I'm scared to talk to women. The last time I tried I thought I was in love with this girl but she rejected me pretty harsh. When ever I see an attractive I look the other way. How do I build more confidence?
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you try, you fail, you keep trying and learn from your mistakes
need motivation? we're here for you
don't quit, it's always better to keep pushing through than to quit and blame the universe
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Success if about acting confident more than being confident. Being confident is supreme, but skulking around like a scared cat is probably the lowest. Just don't do that, no matter how unconfident you feel.
Social anxiety is sometimes unavoidable, but don't specifically get scared of, "Oh no, women!" *Cowers.*
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>>18270651
Build up your confidence. Say hello to colleagues. Make small talk with neighbors.
When I see these kinds of threads I always wonder, what do the guys look like? So please, if you will, show us what you look like. It will provide context.
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So, what's worrying with me? 2017-04-29 08:55:58 Post No.18270619
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I'm 20 years old and yet still find myself attracted to some teenage girls (around 16 yrs [maybe 15] or so).
Is this normal, or am I some kind of pedo? Any anons feel the same way?
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You keep having that till you're 40. It's normal.
When their mouths closed you think they're hot, just let them speak and you'll see how idiotic they are.
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I hope you're right anon, cause I feel creepy as fuck.
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If you didn't feel like a creep, that'd indicate a problem. You're fine.
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I need your advice.
I met a man on Tinder 4 weeks ago, we dated several times. He looks nice and I enjoy spending time with him.
But there is a feeling I can not get over with it, I will call them red flags. This guy had a relationship with someone for 4 years and they ended it because his ex was cheating on him and his ex had some pyschological issues. But what is weird is that he still has contact with his ex and he is telling me he is only doing this because he wants to support him (not anything else) and he told me that he was always honest with me. They chat over whatsapp and sometimes meet but he told me nothing happens. Should I be worried?
The next red flag is that he went to Spain this week and he opened his Tinder. When I confront him, he told me he was only using for chit-chats but nothing else. He doesn't want to have any dates over there.
Please tell me I am being paranoid right now and I should trust him. I need your advices.
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>>18270570
Tinder is a BIG red flag. That and the ex are reasons to drop him alone.
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i agree that tinder is a huge huge huge red flag, you ain't being paranoid
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What's the red flag here? Are you two exclusive? If not what's with the fucking drama? Let the man do what he wants. If you truly want to be with him tell him how you feel you dumb bitch.
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So, I was at some party and we had this game where we had to transfer and apple from someone's neck to another. A girl I had asked out and got rejected by was in front of me, and when she saw me she moved further into the line where girls were. We were on pretty good standings after she rejected me since I didn't make a big deal about it, but why would she do this? She's been awkward near me ever since and CONSTANTLY looks to see where I am and seems frightened to talk to me? Am I a creep or something? This really made me sad.
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>>18270522
She is like this because you showed interest in her and she had to reject you. Now she will turn into feminist because the pstd you gave her.
>just let her be
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>>18270648
I basically stopped talking to her entirely, but she just kept coming up to talk to me, she even came to talk to me today and ocasionally she invites me to breakfast. What the fuck is her gameplan? I never initiate contact with her
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>>18270696
Girls are illogical creatures.
>say A, think B, expect C.
She could use logic like:
Teehee, this weirdo wants to date me, lol what a loser. Lets deny him and see his mental break down.
Wow, he hasnt colapsed and he looks somewhat confident now, will he try to date me again?
Omg, the stud keeps ignoring me, i want him, but nothing works what will i do?
Funny thing is that even if you showed interest in her again, literally anything could happen.
I suggest you to invite her on date again (if you are currently single) and see for yourself if it will be quick sex, long abusive relationship or marriage.
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How would one exactly spot gold digging whores apart from genuinely loyal girls? I thought I was set but now I live in a dump and am sad all the time because I don't have anyone to live for anymore.
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>>18270506
To avoid gold diggers, you just hide your power level. If you look like average dude, no high level gold digger will try to extract money from you.
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>>18270754
I'm not even rich. More like, how do I tell if the girl I would happen to start dating wouldn't leave me for a moneybag later on, despite time spent together?
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>>18270776
That is the ultimate tradeoff of all relationships. You have to TRUST each other. No way around it.
>will he beat me?
>will he be good parent?
>will she get super fat?
>will the sex die?
>why is he with me?
>wont she cuck me?
>wont he sleep with stacy?
Rule of thumb:
Most assholes (both parties) show their true colors once you move together and start living together for some time.
So you dont marry until you like at least 6+ months together.
And seriously, if you cant trust the girl you are currently dating, you shouldnt date at all.
>i dont trust anybody
Then die alone. Easy :-)
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What is a comfy comedy anime to watch while I drink myself to sleep alone on saturday night?
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Minami-ke
Though I recommend going for pure comfort and doing Aria.
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>>18270510
Aria the origination? My streaming website says it's a "slice of life drama"
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Nichibros
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Hey /adv/
I had a handwashing OCD for several years and I wonder how I'm supposed to have sex.
I made lots of progress throughout the years, but I still can't touch my own dick without feeling the urge to wash my hands.
>inb4 you will die alone and will never have sex
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>>18270452
self-bump
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>>18270452
Pure wow.
You need professional help. Sorry for such shit advice.
>shower sex?
You cant get dirty in shower, can you? Can you touch dick in shower? How do you fap? How can you work outside where everything is dirty? Suicide?
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Shower before you masturbate. Don't use your own sebaceous cheese as lube.
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How to get a decent credit without getting buttfucked
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>be 22
>no job
>no friends
>parents don't want to deal with me anymore
I just need a credit to live another 2 months before i find a job or end up killing myself, something around 700 dollars
But the banks online ask for all of my personal information and the guarantees they can get from me, is there any service that doesn't ask any questions?
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>>18270433
Just get a job. I dont believe your parent will make you homeless if you behave well and show improvement.
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>>18270433
>Trying to get a credit card before you get a job
Don't do that
If your parents see you actively trying to find a job, they will be willing to allow you to stay until you get your shit together.
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>>18270433
That moment when you have all fucking week available to work and you cant get a job. You aren't applying to enough places or your standards are too high. I go to school fulltime and work fulltime. If I had the time in my schedule to work somewhere else I could. Most places will higher anyone immediately if you legit can work anytime of the week.
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9-hour "layover" in NYC, what to do? 2017-04-29 07:25:45 Post No.18270411
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I'm traveling to Europe next month, flying from MD to NY first to meet up with some friends then from NY to EU. Unfortunately, the departure time of my flight out of NY was changed and I'm now stuck with a 9-hour "layover" in JFK airport in New York. Changing flights is not an option.
What can I do to kill 9+ hours (or most of it)? I will have all my luggage with me, so I'd prefer not to simply wander the streets as a "tourist" looking at buildings and such, but I also don't want to spend such a long time in an airport if I can avoid it.
Any ideas? I am scheduled to arrive at 1:54 PM and depart at 11:25 PM on May 17th.
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Okay I put NYC in the subject but it turns out JFK is in Queens. Oh well.
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Keep a charger for your phone, obviously. USB battery pack if you can get one.
Magazines, study something, chat up other folks who are laid over; just don't be a retard and think the surrounding money traps are like Disneyland.
Layovers wouldn't even exist if they weren't a source of revenue in and of themselves.
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Subway to Penn downtown is like ~20-30 min. Go down there and walk around Chinatown and Central for a few hours .
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I need help being able to sleep again 2017-04-29 07:15:55 Post No.18270398
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I need help being able to sleep again
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Hey adv long post incoming.
I've only slept for 4 hours the last two days during the nights even though I have a job to do on daytime.
I can sleep but it's the dreams that I have that makes me not to. This has been happening for the last two years and I think it's time to admit there is a serious issue here. What happens is that I just blackout and wake up as you do without remembering what you dreamed of. But when I do remember these dreams they are always extremely uncomfortable. So uncomfortable and scary that they can bug me for weeks. I even have this dream from when I was a kid ( I'm 20 now) that I can recall sometimes. The dreams are not scary in a sense where there's a ghost or anything. The dreams feel extremely real. They always portray things that COULD happen in real life.
For instance there's this one person I just started meeting not too long ago. What happened was that this person lead me on to believe something that was quite the opposite and in turn shit didn't really turn out so good for him and me.
In this dream this person takes my place that I have with all of my friends and start spreading fake rumors about me.It ends up with me being left all alone, completely isolated. It all happens in a very natural fashion where it's just good enough to make me believe that this shit could actually happen but also neglect it because in reality the chances are like 0.0001. And that's the worst part are that the dreams are just good enough to make me go "shit, could that really happen"?
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>cont
And this happens with everything, not even when something good happens will it turn into a good dream. Not necessarily because how that works but you know what I mean. I get a gift and am really happy about it and the dream will make some weird shit up how my life gets fucked over just 'cause of that.
Weird thing is that I never think about shit like this it's only my dreams that have these worst case scenarios, since I never think about worst case scenarios unless it's a really big choice to make.
What do I do adv? I just want to fly in my dreams and have a good nights rest, It's been so long...
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Dreams are absolutely meaningless. They are the results of your brain processing information. Just learn to ignore them.
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>>18270414
Yeah I figured. Hoped for a way to just make them stop. Or rather not be as prevalent like they are today.
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Please help, I'm in an abusive relationship and I have nobody to talk to about it.
It's reached a point where I'm so scared of him, I can't talk to anybody because he reads all my messages and barely lets me be alone. I've been cut off from all my friends and he doesn't let me visit my family. If I do he accuses me of abandoning him and cheating on him and just starts screaming at me. He says its because he loves me so much, but it's more than that and I'm terrified of what will happen is I leave. I always thought it would be easy to leave a situation like this but it's the hardest thing I've ever been through.
Please help.
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>>18270384
poison him
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>>18270384
seek help from a local community center like a church. They can offer you shelter, advice, and support while the police deal with him. Best of luck anon, be safe
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Yea you aren't safe. Are you living in his house?
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We're moving from central Florida to north Massachusetts in a few months for job reasons. Any tips for moving 4 cats?
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You may want to separate them into groups of two, because any more than two cats making as much noise as fucking possible for hours on end is too much of a nightmare.
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>>18270380
No tips on moving the cats, but as someone from Northern Massachussetts I welcome you to our humble state.
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>>18270387
Good point. We have two good cats and two bad ones. I'm dreading the over 20+ hour drive.
>>18270388
This is so wholesome and nice. Thank you, friend. :3
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So, I have a big problem with being a cuck with a girl I meet(the only girl I meet at all), she even pointed out that I am too submissive. I obviously want her to be my gf. And I feel like I don't pose as a man enough in front of her. I make gaffes and she notices my low self esteem. What do I do?
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Just do fun things with her and take the opportunity to make funny jokes. Like actual funny jokes and not autistic diarrhea of the mouth.
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>>18270340
what do you define as funny?
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>>18270346
I'm not trying to gf her anon, you are, what does SHE think is funny?
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> be 28 year old male
> wasting away my prime years
> turned my back on humanity 10 years ago. Tried to ignore everyone I knew because nobody wanted me anyway or they just used me
> didn't understand the game, didn't have my pack
> thought I will be a lone wolf who will play them all like a fiddle
> I will be the last to laugh and I will control them
> 10 years into future
> listening to the same heavy metal music where you can barely hear lyrics and remembering what your thoughts were 10 years ago
> they are the same thoughts I am having now, same bitterness and no clear vision of how I am going to advance myself further
Basically I am regressing. I have no useful skills whatsoever besides my ability of talking for hours on various topics, financial knowledge and a decent understanding in law. I have been stuck in my shitty job for nearly 7 years, I have no gf or friends I could join in adventures. I have no joy in doing anything. I can't find anything that would make me excited ir happy. I am not looking forward to anything. But I want a family, I want to be successful and healthy yet I can't convince myself to do anything at all. What is my 'kick in the nuts'? My mother is becoming sad that she won't see any grandchildren. But I am still longing for the past. I wish I didn't burn the bridges. I wish I had the ability to keep the same thoughts of being superior to people around (classmates, college mates) yet be in their company .
I can't stand humanity.
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>>18270304
Same here. Work on your career. Let the woman find you, when she sees you are successful in the business live.
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>>18270350
The problem is I don't want to be under someones command. I want to be in control, have ny business. While I was studying law and finamces I became so rigid and nihilistic that I don't see a good business opportunity and I also don't have any other interests I could monetize. I just went the wrong way from the beginning. Everything now is harder. I don't even know how I will live with a woman together if that were to happen. I have no relationship experience whatsoever.
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If you're not broke that makes things easier. Sounds like you're too used to the life you live right now, even if you hate the future you see. Try replacing anything you've owned for more than 10 years with something new. This will not be a kick in the nuts, but it might help you stop living in the past.
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So this is probably going to sound obvious as fuck to everybody but here goes
>get gf
>not for the best of reasons; one of the reasons being because she was very good friends with a previous girl i was with and i still had (have) a thing for
>i'm also like 80% sure she broke up with her boyfriend of two years because she saw that i was interested in her
>we're both shit people, whatever
>at the start i'm unsure about whether i should stay, most of my feelings from her came from loneliness and unhappiness with previous relationships
>she gives signs that she really likes me
>we're hanging out every day, basically moved in straightaway
>i start to like her more and more
>she notices
>we decide we're going to move out of the place we met to another nearby town together
>she tells me she tied a string on her wrist for a wish to come true, i ask what's the wish, she says "that you will marry me one day"
>i realise i'm liking her enough that i'm actually considering doing it
>always touching me and saying things like "i can't wait to fuck you later"
ANYWAY, fast forward to tonight
>one of her old friends comes in from out of town
>he seems nice, kind of awkward
>we all go to dinner together
>we all drink a few, due to low tolerance they are both pretty much drunk after 3 beers
>i'm sober as a goat
>they are getting very touchy-feely while i'm getting not much love at all from her
>if you viewed the body language without any prior knowledge, you'd definitely think they were the couple in the situation
>we leave, she decides she will get a taxi with him to the place that he's staying (she did book it to be fair (maybe i am just in denial))
>she kind of blows me off when i suggest i come with them and also kind of turns away when i go to kiss her goodbye, all i get is a "see you later"
>i get my own taxi home
>i also have the only keys to our house
>been waiting for past 2 hours for her to respond on fb
>none yet
so anyway, what should i get for breakfast tomorrow morning?
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P.S. the OP EXACTLY hit the 2000 character limit
P.P.S. i writing this all down actually made feel heaps better actually and really relaxed me. if she fucked him then whatever, i'll just move on, and if she didn't then things stay the same. no point wasting time/effort/emotion on shitty people.
THANKS A LOT /adv/!
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I'm sorry Anon, I hope moving on is easy for you.