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>>18251951
>how has this screwed me
You've grown up without vastly important mental and emotional support that one's father is supposed to provide in their youth.

>what advice would you give me
Meet him only if he seems very willing to meet you. However, the fact that he was absent for your entire childhood may mean that it is too late to salvage a proper relationship, especially if you're not underaged.

>>18251951
it means you're just as broken as the rest of us who had shitty fathers who put no effort into raising us. Try finding a respectable male role model to learn from?

know that you are a cohesive person. you made it this far and are now self aware enough to become the man you wish to be without some biologically related person telling you what to do.

my father was largely absent and i didnt get a strong mentor figure until i actually landed my recent job and my boss kinda took me under his wing. its been great.

>>18251940
College is like
90% commitment and 10% brain capacity. If you have resources to attend college and determination, nothing can stop you.

But question yourself if it is worth it. How old you will be once you finish, if there are even job in the area for absolvents and if it is something you want to do in future for living.

Also kids after 30 are more likely to have various illnesses and girls after that age are less desirable. Plan your life ahead girl!

>>18251961
I don't think I'll have kids of my own so my plan for the future is to take care of the family I already have. So that would mean making money. My mother has a good retirement but to actually help her enjoy life comfortably and learn some new things I'd like to pretty much double what our household makes a month. I am thinking of doing chemical engineering but I'm not confident. Maybe for my purposes just and since I'm already an adult I should just get a job, but without education I'm not qualified for much

>>18251981
If you dont plan kids at all and want to spent your life at work, then for all means try college. You can fail and do some shit job anytime.

If you want to take care of family, double check that job opportunities exists for
>chemical engineering
in your area unless you plan moving your whole family elsewhere.

Do you feel more mentally alert when you have a cold, sore throat, or any other illnesses? Probably not as physical pain takes a toll of your psyche. Harm yourself is hugely a dumb fad that does nothing to boost your esteem

the only "benefit" i can think of is if youre too cowardly to reach out for help. if someone sees that you carve yourself up like a turkey then they'll try to help you. beyond that it does nothing for you

The instant benefit to self-harm would be the rush of endorphins. It can relieve mental stress and pain in that sense, but obviously it isn't any kind of long term solution.
I got into the habit of self-harm to relieve the stress from panic attacks. Alcohol, smoking, drugs etc, all could provide temporary relief as well but there is no magical solution in any of these things.

If you want a real solution to help your mental state, actually address the issue at the source of the problem, your own mind.
I'd suggest finding people to talk to about how you feel. Sort your thoughts out to yourself and maybe take up reading. Find a mental solution for your mental problem.

>>18251724
Do you really even need to ask?

Red flag, hurry up and get tf outta this relationship.

>>18251724
>threesome
>>>/d/egeneracy

I would dump her anon, but i am not you. Maybe you dont mind sharing your gf with other people? We call it open relationship. Almost like comunism. Everybody can fuck your wife!

>>18251713
El aloe vera es una planta muy beneficial para la salud y es muy popular todo del mundo porque es usado de una panacea. El aloe vera es una planta muy importante para la salud y es muy popular todo en España y todo del mundo. El aloe vera es usado por problemas de la salud como indigestión, constipado de nariz, quemaduras del sol y fuegos, controlar peso, y problemas de piel como cicatrices y acné. El aloe vera es usado en bebidas como jugo y agua para mejorar la indigestión porque el aloe vera tiene muchos vitaminas de minerales importante que salud de estómago y alimentación. El aloe vera es una planta muy importante para la salud.El aloe vera es usado en ungüentos, cremas, bebidas, jabones, y gel. Las bebidas de aloe vera contiene vitaminas y minerales muy importantes para el estómago. Cuando una persona bebe jugo o agua de aloe vera este resulta ser una cura natural para la indigestión. Las cremas y ungüentos mejoran quemaduras y, generalmente, la gente la usa para quemaduras de sol. Los jabones, las cremas, y los ungüentos de aloe vera, mejoran el acné y las cicatrices porque el aloe vera tiene vitaminas que mejoran la piel. El aloe vera está localizada en el norte de áfrica y en los lugares cerca del mar en España como Andalucía, Murcia, y Valencia. El aloe vera es cultivado en granjas muy grandes con mucha agua y mucho sol. La diferencia entre del aloe vera y el choque del cuy es muy grande, pero tienen un poco del mismos.

>>18251713
>>18251717
El choque del cuy es un ritual cuando una persona mata una cuy porque no le gusta espíritus y quiere ser curado problemas de ánimo y salud. El cuy es una animal muy pequeño de Perú y no tiene beneficios de salud para comer. Porque nadie quiere comer los cuyos, usarlos en el ritual se llama choque del cuy. El ritual es usado por chamanes y los indigentes del país, y el ritual no es popular nada. Cuando una persona mata el cuy para el ritual, la persona necesita examinar los huesos, organos (organs), y sangre del cuy y los usa para curar el desequilibrio del ánimo y cuerpo. El choque del cuy usará cuando una persona visita un chamen por problemas cuándo quererá a curan las problemas del ánimo y cuerpo. Los cuyos viven en las montañas con poco agua y poco sol en climas muy frío del invierno y a veces un poco calor en los veranos.

El aloe vera y el choque del cuy curan problemas del cuerpo, pero tienen muchas diferencias entre de los dos. Por ejemplo el aloe vera es una planta y el choque del cuy es una ritual. También el choque del cuy no es popular y solo usado del chamanes y el aloe vera es usado todo del mundo y es muy popular. Cuando quiere usar el aloe vera o el choque del cuy debe saber los beneficios de los dos. El aloe vera mejora problemas de salud como ingestión, quemaduras, y problemas de piel, y el aloe vera tomará de bebidas, cremas, y jabones. El choque del cuy mejora problemas espíritus y problemas del ánimo y a veces será curar problemas del cuerpo también y es usado solo de rituales y no puede tomar. Para fin, los dos mejoran problemas de salud pero los dos no son al mismo y tiene muchas diferencias.

>>18251726
It ends here. Also it is a comparative essay so if anyone can add in comparative words in place of ones I used that would be amazing!

point of no return. go live life to the fullest.

>>18251601
Go eat some chocolade. Even if you get fat, it doesnt matter cause you will be dead anyway.

Dont do stupid decisions until you actually have results in.

>>18251601

So basically you've diagnosed yourself with cancer and given yourself a prognosis of 5 years even though you haven't heard any of this from an actual medical professional.

>>18251589
Online dating.
>>18250471

>>18251589
>jealous woman scared your female friends asay
It is your own fault for not accepting this vital red flag

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>>18251589
you let your dick do the thinking and you stuck it in crazy and now you suffer.

tldr dont stick ur dick crazy.

i think that's a pretty nice idea

>>18251741
>>18251583
nah, do that on the second date. Or was you guys hanging out already a date?

>>18251583
I approve.

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Maybe she is fucking awesome and might just be a chill friend or a girlfriend possibly.

Or she might just be so tired of your ass and wants to get it all over with.

Only you can find the answer to that one, OP. I wish you luck.

>>18251574
She paid the first round of drinks we had, we made out one hour or two later, she paid for the taxi that took us to the last bar 4 hours later, she said we had a great time and agreed that we should do it again when we texted the morning after, she cancelled the date we had arranged yesterday in the last minute

>>18251605
Yeah she thinks your pathetic for not offering to pay.

Just ask her out and mention that you want to cover this time

Oh, and for context, I'm male, 23, I don't smoke, I've got a normal BMI and had no issues like that before.

>>18251568
Adopt some sport and never look at porn ever again. It can take few weeks to months.

Also something could happened to your balls or testosterone levels. Try asking doctor.

But dont ever watch porn again. It is intended for mature adults who can controll themselves.

>>18251937
>It is intended for mature adults who can controll themselves.
Is it still? It's my impression we've gone way past that point. Anyway, yeah, doesn't excuse how much I fucked up in that regards.

Thanks for the advice anon, I've taken up lifting and made some good progress in the last 2 months. Which is why I was pretty happy with myself until this happened.

Something's worrying me though, I've had this disturbing sensation in my balls lately, they feel heavy and tingly and not in a pleasant way. The inside of dick feels hot and raw too, even though I haven't fapped for days.

I guess I'll go see the doctor and if they find nothing, welp, goodbye porn.

fuck off, ya blew it

>>18251481
Write a long sappy text about how much she actually means to you and that you fucked up and that you understand if she doesn't want to yadda yadda yadda

If she was that hurt by you fucking an ex when you aren't dating then just play to her highly emotional level. Put the hook back into her

>>18251481
>but I wasn't with her, nor was I looking for anything but friendship
Then why the fuck did you have to tell her about it? It doesn't matter if you were in a relationship or not. If you know someone has feelings for you, and you don't want to escalate, then you don't string them along and give them those personal details. You distance yourself a bit and keep that information to yourself until you start dating. What you did may technically not be wrong, but that doesn't mean she's not going to feel like shit.

>Should I show up to her house and apologize in person, maybe send some flowers to her job, or just fuck off?
Just fuck off. She doesn't care anymore and that would be creepy.

>>18251430
Are you wanting elemental spells (fire, water, etc.), or something a little less traditional (maybe a "base" spell makes a feather and you can combine it with another spell to make it razor-sharp or very heavy)?

Also, you wouldn't happen to be looking for an artist for this, would you?

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Emotion spells that change the behavior of the person they are cast upon
>depression/ennui
>love/lust
>anger
>confidence/chad
>fear

>>18251440
either one, as long as they arent super niche
sadly I dont know the artist

>>18251472
thanks that might be useful

>>18251393

depends on the question. but as a general rule you just say ' i dont want to talk about it ' or simply make a funny joke, and then change the subject.

example
>anon are you single
>I don't think so but your mom stopped texting me recently so i dont know. speaking of which how is your mother?

>>18251393
exaggerations that are obviously fake with a lot of hand gestures and energy followed by asking them a better personal question

i usually give an exaggerated and idiotic response if someone asks shit that's not their business.
my grandma always did this

>anon, do you still have contact with your ex?

yeah, just ten minutes ago i sent a mounted messenger, asking for the next dance. i made sure to include some dried rose petals.

she has learned to not ask such questions anymore

do you really want to date a hoe that goes on dates whilst in a relationship?

>>18251401
I like to think at first she agreed to get coffee to be kind, but when I asked her out, she not only said yes, but even invited me to an art gallery downtown where she works and told me when she worked. I didn't go because I had a lot of work, but still, I guess you have a point.

She's such a sweet girl though, I don't think she would cheat; if she did, we would've had a second date planned

We have a connection, but she won't drop her bf because of that

>>18251429
she might just be naive and dumb. is that what you want in the mother of your kids? one that invites a guy that wants to hit on her to an art gallery because she can't pick up hints in plain sight?

Ehm, so you have a GF, but you didn't kiss her? If so, I wouldn't even consider her to be your girlfriend. She is a friend.

How the fuck do these kinda "relationships" happen?

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>>18251351
Here's a bumperooni

>>18251368
No, that one is certain. We both agree that we're a couple.