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We've been together for over a year now and we're both 26 years old, if that matters. We recently started living together, that's why I never noticed anything before.

He writes erotica. That's it. That's the big secret. I found his account, which he was still logged into, on one of those erotica sites and he's pretty much written for every single category except gay/lesbian and transsexual. He's written romance stories (sugar sweet and bittersweet ones), he's written about swinging and about cheating, about non-consent (from both sides), he's written about fetishes, he's written about incest, about mature couples and age-play, he's written some thrillers and mysteries, he's written some fantasy and science fiction, but bottom line is that it's all got porn in it, one way or another. Overall, there's more than a hundred stories on his profile, the earliest one posted 8 years ago.

So uhhh - I never really expected this kind of shit. I was thinking he was maybe spending money on something stupid or that he got into online gambling or even cheating on me.

I have no idea how to deal with this, other than you know wait for him to come home today from work and talk with him about it, but it's really unknown grounds for me.

To be honest, I didn't really read through all of that shit, just skimmed someone, and while I'm not really happy about him writing some of them (mainly the cheating ones), I do realize this is just fiction.

Anyway, my question is: how the fuck do I go about talking about it with him and has anyone here been in a similar situation before?

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A girl i know (last year we both flirted for some days and held hands but nothing more) started flipping me off at a birthday party, she was with her boyfriend (who's my friend) and i was sitting next to him sometimes talked with him.
she did this many times during the party but she did not look angry or pissed but rather happy.
What was going on through her head? keep in mind that we kinda became friends some months after flirting

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I grew up here but I'm a hapa. (Asiatic in appearance).

How do I get a GF?

I'm tired of being in environments where I can't meet girls.

I'm either not gaijin enough for gaijin Hunter girls, or I'm too gaijin for normal Japanese girls.

Fuck my life

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Just imagine that I want to build my own villa, perhaps dedicated to wineyards (as seen in The Witcher 3: Blood and Wine), but a modern one (solar panels, modern construction...). If I attract enough workers, and they start living near to my villa, I would claim my own town, where I'd be the leader.

Would it be possible, and profitable?

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I'm now 31, I'm increddibly depressed, especially right now.
Where in LA can I meet and date women? Where is a place where they want to be picked up and hit on?

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Hi guys

I need your advice. I'm planning on finishing my college education this year but I have some factors to consider

* College will need money and this will offset my proposal to my GF
* I'm already a project manager for a company so do i still need the degree?

Any tips / advice appreciated

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>hookup with some slut in 2015
>she gets pregnant
>doesn't know who the father is
>Tells me this one year later (early 2016)
>Wants me to do a dna test, but I'm on the other side of the country.
>Say I'll agree to it when I'm down over the summer to visit my folks
>When I'm down she doesn't want to do it anoymore because her boyfriend's playing the dad role.
>okay
>tell her she shouldn't have told me, fucks with me a fuck a bit, but whatever, I'll move on and she'll be fine
>they split up february
>I'm now in a stable relationship with a qt3.14
>today
>Her: "Hey"

What should I do /adv/? I want to duck it and just ignore her. Or perhaps I should just tell her what's going on in my life and that I'm not interested...tell her to ask those other dudes she's fucked to get the test. Because she knows my conscious tells me to the right the thing I feel like I'm beeing exploited a little bit.

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A few years ago I was in a car crash and broke three vertebrae. I am mostly fine now, but I was left partially incontinent as a result and have to wear absorbent underwear now due to occasional leaks. Anyway, a girl I know has shown interest in me, and I really like her, but I am scared of getting intimate with her due to my issue. How should I go about telling her about it?

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Why do most women like getting their hair pulled, asses spanked, lightly choked, lifted up, earlobes bitten, necks nibbled, and called princess?

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Am I selfish /adv/?

I'm an immigrant from Argentina, me and my family moved here when I was 15 and I am now 26.

My father moved my mother and brother and myself here from Mar Del Plata, Argentina because if a belief that this country is the only way people can become someone in this life.

I'd agree with him, but ever since I came here at 15, I have never felt like i belonged, I feel like an outsider here. We first lived in Livermore, California for 3 years then my dad moved us to Portland, Oregon where I live now.

I'm about to graduate from PSU very soon and I plan on moving back to Argentina permanently.

I told this to my parents and they became irate. telling me that I was selfish and I was trowing away everything they worked to give me by going back.

honestly, this is the worst part of this, my parents and younger brother. They all act like they are Americans, like this country has accepted them and does not hate them for who they are. Well they do. And it is the same for me.

I have no friends because my English isn't very good when I speak it, and when I lived in livermore I was constantly called a spic by the other kids on the bus because I was still learning English.

I have grown to hate my father and mother for bringing me here and trying to destroy my identity and replace it with a "better" one,My father is the biggest piece of shit I've known, He gave up 2 pharmacies he owned to come here and mother was a local municipal chief of office of our county in Argentina, and she gave up helping her country to come here and spend all day watching netflix.


Am I selfish /adv/ ? or are my parents what I suspect they are, self hating assholes who turned my brother against his culture and country and are trying to get him to forget his Spanish.

Who is right or wrong?

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If you find yourself in a situation where, for example, you manage to scratch your face, blinding yourself, and bleeding.

You wouldn't die, but you would be severely incapacitated by pain and the lost of your vision. What's the best course of action in such a situation? Or other similar extremely painful/crippling but not deathly situations?

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I'm a politically far right /pol/ack. I live in one of the most liberal states in America (California). How does one even get a girlfriend. People in my age group are complete degenerates

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I'm acquainted with an older (12 years, I'm 23) lady who is foreign and isn't fluent in English. Me met via mutual friends and generally only see each other in group settings and I sometimes bump into her in town.

When we've been with each other we've had the opportunity to have decent conversations in semi-privacy and circumstance has allowed for two spur-of-the-moment catch-ups over coffee. Not dates as they weren't prearranged but they felt like it.

Our friends tells me that she often talks about me and seems to be romantically interested. She's been very open with me, doesn't hide the fact that she's lonely and talks about her fears regarding her career (she's overqualified for current position).

She does this thing when conversation pauses whereby she stares quite longingly at me and I do the same thing in response (a bit half-heartedly as I don't want to push it).

I'm concerned that because her English isn't that great and she is from a different continent I may be misinterpreting some signals and if I try to flirt she may misinterpret mine.

I know she likes me. I'm sure she knows I like her (as a friend at least, maybe romantically). Don't know if she is aware I'm aware she is into me.

I really would like to progress the relationship but I'm not sure how. Outright asking for a date seems too risky. I've tried to give the impression I'm available if she ever wants to meet but that may have been lost in translation.

She probably wants me to make the first move but she is quite a sensitive person and I don't want to put her in a awkward position. Also, she's not hiding the fact that she likes me as more than a friend but to what degree I don't know.

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How do you go around with finding a date if you're asexual?

My first instinct is that a man will drop absolutely everything at the first implication that sex won't be pleasant and plentiful, so I'm guessing that openly advertising that won't be my best bet.

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How do I open a conversation with an older woman? I'm 24 and she's 32 but her desired range starts at 24. I've had a huge crush on her but fear sending the wrong message and getting rejected because of it without being given a chance.