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>>18246379
Im sort of in the same scenario now, but ill be fucked before I quit school. Allah willing I graduate at the end of the year, ill be almost fucking 24 years old recieving my bachelors degree.

And i didnt even party, work an impressive job/internship, travel, or have a mature relationship (all the reasons it usually takes people this long to finish). If i think about it too hard ill hang myself tonight. Keep pushing on man, ill be out here doing the same.

>>18246390
Oh yea and give me advice about hooking up with girls online, im going through a dry spell and want some female touch to temporarily distract me from the infinite pit of despair and dread in my chest.

>>18246379
Besides hooking up with chicks on c-list, I'm basically in the same boat. My gpa is low as fuck. And i need about a year and a half till i graduate. I'm considering just going military, but I feel like if I do then i basically wasted my time. But I'm probably just gonna go home to my parents and attend community college to finish up this degree and be done with it.

I have anxiety and obsession. Obsessive thoughts, I repeat sentences over and over again, every day...

I have had panic attacks three times.

I went once to a psychologist because of the panic attacks. She tried to find the origin of this axiety and we speak about my problems and frustrations. She explained me how the brain works with traumatic moments and how yo remember them when you are in a similar situation. She did to me one therapy which objective was to replace negative memories or thoughts with positive ones. I went two times because It's expensive (50€) and I begin to feel better.

I didn't believe in psychologists and I still think it is all about you believing in it but yeah it helped me to stop fearing about panic attacks at that moment.

Now I'm fucked up again. Thinking to go the psychologist again because anxiety and especially obsession it's destroying my life. I feel hopeless because I think I will never get rid of this obsession and if one day I get rid of this especifically obsession I will get obssed with another thing because it is what had happened in the past.

The advices I can give you sure you already have listen them but make sports, training, getting tired helps to reduce anxiety and Oslo keeps you occupied some time. Oslo try to change your habits. Being too much time in here for example or in the internet in general just spending time looking random things doesn't help because you feel like of you have no direction. I, for example, have a habit to be with the smartphone in the bed (now I'm typing in th bed) and I want to get rid of this habit but I haven't be able to do it yet. Try to do things outside. Try to read more. Reading increase your concentration and relax your brain. Also you feel good about reading interesting things.

I'm starting to think that mental illness like obsession, depression or anxiety are very hard things. I never thought I can get near to be crazy but now I think it isn't to difficult to get there.

I wish you get better anon. This things are very hard to cure or treat.

>>18246484
Thanks anon.

>>18246479
I tried therapy...it didnt do shit. I dont want doctors, im so sick of them. I just want to comtrol my anxiety. Thats all.

He sounds like an autist virgin too. So that means hes just as nervous if not more nervous than you. Its his place as the man to ask you out and set up a time, so if hes not doing that you could try to put on the pants and ask him for an ultimatum, hes not gonna pass up on your aspergers vagina if hes the type of guy im imagining.

However he might actually be avoiding you and hoping that you forget he ever offered to take you out, what do I know.

He could have lost interest, but since you can't read minds, you don't know that. You have to take the initiative of asking him on the next date. If he likes you, he'll find the time to do it. Even if he's not free on the day you suggest, he'll be like "but I am free this day."

If he's not into you, he'll keep on flaking. If you ask twice and neither date proposal is fruitful, then he's probably just not into you.

>>18246332
I'm a guy too, should mentioned that. My fault, but thanks for answering at least. Just turn the vaginal into a dick and the advice is solid.

>>18246337
Thanks, we've had moments like that where he will say he is free, but he got called into work. I'lll try again tonight, but if he flakes I guess I'll just drop it and move on. Thanks for the advice.

You're addicted.

I was on the same boat, until I realized that I didn't even want to get off my bed without playing something to get me going. Just put it off as a challenge (3 days without music, etc)

I don't see any issue with that?

>Podcasts
Sure as hell isn't educational but I've always been a fan of The F+.

>>18246231
>i cant stop blasting noise in my skull to distract me from reality, recommend some different sounding noise to solve my problem

tldr: Old friend never really grew up, we're pretty close but i want to cut ties due to her immature behaviour. How do i tell her this?

>>18246210
how about you just talk to her?

>>18246309
You dont break up with friends, just cancel and ignore till it fizzles out.

>>18246179

You mean major? None of us can help with no details. What do you like to do?

Dont you have counsilors to help you plan and choose classes?

Most people take the necessary basic classes their first year or two before they choose a specific major. Just take english 101, trigonometry, biology and whatever other basic shit your school requires to get a degree.

Backtrace your life on all the moments you were happy and engaged in something. ALL. Studies, tests, art projects, music, etc. Then do that 2nd and go into engineering technology.

>>18246162
I'll assume you're Asian? Cause this thing is the only thing that still happen in Asia. Even with me, my parents are the same.

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>>18246162
My big sis and cousin get this being the ones who didn't really make much of themselves

OP here. What do you guys suggest for me to do?

Do it out of spite.
All your coworkers are probably happy that you're gone.

>>18246149
If it were that easy. I got along with a few folks really well, so I'd feel bad if they were put to hardship.

At the same time though no one really cares about the customers either, at least not to the point where they would speak up about it. And when I was going through all that mess, no one came to my aide.

>>18246175
You're obviously not going to do it so why even make a fucking thread.

Instead of wasting time on 4chan you should be looking for a job faggot.

Also
>walking off a job of several years without having another job lined up
You are a fool.

>>18246120
Shes probably mad that you seem to be "over her" and wants you to still be salivating over her rancid pussy. Saying this because im a guy in her scenario, dumped a fling who i see at a hobby club every night and now im the salty one while shes giggling with everyone. Im considering asking her to get back with me just to satiate my ego, FML.

>>18246120
>OP here with the update: Well I went into work today and talked to my manager and the GM. I wanted to talk to her myself, but I realized that if I did; she could just string things into a "he said, she said" or whatever and make things worse. Plus it's clear to me at this point that she is a very vengeful and hateful person; so I don't want to gamble with my job. The managers said that they'd sit down with her after she was done her shift today and talk to her about her behaviour. And again today I was polite and courteous with her. It's seriously baffling and I as our general manager said; "We ask everyone to run plates all the time. You were only doing your job." I know I'll be fine and that everyone knows I'm not a crazy or vindictive person, but I'm slightly saddened by what happened because I thought I'd ended things with her on a good note. I even wrote her a short letter taking blame for the relationship failing(was super busy and apparently didn't give her enough time. But instead of talking to me about it, she just went and slept with the other dude after a night at the bar. It wasn't something that I had to do, and I felt that she was a party animal whereas I wasn't, so while it sucked; I didn't think of it as a great loss. I wished her well and said that if she ever needed help, that she could call me up even. So I don't understand this ridiculous aggression she's suddenly developed towards me,

>>18246137

She's a huge bitch. You already answered your own question in the opening subject.

Don't worry about it, let her be a vindictive cunt - if you've done nothing wrong, nothing bad will happen, and she'll dig her own grave.

>>18246114

>want to torment her

Why?

>>18246126
The same reason men scale Everest, anon. Besides, she's adorable when she scared. It'll be hilarious and cute all at once.

>>18246135

I've never understood the urge to make someone experience something they dislike because you like them. That's really convoluted and dumb.

If you are too insecure to trust her then break up and blame yourself.

A girl with a best guy friend sounds like trouble to begin with.

>>18246024
Is she too close? Idk, i dont think anyone could say for sure from just those texts. But guy/girl "besties" always end up fucking at some point so.... yea...

>>18245881
>I'm not looking for any advice
Then why the fuck are you on the advice board faggot?

>>18245881

>I believe helping people will bring good things to me
>no one I've helped has helped me

You're looking for rewards when you help people, that's the problem. Give because it's the right thing to do, not because you want something out of it - that's not what a "nice person" would do.

Report your stolen motorbike to the police.

>>18245926
Aight then I guess I do need an advice, I said that because I have no clue what to ask.

How do you guys deal with people in general and not getting scammed/played with? Should I avoid social interraction?

I'm really lost and confused.

>>18245835
Da ppl suck

I know exactly how you feel OP. I act much differently around family.

>>18245846
Not OP. Also relate

>>18245770

Actually, the 20% is talking about herpes on the genitles

Herpes on your mouth is at some fucking ridiculous statistic like somewhere between 50-80% of the adult population.

You can transfer herpes on your mouth to the genitles.

Does it do anything other than look gross? Not really.

>>18245770

How about look for more reliable sources than an imageboard where anyone can make up bullshit? Just a quick google search could give you decent info about all STDs.

No point in becoming sexually active. Just wait until you find the one. You're not missing out on anything. People don't practice having sex often enough to be decent at it. Most people don't care about their bodies and don't exercise so you won't find many attractive people to fuck. Prostitutes are an option but if you have a shred of morality you won't be able to do it without realizing and feeling how terrible of a person you're being for doing this.

Having sex for the sake of having sex is leads to a bunch of scenarios you don't want. Accidental pregnancies. Spontaneous development of romantic relationships based on nothing more than "We fucked and it felt nice" which are doomed to fail. STDs like you mentioned.

It all sucks. Sex sucks.
And I wish the sexually rabid virgins on 4chan fapping to porn threads every day would wake up and realize they're not missing anything

>>18245748
I would probably feel a bit hurt but not every guys the same. if he's upset about it try to do some things to make it up to him

In all fantasies, bigger is better, no?

Just trying to be fair. I've jacked off to my fair share of fantasy funbags, especially when first discovered
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So no, I wouldn't personally be insulted.

>>18245748
Better a toy than another dick. I'd be fine with it.