade of thought, an unceasing, unstoppable and unwanted flow through my mind and I have awoken once more; Not my body rising from rest, not my brain rising from sleep, not even my mind rising from dreams and into this world once more but my true mind beginning to wake from it’s drug addled stupor. I can feel it, my mind accelerating, like an engine coughing to a start or a muscle bound beast slowly swinging it’s pendulous limbs to begin it’s, monstrous, distance eating lope. My mind awash with old thoughts and a multitude of half finished internal debates, memories flooding through my waking mind like the water through my hair when I shower. A deep breath inwards, through my nose and filling my lungs, through my head and clearing my mind.

>>18234905

In that moment I both feel better than I can remember in recent time but also feel the creeping sense that reminds me why I sleep. Knowledge is power, yet knowledge is useless without power. I have little power in the world, I could maybe fix and maintain against the wear on the world around me but could do almost nothing for the damage done by those wilfully ignorant or wilfully malignant. I have power over myself and little more, I see the world and see I do not fit.
Not content to stay in a world so fraught with pain.
Not influential enough to convince the world.
Not wise enough to show the world.
Not enough to do it myself.

Not yet enough to leave this world.

And so there is a pill.

Not illicit, illegal or ill meaning but prescribed;
that dulls my senses,
that slows my mind,
that holds back the memories of what I really am.

Once again, I see why I sleep.
A half-finished glass of water in one hand.
A prescribed capsule in the other.
One small act of submission.
One small act of omission.

>>18234894
No, but then again Ive never had to go see a shrink outside of that one time my parents forced me to go to 'family councilling' with them. The impression I get is they are all a bunch of scammers who you pay to say they >totally get you
and maybe give you some fucked up drugs that are only allowed on the market because big pharma greased the right pockets.

>>18234894
I'm guessing you mean psychiatrist?

What country? Most will have a mechanism for putting the two in contact to hash that crap out and get a proper answer for you as to the right path.

I have the same view. But it's better than nothing. Cuz nothing results in a lot of acid.

You think a should just report the dude. He won't even let me see another doc, all referrals from gp get rejected cuz I'm "under a current shrinks care"
(Haven't seen the guy in over a year)

You don't. Hoes gonna hoe

Why is this any of your business? Is she breaking any laws or being a douchebag? No. You sound like her dad.

Let her do what she wants and if you're really her friend you'd be there to help her if she asks for it.

>>18234857
You can help her by not being such a judgemental little shit. She's already fucked enough guys that she'll never be the perfect little angel you want her to be, and as long as she's careful, pregnancy and STIs are marginal risks. There is absolutely no way in which your moralizing can help her.

>>18234852
She's okay with it and there's no legal concerns. There's barely even a social concern because this is exactly the behavior society expects from you. I literally can't see where third could go wrong.

>>18234858
I guess the large part of the issue is I'm afraid of how much I depend on her presence to stop the the shitty feelings I have over the cheating/divorce. I hope I'm not doing anything improper by 1)loving the support I get from a young girl with no relationship experience and 2)feeling so attached to someone before having found a way to cope with the shitty situation by myself

>>18234876
It sounds like the issue here isn't her age. So what's the real challenge for you?

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>>18234843

Beat the absolute shit out of that subhuman piece of shit but do it in secret.

And tell him that if he tells anyone else, You'll send him to his mother.

>>18234827
>Is it okay to forgive someone for cheating?

Sure. It is.

But with your circumstances... you know what the answer you're going to get is.

Up to you what you want to do.

Make the decision not that you think will hurt the least, but that you won't regret the most.

>>18234827
So from what i can tell is she broke ur heart and she came back to u for some casual sex and you said yes. Are u bf/gf now or is it just routine ficki ficki. Either way i dont suggest a round 2 with cheaters fampai even if they tell u theyve "Changed"

I don't think it's worth getting back with her knowing that she fucked some other guy behind your back and completely breaking your trust. To be honest if I got back with her it would haunt me the whole time

Do you have access to health care? I'd strongly recommend finding a counselor/psychologist to help you get through this. There are counselors online you can talk to, which could help mitigate the social anxiety of seeking out a counselor in the first place.

>>18234823
I do have access to health care. i just wish they would fucking make weed clinics where I live already

>>18234849
Yeah, I must admit, I've been pretty spoiled having access to recreational dispensaries all over town. :-P