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Yesterday I got into an argument with my wife. All over something small. however, i didnt feel like talking much afterwards so I went into another room to read.
She barges in to accuse me of 'not caring'. I asked her to leave since I had a nice quiet room before she came along. She continued on about me not caring about her. Deflecting the fact this whole situation was something that started off from something she said, that caused a petty argument.

I asked her to leave me alone, she wouldnt. It escalates to the point I'm yelling to be left alone, to which she gets within inches of my face grabbing at me demanding that I hug her. I dont.
I tell her repeatedly to keep her hands to herself because It's violating my space. If she wanted to talk she could, but keep her hands down. she repeatedly pushed at me and tried to sit on me , grabbed at me etc. I leave the room, she's now screaming for me to please talk to her. she kicks open the door im in, so i start recording her with my phone. she takes my phone and throws it.

I tell her she's crazy. Now shes deflecting her behavior onto me and says I make her feel unwanted and that I dont care.
recap: small argument caused by her, sets her off when Im distant and now she's violating my space and throwing my things - because I made her do it according to her.

I remind her that If any male had done half the stuff she did, the police would take her away. She says shes sorry and will 'work on that', but we are married so I'm her property. what?

Im feeling trapped and completely violated. I cant decide what to do from here out, because when she's calm she's ok. when she gets in a frame of mind she's berserk. I told her I'd call the police the next time shes going on like that and she cried saying 'we arent those people'. i told her I'm not that person but apparently she is and I wont half that in my life. We've only been married for a year btw

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>tfw you're too much of a brainlet for the STEM meme
>tfw you're now an Economics major and History minor
>tfw only 3.0 GPA
How fucked am I?
I found CS really boring and tedious. I got a B in my first CS class but I really don't want to stick with it, no passion for it. History interests me but the only option is to become a teacher with that. Is Economics a good choice?

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What does /adv/ do to stay positive in a bad situation?

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This is going to sound ridiculous but I have no idea what to do.

>got into an argument with mom
>she kept interrupting me
>couldnt control myself and pushed her
>she fell
>no injury though
>she called the police
>police arrived and asked my mom what she needed help with
>mom says she wants me out for a while
>the police take me outside
>dont have any friends at all and no family that i can go to
>mom locked the door

I took my backpack with a 1L bottle of water, some nuts, bananas, and a chocolate bar. Also took my phone, a lightet and my wallet. It is now past midnight, I'm sitting on a park bench somewhere in a small town in west Europe, and it's freezing cold tonight, it's 1C and the forecast says it's gonna be -4C here. I only have a tshirt and a jacket on, I'm freezing. I can barely type this because my fingers arr numb.

What do I do? I think I can go back home tomorrow when my mom is at work, she cant lock the door from outside. I just need to survive the night. Pic very related. Sitting on a park bench by a lake.

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How do i give up on women?
I honestly can't keep it up, it has been way too many rejections, i never got anything from women
>kissless
>virgin(If being "raped" by a 10 years older dude doesn't count)
>only held hands once because she thought i was rich


I'm autistic, i got diagnosed with asperger, plus i have sunburnt skin, plus my type of skin is kinda hated on this part of the country(people have a varying level of racism) i'm ugly and not really tall, 5'10". I'm just a student, i can't pay for dates and lots of things, and the sad thing i see that is not important for many people, they still have gf even though many are in a worse off situation.
Well the thing is, no matter what i do i'm a complete failure at this game, i'm never good enough.
I just want to give up on women, to not feel anything.
Please help me prevent these dumb feeling that later on cause nothing but pain to me

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If you wanted to transform someone from a beta to a Chad, what else would you recommend besides lifting?

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I've thought a lot about it and I just can't see myself being intimate/romantic with a member of my sex but it seems like it's the only porn that gets me off right now. I was wondering if anybody else had dealt with this and or gotten past it, I'm worried I'm just completely fucked now.

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I was engaged but we broke up. I asked him what to do with the ring and he said it's mine. well what do i do with it now?
Pawning it feels tacky and disrespectful. but i don't see the point in keeping a really symbolic reminder of the future i can no longer have??? it's not like i want to wear it anymore.

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>*NEW* How do I ask a friend out without it being awkward, ruining our friendship or putting them on the spot?
You don't. Ask them out or don't ask them out, it's up to you.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, and fart guy
Fuck off

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Hey /adv/. Was wondering if I could get some help

My situation is I know I girl who (I believe) is into me. I would like to do something
about that however I have no idea how to start or get a conversation going with her.
I really just need a way to be able to either get her number/kik/whatever or a way to talk to her often enough to eventually get
her number. After that I'm confident in my conversation abilities.

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So I'm about to graduate with a masters in math. I'm currently living in Arizona and would like to move to a northern state like Washington or oregon. The problem is I have no idea how to look for a job in those places. Can anyone give me an idea of how to go about this? I don't even know what kind of jobs to look for or who hires people with math degrees. I don't know any programing (I could probably learn the basics somewhat quickly).

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I don't really know where to begin so I'll just start with the present and can answer questions as needed.

>been in relationship with BF for 8 years
>BF moved to new city with me so I could attend grad school
>he's unemployed
>had a job for a few months but it was only temporary
>been applying for jobs, had some interviews, no job offers yet
>spends all day at home playing video games, watching TV, or talking to friends while I'm at school
>when I come home he expects me to do chores and hang out with him while I still have more studying to do
>confront him about it
>tell him I'm not his mom
>he said he'll do better and he has
>I have a hard time asking for help (for anything from anyone) so I still do many things myself
>find myself spending more time at school or out with errands than at home
>can't spend much time with him without feeling the need to go outside or another room
>not finding his jokes/stories entertaining much anymore
>aunt, uncle, even friends have told me that he's a low life and needs to get his act together
>tell me I constantly make excuses for him
>I agree but don't know what else to do
>can't just break up because we've been together for so long and I'm the only one in this city he knows
>also, I consider his parents family (as they do me) and I don't want to lose them

What do I do? Is this what happens when you're in a relationship for so long? You see something wrong but just stick with it because you love the person? I'm losing my mind over here.

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Stuck between picking glasses from Oakley, rayban or dragon.

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Would like some advice. This might seem like a no brainer but please help me anyway. I need someone to talk to.

I've been dating my long distance boyfriend for over two years (Let's call him Zero). We live in different countries. I cheated on him a few different times and I confessed to him immediately each time. Once was with a new partner, once with a person I don't really like to think about, and the third was with a guy who I've completely fallen in love with.

I am in love with both of them and neither is willing to give up now that they both know the truth. I have been, until now, unwilling to give either of them up myself.

The new guy, we'll call him Sigma, met me randomly at a convention one day. I told him I was suicidal (I intended to kill myself within a month of the day we met) and he immediately jumped in to try and change my mind. He himself was already seeing someone and only was interested in being friends and helping me. After he found out his own LDR gf was cheating on him the whole time, he confided in me. I never told him that I was dating someone but he also wasn't interested in dating me so it didn't matter. We just were friends and that was enough.

Then one day I confessed to him that I had deep feelings for him, knowing he wouldn't accept. I did this, admittedly, because I was bored. I didn't actually like him like that. And as I expected, he said no. But as time went on, he opened up to the idea, and I started to actually feel what I claimed I felt.

After a month of spending a lot of time together and going on little dates, we began to fall in love, and he asked me to become his girlfriend. I said yes, then immediately changed my answer. He didn't know about my long distance boyfriend.That night I told him the truth. Then for a week, I decided between the two.

(Continued)

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What's your experience with dating really beautiful women?
I met this girl and she's a real stunner who's well aware of her looks. I catch myself being an idiot and getting distracted by her beauty leading to me treating her differently than I would someone less attractive.