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>>18272324
Didn't they shut down backpage?

>>18272368
You can still find services under the sections "women>men" and "massage"

I got one once, shit was cash. Half an hour was 150, full hour was 300. Did the half hour, ended up being an hou me anyways because she liked me and gave me an hj. Also let me shower right afterwards.
Still have her in my contacts.

>>18272268
If you think he might think you're into him, I'd suggest clearing that up with him right away - the longer you leave it, the more likely it is to get complicated, and if he's not interested in the first place then he sounds like the kind of guy who will probably understand why you're bringing it up. I'm not sure what you can do about your other coworkers, though, if anything.

Cute rat by the way. Is he yours?

he might think you're someone who watches how the fuck they speak around coworkers. that's my first thought when I hear someone tell the boss, "I fuck older men." Why would she make herself look gross like that unless it was in an attempt to try and t I t I l a t e the boss?

Moral of the story, I know you're so liberated from being a little baby who isn't allowed to say what they want, but teenage time is over and you're a big girl now so maybe don't talk about fucking cocks at work.

>I shouldn't talk to him about anything fun

Not everything fun is personal and vulgar

>>18272309
why am I being such an asshole

I would probably conduct myself like that at a restaurant job or something, where it doesn't seem to matter what happens. In a more professional environment, I would refrain.

So it all comes down to how much you care about this job.

>I should quickly tell him I'm not interested

If you want to hurt his feelings and his pride, sure. I would say you don't have to reject him without him making any advances. I've had women I'm just trying to be friendly with do this to me and it's like a punch to the gut out of nowhere

>ha ha we are having such great times
>I would never fuck you
>oh...

Fucking untamed woms.

You sound kinda lame desu. I would much rather chill with your friend.

>>18272230
Ask him to help you?

>>18272230
so why is he your friend if all you do is shit on him to compare yourself?

>>18272207
I'm picking up on a lot of red flags from what you're saying. If she really did manipulate her way into dating you, then get the fuck out as fast as you can, because it's only going to get worse from here. Not respecting your choices is just the icing on the cake.

As for your ex, did you leave her on good terms or was the breakup messy? If the former, you might try explaining the situation and asking if she wants to get back together.

>>18272228
Well, she isn't really manipulative towards me as much as other people. Also me and my ex girlfriend ended on good terms and we still talk.

>>18272425
Honestly, it's that she's this manipulative to anyone that's the problem. I've known people like this and I've had friends whose immediate family were manipulators, and what these people do is effectively abuse. They will make your life hell if they can benefit from doing so.

In my opinion, you should break up the fight regardless. If you're unsure of who's on the moral high ground, just take neither and stop it.

>>18272215
I just said I couldn't move. Someone else said that's enough and another guy broke it up.

I'm not a fight expert, but in my opinion, there were only 1 or 2 kicks that I would take back if I could

>>18272195
since you can't sack up have fun living with her for the rest of your life and being miserable. Either that or of course break up and bail.

bruh... why would you resign the lease... you dumbass.

that being said, im in the same boat but been in it longer. I can't leave just like you. I'm not happy, she's not happy.

The only thing I can surmise to say is that we (me for sure) are scared to be alone.

My gf is the same as yours and probably worse in some areas. She drinks consistently and keeps saying she wants a life together and to be married, yet takes no steps towards doing any of this and holds me back.

Some days I wake up the happiest man alive that this woman is in my life and that I would take on the world for her. Most days its dreadful thinking of the dull, mundane, and annoying arguments we'll have.


Sorry, I'm not much for advice but I wanted to vent too and not start a new thread.

Pro tip: If you feel this way after a year, just end it. Don't invest 4 years of back and forth, and being in a toxic environment. It only gets worse, as we get older. (I'm 26 -> 27)

>>18272200
I have said this to myself more than once, and it scares the Hell out of me.

>>18272210
I am actually not that afraid to be alone. I am in a sense, but confident I could find someone better. Its good to know I am not alone. Well it kinda sucks actually, because I don't want anybody else to feel this, but not as lonely now.

I keep coming back to the same stupid excuse: " she hasn't fucked up bad enough to dump". I have never broken up with anyone before, and find it hard to do now.

what do you want?

>>18272250
You

>>18272168
>have bf
>want to kys

I have a theory some people are so fucking mentaly weak they arent able to survive even in our modern world where you dont have to fight to survive. So yea kys. Do us all a favor so your weak genes dont spread. We need chads and stacies. Not you.

>just talk to somebody, get therapy and be happy
What do you like to do femanon?

>im a nice person
>people dont like me
Being nice doesnt mean being popular.

99% sure that she didn't spermjack you. Just confront her and ask her if anything's wrong.

Maybe you got pumped and dumped

She just realized your a loser and she wants nothing to do with you. She definitely doesn't want anyone at work finding out you smashed that.

>>18272068

maybe. maybe you're bi. maybe you're confused. maybe this is your 'exception'.

lets start with confusion. we are told taught that closeness between males is a childish thing, and after a certain age aren't allowed to have it. a lot of us as adults think we are close to our friends but we often have arbitrary walls up. it is our natural instinct to hug, squeeze, cuddle and kiss. You would kiss a male dog on the forehead and thats not weird, but if you kissed your male friend on the cheek, suddenly its gay. its okay to cuddle with ANY animal that you can keep as a pet, but wrap your arms around a guy for more than ten seconds and thats wrong.

why? no reason. its just one of the arbitrary rules society has created and with gays becoming more commonplace its actually gotten worse. yes, gays being out in the open has made male bonding worse. because back in the day when gays werent so commonplace there was nothing to suspect people of. if you felt affection for a man it wans't that weird. but now gays are everywhere. and as much as we say its okay, there is an agging feeling in our head that says its bad, case and point your fucking post, you might have caught feelings for someone but you're upset and think that its ruined you because of his genitalia.

so we accept others who are gay but the thought of being gay our selves is horrifying. so as a result we dont do anything that involves too much male to male contact, because what if it makes us gay? what if we like it? does that mean were gay? does that mean life is over?

so you meet someone new, and you want to get to know him more, he seems really cool. cool enough that the idea of hugging him seems exciting. he is someone you admire.

>>18272095

does that make you gay? maybe not. maybe society has told you that wnating anything more than just some one to hang out with casually instantly means you want to fuck him in the ass. but you don't. you want to gte to know him. you want to get closer to him. you maybe even want to hug him, hold him, and kiss him maybe.

but that doesn't mean you want to have sex wtih him. it just means you want a closer relationship with him and society and your mind is telling you that the only way that is allowed is if you're a homosexual, and its not.

there's growing trend of platonic male cuddlers in europe because women are becoming increasingly difficult to date, so its easier just to cuddle with a close male friend.

>>18272095
>>18272096

so remember that just because you have a bit of a 'man crush' doesn't mean you're gay.

but it doesn't mean you're /not/ gay either. for a lot of homosexuals they kinda just repressed most of their urges for years and years. i mean if you grow up being told your straight, becuase thats what society and your parents all assumed, and then you learn that being gay is negative, even if people claim they're 'okay with it' then you are naturally going to assume you are straight. and those weird feelings you sometimes have for guys? thats just normal stuff that has nothing to do with being gay.

me myself, i watched gay porn 29 days out of the month, and then on the 30th day would say 'wow ive been watching a lot of gay porn lately, i should switch it up'. then id watch straight porn that night just to prove ot myself that i was straight.

i had some how rationalized in my teenage brain that everyone looks at gay porn 'once in a while' and it was just like masturbating it self: something people just didn't admit to doing so publicly.

so a lot of us have this repressed gayness and dont quite realize were gay and stlil manage to date girls for years an years because despite what straight guys claim about them having NO attraction to other men, gay guys can almost universally agree that they've had sex or attraction to women and it was just fine. it just wasn't 'right' in their gut and something felt off.

so finally oyu meet some guy, some guy that brings it out of you, some guy that makes you say 'wow, what if im gay?' and then you try it out and you like it, and then one day you look back and realize you were reallly fucking gay the entire time and you just didn't realize it until he forced you to acknowledge it.

Yeah the jews dumbed down the system for the negro and hispanic students who can't speak english.

>>18272011

it can be an indicator.

the problem is that people think that intelligence is all encompassing and as our society becomes more educated as a whole were learning that is not the case. people tend to be intelligent at certain things as the mind is much like the body. some people are naturally more adept in certain subjects than they are in others.

considering that each school district has a different system than the neighboring ones, and a far different system then the ones on the other side of the country, or even in other countries, grades themselves aren't definitive. and even if we had one streamlined system it could still lead people astray. sometimes people aren't intelligent, they are just intelligent enough that buckling down gets them through it.

kinda like me with history. i SUCK at history despite liking the subject, but because i like it im able to force myself into the subject matter power through with good grades.

nothing sticks tho

>>18272011

High school? No. College? Possibly, but the correlation isn't perfect. For example, I would expect a genuine genius to not have any problems achieving a 3.7+ (~A-) GPA at a competitive school without much effort at all. Beyond this point, you would expect some significant noise: the most intelligent students will likely be too bored by class content or too distracted by their own intellectual pursuits.

I would probably say that having a combination of decent grades plus a proven record of ability to generate new research/scholarship is a better indicator of extraordinary intellect. Having good grades alone (even perfect ones) simply means that you know how to turn the crank.

>>18271989

being an only child used to suck because, well, there wasn't much to do, and parents didn't allow their kids to play with other kids as much as they do these days.

I would have made a decent only child simply because I was great at games of imagination. I'd go outside by my self and just create these big stories where i was a power ranger or a super hero or set up my figures and create one big journey for all of them and didn't really need interaction outside of the occasional friend.

other people dont have that kind of imagination but video games and extra curricular activites help make up for it. if you live in a neighborhood with kids, they will do fine. if not, they will often find themselves bored. ultimately this wont come close to making or breaking them as a person, so its not something you should plan too much.

have a kid if you want a kid. dont force your self to have another if you really dont feel in your heart that you your self want another. its a nightmare just to create another human that might not even get along with your first little human.

there's a funny saying
>at least one
>possibly two
>three by accident

thats how my family was made any way.

regardless, this isn't something that you can really say will effect a person or how it will effect a person til after the fact. both have flaws, both have risks, and all of them turn out more or less the same.

>>18272002
>My first time in /adv/
....This was really good advice, thank you

>>18272013

in the end the kids just gonna wish for the other any way.

only-childs tend to wish they had siblings to play with, but siblings realize that they hate each other and wish they were an only child.

>>18271936
Dont be a kid here OP. Send her a text making fun of her. You dont need an apology. You just want to dip your cock inside her. Throw away your stupid pride.

idiot

>>18271951
There's been cockdipping and there will be again when logistics allow (different countries atm), that's not the problem here. I just feel like it's kinda like letting your dog piss indoors or your roommate eat your food. I don't accept a person I'm in a relationship with being verbally abusive, she needs to understand that.

I am also watching this thread, I'm a 24 year old male and finally told the fuck who's been a vampire to my money to finally fuck off, without him I'm 100% alone outside of my family.

Well, yes. Try to work on your mental problems first. Are you taking medication? That might help. Find a good therapist, very important.
Basic rule:
1. if he's reading the newspapera while you talk to him: no good
2. If it's a woman she'll pity you and get too invested (or act extremely cold and "professional"). If you're a man, choose a man as a therapist.

If you have worked that out, you'll attract people in your environment. They'll want to be around you. But work yourself out first.

>>18272003
I agree with this, after seeing a psychiatrist and being put on prozac really helped with my chronic depression.

Also start small, pick up some hobbies. I've met a few of my very good friends online through vidya.

Depends on what you mean by fit, you most likely have an inflated ego from all the thirsty children trying to bang you on a daily a basis and a guy who any respect for himself probably thinks you're not putting any effort into the conversation.

As the saying goes, it takes two to tango.

>>18271930
>shes not relationship retarded
>we want the same relationship
>we have similar interests, experiences, desires, ...

M-maybe we can be f-friends anon

>>18271871
Have her reach down and use her hands to put your cock inside of her. It's not difficult.

>>18271871
Use the tip and deal with it. Also try anal since you have a good reason to experiment. Honey lets see if it can fit into hole #2

>>18271871
Do you have a significant height difference? Some positions may not work quite right if one of you is much taller.