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The important question is whether or not the kids on non-white. If they are then you can work with it, if not then remind her that if you burn the coal you pay the toll.

>>18707362
>get with
red flag because it's you after all
>aunt's stepdaughter
red flag
>shes normal cute to most standards
red flag
>the only problem is just has two kids
red flag
red flag
inferred red flag
>tell her I don't want to meddle/be involved with that sort of life
>tells me we can take it as slow as you like
RUN FUCKING RUN MOTHERFUCKER


you basically got two choices, get off the ride or get used to having step kids. there is no middle ground no matter how slow she baits you in.

>>18707362

>tfw in a similar situation
>but she's the one who wants to take it slow

If you like her, date her man.

>>18707376

My girl-to-be-hopefully has a non-white kid. It's not a deal breaker imo.

>>18707387

Nothing wrong with having step children. I'm jealous of OP to be honest.

What work?

>>18707356
Don't.

>>18707356
You should really only do it if you have something valuable to offer, like concert tickets or something else she likes. Otherwise the idea of socializing with coworkers when you're not on the clock usually sounds pretty distasteful. Also it's a big risk for your reputation. Women are not shy about making fun of you around the water cooler if they shoot you down, believe me.

I know the same feeling and at this point I just try to assume that everyone feels the same way

We all feel the same way

Just tell yourself that most people are apathetic and self-absorbed, and they lack the insight and observational skills to guess at what you're thinking, which is pretty much true.

A while ago someone told me that there are very few good people, and that we'really probably moderately bad people. Don't try to be a good person and instead try to be the best person you can be right now, even if that means being a shifty person. At least that's how I deal with my own flaws.

Someone reply. I am venting.

Get over yourself and think about what you say/do before you take any action.

>>18707295
See a mental healthcare professional. Many colleges and universities offer counseling at no cost through Student Health Services.

>>18707305
Has that worked for you or do you know someone that it has worked for?

>>18707313
Yes, it has been very helpful to me to get outside perspective on my thought processes from a professional. Mental healthcare is only as useful to you as much as you put work into your end of the process however, so you have to actually want to have intervention in your thoughts or behavior.

>>18707281
usually the way your life was as a child is how its going to go for the rest of your life
>all the popular kids stay popular
>all the preppy grade kids move on to professional jobs
>the nerds and outcasts either settle early or dont at all
>rough kids go to jail once or twice, get addicted to drugs or constantly on welfare
>kids not in their true element stay out of things

>>18707281
kinda sounds that you need to deal with your mother first

>>18707281 (OP)
>>18707544
Maybe reach out fto your friends, see if they're willing to help with housing. You need to get away from your mother, or negotiate the situation

The best advice I can give you is to find people with likeminded interests, and join clubs at college. Another thing that helps with being horrible at conversational skills is watching sitcoms or reality TV shows. It sounds weird, but by watching those, you'll subconsciously pick up on conversational cues and phrases that people normally say will also become very natural for you as well. As for girls, I would say if you don't have physical attractiveness on your side, do everything you can and then play up your personality card. Go to the gym, scrub your face, dress nicer and try to make earnest connections with people. While many girls are vain and picky and will only take guys at face value, there is a population of attractive girls who genuinely don't care how attractive people are (as long as they aren't total slobs). Best of luck to you lad

>>18707265
>no friends.
>"feel no anxiety talking to people, but conversations go into awkward territory very fast, can feel the other person getting uninterested and/or weirded out"
>"can only have actual conversations with hardcore nerds with similar interests or recluses with similar world views"
>same.jpeg

I don't say this to stroke my ego but I am good looking, I know because random women tell me this and I do a bit of modelling here and there, but I don't take selfies and get uncomfortable being complimented on looks alone and don't plaster my self on social media. But regardless I have no sex life, there are plenty of opportunities, I just find random lust based sex gross. Got out of three year relationship a year ago, jaded toward the very concept of women, women I do find attractive who I talk to quite quickly deter me because of how painfully platitudinous and emotive they are. I was studying an arts degree but then reality hit me it was an arts degree so stopped doing it in order to peruse something with more tangible options at the end. But what exactly that thing is I am stuck on whilst feeling incredibly volatile and neglectful towards convention. I don't know what to do or what I am doing and feel like it is all pointless as I have lost most enjoyment.

>>18707265
Good luck anon, I had to go to a mental ward to get a friend. But when I did I felt such a huge relief holy shit the feeling of human warmth is amazing.

Also got on prozac.

Good luck anon please don't get too sad.
In the end it's just a binary choice of living the life you want or dying because of this huge burden

whatd you say?

It doesn't even seem like you realize what you did to piss her off, so probably not. And if you weren't being a nitpicking asshole like she says, she is the type of person who can't handle the least bit of constructive criticism anyway, so it doesn't look like you have the power or the means to straighten anything out.

>>18707243
no

>>18707216
How old are you?

>>18707238
26

>>18707264
Yeah, that's God punishing you for eating the apple.

bye bye

You care too much.
I'd you find love you'll find it in someone that needs guidance and in turn will be a big pussy.

So either stop caring about the little shit and only focus on what matters. That whole dumping someone because they were a bit more expressive about how they feel towards certain groups of people is retarded. Call it what you want, stereotypes are there for a reason.

Hi anon. I went through the same, except I decided not to date ever again after me and my ex broke up.

This year, without expecting it, I fell in love with a guy and I'm very happy that I gave him a chance. Don't go searching for love "just because", just let it happen.

>>18707227
>That whole dumping someone because they were a bit more expressive about how they feel towards certain groups of people is retarded. Call it what you want, stereotypes are there for a reason.

did it hurt when she dumped you after spewing racist shit on fb you moron?

Yes, absolutely. Fuck the whole 'they should be the ones to tell them' mentality.

Might be an old account that he forgot to delete. Tell her, though.

Up to you. If it were me and my sister, I'd tell her bc I have a pretty close relationship with her and I'm not gonna wait around for him to get some STD from a whore and pass it on to my sister.

>>18707146
>Are my fears warranted?
To an extent
Some girls are into the older look and some aren't; it really depends on the girl.

Get fit, shave your head, and be a fucking stud. Women like the idea of danger but don't really want to be in it. Be the danger.

>>18707887
This. Bald head and fit body is a huge turn on.

>>18707133
Yes, especially if you know she's a ho.

>>18707133
It's normal to not want to. Hopefully you're with someone you love enough that you can look past it, and care about their pleasure. I imagine, if I picked up some girl at the bar, I don't think I'd be eager to "go down" on her.

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>>18707133
Details man. Who is she, how fat is she, how often she shovers, does she shave, is she innie or outie, do you love her, does she has aids?

Personally i love it. How they struggle, wiggle and moan is fun.

>>18707131
Sadistic joy and schadenfreude ....obviously.

Because it makes ourselves feel better.

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Are you asking "why" as in "what causes it" or "what are we trying to gain by it"?

:)

>>18707121
Sure, I got some time before to laundry is done. If I don't crash first, haven't slept in 29 hours.
>but can't sleep the clowns will get me.

>>18707121
https://discord.gg/T8Rw5M