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Becareful if she lays a sexual harrassment complaint your fucked.

Is this bait you asked for her number she said no. And your asking if you should txt her.

>>18293534
You missed your chance op, doing it now would come across as desperate. Give it a while and just show that you really do only want to be their friend and not a partner.
I'm not saying to tell them outright, but just be a chill dude.

Op here and no its not bait i was gonna message her on Facebook messenger and I don't wanna wanna be her friend i just wanna fuck her.

>>18293456
$23 an hour is extremely good for a fucking 18 year old what are you talking about

a free house ontop of it? get out of here you dont need us. before i call u a normie

>has entire life literally handed to him
>still has the audacity to come to /adv/

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>>18293456
I am now flagging this as a..

BAIT THREAD DETECTED
UNLEASHING MEMES

BAIT RATING: 2
NOT BAD, BUT WE CAN SEE YOUR BULLSHIT. BETTER LUCK NEXT TIME

>>18293429
A baby.

so, sell the car since that could kill you too. and whilst you're at it, sell the lawn mower too and the chainsaw. possibly also the ladder and the stairs. what an idiotic argument.

anyways, i always prefer presents to spend time together. only you can determine with whow you would like to do what, so tell them that.

>>18293442
already have one, op was meant to say small CHILD

>>18293391
2meta3fast

which one's you and what's with all the "haha"

I don't understand what you're saying.

Shameless self bump.

>>18293380
>find the topics of conversation invariably revolve around gossip, or asinine 'drama' or stupid memes or makeup or clothing, or I go to parties where people get even more boring and drunk.
Maybe you havent found the right people.

I've never been misanthropic, but for a long time I isolated myself from others because I, similarly, at least thought other people and I had nothing in common. I think a big part of being social is fostering the idea that maybe you and other people aren't so dissimilar, and finding people you are particularly similar to and can talk with. I honestly don't know what happened, but I feel by believing people were all fairly similar I really began to see it, and I enjoy exploring the ways I understand people, even friends I had in high school that in the past I only thought of as the people I happened to spend time with but really didn't get and who really didn't get me on any deeper level. Also, by meeting people with similar interests, I've found a lot of people pretty similar to myself.

>>18293361
>Do you ever feel like you have a lot of random talents that you're just like.. kind of good at, but not really, excellent in?
Yeah, I'm pretty much a jack of all trades (unless it comes to sports and shit)

>what should I do?
In what sense?

if you cooklike you draw i'm suprised people haven't thrown up yet.

but seriously, being good at a variety of stuff is good. now you need to take one of them and put in the effort to get REALLY good. remember, there is no such thing as talent. it's just how much work you're willing to put in. and no, you don't have to "find what you love" first. you pick something and then you go to work without whining.

So actually, you are good at a few things it seems. So you need to focus on fine tuning one of these skills and build it into a career. Whichever one of these talents you are most passionate about is the one you should focus on as it will lead to a career you will be happy at. The other talents you have can just be your hobbies. Dude, you can draw, code, cook. You're sounding like a class A bitch. I can't draw or code. I fucking wish I could. Especially draw. You have a leg up on every person I know and probably that you know as well.

>>18293340
What do you mean gaps? You were employed during those two years, weren't you?

>>18293340
employers take note of this type of shit? creepy

>>18293340
How is that an employment gap? You were literally employed

Second opinion doesn't mean going to a pack of non-specialist randos on an image board.

Get your second opinion from another doctor.

>>18293327
Yeah I'm really just looking at this as a single point of evidence to bring up while continuing to seek investigation/diagnosis. I'm just asking about the validity of this AS a point of evidence.

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>>18293325
>I want to know how valid the reaction I’ve had is as an indicator?

What, from taking an amphetamine? If that's what you're askin', you're a fucking idoit.

Regardless, if you want a second opinion book an appointment with a specialist or a psychiatrist for an evaluation

gib advice pls

how fucking gross can people be... just tell them to clean it up. yuck

>>18293355
aint gonna work bud. I'm just not gonna use my bathroom for the next week. I have better shit to do on finals week.

>>18293268
You can't get her to change, unfortunately. She has to want to change and since she's perfectly happy living in filth and being a slob there's no hope.
Realistically, you just need to make a plan to get your own apartment and get outta there.

>>18293268
You have to make her want to change.

One avenue is to say you're fine with her choosing to live as she is, but you both pay equal rent so the shared spaces need to be shared - a suggestion would be to divy up the living areas into yours and hers, and if you find any mess in your areas transport it into one of hers.

Given she may not feel it's equitable for you to just pile up her rubbish in front of her bedroom whenever you see it - the divvied living spaces is a compromise, and then you can dump whatever trash you find into one of those.

It isn't a good solution for you, nor is it a good solution for her - but it's a starting point.

>>18293268
If you can, get the fuck outta there

Did you just randomly say that or was there more context?

Muslim isn't even a race ffs

>>18293257

It's not racist at all, what the fuck is wrong with people. Muslims did 9/11.

>>18293240
>Ive made a similar mistake but it meant nothing
Kek sorry but you're not holier than thou as much as you wish you were.

>>18293240
>both cheated on each other

yeah sounds like a great relationship

>>18293244
Not claiming to be. Just trying to make this relationship work.

Where can I find next post?

>>18293236
OP here again

I want to make it clear that the rather weird terminology or awkward writing that I use is because of how hard that it truly is to put this situation into words for others to understand in a timely manner. I hope this isn't too much if a problem.

Anyways, back to it. It was now Saturday (Saturday, April 29th), now one week ago from tonight (Saturday, May 6th for reference). I don't necessarily recall anything significant happening on this night, but A works on Saturdays and has Mondays off, so I believe it was mentioned by her that Sunday, her day off, she had plans to go hiking with her friend. She expressed how it was sort of a burden to her to have to drive out to her friend about an hour or two away, as A doesn't actually drive herself. She made it seem as if she didn't really want to spend time with this friend, and how he made it more of a burden on A by suggesting that they get lunch.

Anyways, it's now the day of her hiking trip, and later that night when I'm gaming with her again through discord, she tells me something rather depressing about her friend. Apparently, the poor guy complained to A about how lonely he was, and that he was trying to hang out with more people. He was apparently missing social queues that A was giving about how they should part ways for the day. He kept asking "what the plan was now" after they wold do something. A mentioned that she would probably get drunk at home, and her friend apparently took that as an invitation to join her, saying something along the lines of "oh we could go to your room and I could watch you play video games". A basically told him she was going to be on her own, but in order to make her friend feel less bad about himself, she told him that one of her friends had a crush on him. Well, A's friend took that as an opportunity to almost directly mention this to said friend, and now A is caught up in an ugly situation between them.

>>18293269
OP here, a little continuation of last post.

This whole situation between A and her guy friend was basically a friendzone scenario, as A knew that her guy friend seemed to have a crush on her, but A wasn't that close to him. He didn't seem to understand this. I pity him, in all honesty, as loneliness is a horrible demon to live with.

Anyway, moving through Sunday, and I began to be extremely introspective. I had nothing on my mind but A and this weird situation that happened with her friend. I went to sleep one night thinking about it. The whole thing was really depressing to me. I mean, I just witnessed a classic friendzone moment, A's ftied just wanted to become closer to somebody, but ended up putting both him and A in check due to his lack of social awareness and the fact that he has no idea how to be subtle. He put both A and himself into a bad situation, where A's female friend with the crush accused A of telling the guy friend about this crush. It's honestly a really ugly situation, that again, is hard to put into words.

I could go on, but I'll save more for the next post. TO BE CONTINUED

>>18293187
No. It's just your personal opinion. However, if you are defaming him/her, by saying something like, "I saw him/her trading sexual favors for good grades", then yes, they can sue.

>>18293187
It depends on a lot of factors, particularly what you say and where you're based.

As long as you couch it in terms of "in my opinion", you should be okay.

>>18293187
You can't get sued for legitimate opinion - "he's boring"

You can get sued for lies - "He never comes to class"

You probably won't be sued because no one takes rate-my-prof sites seriously, assuming anyone who complains is just seeking revenge for a bad grade.

>>18293168

Clothing/make up

Seek help asap as well.

>>18293171
>Seek help asap as well.
I've got this under control, im just looking to rock the short sleeves again since its hot and such

>>18293168
Don't do it mate
There are lots of ways to hurt yourself
Most of them don't leave scars

What's yer problem that you gotta cut yourself?