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I would recommend you email your teacher telling them the situation. Some professors sympathize and might grade you on a different criteria if they know you got put into a shit group. If you email the professor and they basically say to suck it up then I would recommend just doing the project unless you don't mind getting a bad grade. Also, email your teacher as soon as you can so it doesn't look like you just came up with an excuse.

>>18271217
As someone who's been in your position - do it alone. They won't do a better job than you anyway. If you can, shit on them to your professor and serve some justice.

>>18271239
>>18271248
Thanks. I should've mentioned that we're unfortunately all getting one grade, so I can't be a dick about it or email the professor.

they can sense your desperation. Act like you don't care whether or not they join you.

"hey man, want to join me at the gym later this week? no problem mate maybe another time"

"Hey, would you like to go see a movie this weekend? X looks pretty good."

"Hey bro, you want to grab a beer after work?"

the way you phrased your ideas in the original post are off-putting because it makes it seem like you're seeking the validation of other people.

people are more likely to join you if you appear to be comfortable in your own skin, whether they give a shit or not.

>>18271336
Yeah that's true I guess. I never realised that it sounded that way until now. I was actually with a girl I met on Tinder when I asked this among other questions that were probably just as off-putting. Is it as simple as changing my wording, or is there a bigger issue I should be solving?

>>18271356
just remember that a woman wants to lose herself and feel secure in your masculinity.

you're living YOUR life. YOU are the primary character of this story. People will inevitably drift in and out of your life.

Don't be desperate. the older you get, the more your market value increases. at your age women are overvalued, but by the time you're thirty or fourty it will be a man's market.

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>google says herpes
stop trying to self diagnose and just go to a skin doctor
there's hundreds of skin diseases that are "and then suddenly i had a rash"

>>18271207
herpes is not exclusive to sexual contact

I am a khv and i got herpes at the gym

Cocaine mostly.

Hotboxing duh

>>18271201
I wasn't suppose to tell but here's the truth. Every time you are at a party and a group goes to the bathroom they all take the opportunity to talk about you. They take turns so it's not obvious. Sorry to be the one to break it to you.

>>18271194
Whoa there buddy, you forgot to enter anything in the Name field. Be sure to enter a name and tripcode to make your 4chan experience go more smoothly. You wouldn't want people confusing you for another Anonymous, would you?

Lurk moar

Like, a lot.

And remember this is still the internet. Everyone is a potential ass or troll and opinion is fact.
Beware of traps and check them dubs and trips.

Try different boards to find your clicks

>>18271203
This. Not having a name is a dead give away that you don't know what you're doing.

Best piece of advice is to tell people you're new. This isn't the cancerous site full of insecure man children that people would have you believe. Just start a thread introducing yourself (don't forget the name field) and you will be welcomed with open arms. Hope this helps!!

by leaving

seriously just close the tab

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>>18271125
I asked this too a while ago. All you need to do is visit
>>>/s/
Save some choice™ nudes. Post them here as a new thread, write in the thread you're going to continue posting these all over with different IPs unless mods ban you for a month or more.

Enjoy your ban. I have been meaning to do this but I keep pussing out and I am wasting my life.
As for social media, take the plunge. Make a status telling people you're going away for some time, or tell them you're getting a new phone and won't be available for a while. That way, people will message you, get no response, read your profile and not get upset. Worked a charm for me, the only thing is you need to stick to it and not appear online or people will see when you last logged in and get upset with you.

Let's do it together anon, murder suicide pact.

certain web browsers have extensions you could download that block you from visiting certain sites you specify. Firefox and chrome should have them.

It's only shy if it's on the girl's part. It's called being a pussy if you're the guy. Sack up and lean in, OP.

>>18271116
This. Pretty much.
How old are you son? Just a kiss and still can't do anything about it? Bet you're a virgin as well

>>18271133
It´s weird, I know but I´m 18 and she´s 17.

Do you live in the south?

just b urself man :)

>>18271082
>tell her how I feel
show, don't tell

>I want to be with her
Ask her out on a date

You should be working for yourself, not for others
You should find comfort in knowing what you will be doing once you're done studying will be the thing you've always wanted to do

>>18271042
I feel you dude, im in the same boat

Maybe this is a song that will make you feel a little better: G-easy- me myself and i

>>18271056
I hate working for the sake of working. I want to get something out of it. Like GF currently, a family in the future.

>You should find comfort in knowing what you will be doing once you're done studying will be the thing you've always wanted to do
The things I've always wanted to are not productive, so the only reason I see myself studying and being in college is to get a job and a GF.

Maybe the reason you felt like he cared more than anyone is because he cared a little too much huh? Like that was part of his manipulation?

I'd say move on. Sounds like you need more freedom and space to breath. You don't owe him anything.

Did he do anything wrong?
Did he sleep with anyone else?

>>18271003
He was loyal the whole time. He told me that since this was his first relationship he was confused and just loved the power of control but said it wasn't an excuse. he's such a sweet guy but when he doesn't get his way, he makes me feel bad in a manipulative way. when we got back together, he did improve his character but I'm not sure if it's just temporary

>>18270966
I need to know how to handle myself, because this bad trait is really hurting my relationships, and I really care about those people. My girlfriend is on the verge of leaving me because how down I get on myself pushes her away, she says.

For one if you already have a girlfriend you're probably not completely unlikable, but maybe you assume that she's about as far gone as you are. If you really want to stop hating yourself then your going to have to take steps towards what you want to be and away from what you don't. This will slowly let you learn to respect yourself, or at least enough to not hate yourself. The problem here is that if your objective is to receive someone else love then you in turn must be able to like yourself enough to appreciate it. So take self respect as the first in a long series of steps towards self love, or more accurately a greater love. If she loves you enough to care she will notice you open up more as you gain self respect and if she doesn't they you should probably break up as she could be a part of the problem.

Really though you may need to be more specific to go further and I can't be sure this fits your problem but it did fit my own.

>>18271012
Thanks. She says that a lot: about how we are only able to love others as much as we love ourselves...I don't know if I ever really bought that, because I feel like I love her greatly, in spite of my own issues that make it hard to accept myself...then again, I've only ever been broken up with, and my relationships usually last 6 months max. I probably pushed them all away without realizing it.

I just don't know man, like, if someone says something nice about me, I get so damn uncomfortable, like it must be a lie or they just don't know who I really am..or it'll just feel like they're talking about someone else.

I don't know what caused me to feel this way, maybe lack of socialization as a kid, but it doesn't matter, cos I've got to get myself straightened out.

I'm ready to try, I just don't know where to start.

Yep, long term this will be a problem. Try to spend the odd night not getting high then do it more till the reliance fades out. It may seem hard but its just a muscle that needs building and you'll get there in time.

>>18270963
>if so, how do i overcome it so i can enjoy myself and be social without any kind of lubricant?
exposure. "just" do it and after N times you will get over it. OR maybe it is just not for you? you dont have to like certain events/activites, thats fine.

also get a hobby

>>18271020
what sucks is i do have hobbies... but they're ones that don't involve many people like beekeeping and playing the violin... but thanks i think i'm going to try to keep inserting myself into uncomfortable situations until the anxiety hopefully goes away or gets better

>>18270885
Green. Some people might argue it's hazel because of the brown ring in the middle.

Weird, mine look exactly the same. The color, anyway.

>>18270885
You got heterochromia my dude

>>18270883
>no repercussions
Until she decides she wants you to pay child support.

>>18270888
I'm not even sure that can be enforced, as I'm from the UK.

Have her sign something or record a video of her saying she will not seek child support. Just in case.

you're becoming severely depressed. you're stuck identifying this shitty period in your life as your 'whole life,' but that is not the case. this is just one moment of your life, and this is just a temporary mental state. I'm not telling you that everything is gong to be awesome in the future, but you don't have to stay in a depressed state forever.

as for the problem with school I would say lots of people run into difficulties, but banging your head against them until you start getting dazed is probably not the right solution.

It sounds like you could use a counselor or something.

>>18270682
Counsellors do not help. They only listen to my problems and take my money, that's all.

>>18270705
that's definitely the thought of a brain on low setting and sputtering out

if you don't fight your 'depression' when its telling you things are hopeless, you'll only succumb to it worse. I'm telling you to go to a counselor and maybe get something form your doc for sleep before your dad has to call the white coat men on you.

it wouldn't be the end of the world if things got worse, but I'm thinking you could even avod dropping out of school if you get on top of things now