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>>18267125
not sure
yes

that is the sign of a shitty bar and all your money is in tips so you don't want that anyway

>>18267155
I'm sorry

>>18267125
>How do I be a bartender

Enroll in a bartending school. Not legally required in many areas but it will show you have at least some experience. Find a reputable school that has great hook-ups for after you finish. If you're in the DC area there's one school that has a 95% hire rate for their students. The average price is around 500.

>Is it enough to live on
Depends on where you work. High-end bars with a wealthy clientele and great tips, probably depending on the city. The average dive bar? No, most of those people do it for extra cash flow.

>I want the idealized version where you're never swamped busy but not doing horribly and it's empty, a good trickle in a non partybar

There are some really high-end bars built into things like restaurants and clubs here in D.C. that cater to the elite. They aren't busy and the pay/tips are very high, but you have to be extremely experienced to work there. One or two fuck-ups and you're gone.

You also have to realize that you can't work a slow bar and expect to live off it. You either work a busy bar and get a decent amount of tip or you work a slow bar and take home your hourly and don't complain.

>>18267118
Unemployment office?
Employment agencies?

In pretty much the same boat as OP. Been a NEET for two years now.

>>>/pol/123209875
Can't remember the last time I saw a mod on /pol/

>>18267118
I would start by making CV and applying to jobs? How hard would that be?

>>18267071
you really need to report it to the police even if the children don't want it done.

at some point this sicko is going to escalate to diddling children in the physical world instead of online.

>>18267128
I actually have called in about this TWICE. I was told if there is no proof that I can show, I should not call because I could be making untrue allegations that ruin somebody's life. I cannot show any proof other than 3rd party info. (conversations with people right before their accounts got deactivated) I will try again though, trust me. I will not let this go.

IF this is real, and idk if it is, then I think you've found yourself at the shittiest part of the law. The part where everything is based on whether or not something happens. Idk but i hope those poor girls are okay.

>>18267065
>Is this really what friendship is all about?

No, you got shafted by God.

>One technique that was repeated over and over again in these books was to focus all your effort on asking people about themselves, then listen intently, then ask questions about their response. And repeat. Over and over again.

I don't know, people eventually figure out that there is no back and forth going on.

This is a tip for when you are first establishing a connection. It helps people like you and feel at ease with you - everyone loves someone who takes a sincere interest in them, regardless of whether they find you personally attractive or interesting at the first glance. Obviously if someone never reciprocates your efforts then there is no point in wanting much to do with them to begin with. But ideally you reserve the final judgment on whether you want to date or be friends with this person, not them.

>treated as an emotional sponge
It is possible to get caught up in a servant type of role. Happened to me as well when I had that age. People are essentially still like kids in a way - they push your boundaries, but in the end of the day they prefer people who are pleasant to them AND respect themselves enough to be a doormat. If you propose yourself as their punching bag vs emotional tampon vs ever-smiling sidekick, they will never take you seriously as a person.
But this is not a pattern that is established within a few conversations or with a couple of mannerisms. If you are friendly and show a lot of interest, but also talk about yourself, tell them no or that you disagree whenever relevant, they aren't going to see you as "beta".

Also an astounding number of people don't know how to ask questions or don't care to. I don't befriend these people and if I can't avoid being around them (eg as colleagues), I will ask them about themselves and when I feel the need to say something I just bombard them with it without their nudging. Readjust my expectations and be extra grateful for my friends.

>>18267086
>AND respect themselves enough to be a doormat
I meant to -not- be a doormat, obviously.

Also fucked up the last sentence of the first part, I meant to say: ideal scenario is that as many people as possible enjoy being around you, and then you get to pick who you actually like to be around. Which means trying to please everyone at first and then figuring out who actually puts in effort themselves, who takes an interest in you in turn.

If I spend another summer unemployed at home, I'm going to sink back into the downward spiral. I feel like a teenager trying to get a first job but keeps getting denied because he has no experience. How am I supposed to get experience if you need experience to get experience lmao, nice system.

>>18266954
Two points:

The average job hunt takes 6 months, so you are very premature in your panic.

And job ads are wishlists, descriptions of the ideal candidate. If that perfect person doesn't apply, they'll take the best of those who do.

In particular, any request for 2 or 3 years experience will consider a beginner if you impress them. I know a few people fresh out of school who talked/interviewed/impressed their way into jobs that had asked for experience.

>>18266995
ok, but how can I impress them if my grades were average to above average. Most of them require excellent knowledge of the fauna and flora but I've never worked in the field so I can't identify species as well as someone who did. I'll keep that in mind though, my friend suggested to try applying to places even if I don't have the required experience.

>I drank something. It made me sick
>I drank it again. It made me sick again.
> I decided to drink it one more time. It once again made me sick
>Is the drink making me sick?

Umm... yes?

Never had this... but come on dude... are you that cheap you can't chuck a bottle of bargain bin achohol?

I've gotten bad batches of shit before, but I always spit it out the second I realize it's gone off and don't repeatedly attempt to consume it so I have no idea what it does to you, but it's pretty common sense to NOT do so if it's clearly making you sick.

>>18266983
Not gonna lie, part of me keeps testing it because I'm salty about throwing out around 3 months of booze since I don't have a job.

I started getting more curious after Googling it because there were so many 'alcohol can't go bad!' articles. If it's somehow impossible for the alcohol to be bad then that would mean there's something wrong with me.

>>18266911
>is it a bad batch of alcohol
That's not really a thing. If you had a drink that was methanol instead of ethanol you'd just be blind.

It could be any number of things, from a stomach infection to an ulcer to liver damage to a reaction to sulfites in the wine and liquor, to a brand new allergy.

If you've been sick lately stop drinking for a while. If you're drinking on an empty stomach, stop. See if you're noticing stomach issues when you're not drinking.

>>18266871
I feel you, if you're unsure if life is worth living find a reason to make it worth while. You only got one shot at life yo, make it count. Why wait around when you can go for the adventure of a life-time?

>>18266871

Life isn't dull by default, but dull people tend to make dull choices that make life seem that way too.

>>18266918
>life isn't dull by default
modern life is

spend 40 hours a week at a job that takes you 5 hours to do and impacts precisely no one anywhere in the world to pay off perpetual debt so that you can live in relative comfort when not in the office.

Or have some kids and basically make your life a living hell at all times

>>18266855
>Bueno or No Bueno

I love when americans butcher my language

Of course it's a shithole. If it wasn't, do you think they'd bother hiring someone who couldn't keep a dishwashing job for six months if they weren't?

>>18266881
Whoa that was redundant. I should proofread, more.

>>18266839
Distract yourself. Absolutely anything that gets your mind off yourself. Clean the house, watch a funny movie, immerse yourself in the routine details of the day. Get out of the loop of being fascinated by your own unhappiness.

>>18266839
I'm not suicidal but I am a funeral director. I attend many suicide scenes and organize funerals for people who have killed themselves.

Everyone always says the same things. "I didn't even know he was depressed" "Why didn't he talk to someone?" Many of their funerals have hundreds of people show up. Seems like a lot of these people don't realize there's lots of help out there if you just ask for it.

Another thing I've found is that suicide tends to be so impulsive. Many scenes I've went to the police report the person had just spoken to a relative not too long ago. A husband sat down and had supper with his wife, then went upstairs and shot himself. A brother asks his brother where his parents went out to, then goes to the garage and shoots himself. A kid texting and chatting with friends on his phone and facebook and kills himself in the middle of messages. Never ended any conversation he was in.

Might be best to hold off and seek help. Seems like some people just hit a point where they can't take it and do themselves in when things would have likely improved had they just stayed the course.

>>18266869
>Everyone always says the same things. "I didn't even know he was depressed" "Why didn't he talk to someone?"

Because if you tell a professional you are going to hurt yourself, they lock you up? Also my healthcare doesn't cover anybody who is seeing patients right now.

>>18266836
for the first half of your text - have you tried ... talking to him about this?

>>18266913
Yeah, as far as doing stuff together is concerned we don't like the same stuff. We've tried finding something to do but one of us usually doesn't care for the activity the other wants to do. Like he'll want to watch a movie and I just want to cuddle. Or he wants to play Persona and I just have to keep myself occupied on my 3DS. He never wants to come rock climbing with me or hiking.

And the sex.. Like what is there to talk about there? I've just resorted to masturbating in his dorm bathroom whenever I'm horny so I don't get tempted. Fuck dude. Don't get me wrong, there have been few and very far between times when both he and I can have a sexual experience together in which both of us finish. But if I'm being honest with myself I don't exactly find it satisfying.

Man, most nights I just feel like staying in my dorm. At least then I can use my desktop and work on my art.

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I feel like I'm only now asking /adv/ because it's quickly approaching the summer and he'll have more time to spend with me with classes finishing up. And maybe I don't want to spend more time with him.

But I feel that maybe I'm just being selfish. Like I don't want to put enough effort into the relationship and I'm just waiting for it to fall apart. I feel bad for that. Should I feel bad?

I mean, he is completely content with the situation. With us. We could get married next week and he'd be happy. On the one hand that makes me sick just thinking about committing to him. On the other hand I feel terrible for wanting to throw something like that away because he's not perfect.

Maybe I just want to be alone so I don't have to torture myself anymore.

Pick up Nofap, semen retention, meditation, cold showers, Wim Hoff Method and start training lifting weights or better yet just do calisthenics. Stay positive and feed your mind with positive affirmations etc listen to the joe rogan podcast and motivational speeches blah blah. I run while learning different languages from audio books. Remember that progress EQUALS HAPPINESS. Dont stop for nothing. be the hero of your own movie and watch your spirit mind and body become a fucking god. Watch the girls run to you BUT dont be cockey. Stay wise.
>p.s i had to re-write this fucking thing cause my browser got fucked lol

Dw worry about depression when you're on this lifestyle because it practically doesnt exist with your new NATURAL mind. All your chemical imbalances will be gone and you will have a mind of clarity... something most men lack.

And once you become ambitious you will shoot your life problems with better aim. Everything just gets easier

>>18266771
I think its natural friendo. I'm 24 and I believe I've already had my mid life crisis. I've lost many friends earlier and in 2016 my family also started dropping by the bunch. It has started to get easier and I realize nothing lasts forever. The trick is to be able to enjoy something while still knowing it will not last and not be bothered by it. I have a really good image with a quote on this subject by epicorus (or something), I'll try to dig it up

>>18266771
Im not sure about quarter life crisis but it is possibly a bit of loneliness. Whether this is reassuring or not to you I dont know but of all that Ive heard and read, there is nothing between dying and the perceived day of judgement which kinda makes sense. That way, until everyone is judged one way or another, all are equal before the law even after death.

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>>18266787
found it

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>>18266737
I was born. Grew up same town. Military service, cheating wife, depression, soon end of life. 4/10 would not play again. Bretty good K/D at least

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>>18266792
newfags cant you must know this by now

I dont know if this is the correct board for this, everything else seems to be more serious. Sorry if wrong place.

Im also open to TV shows as well, i liked.

Dexter
Dr Strange
Rick and Morty
Stranger things

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>>18266683
only one I've heard of is death note (the movie). So no. But my favorite anime movie is porco rosso, check it out if you haven't seen it. (Or see it again for the 100th time like I will tonight).

I currently watch Rick and Morty (best show ever), south park, family guy and simpsons

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>>18266683
Also liked, redline racing, kawai complex, Charlotte, one piece, opm, monster, phyco pass
There is loads more i just have trouble remembering them all

>>18266698
Never heard of it, but ill give it a go. thanks anon

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>>18266658

To marry or not marry?
I know what the answer is but would like to hear your reasoning.

>>18266675
1) Let's start with the brute numbers. Married people
-Live longer
-Are healthier
-Have less stress
-Make more money
-Have more frequent sex
-Have higher quality of sex
-Have a wider circle of friends
etc. These benefits start effectively as soon as you marry and end when you divorce. Even living together doesn't give as much benefit.

2) Then dispelling myths:
-Most first marriages do not end in divorce. Yes, at one point almost 50% of all marriages ended in divorce but the rate of first marriage ending in divorce has been falling for over 40 years
-Divorce laws have changed a great deal and in most places are not nearly as stacked against the ex-husband
so the risk of divorce and the negative effects of divorce have been falling for a long time. It is not nearly as fraught with peril as you have been told.

3) And the best reason
-You get to live with someone you care about so much you want to spend the rest of your life with them.

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>>18266700

I hope the list of benefits are true for you, I know they're not true for many marriages.

If you were to chose an education today, with regards to the technological changes in our society
that we can see coming (like AI and robots taking most jobs), what field would it be in?
I'm ex military, 26 and have never gone to school after high school. It might be time for me to pick education soon.