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Sounds like something a demented mental case would say.

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>>18282850
Retarded.

"If you have problems with yourself, take it out on others rather that fixing the root issue." Is all that quote is saying. It's a pussies route that doesn't fix shit and causes more problems.

>>18282850
A tactic employed by some people. Why develop anything positive or build yourself when you can just put others down to feel and make yourself appear better.

Typically people go to dances in groups

>>18282826
>>I say "either or" (I know it's a fucking retarded response)
Then why did you say that? Oh you fucking twat...

>>18282841
I'm aware that I shouldn't have said it. I wasn't really 'with it' today.

I don't know why, all I know is people that enjoy that shit ain't worth your time. Get the fuck outta there

>>18282810
Cutting yourself releases a lot of calming substances. They mostly do it to cleanse their mind from unwanted thoughs, and after you just get through the pain, it can get pretty addictive. It's a weird concept, yes, but self harm can become an addiction hard to stop.

>>18282820

Can confirm. I don't think everyone does it because they're unhappy because of things in their life, depression can also be caused by chemical imbalances in the brain, assuming he does it because of that. Personally, I've done it to get rid of bad thoughts, mainly suicidal ideation. I don't want to kill myself, but when I get those thoughts I don't think rationally. Self harm calms me down and makes the thoughts go away. Though since starting antidepressants a couple of months ago I find it much easier to not give into that thought process to begin with, much easier to rationalize any negative feelings and work through it.

You should definitely do something, first step would be contacting some authorities, school can't do that much on it's own.

>>18282809
Contact social workers / police and tell them you have suspicion about abusing / neglecting kid.

>want to keep her
Most likely not. But even life in alysum is better than with pot heads.

>>18282863
Life in the system could be worse. Dunno. Never been. I got to make the call.

>>18282736
She might change, but for your own sanity you can't expect or hope for her to change, you've just got to assume she is how she's going to be. So, if it's not working now it's just not gong to work.
I'm basically in this situation myself and I realize more day by day that you can either deal with it how it is, for the rest of the relationship, or if that sounds like shit, you're better off on your own.

>>18282736
She is a liar and using her supposedly abusive past as a scapegoat for her behavior. Everything we do is a choice, every time she lies to you it's like coming to a fork in the road and knowingly deciding to take the worst fork. Unfortunately constant lying undermines trust which means your entire relationship is built on an unstable foundation. So what if she is seeing a therapist? She probably lies to him/her too! I won't try to tell you how to handle your relationships, but ask yourself this; are you willing to invest your life in someone who refuses to be truthful with you and who undermines your trust in her at every opportunity?

>>18282736
I would leave anon. I know that's easier said than done and I don't know how close you are. In my experience however, people like this tend not to change. Maybe give her some time with therapy and see how it goes? See if she does genuinely improve and appear to change, even on a small level at first. If not, I recommend getting out

>>18282716
It'll give you a raging boner until the effect wears off ..

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>>18282716
It's so strange that the doctor never, ever tells you that it makes your dick soft for years after you stop taking the antidepressants. We should be starting class action lawsuits over these poisons.

>>18283079
It is better to be happy boy with broken dick than
>suicided boy
>mad boy locked in mental ward
>boy who cant even leave his house / talk to people

It is all about compromises and life quality. If the doctor could tell you
>dude, just be normal
they wouldnt be giving these happy pills out.

>>18282701
Attraction is subjective and involuntary, so if girls are showing attraction to you, it follows logically that you're attractive to someone. I also have low self-esteem and occasionally get interest from girls who I believe are at least 3-4 points above me in the scale. I'm learning to just go along with it rather than to try to rationalize it or let my low self esteem push them away. Be wise, but live in the moment a little. Stop trying to figure everything out.

>>18282701
Probably you are attractive and your perception is just screwed.

>>18282701
You might also just be tall. I think I'm fuck ugly and have the personality of a brick but I get all sorts of girls to talk to me without even trying. I'm 6 4.

There is nothing wrong with not having any particular interest in sex, and you sound like you put effort into pleasing your partners despite that. Why do you have such low self esteem ? It seems like your problem is less that you think you're asexual and more that you seem to not value yourself at all.

I have no idea about being asexual and what's it like so I can't comment on that or offer advice on that, but I couldn't let your post slide. You're not worthless and you're not a loser if you don't want to have sex, that's perfectly within your right to say no, and if you're ready to compromise for your partner, they should be ready to compromise for you

>>18282604
Thank you, I appreciate the kind words. I probably do have low self esteem, I don't have a lot of people in my life, mostly just my parents and my bf. So I have to live with my own thoughts...not that I mind. I think my sex problem is a real problem though.

I don't want to compromise with him forever though. I think he's just too sexual for me, I don't want to deprive him of sex any longer. He deserves happiness...something I can't provide.

>>18282615

My personal advice would be to see a professional about your state of mind and not try to hunt for a label online, or self diagnose. They should help you figure out what is going on in you, and wether or not you are the way you think you are. It's not necessarily something you can find out by yourself, especially in your state of mind (you seem very emotional and inclined towards self flagellation, sorry to say).

About your boyfriend, don't unilaterally take that decision. You should have an open conversation with him about the subject. Maybe you are overestimating how heavy the situation weights on him ? Either way, you can't take a decision out of concern for him without consulting with him about his feelings. But don't use the term asexual, just say you have a very low sex drive or something.

If however you want out of the relationship because you yourself feel uncomfortable with your incompatibility, then do so and be honest about the reason.

But whatever you do stop hitting yourself over the head girl, you're not going to get any farther by calling yourself names. Happiness comes in many forms and you should not consider yourself an hindrance to your partner's happiness - sex isnt THAT great, even coming from someone that loves it.

>>18282589
Use the condom you little shit.

>>18282589
double-bag it, you knob. otherwise you're in for it.

DON'T use a ribbed condom whatever you do!

It's well documented some women are capable of utilising vaginal muscles to actually grasp condoms, and with a specific rhythm, become capable of removing a condom to increase the chances she will be fertilised by you.

>>18282573
Youre a moron, OP. You should have just hugged her. Don't you know women are emotional?? If I was her I would break up with you! Emotions dont usually follow logic. Just support her. She's a hormonal mess, commonly referred to as homo sapiens sapiens female.

I'm not going to tell you to break up with her, nobody ever comes here looking for that answer, but just ignore her and let her make an ass out of herself. If she has any sense of shame she'll apologize later.

>>18282579
>Don't you know women are emotional?

Retard. People act like children when they get treated like children. It's a cycle.

hard call mate. but if it's not reciprocal, then there's not much you can do man.

Yeah and thats some thing i neglected to mention is that she tells me she loves me and wants to make it work. Yet I feel a lack of effort on her part.

>>18282565
try having a heart to heart chat then. it could be something else that's causing the friction, directions in life, that kind of thing. if you're serious enough (both of you, that is) maybe go for couples counselling? good luck.

He left his containment board

It's okay if they aren't asking about relationships. Which are what 90% of threads are about. People don't realize they can refer to anecdotes. People who think they are experts because they can get laid on Tinder.

>>18282566
I only really come on here to give advice when I'm feeling a little lonely as weird as that sounds. But I seriously cannot be bothered for relationship shit all the time because its all the same shit

you haven't explained much other than what you've done, and what you're doing, anon/
how about some details about your endgame, ambitions, dreams and all that jazz? aside from making a bit more dough, that is.

Currently living with my grandparents and obviously I want the fuck out. My main goal is to get the hell out and live in an apartment. Have 6 or so dollars left every paycheck so yeah saving isn't happening. I don't really have a lot of restrictions personally aside from something not too physical because I'm built like some kind of fucked up fatass dwarf. My dream would be to be an author but I know how unrealistic that is. I just honestly don't know what to do. I apply everywhere with zero responses. All I want is to start life but that's a bitch all on its own. Not helping is the fact my grandparents are threatening to kick me out even though I pay half their fucking bills myself.

>>18282790
How can you only save 6 dollars a month from your paycheck? Are you exaggerating, or is that accurate? If you really want to move out and make actual change in your life, you should be able to make significant savings. Stop buying shit you don't need and keep your goal of moving out in your mind when you're tempted to buy it.

>>18282466
Get a vehicle if you live outside of the city.
Get a gym membership and lift/cardio (you don't have to be extreme with this)
Look at the hobbies you enjoy, if they are all inside one's try to drop a couple and do easy outdoor types like hiking.
Get a simple job that doesn't make you work more than 40 hours a week. (Try to make it one where you do a little socialising)
Buy clothes you enjoy that aren't super neet and are form fitting.
Prepare for the summer.

Do these things and you should be on the road to normy-ville

>>18282479
Noted.
But how do I get normie on the mental/intellectual level as well? I want to be able to contribute to conversations about casual things.

What are the things people know and talk about that matter in their lives? I'm taking some online courses to learn more about the world but they'er pretty specific and not sure which or how many of them will help me function as an average person that has a say in casual discussions.

>>18282492
Skim the newspaper. If you can get it for free like if you're at university then it's all the better.
Also browsing reddit front page will probably give you plenty bs conversational filler for any given day.

I know its not a hygiene problem. I shower every morning, I don't sweat. the only thing that causes it to flare up is prolonged sitting which I do at my job, I also looked and its not a hemorrhoid

>>18282450
cyst? Sub Dermal infection? Ingrown hair? Hemmhroid even though you font think so?

Doctor mang. I know you dont have insurance but adv really cannot help you.

>>18282450
When will Murica get legit health care? I hope your current government and president is pro health care. Otherwise I pity you.