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>borrowing money against future earnings
Millennials, everyone.

>going into debt
If you can't afford it, you shouldn't go. I don't mean 'shouldn't' as in you don't deserve to, I mean it'd be a bad decision to.

>>18713723
Go to trade if you're too stupid or worried.

>>18713710

'smart' has no strict definition. a lot of people say im smart cuz i can parrot off information I'm interested in but then in a regular conversation im confused by every little thing they say.

if you're stupid, learn. you might never reach smart, but you'll certainly be smarter than you are now. Go buy a history textbook of the world and start there. work your way through it, and when you get to the end, think about which culture you enjoyed learning about the most.

then go pick up a text book specifically from that culture. and when you get to the end think about what part of that culture you enjoyed the most. Was it a war? a certain period? their art? go buy a book on that specifically.

fill your phone up with educational podcasts.

The word retard means slow.

If your brain is slow, then it'll never get fast, if that's what you're asking.

You have to qualify what your mental deficiency is, in order to get a more precise answer.

But here's an example. Say your IQ is 90. You never really 'got' math or puzzles. Your quantitative thinking is shot. You can put 1000 hours into learning math through khan academy and exercises, and you might be able to get comfortable with some areas in math, but you're never really going to 'get it,' the way a math whiz does.

Another example, I listen to the Joe Rogan podcast a lot, have heard his stand-up too, and I like the guy, it's obvious to me that he's either just average or actually below average in IQ. He's a meathead for a reason, in other words. On his podcasts, sometimes he'll interrupt people with Ph.Ds to 'correct' them on something trivial, as if he has an inferority complex. He comes off really bad because he can't engage them in their complex conversations. So it'll be just be the PhD talking for like 10 mins, then he chimes in with something irrelevant, then the PhD goes back to talking. It's obvious, that because of his lack of intelligence (parity) he can't engage those smart people in a real conversation. Joe Rogan, to his credit, has built a vast knowledge of various topics. He's basically like a "Jeopardy!" guy. He knows more about the world than I do, and yet, I'm fairly certain I have 10-20 IQ points over him.

So what am I getting at. A high(er) IQ person can be lazy with their mind and not build up knowledge. A lower IQ person can be active with their minds and build up knowledge. But a lower IQ person will never compete with the higher IQ person with the same knowledge/education.

A "retarded" (slow) mind will never win against a fast one. That's the tl;dr.

Learning is so much harder as an adult. It's not impossible, but it is much more difficult.

You replaced fat with muscle, you're probably way more lean now, good for you.

Continue going to the gym and your muscles will grow.

>>18713677

This is bad tho. I was already skinny from the start..

I was 145lbs when I started working out. I can see that I've been getting stronger, I feel stronger and overall healthier. After a few months I decided to weight myself, I really thought I was going to be pleasantly surprised and see 150+ after the past 5 months of working out and feeling good... I weighed myself yesterday and know what I saw? FUCKING 136lbs. I feel like I took a massive step backwards. I feel fucking embarsssed.

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>>18713664
I felt like you OP, I was always super skinny, and looked super young. Then in my late 20s and early 30s I got fat because of a desk job and lack of exercise. So if you haven't hit your 30s yet, you will start to look and feel older during those years, trust me.

Keep working out OP. I decided to get in shape this year starting at the very first of January and lost over 45 pounds. I recently saw myself in a picture that my GF took of our dog and I was like holy cow! My legs and calfs are huge and so defined in the picture. That's when I felt more like an adult and felt like I looked like one.

Basically, what I am getting at is take a picture once a month, and look at the really old ones compared to the new ones if you really are working out hard. You will start to see major improvements after a while. Best of luck man, I know the pain of looking 18 and under as a male in your late 20s.

She might not be cheating, but wants to, so does it matter either way? It sounds like your guys' relationship needs some counseling quick, or at least a long, deep conversation between the two of you. Or break up.

>>18713527
I don't even need to wait for 2/2, it's already over dude, and you'll be better off without her.

LEAVE HER. Get some self esteem, OP.

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Why don't you join the fuckin Marines?

How are you possiblymanaging in LA with no job? I'm trying to move there

>>18713514
Can't be a police officer or something? There is a strong paperwork component, not sure if thats what you are into. Could be a teacher if you are into writing, but 90% of the job is lesson planning/classroom management and 10% actually interacting with students on the content.

There are no health benefits to nofap, it's a meme invented by NEETs who have discovered the forgotten art of "minor discipline exhibited by most people" leads to happier times than masturbating 20 times a day

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the real enemy is porn, so do no porn. try wacking it to your imagination but dont reference porn youve already seen into your imagination

I tried nofap AND noporn for awhile (still doing noporn)

Nofap had a noticeable positive effect on me, HOWEVER it does have a plateau. I had two rounds of nofap; 2 weeks and 4 weeks. Each time there was a noticeable difference in my mood, I had much less anxiety and I actually became interested in pursuing women instead of watching porn and beating off. You would think this effect would get more substantial the longer you stay on nofap, but like I said, it plateaus. Usually by day 10 or so, you've gone as far as you can. I noticed zero difference in my mental well-being between day 10 and day 28.

But I continue to do noporn because porn is the bigger culprit. having the urge to fap when you see a woman irl is leagues ahead of jerking off to a video on a screen.

>>18713461
By telling him. It's not that complicated.
Is confrontation really that icky?

How about stop being a boring cunt?

You tell him you're a pussy and he should refer to you as such.

>>18713450
I at least would need more information about you before saying one way or the other. I'm not the kind of person to say "always choose life no matter what" but I'm also not an edgelord saying to off yourself with no reasons for it.

Yes you should choose life and then find a purpose. Adopt some kids or something. It's pretty selfish for an otherwise capable person to off themselves because they have nothing to live for when there's countless children in need

>>18713499
What info would you want?
I have nothing to lose so ask me anything.

>>18713422
>I'm 18 and all I want in life is a house, a cute 20 something year old gf and to get high and cuddle every day until I die.
And you think that's going to just fall into your lap? Also do you expect your girlfriend to not age or something...?

>>18713428
I do hope she stays in her twenties forever yes

I wish it wasn't so hard. I am so unmotivated.

And haven't met anyone who made me feel as special as my first love did

>>18713435
Gawd your liveing in la la land.

>>18713399
Life is suffering no matter what

>>18713399
What's with the toes

Ayy, I just turned 28 a few weeks ago! And it's just your mindset man - if you want to keep having fun and enjoying your hobbies, or trying new ones, then do so. I remember meeting an older guy when I worked at a casino that told me he spent his whole life working his ass off, raised a family, and ended up divorcing the wife after his kids were raised. He said he never really lived it up when he was younger, so he just smoked weed, hit on random girls at the casino, and just traveled and generally had a lot of fun. Gotta enjoy life while you can.

>>18713340

Are you a virgin or have you just had bad sexual experiences?

Stop looking at porn and jacking off.

/thread

>>18713345
Mediocre-to-bad sexual experiences.
Pitiful attempted dating experiences. As in seriously embarrassing for someone my age.

>>18713303

Need more details, please post back.

For now focus on your breathing and don't do anything rash.

>>18713341
I'm seeing things I dont want to see. I Just can't handle intrusive thought disorders.

>>18713353

Are you with anyone? Is there anyone you can go to see or talk to right now?

b urself

>>18713271
I met my wife while she was still with another guy. Just because there is another guy in the situation, so long as they aren't married and don't have kids involved, then don't automatically consider it an impossible situation. I didn't even have to try hard, she switched over to my team because, apparently, I was better.

>>18713271
I feel like nice unclaimed conservative virgin girls are mostly not desparate enough to fuck frogposters who internetwhine about jewmerica

Jesus Christ, you're supposed to work on these things BEFORE you move out. Now you're just going to be even more miserable.

>>18713138
Yeah well I couldn't fix them before either, I thought moving out would help me since its a new environment. But now i'm not so sure. I can't stay at home though, my lifestyle causes problems with my family. So what am I supposed to do

>>18713150
Nothing much you can do but try to salvage the mess that is your life.

selfish bump.

I really need advice guys.

Wait, she expected you to propose after only a year of dating?

>>18713092

Sorry man, but your relationship is RIP. There's nothing you can do accept let it go and move on.