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Should I just end it? 2017-04-24 04:29:37 Post No.18252955
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I've had depression and anxiety and trust issues,abandonment issues since the 6th grade when I first started getting bullied.i don't have alot of friends.im failing all my sofmore classes.gf is gonna leave me because I'm a beta bitch who thinks true love is real and thinks he found it says she wants a break so guess it's over.dad left after leaving me with emotional damage mom's poor.i have no desire to do anything.was around drugs from a young age due to a shitty childhood i've self harmed and drank a shit ton of rum should I just throw in the towel?-sorry for spelling errors-
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>>18252955
keep trying man. keep living.
and get sober.
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I just want to forget about my pain sleep usually is my escape
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>>18252963
then sleep more if you want. you're young enough
but I will give you the advice to be sober, stay away from alcohol, drugs. be completely sober.
I used to do drugs all the time. I quit, I'm sober now, and things have changed.
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How do you seduce women more effectively?
I understand the general concept like behaving like a cocky asshole and making it look like lots of girls are chasing you, but I often stumble when women shit test me. I'm bad at witty comebacks and prompt responses. I'm still in a better stage than I was when I was a total beta writing girls poetry and listening to their problems and complimenting them and other wimpy shit I used to do when I thought they were my equals.
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It's easy to talk with women if you think of them as people.
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they are your equals, retard. this is why you can't get laid.
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>>18252917
>I understand the general concept like behaving like a cocky asshole and making it look like lots of girls are chasing you,
Take it from me. This DOES NOT WORK. It might garner what appears to be attraction to someone who is not used to getting attention from girls, but it will not get you laid.
The girls like assholes myth is a lie. What they like is guys who are nice to them. The guys who realize this end up being assholes because when they're done fucking them, they're done being nice.
I realized this at 21, and finally started having the sex life I wished I had at 17.
So please realize that. Stop worrying about being "beta" and saying things like "seduce girls" and just be really nice and charming.
General Advice Thread:
AMA
I am a professional fresh out of school, I work in health care and I make 125k a year. I don't really pretend to be an expert in anything but I made it through a lot of years of school and bullshit even though I'm a loner so I think I could maybe help some of you guys on here. Anyways ask away.
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>>18252896
is that you??
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>>18252922
obviously not, is a random girl who I used to know a long time ago from a christian youth camp (though I am an athiest lol)
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What helped you study m'lady and do well in general
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Hi adv.
Do I have depression?
I really have no drive to do anything other then fap. While I still go to school anything and everything outside of school and friends is fapping. The first thing I do is fap when I wake up, get home, and before I go to bed. If anyone has advice, lemmie know.
Just some other info, I'm keeping all my academics up at an 87 average so fapping isn't affecting my life yet.
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You could just be burnt out. But hell if I know.
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>>18252821
Im in the same boat, but I'm older than you.
Since I stopped going to college, my average day consists of 'wake up. go to work. come home. sit at desk. browse net. fap. sleep. repeat'
I have a gf, but how shes still with me I don't know. I put off seeing her for extended periods of time because I have no desire to do anything at all.
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>>18252830
I guess, it's just that I've always been thinking to the past about what if I didn't stop playing the piano or whatnot. My dad constantly grills me for dropping it and makes me feel like a sack of shit. Then I started playing deemo and made me feel even worse for dropping it, then led me to ask on here. Hell, I almost asked mu about it.
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That's basically how I'm seeing my life after high school/college. Although I do hang out with people from time to time which consists of one person who I meet up with on a weekly basis and drive around central Alberta for kicks. Still feels empty.
>start dating gf when she was a virgin
>2.5 yrs pass
>plan on having kids and getting married when we're done with education
>find out her sister tells her she should 'explore other options' because I'm the only guy she ever dated
>she also thinks this is a toxic relationship even though she and her husband cheated on each other countless times
What can I do? My gf doesn't listen to her, but if she continuously keeps sabotaging our relationship like that who knows what might happen.
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>>18252804
If she leaves don't take her back.
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>>18252808
Of course, I just don't want it to get to that point.
We both live each other, but I've seen it happen before where friends of girls sabotage their relationships exactly like this.
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Her sister is envy because your gf got a better catch than her and have a healthier and happier relationship
Make it clear for your gf what a piece of shit her sister is
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Was in relationship which both me (26M) and gf (21F) agreed to be exclusive. Found out hard way she continued her work as an escort (which I was unaware of) the entire time we're together. What irritates me the most is the dishonesty, not even the job. On top of that she ended up claiming I didn't treat her right although I spent TIME and MONEY on this girl that I can never get back. She says I didn't. I'm not even sad to lose her. I'm seething. Want revenge. She randomly blocks me then suddenly texts me again out of the blue then blocks me again. She's clearly insane. I could write a novel but i don't have the energy right now. It's unreal.
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>>18252674
Fucking amazing blog post mate. I especially liked the part where you went onto an advice board and didn't ask for advice. Top notch stuff man, keep it up
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>>18252679
Lol. I figured it was implied I wanted either feedback for positive thinking/support or idea for revenge. My apologies for not being clear.
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Just drop it and get on with your life.
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In a few months I will be moving halfway across the country. I will be living in my first big city ever. I won't know anyone there, and I won't have any connections.
I guess my question is where do I start in terms of meeting people and making friends and forming relationships? I've live in the same place my whole life and have known the same people.
This is a necessary change but I'm kind of scared.
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>>18252566
Are you moving to phoenix or is pic not related?
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>>18252594
Yeah sorry, pic unrelated. Moving sort of close to Arizona though.
I guess what I'm saying is I basically don't remember how to make friends.
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>>18252604
Say the fucking city you cunt
Albuquerque? San Diego? Las Vegas? Salt Lake City? LA? Reno?
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Why can't I get a job? 2017-04-24 12:35:38 Post No.18252386
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I'm currently 18 and in my last year of high school. I have plenty of volunteer experience and whatnot, but I'd like to get myself a simple part-time job.
So far I've applied to 6 entry level places in foods services. I keep getting rejected, sometimes just ignored. I've usually sent my applications online but at one point I tried going in so that the manager could get a feel for me, but they fucking told me they'd prefer people to just apply online since it's easier.
TL;DR I just want a fucking part time job, what the hell am I doing wrong?
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>>18252386
It's normal to ask at 5-10 different places for jobs. The best is to call imo. Have a nice short talk. Most companies prefer older people because they dont tend to come to late and have more responsibility. See the whole thing as a challenge.
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you're not willing to work enough different times to be worth hiring.
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Had the same issue when I was applying for similar jobs at your age. I can provide two ideas:
1. Just keep applying and applying to local retail jobs until you get lucky
2. If you're willing and able to do full time work over the summer, contact a local temp agency and ask to be offered unskilled labor jobs that you can do over the summer. You'd likely make more money doing this than you would through part time work. Many of these jobs are blue collar, and set in factories.
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Girl agrees to date then proceeds to ghost me 2017-04-24 12:27:42 Post No.18252364
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Girl agrees to date then proceeds to ghost me
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So earlier this month I switched job locations and I met this cute female coworker who I hit it off with. She gave me her number and I proceeded to text her and set up a date. She said yes but I've gotten no further response to setting up where and what time we'll meet up.
I've asked some irl friends what to do in this case and they all said just wait it out. But we agreed to Tuesday of this week and I've gotten nothing back from her. Do I assume she's just not interested and move on? Or should I casually mention to her if she remembers? I haven't texted her since I've asked her a suggestion on when to meet as I'm afraid of coming off as desperate or needy.
tl;dr Met a girl at work. Got her number and asked her out. She agrees to date for Tuesday the proceeds to ghost me on the details.
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Tomorrow text her if you guys are still on for Tuesday, go from there. It's not desperate or needy to send a single text like that. Just dont pester her until she responds, that's some weird shit.
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>>18252382
I was considering that but I also will be able to see her in person today. Long story short, friend of mine needs a ride to work (we work at the same place) and I'll get to see her then. Would it be inappropriate to pop in say hello, have some small talk and casually bring it up?
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>>18252364
The safest thing to do is ask her about it in person if you see her.
Maybe stay behind after work?
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need dating advice or whatever
>girl in my study group
>cute
>asks if she wants to pick up food at x place on Friday last week
>she says sure
>she gets there and tells me that she's just going to get the food and go to her apartment (she was tired from staying up all night to write an essay or something)
>talk about stuff like school and other mundane things for like an hour in line, with some periods of silence
>she gets her food and leaves after we make a stop at some boba tea shop
not sure what to feel..
what should my next move be? thanks for any replies
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>talk about mundane things
>she's tired from something last night
You sounds kind of boring to talk to? Ask her about her boyfriend. I'm sure she'll have lots to say about him.
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>>18252333
I don't mean mundane as in boring, just nothing "deep," if you know what I mean. She wasn't lying either, she's told me about this essay before. Moreover, I know for a fact she doesn't have a boyfriend.
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>>18252351
Ask her out again.
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To put it briefly, I fucked up my relationship with my first love. I've dated in the past, which every one was manipulation and emotional abuse. I'm somewhat damaged but I'm getting better and not letting it kick me down. We haven't seen one another in over a month, with zero contact as she pretends I do not exist but keeps tabs on me through my snapchat story. Always views it. I really miss her and I just want to talk to her. I just don't know what to do anymore
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Cant go about fixing anything if we dont know what needs to be fixed.
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>>18252384
Right. Sorry, I'm just so sick of talking about it, it's been a while. I hurt her feelings by saying something similar to "I don't really care about us not seeing each other and talking" yadda yadda since we hadn't been seeing one another. I pushed her away bc I was stressed out and wasn't talking about it. It was one of those moments when you realized you were the one being a dummy after I guess I "broke up" with her. I lost her trust.
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>>18252229
Well obviously you have 2 choice. First is trying repair it, which you have to do patiently. Second is to forget her. Easy as that.
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What is:
1. The best food to eat.
2. The best age to not go past.
3. The best job.
4. The best type of personality.
5. The best physique?
6. The best thing to think about in-between doing things?
No trolling or bully please, need the actual correct answers so I can plan life accordingly.
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>>18252085
My opinion
1. Paleo diet mainly meat/other proteins, fruits and vegatables.
2. I'm too young to comment
3. The one that you're happy to do. For me I want to do chemistry/research so I can keep learning about the world
4. Without a doubt the best personality is a flexible one
5. For men, musclefat. For girls, firm and athletic.
6. How to do things better.
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>>18252113
>1. Paleo diet mainly meat/other proteins, fruits and vegatables.
LOL
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1. Spinach
2. The one you have when your SO dies
3. Pilot in a decent company. Work 2days a month and still earn 40K a year
4. Kind people trying to make the world a better place
5. Tall and skinny for men, not as tall as him and chubby for women
6. Realize how lucky you are to find time for doing nothing
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>be me senior in high school
>Start talking to this girl a bit
>Not really interested in her at first, just wanted to take her to prom because we have a lot of mutual friends
>Really hit it off with her, everything is going great
>We eventually agree to go to prom and I decided to do something cute like asking her to prom on Valentine's day so I tried to get her to go out and do something with me but she said she was busy
>I didn't think anything of it and decided I wouldn't do some stupid sign
>She starts growing distant, blows me off whenever I try to text her and replies become much less interested
>Finally ask her what's wrong and she tells me she just got out of a bad relationship (keep in mind I wasn't trying to date her)
> I didn't say I didn't have feelings for her because I felt it would make it worse
>say we can be friends but it becomes mutual that we're not going together to prom
>Talk to her less and less
>She gets with a piece of shit who I know cheats on everyone he's ever dated
>Still don't care too much about it since I didn't have feelings for her
>Loathed her for lying to me about not wanting a relationship though
>About a week and a half before prom, having decided I wasn't going and had made peace with this
>She suddenly texts me, asking if I wanted to go to prom with her as friends
>Like an idiot i agree
>Two days before prom I find out that she is dating this piece of shit but he asked someone else before they hooked up
>Still go because I would look like the douche if I cut it off
>Go to prom with large group of friends, have a blast dancing and dining
>Then the piece of shit shows up and asks for a dance with her
>Again I would look like a dick if I said no so I say I'm ok with it
>over the night i begin to fall in love with this girl
>Wake up the next day completely depressed and don't get out of bed until 3 pm
>Shes still with this guy and and I don't know if I can keep watching them together
what can I do?
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Anybody?
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>>18252071
There isn't really much you can do. Just forget about her for now
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Cut her off
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How do I force my self to completely loose interest in someone?
I've fallen bad for someone at work, she's engaged, it'll never work, and I feel like shit. It' hurts, real bad. I've tried doing different things, exercising, reading, watching movies, games, driving, can't get her out of my head, can't sleep cause always thinking of her and my chest hurts. Drinking with friends takes her out of my head, and it helps me sleep as well but I really don't wanna go down that road every day. It's retarded I know but fuck me I can't help it.
I've been thinking of confronting her but this will make my work place unbearable I'm sure.
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Anyone?
I've been thinking about hitting up tinder and that kinda shit, but I've never used anything like that before
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>>18252042
Bumping because I'm in a similar situation
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Same here, anyone have ideas for this situation? Not sleeping is getting rough
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Hi /adv/,
My girlfriend says she is depressed and has recently started taking anti depressants.
My trouble with it is that I dont think she has the mindset that she can feel better and I think that a ot of her thoughts contribute to how she feels. Often I even question some of them.
For example, she started taking anti depressants and the first thing she said is that she has to keep an eye out on side effects in the first 2 weeks etc. Normally a sensible comment, however I know/knew this would be a trigger to have said side effects. Now I said that each side effect is highly unlikely and to get two or three would be super-rare, however she mentioned a few already. "oh I get so dizzy when I stand up", or "my concentration is really low at the moment", this is just a few days after taking them.
Two weeks later and she says that she is getting bad sleep, like she doenst feel like she has had proper deep sleep and feels tired. "Not sleeping is a major depression trigger btw" and other self-proclaimed expert opinions.
I just feel like she is very dramatic about everything and if something is a potential negative, then it will happen, or at least through sheer worrying about it it actually happens.
I don't want to come across as insensitive or unsupportive but I almost don't believe some of her statements. Currently I'm supporting her but its really hard when she seemingly doesnt want help, any help doesnt work or causes other problems.
Am I totally not understanding her depression problems? I just feel like she naturally has a dramatic personality, is partial to the odd BS claim, and it feels a little like that.
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What is she depressed about?
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>>18252049
nothing in particular, she's always said she has waves of depression, just says she feels numb to emotion.
Imagine living at home still with no job, long distance relationship etc doesnt help
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Sounds like my cousin who is a hypochondriac.
Unfortunately she has children and they are suffering some Munchausen syndrome by proxy bullshit.
She claims they don't eat, have celiac and she is supposedly gluten intolerant and lactose intolerant (my family is white enough to blind and no one else on either side has these genetic issues, and neither does the father of her children). She also claims they have some sort of ketone glucose processing disease that is like diabetes but isn't (you have to test the kid's ketones with a finger prick of blood every day), some stupid rare shit that isn't really even accepted among main stream doctors. Claims their energy is low
Whenever they have visited my father or my grandmother or they visit the kids, the kids have a voracious appetite and are completely fine.
Get out before you get entrenched and commit, because hypochondriacs will carry this over to their offspring.
I say this because I actually suffered manic depression from a dopamine imbalance due to to Accutane, so I know what legit depression needing meds feels like. And surprisingly it doesn't completely revolve around self-pity, that is how you can tell the difference between someone going through a sad time or for attention they are being denied, and legitimate neurotransmitter depression.