Here's my story:
>be average white guy
>start college in 2014
>living in dorm
>make a few friends
>we study, play frisbee, go to the gym, and drink together
>after the first semester, they all disperse to fraternies, student governments, and other universities
>I try making new friends
>realize that the school is overrun with niggers and gooks who want to be niggers
>frats and sororities all listening to nigger music
>affirmative action trying to make the school population look like a perfect box of crayons
>grade inflation allows shitty students to pass classes they normally wouldn't
>ruins the whole experience for the people who actually deserve to be in college
I'm not racist or anything despite what the new definition of racism might imply, but nigger culture is completely innapropriate for the college scene. The ignorant nigger music that all sounds like some shitty club mix, the Black Lives Matter movement, and the lack of work ethic just destroys all the fun and meaning of college life.
I know there's people on this board that feel the same. How does a white guy go through college in the 21st century? Does he just hide in a corner and pretend it isn't happening?
Possible to transfer?
>>18270262
It's possible, but I'm not sure if it would solve the problem. I have friends at other universities in my area who say there's the same problem where they are. And moving out of state isn't financially feasible for me since college also isn't cheap anymore.
>>18270273
I see.
You said you tried making new friends. Care to tell about how that went/is going? Have you met anyone that might be suited for friendship?
Known any people like this /adv/? I'm interested to know what jobs they manage to get.
>>18270205
They're usually from very privileged backgrounds so in a lot of cases, their parents will grudgingly support them.
Either that or craft beer pubs/shops, coffee shops or record shops.
>>18270205
Tattoo parlors maybe? That looks terrible
Forklift drivers
How do I restart a Facebook convo with this girl,
Let me start by saying I don't put pussy on a pedestal,
I don't think a girl I've liked has ever liked me though and this isn't an exception.
Basically I've been trying to make conversation with this girl, in real life we get along really well as social budfies, online her replies kinda suck but she hasn't just ignored me and she's asked me some pretty lengthy questions too,
We were joking around a few days ago and the Convo kinda died as a lot of conversations do, im not sure how to talk to her again
I've already asked to hang out and she gave me a long-winded denial.
Idk what to do, being Indian fucks up all hope of online dating cause no one finds its attractive and the people I try to meet in real life and put myself out there with don't want to build meaningful relationships, am I just fucked
>>18270176
If you get along well in real life just focus your efforts there. Carrying on conversations via social media is a waste of time.
Not OP but kinda similar. Facebook sucks.
>be me
>get along great with anon irl
>give him my number on fb
>ignored
>tell him we should hang out before summer starts
>ignored
>specifically ask him to hang out at a specific place and time
>ignored
>kind of frustrated at this point
>sperg out and say I'll take that as a no
>he responds within seconds, has other plans
>ok what about the next day
>starts to say another excuse so I just call it off
Kind of regret even asking in the first place now.
I obviously want to hang out with him but asking to do so in a way that is not face to face was dumb.
I'm sure I got annoying. Should just leave communication to the real world.
I had the opportunity to ask him in person but didn't.
Don't do any of that.
And that's my /adv/ice. Stop message her. Talk in real life and if you don't have the guts to do it there then you're not worth her time.
I don't have anywhere else to go.
>In college
> Bio-mom was addicted to drugs and caused me to be a premature baby. Doctors thought I wouldn't walk or talk. (perfectly healthy person btw)
> Adopted by white family. I'm a minority.
> Sexually abused by brothers from very young age.
>10 years old, sister finds out and brothers are sent away. Talk to cops and therapist for years. Lie because I know the goal was to reunify siblings and my parents loved my brothers. Say it wasn't that bad. It was bad.
>Hate self. Wanted to die.
>No friends in school. Loner. Started being on computer and never socialized. Quit sports and any other interests. Wasn't hard to hide away since the school was racist and prejudice against me and my family.
>Sister kicked out for being a drug addict.
>Don't know who I am, depressed with no one to look up to.
>8th grade, therapist says we should reunite and he should move home. He does. I hate him.
>9th grade, brother spreads around the school that I like getting fucked by my brothers. Kids start making comments. If wasn't suicidal before, am now.
>Move first year of high school. Life slightly better, Has friends.
>Brother is delinquent, sister still drug addict. Other brother no one but my father talks to.
>Sister has a baby, parents welcome her back with open arms. Sister brings baby daddy. They fight next to my room every night. Hearing the violence.
>Sister abandons baby with my parents.
>Parents adopt him.
>Drug addicts steal- my entire childhood toys and card and collectibles gone. Parents expensive things are gone.
> Cars get stolen multiple times.
>Kids in school somehow know they are my siblings. Hates life more.
> Finally make it out of high school. Siblings in and out of jail.
>Don't know what I want to do in college. No skills, depressed.
>Other brother is back, has a kid. Obese. Feels really bad for it. Pretty sure he abuses.
>Mom says we should forgive siblings. Hate her for this. Get into many fights.
Make it clear to your mother that the topic of reconciliation should never be addressed with you again. You can do this in a letter or do it face to face. That's first. Second, replace your doorknob with one that locks with a key. If anyone has a problem with that, make sure that they know that this is something you need for your own safety and to have a space of your own where you feel safe. If they still have a problem, then they don't care about your safety and you should leave.
A lot of abused kids are happier being homeless because psychologically, you need to have a space where you can feel safe. Without that, it's impossible to learn and anything beyond the basics in college would be irrelevant because you just won't learn.
You can also apply for scholarships that include residence somewhere far away from home.
>Mom lets brothers around little nephew they adopted. Makes me super angry. No one listens
>Starts not coming home.
>Boyfriends leave me because I never do anything to fix the situation. Can't?
>Finds good guy, dates for years. Hang out daily. He goes to good school. I'm lonely, often go to his school.
>In community college for long time. Fails a lot of classes because depression.
>Finally finishes and takes year off.
>Starts dancing again. Really happy.
>Boyfriend and I have many problems. Might be cheating. Who knows. I deserve it.
>Has great job. Has fun dancing.
>Moves in with SO because it's too rough at my house.
>Wants to leave but doesn't make enough to live alone. Hates life more. Stuck. Depressed.
>We stop dating but he lets me stay at his house. He doesn't care because he stays at college a few mins away anyway. His mom loved me.
>Applies for college, gets into one 400+ miles away. Takes it because life is shit anyway.
>Happy at college. Bf and I break up.
>Hears all the crimes my siblings do. Tries to forget
>Brother has baby, parents has custody. Now they take care of brother who is handicapped and in his 30s.(not a criminal obviously, can't even talk) Brother's kid and Sisters kid.parents in 60s.
>Mom now addicted to xanax, depressed and sleeps all day. Father takes care of everyone. Feels bad for him. Diagnosed with terrible heart and lungs. Feels even more bad.
Me now:
>End of first year at college
> Sister far away, ran away, drug addict and mom maybe helped run away from the law.
>Brother recent arrests for bank robbery.
>Other brother might be involved
>Brothers kids might be other brothers kid, crazy Jerry springer shit.
>Hating life. Wants to die. Doesn't want to go home in 3 weeks. Kill me please.
Hey /adv/,
this might be a very specific case, but I thought I'll give it a try and maybe you come up with some good ideas what to do.
Also sorry for my fucked up English.
I work at a youth center where we provide different workshops and a café for children. We also have a holiday care so parents can bring their kids to us when they have to work, which used to be my favorite shift. Now the fucking daughter of my boss started working there during all holidays and she's a real nightmare. During the first holiday care, I didn't know what kind of character she were, so I didn't give much attention and just did my thing - I spent most of my time (at least 5 hours a day) in the sport hall playing ball games with the kids. It's what they like most, so I usually ended up looking after more children than anyone else there. I'm relatively new there, so I'm still rather enthusiastic and don't mind doing some extra work here and there.
I also never take my break because my entire work contains of playing with children, so I usually just sit down for 5 minutes to catch a break and solve some crossword riddles or something. One day, I was really fucking tired after playing for five hours straight (I also have to do pretty much all the "hard" work there, because we're only a few guys under many women who would never do shit like carrying tables around and whatnot), so I sat in the café for 20-30 minutes, which happened to be my regular break.
(cont.)
>>18270126
Fast forward a week. We're in a team sitting and the boss asks us about the holiday care and how it went. Then he jokes "Well, I heard anon spent most of the time behind the counter doing crosswords." As it turns out, his daughter's on a mission to make sure that I'm a good caretaker, but she never actually entered the sport hall because that would mean she has to work. All she ever does is sit in the cafe and play board games with the kids, so the only thing she saw from me during the holidays was me taking a break.
Of course I tried to explain that during the meeting. I actually like my boss and showed many times that I'm working rather hard, so he didn't think too much of it. He believes all the shit his daughter tells him, but he also takes into account that that was just what she saw and not what really happend.
cont.
>>18270127
Anyway, now I knew that she's spying on me, so I was prepared to work my ass off during the next holidays.
While she was just sitting around, I basically entertained 50 children on my own and prepared some pretty cool workshops and whatnot (she prepared one, but she ended up not doing it because she didn't feel like it).
However, after talking to my boss one week later, he mentioned that I let too many things slide, which can lead to accidents - I observe too long before I actually go in and stop the kids. That's actually a somewhat fair complaint, because, as I said, I'm relatively new and I sometimes lack the confidence to stop a bunch of raging kids from creating havoc.
For example, the kids put all their backpacks on the floor of the café and I didn't think too much of it. My boss came in and saw it, so he told me that other children could trip, which makes this a potential security threat.
I told everyone to get those backpacks away and that was the end of the story. The only thing that bothered me was that only I got lectured, even though EVERY caretaker was in the room, as well. On the next day, I was in the Garden, cleaning up cut-off branches from the heck and doing some other things, to minimize the security hazards there. When I came in, I saw the backpacks back on the floor and told all children to remove them. What I didn't know was that my boss already saw them lying there and he was mad as shit because it happened again - and of course, it was my fault again.
That still bugs me, but before I go too much off-topic, lets talk about what his daughter told him again.
>>18270131
I asked my boss if he could remember what his daughter told him this time and what I did wrong, so I could learn from my mistakes. He couldn't remember most of it and most things were unimportant crap. For example, I don't mind when children touch my bald head or pull my beard while playing, as long as they don't overstep their boundaries. It's not fucking school and they are there to have some fun, we're caretakers, not teachers.
The biggest "complaint" was that one of our trainees, a 13-year-old boy, took the shoes from a child and didn't want to give it back. I was in the same room and I didn't give a shit, because in my eyes, they were just messing around. When the shoeless girl came to the counter and complained about her missing shoe, of course I told the trainee to stop with that shit. However, the fact that I didn't interfere sooner was a no-go in her eyes and my boss agrees. It still bothers me that SHE never interfered and neither did all the other caretakers. Also, I was working during that time and couldn't just stop cleaning up to deal with that bullshit when so many other people are around.
I told my boss to be more strict and that was the end of the conversation.
help please.
knee so painful can't sleep and can barely move. it's middle of night here right now so can't go to doctor or pharmacy. took diclofenac sodium which i normally use for my gout but took last one i had a few hours ago.
i think it's bursitis due to gout. i have gout but this time no pain around toe. it's around knee cap and there's small round something underneath skin at side of knee cap that's source of pain and it's soft seems like filled with fluid. and above it on the skin a small bump that has the shape of a small pimple or small insect bite.
can't sleep because of pain but it's not the extreme throbbing pain of gout but still very painful to walk around.
should i apply ice on knee?
>>18270119
also, have had pain on knee for a few days but stupid me has gotten used to pain on legs that didn't think much of it until now when it's so painful can't sleep and can barely more around.
>>18270119
It is better to go to doctor than to lose ability to walk for good.
>>18270151
true, thanks. but looking for immediate tips for right now. as i said it's middle of night where i'm at currently.
>18
>Social reject
>Prom next week
>I'm going to this hippie festival thing (alone) to avoid the shame of staying home on prom night
How do I quit feeling shitty about something so stupid. I know i'm being irrational but this builds on bad shit i've felt since I was a kid getting bullied in grade school
if you are going to a festival try talking to people there and not give a fuck
in the long term, prove yourself to yourself by working on a hobby or creating something
Drink heavily
College is better anyhow
If you're going just because you feel like a loser for not going to prom, you're going for the wrong reason
But just try to make the most of it anyway, do some drugs and meet some people, you'll have fun if you relax a little bit and try to enjoy yourself
how do i respond to a compliment when i don't agree?
>>18270053
depends. its kinda like someone stating their opinion on religion. yours doesnt actually matter, they'll believe what they want.
>>18270073
that's true. but i can't help but feel mocked, even though i know that's not the intention.
>>18270084
>the only way to not feel mocked is to turn down praise
so you realize this is pretty strictly YOUR issue and trying to denounce any compliment oyu disagree with is taking out your own issues on other people, yeh?
if someone compliments you roll with it, just be like 'you're too kind' which implies that you disagree but are responding positively.
it all ust depends though. i once slept with a guy and he dropped like ten compliments on me and i drew the line at 'smart'. he threw a little fit like 'WOW HWY CANT PEOPLE JUST TAKE COMPLIMENTS THESE DAYS JUST TAKE THE COMPLIMENT'
and i told him 'i just took 9 fucking compliments ina row, but we've only fucked you have no idea if im smart'.
so yeah if someones clearly kissing ass, go ahead and call em out.
Any dermatology anons or medfags here to tell me what these fuckers are on my nose? Its really hurting my already 3/10 looks. What can I do to get them to fuck off?
>>18270019
Great photo. I can see orange blurry.
Try again.
>>18270150
Better?
wart, cyst, or spot
go to a fucking doctor, get it removed
She's good looking, but not stunning.
She's not particularly intelligent.
She doesn't have a stable career and lacks motivation and discipline.
She doesn't come from a good family.
She didn't treat me particularly well.
She has a habit of lying.
She led me on in the past despite telling me she loves me.
And yet I can't get over her. We dated for 2 years and have been separated for about 6 months, and every now and then I'll think about her. When I find out she's dating someone new I go berzerk. What is wrong with me and how do I overcome it? This isn't my first relationship and had it been any other girl I would have been over it.
Pic related I guess.
>>18269992
She doesn't have to be perfect for you to still love her.
That's what love is.
>>18270016
I know, but she's not even average. I don't know what it is that attracts me to her and I can't understand why I can't get over her.
>>18270043
So? who cares what her social 'value' is?
You still love her, maybe there isn't an easy explanation as to why. Why did you break it off?
she clams to be a lib but is not pro sexual revualtion she almost locked up my ant lesbo lover and i am a real lib a smaless wild whore an a outlaw but the bitch dont get it even tho i t6hold her 1000s of times
old people be old
>>18269982
she should be a product of her self not time
>>18269986
that's correct, my grandfather was 'stuck in the past' and racist and shit but he had a best friend who was very liberal and could hold a conversation with people of all ages.
if you're only in your early 20's, however, you probably have no perspective on how you'd deal with this your whole life. you'd have to keep yourself open and educated about the current general consensus your whole life in order to understand the changes that are happening, so you can create an informed opinon instead of reflexively going back to the habits and opinions that are within your comfort zone.
it becomes less appealing to try and fit in when you're upwards of 60 years old. there are conservatives who aren't anti-sex, try to help her find a middle ground somewhere.
I'm doing a Masters in Logic and philosophy in Germany as an International Student, and just starting my second semester. Out of four classes, two of them have been graded and I got a 2. The US conversion would be a B. Am I done for applying to Phd's? Don't you need all straight A's/1 to get a Phd position?
German here (wir können auch deutsch reden, wenn du willst).
Well, for your field a 2 is fairly good. Mathematics is still well-respected and hard here in Germany (I study mathematics myself). So if you're competing with other mathematicians you'll have problems finding a doctorate spot, unless you get to know your profs better, eat with them etc. If you're staying in philosophy a 2 should be enough.
And a 2 is not a B, it's more. European universities are harder than American ones by a long shot.
So you should be fine. But get involved!
>>18269974
>logic and philosophy
Then again, you're in Germany, so you'll probably find a job as a Muslim scholar
>>18269974
In my uni (i were doing computer science) they take ANYBODY willing to do phd no matter how bad grades you have because simply everybody wants to finish school asap and make real money so they are kinda understaffed.
Just ask your study department / head of cathedra on how hard is to get into phd. Also you can retake exams until you get 1 or you deplete all tries (we had 3 minimum).
Good luck op.
Matched with a Bumble/Tinder girl a month ago. We've had sex a couple times, it's great. We also hang out and go on dates.
She doesn't want a relationship because she's moving to New York in October and she just got out of a relationship. I don't want a relationship either.
She told me she doesn't want exclusivity, I accepted that because it's her choice. Her reasoning is that she doesn't want to get too attached to me. Also probably because fucking multiple people is fun. I don't know if I can handle that though.
Last week she told me she had sex with another guy, I felt emasculated but part of me didn't care because that's what she told me, what we agreed upon.
How do I know if I'm emotionally mature enough to handle something like this? Anyone have similar experiences? Is it worth?
It feels "unbalanced" because it takes months for me to find girls interested, and she has a much much easier time.
TLDR : Should I continue to fuck/hang out with girl, even if she fucks other dudes?
>>18269957
Easiest solution is to tell her you cant deal with thoughs of her fucking other dudes and tell her to never talk about any other dudes with you ever again.
>should I continue to fuck
It is your life, not mine. My suggestion is to find real girlfriend, not just walking vagina.
>>18250471
you are a cuckold
Sounds like you'd be interested in a relationship if she weren't moving away. Am I wrong?
So I am now a genuine racist, and I don't know how to handle it. I know race is a social construct in the sense that the dividing line between races is an ever-moving goal post, but this doesn't change the fact that the genes associated with low IQ, and by extension a tendency towards violent crime, are part of the same genetic cluster as brown skin. Hell, there's even evidence that African men have higher testosterone levels. Correlations like these explain most of the social inequalities that are usually attributed to prejudice, but ironically, recognizing the correlation makes me prejudiced. I'm going to know from now on that a given black person is more likely to be a criminal than me, and there's no way this won't affect my judgement to some extent. At the very least it's going to affect my political views and, therefore, how I vote.
What the fuck am I supposed to do now? My adopted sister is black, and I'm closer to her than I am my biological sister. She has anger management issues, but so do the other people in my family. We assumed it was a product of nurture rather than nature, but now it's not clear. The question of how much of her is in her DNA and how much of it is in her upbringing was somewhere on my mind before, but now it's at the forefront, and that doesn't feel right at all.
And even if nothing about my behavior or judgement changes, just being aware of these facts makes me a racist, right? I mean, everyone hates JonTron now, and all he did was notice things. Noticing things shouldn't make you a bad person, but because he did, people are making assumptions about him. A cartoonist I like and a member of my favorite podcast have both accused him of white nationalism on social media. Is that prejudiced? If it is, it's apparently the "justified" kind of prejudice. On a logical level, I should feel like it's their problem for having double standards, but on an emotional level, I feel that this is my problem for being a fucking racist.
>>18269833
This is a lotta effort for a troll thread.
I wonder what was the most complicated troll online for a decent payoff.
>>18269833
Man, I hit that character limit fast.
So, I already had crippling self-loathing before all this, and I'm working on it CONSTANTLY, but the multitude of reasons for my self-loathing are generally things that people have told me are irrational and I shouldn't be using as an excuse to hate myself. Racism is different. Everyone believes that racists are bad and should hate themselves.
I was listening to Ben Shapiro recently. He's one of my favorite pundits. He said that it's not racist to notice that black people disproportionately commit crime (yay) but it IS racist to think it's because of something genetic (uh oh), and that the proper thing to do is recognize that their criminality is a result of socialization.
But IQ and crime are pretty clearly linked. I mean, socialization plays a part in most things, but so does biology. Am I a racist for recognizing this? And does being a racist mean I'm a bad person?
At the very least, I have to give up arguing that conservatives/Trump supporters aren't all racists, because I fucking am one now.
>At the very least it's going to affect my political views and, therefore, how I vote.
Oh my god dude. For every black person with anger problems there is one terminally autistic white person who defines themselves around politics on anime imageboards.
Fuck. Gonna try and make this short:
I met a girl at a bar a week ago. Bought her a few drinks and ended up spending entire night out with her.
When it's time to leave I ask her if it's ok that go home with her. She says no because her sister is home or something like that. I ask her for her number which she gives me.
Following day I text her saying that I had a great time, would like to meet up again.
We meet the following Thursday, I buy her a coffee and we walk around for about 1.5h. We just talked the entire time. Started getting chilly so we walk up to her house and she's getting ready to go home.
We stand outside talking about how nice it was to meet and general banter etc.
This time I did not ask her if I could come in with her, which I regret now. I just felt at the moment that if she had wanted me to come in she'd invite me, but that's just my beta genes kicking in when I need them the least.
She ends up going home alone, says we "should meet again soon"
She talked a lot about movies and tv shows and she told me she had a list of all the shows she wanted to watch. About 24 hours ago, two days after I had coffee with her, I texted her again asking if she wanted to meet up and cross off a movie or a show from her bucket list. I still haven't gotten a reply.
What the fuck do I do now? Is this basically over? (Please don't say yes)
Keep in mind we sent a few messages back and forth after meeting for the second time.
I think she might be autistic btw.
TL;DR
Met girl at bar, met her again for coffee, texted her recently asking if she wanted to watch a movie, 24 hours later still no reply
OP here, just need to clarify what I need help with here:
What's a good text to send to her now to kind of "undo" the last one that I sent? I'm thinking I might have scared her by asking for le netflix and chill a bit too soon?
Hard to say dude, women are fickle. Maybe she's really busy and forgot to text back, maybe she decided she didn't like you for whatever stupid reason.
Text her again in 24 hours. Then wait 48 hours and try one more time. If you never get a response, forget about her, delete her number, and move on. I'm sorry but it's all you can do.
>>18269839
This is the best advice you'll get