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Some adorable conservative meme girl qtp2t messaged me first on OKCUPID, I got her snap chat last night and haven't messaged her since. How can I keep this alive, she's actually interesting but I'm stuck. This shit happens every damn time.
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>>18283675
Relax. She is not your dfuture wife, she is not your last shot. She is a person. Just say "hi" and let a conversation develop.
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>>18283691
We've already been talking though, I just feel like I'm at a dead end. I don't think she'll be my wife, but I'd like to attempt atleast one successful relationship.
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>>18283703
>I'd like to attempt atleast one successful relationship.
That's your first mistake. She is not a goal to achive. If you date her to be able to say "I had a successful relationship", then she'll probably be turned off really quick. No one wants to be a trophy.
Also, what's even a "successful relationship"? When does it become "successful"? When you get laid?
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soup /adv/
I have a conglomerate of dental issues, primarily I have a misaligned jaw and need corrective jaw surgery. On top of that, I need braces and I need my wisdom teeth removed. I am 26, live in America, and have spent my life in abject poverty.
I do not expect any surgical resources and my hope that I am able to have my jaw fixed is delusional. However, I want to ask if there are any resources regarding very cheap--if at all possible--wisdom tooth removal, as I feel this is a common enough ordeal. I believe that simply having my wisdom teeth pulled would be a lot of help as far as freeing up some room in my mouth (I have a small mouth and all my teeth are squished together tightly.) Obviously, I cannot afford insurance so I would have to pay out of pocket. I live in Florida if this helps at all.
If anyone can provide me some direction, any at all, I would be infinitely grateful. I have physical difficulty speaking, as well as problems eating due to my inability to actually cut food with my teeth. The psychological facet of eternal rumination is unhealthy and I wish to die.
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There are dental schools and they have much cheaper dental services. My dad got a bunch of his teeth replaced (two of them keep coming loose though - like I said, they're dental students). You'd have to Google where they are near you though.
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>>18283668
You can have all that done at most for 1000$ at tijuana or another medical tourist city
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>>18283679
Already checked into it. The local dentist program at the state college only does very minor shit like X-rays and cleanings.
>>18283686
If I had the money to travel, I would move to a proper developed country with public healthcare.
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How to get over the pain/regret for fucking things up with a 10/10 girl that liked you?
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>>18283645
Shit happens. Learn for next time.
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>>18283645
Dunno man but I'm checking in as well for this support group.
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>>18283655
I didn't really learn anything though.
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Is constantly thinking and fantasising about suicide really that dangerous if you have no intent?
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>>18283618
It lowers the difficulty to do it if and when you do feel like it.
That doesn't mean I necessarily think you SHOULD stop your research. Everyone should come to terms with their mortality. If your mind is ready to face (not just in cognitive level but in a emotional as well) what you find go ahead
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Constant thoughts about it could merely be a symptom of some other mental problem
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>>18283618
whats causing these thoughts?
made some shitposts on a /pol/ thread asking for advice with this girl
i'm a 26 year old autiste. she's a 29 or 30 year old polish girl. we're both in the same university course
she sent me an email after we finished last week implying she had wanted to talk to me but I had left before she could. I only noticed the email today and this is pretty much all that has been said
I barely know this girl. I've only talked to her a few times. That's why I found her emailing me strange.
Everyone in the /pol/ thread is laughing at me and calling me autistic. But I couldn't be fucking bothered talking about fucking maths and mechanics anymore and just outright asked her.
Is this really that bad?
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>>18283555
You sir, are a national treasure. The bluntness of that ''what's the deal'' message really got me
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>>18283555
Yes
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Im laughing right now. What a ridiculous response
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So I landed a job offer through my company to move from Wilkes Barre, PA to Portland, OR. Id be doing essentially the same job just more responsibility and Id be in charge out there. The job is coming with corporate profit sharing benefits, a 20k raise on my current salary and they are giving me 10k to move out there. It has always been a dream of mine to move out west and its happening.
Except.. My family is just about ready to disown me. No one is happy for me and my mom doesnt get why I want to move so far away and abandon her. My sister keeps trying to guilt me with my nieces and nephews who need me and will miss me so much. She says how can I even think about moving so far away without thinking of them.. Yeah, like they consulted me on it before she got pregnant. My brothers are lackluster at best and I feel like no one is excited for me.
Its really bumming me out. I didnt say yes yet but Im considering not going now. What do you think /adv/?
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NO don't let them drag you down
they're gonna miss you cause they love you
but if you go and come back to visit they'll get used to it
you have to live your own life man nothing lasts forever carpe diem I mean it opportunity knocks
plus skype exists
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>>18283539
take the deal, they are doing whats best for them not for you.
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>>18283549
thanks man. I tried to tell them Is be back every Christmas and at least another week during the year. My mom got pissed about me suggesting we Skype.. lol
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Hi, f25 here.
I have succeeded: good job, great income, owns home, takes care of family, great friends and social life. But it seems I can't get a relationship that works. I had three bf since 19 but all those were abusive or toxic. I'm tired of this but I feel bad for not being able to grow a healthy established relationship. Is it that hard? Is anyone else feeling this way?
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>>18283521
Replace F with M. Same story.
Take ownership of it, of your journey to find a relationship. Start relationships, drop them when YOU feel them becoming toxic.
Take time to understand what you want. Why what you've had hasnt been that.
Outside of vague advice, i cant help you. The internet probably cant help you either. But dont let it hollow you out.
As one internet stranger to another, i sincerely hope things work out for you.
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>>18283521
It depends on some aspects such as places you live and people you know, so the difficulty may vary.
Where do you usually meet bfs?
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Feminism sacrificed the women for the sake of society. Freedom =/= happiness
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So on friday we decided I'm gonna get tied up this time. We both want to do something extremely kinky without needing to buy anything. Any ideas? Gonna be tied like the pic.
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>>18283497
Y'all have any candles and vaseline?
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>>18283527
Sadly no. Gotta go basic here
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>>18283497
Scarves, neck ties, zip-ties and bandanas for restraints/tie-downs.
Her worn panties as a gag.
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How often should you masterbate?
Is there a healthy amount?
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>>18283489
Once you start feeling bad, that's when you need to stop.
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>>18283489
Why would you? Wear diapers and enjoy wet dreams.
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>>18283489
Not really, as long as it's not constant it's ok. Try not to make it something you have to do.
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I'm female and I have the unfortunate combination of a short torso/upper body and really broad thick shoulders. I also have square hips, no curve to it
Basically like chloe grace moretz except I have short stubby muscular legs unlike her, she has really nice legs
How do I get over it? Any advice?
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>>18283453
Get powered legs prosthetic, augmented gf will be the next big thing.
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you are build like danny devito, just wear loose tops, no sleeveless and do NOT wear pants that are thin around the ankles
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>>18283453
wear corsets, they slim your torso and give curves, also diet and do yoga
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Posted about this a little while ago but I still need advice on it.
I've been seeing a girl for about two months. She makes me happy and she always talks about how cool I am. I'm a little bit of a dick, not really a good dude at all, but she says she likes the brashness and arrogance and all of that jazz.
About a week ago I was feeling good and sent her a message in the morning (usually don't initiate contact). She didn't respond immediately so rather than sperg out and send her another I just sat on my hands and waited until two days later she sent me a tidy paragraph about being sorry for not texting me and shit. I told her I forgave her and asked if she was okay. All she said was that she needed a little "me time". When I got that text message I just kinda put the phone down and focused on my vidya. I didn't say anything until she finally sent another text, some small talk at which point I resumed talking to her again.
I didn't respond because I didn't know what "me time" meant and didn't care to know after she wasn't straight with me. So my questions are this. 1) Is there something wrong with me for reacting the way I did and not replying to that message after she started talking to me again? 2) The communication was pretty good up until this point on our part and only really got rocky when I didn't go out of my way to talk at her. Is this symptomatic of a bigger issue? Is it a problem that I only ever give her as much attention as I want to?
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>>18283428
Stop thinking. Seriously STOP thinking.
Now, ask yourself: do i want this girl as girlfriend? Yes?
Then ask her on date. When she tells you something you dont understand, fucking ask her. And no, you generally dont obtain gfs by ignoring them. Ask her on date. Asap.
DATE THE BITCH! And buy condoms.
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>>18283538
That's something I forgot to say, we've been on about 5 dates.
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why communism kills?
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I want to change. I've thought this many times, and I'm never able to do so because I simply don't know how.
I live at home with my parents, and I will soon move abroad to keep studying. I don't know how to fill my days until then, I feel like I don't have hobbies anymore. Videogames and books don't fill me like before, and surfing the internet the whole day doesn't seem healthy.
I want to improve, to read new educative books, to enjoy back videogames. Also, what do you think a functional adult should use and know nowadays? Lifehacks are always interesting, as well as useful apps.
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Things that are always handy:
>Learn to repair stuff
>Learn how money works
>Learn a new language
>Learn to use tools such a s Photoshop, Premier, Sony Vegas
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I began reading the first paragraph and skimmed the rest after reading "I've thought about this many times."
You need to stop over thinking. Just pick something to do every day for an hour. Maybe learning a language, maybe exercise, maybe reading, idk. Something improvement-y. A big part of the improvement mindset is taking ACTION, not thinking about it.
Doesn't matter right now what the thing you chose is, as long as you commit 1 hr a day for two weeks. Then, THEN, start thinking about what to do and when.
Now get started
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>>18283426
Check out actualized.org
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Hey /adv/, im over 20 and I live with my parents. I've been lying about having mental problems by just rolling with my mom's concerns and not speaking up. I dont like saying my age. I havent relaxed in days since my Dad shoved and yelled at me and got extremely mad at me for not washing the dishes and wanting to shower first. I wasnt yelling but i kept refusing to do it. He got super mad today when he saw I didn't fix a cooking pot he told me to fix. So i fixed it and I went out. Hes on edge because hes broken his arm and cant work, and I refuse to not use a lot of soap when I wash dishes. Plus he has anger issues. Ive been ignoring the first few times he tells me to do something and he gets furious. It makes me really nervous but i do it anyway. I had a chance to relax the other day didnt want to because I wanted to be stressed. I haven't slept well for months before this too. What do I do?
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get a job and move out
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>>18283338
I want to tell my mom im fine but im afraid of their reactions like my dads.
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>>18283381
I should.
I often feel like I cause weird atmosphere where ever I go. But I don't know how to stop doing it. I think people can sense there's something weird in the air when I'm around but only few people will point it explicitly out. Some people are quick to judge me a bad person because of it, but honestly I don't seek to cause that atmosphere. It's not my intention. It just happens and if I knew how to stop it, I would.
It feels like if I didn't want to cause people feel weird, I should just stay at home and have nothing to do with people. But my bills don't pay themselves.
I've tried to converse all these feelings with therapists and psychiatrists but they brush this off. Yet the uneasy feeling follows me around where ever I go. People have even said to me face to face that I'm weird.
I don't want to cause people bad feelings, so what the heck could I do? I can't stop living my life either. I suspect I might have early onset schizophrenia (beginning at childhood) or aspergers but combined with high IQ or something so that I've been able to make it this far without diagnosis (23-years). Plus I'm a ggrrrll so I might have slightly better people skills and so I can keep my act together at psychiatrists and therapists. It'd be embarrassing to lose my act so I try to act civilized yet when I leave the appointment the feeling that something is truly wrong in me continues.
I even feel I'd be better if I didn't communicate with people because people can't handle the weird feelings they get when they're around me. I've seen people start acting really weird around me as well, like it's people go crazy around me. They become jittery and start talking and acting impulsively, even my own mother. Am I a psychopath? A sociopath? What the heck. Should I even be alive?
English is not my native language btw so don't make decisions based on my english skills.
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I could tell maybe if you showed yourself on webcam... Otherwise how the fuck are we supposed to know what exactly causes people to perceive you weird?
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>>18283315
Has "your aura" existed always? Or did it start at some point and has become more prominent?
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Now recently I think this one guy had a slight crush or interest in me. I sensed that and tried to keep some distance. I don't want to lie though, I enjoyed the attention, but still I tried to kill his interest because I knew my company wouldn't do anything good for them either.
Well we kept glancing and sometimes smiling at each other. We never talked but he followed me to places where I spent time. I tried to hint that I'm crazy bitch but he didn't get the message or he didn't care. Now I couldn't contain my craziness recently and I think it hit him finally. Now he's anxious around me. And I feel bad for him. I saw it coming all along.
I might not be getting anywhere with this. Perhaps there's someone with good intuition and psych skills and they could hint me at what my condition is.
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People avoid and fear me. This kind of shit keeps happening to me too often to be just a coincidence. In social circumstances people keep a constant 3 meter distance to me. Once a shopkeeper called guards on me for just viewing a shelf.
I don't know what's wrong.
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>>18283307
Post a picture of yourself, mainly face, doing a neutral expression you would normally have on your face. That is most likely the problem.
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>>18283340
Yes what this guy said
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>>18283340
I won't post it, but I'll admit that my eyebrows are slightly "angry" while resting.
But what can one do?