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>>18296775
Read in Freeman's voice/10

>>18296779
I can actually do a fairly good impression of Freeman, it's one of my vocal exercises

vocaroo it for proof

you probably missed the closest matches possible when pokemon go just came out

closest sounding thing you'll find now are the radio/"hacker" nerds that do transmitter hunting and geocaching
take a shallow glance into those hobbies are so you're informed, then check what kind of groups meet up in the wide area, and head on over to one to learn some more about them

shooting range would also be a mixed bag
guns and outdoors go together a lot, and there's definitely survival/camping/gun nerds
much larger barrier to entry for an outsider though

>>18296728
We're not really unicorns, we're just introverted so we don't go out all the time. I'm usually either at the gym, bookstore, or clubs (I do table tennis or check out random things like art and dancing classes). Try checking out some nice places and if you find a nice looking guy keeping to himself, go approach him, 99% of the time we are in our own world and will not approach you.

>>18296748
Geocaching isn't really a thing where I live.
Wouldn't go to a shooting range, I am clumsy as fuck and pretty sure I'd inadvertently kill myself if I had a gun in my hands. Both my parents go shooting and they never brought me because I am not capable of existing without hurting myself.

>>18296755
>We're not really unicorns
Trust me, you kinda are.

I am introverted too, so I get the whole being in my own world/not approaching people/not going out all the time.
I tried dating more extroverted people, but I find it exhausting in the long run.

But, yeah - thank you.

>>18296682
I would kill myself if my son ever wronged me by doing what you have

You don't if you think they'll be upset. Why would you? Are you getting married and planning a lifetime together? Not everything needs to be shared. It's your business, nobody else's.

>>18296682
If she's a true trap, you don't have to tell them since they won't know. Your parents not knowing is the ultimate spotting test.

>>18296674
>my fault due to insecurities and such
Fix your insecurities? Either by ignoring them (fake it until you make it) or by sharing your insecurities with her so she can maybe help you.

Also to have a fight you need two sides of conflict. Sometimes simply surrender is the fastest way how to end a war.

What do you fight about?

Any relationship can be saved when both sides wish to do so.

We fight because I'm insecure about potential cheating and infidelity and being secretly not loved or something. She doesn't really back down ever from an argument and it keeps going on for a long time now. Lately we argue because she spends all day abd all night talking to one guy, for hours on end in voice chat and will send innocent selfies for fun and I get jealous and scared, and my jealousy and fear has ironically made me pretty distant with her for like a year now. So she spends all this time with this guy abd said she thought she might have feelings for him but is pretty sure it's just excitement for a friend who won't fight with her. But she could be wrong.

She's willing to give me a chance to not fight with her and make things better but she said if it doesn't wirk she'll need to take a break with me while I try to fix myself because this is too stressful for her and she's sick of it. Meanwhile while I'm trying to be better she spends all her time talking to thus other guy and I feel pretty marginalized and it makes me feel intensely jealous and scared making the whole thing 5x harder for me to not start a fight. I pretty much can't fuck up and start another fight because she's sick of "having hope for me and being let down" and though willing to give me another chance feels very cynical about it

>>18296802
So she is in fact emotionally cheating on you.

It is fine for your girlfriend to have male friends and hang out with them once in a while or even go out for dinner together if all is well-communicated.

You are however also part of the relationship and if that kind of behaviour is not what you want then you should simply tell her that it is a breaking point for you. It is not normal that she talks this much to one guy and sends selfies "for fun". It really isn't.

>>18296662
keep it coming

Duuude chill, your future is fine

>>18296667
I do my best to keep going, but lately it only gets worse.
>>18296749
What if not? I tried to drink chocolate milk as breakfast, but puked it all out a few minutes ago. If the pain becomes worse I don't know what to do.

nah I am just a virgin wishing for Jesus to send ass my way

Same boat. I have slept with 19 women. I'm 23.
>Had my heart broken at the age of 21
>She was the 7th person I had sex with
>Coped by hooking up

For me, I saw myself as an alpha male and started to become very picky, I would turn down a lot of women. Recently started a serious relationship with someone who I felt a good connection with.

>>18296599

If you are simply setting a goal to have sex with # women you obviously won't find any decent ones unless you also win the lottery every month. You're purely going on looks and attractiveness in random women you meet.

I've had a period of 6 months between my previous girlfriend, who left me, and my current gf (or soon to be ex or whatever since things are going to shit right now) during which I had sex with 39 different women. All it does is boost your ego for a very short amount of time, only to wake up in disgust the next morning and having to walk of shame yourself back to your own place. Honesly if you're a student with decent looks and proper clothes it is not even something to be proud of. Every crowded club and bar has a decent amount of women who are horny or drunk and will go home with any assertive guy making moves on them.

There are however also many women with values and a lot of them are worth investing more time in. My advice would be to avoid having sex with girls you genuinely are interested in. Ask them out, date them, talk hours and hours with them and get to know them. Kiss them if you are really developing feelings after all that and the sex will follow at some point, at least if the feelings are mutual.

I know it sounds traditional and silly but imo it is the only way to really find someone you can have a proper relationship. It will also change your view on women in general.

>>18296596
If you were interested but didn't know how to act on it then it would be best to explain this to him. He is acting distant because he was turned down so it's a pretty normal reaction. If you weren't interested then its probably best to leave it as it is. Unless you felt that an explanation will remedy the situation, leave it as it is.

>>18296596
>Under what circumstance would you want to explain to him why you had trouble giving him an answer when he first asked you out?
If you realized how childish not giving an answer was and really, really want to give it another try again. Also probably depends a lot on the age, if you're still a tween it's okay but if you're older, he's probably glad that he dodged a bullet and you shouldn't bother.

What if you didn't like him in that way? What other reasons do you have for telling him?

>>18296590
Second question is, do I want to be rejected. It's not as though I'm all that bad looking (I think), I've been asked out by a couple girls before, but had to reject because I would feel like I'm cheating on them whilst I still have this crush. Yet she she makes me feel so insecure. I hate the way I look, the way I act, how short I am (yes, I am shorter than she is), and generally just hate myself, just because I wish I could be the ideal person for her. I don't know if I'm depressed or not, but thoughts of suicide occur more regularly. Not like, "I should kill myself", more like, "would it really matter". I've already asked family about this, and they replied with, "you're way to happy to be depressed". None of them know how many hours I've practiced smiling in the mirror, and how disingeuous my smile really is. So I want to know, would rejection stop the self-loathing? Do I want to be rejected, to be free to be/love myself again. again?

I'm reading this pretty high but did you meet her no a train or training pokemon

>>18296623
Haha, no we are both athletes, in an individual sport that requires high levels of cardio-vascular endurance and physical fitness.

>>18296575
if you like his dick keep at it if ve onot just move on

my boyfriends cheated on me like dozens and dozens of times, and as someone who is too much of a weak piece of shit to leave him, if hes doing that shit it is cheating and you shouldnt have to excuse his behavior- he wouldnt do that or hide it from you if he had any respect for you

Being a guy who did the same, leave his ass.
It's not going to stop. You'll find someone better.
You're a female, try tinder.

>>18296570
College
Trade school
Military
Job
Travel

be more specific you motherfucker

>>18296570
Just do whatever, it's better than doing nothing. You will probably regret doing that whatever because you don't enjoy it but if you choose to do nothing you will regret it too and in top of that you will be less able to change anything (no money, and no money could probably mean less health, also keeping yourself occupied makes you more "happy").

>>18296573
Travel if possible

show him this post

>>18296569
If you repress it, it will eventually come to surface. Just talk with him about it and open up communication. I also like jerking to to amateur porn because it feels more realistic and authentic. I jerk it to milf shit so the average women that record themselves allows me to place myself more into the scenario I've mentally constructed.

>>18296578
ive casually brought it up before and he said pretty much the same thing, about the realism and all. i guess i just dont know why he wants to jerk off to other girls' nudes online when he has a girlfriend he could just have actual sex with, i also dont really like that its all this cuck shit but i guess thats just a personal thing

>>18296559
see a therapist or you might create personalities

>>18296564
I've actually considered that option, but due to my circumstance in life, I feel that I cannot carry that weight on my shoulder, or rather, on my background. I hope to eventually attain a job in either law enforcement or the medical field. In truth, I do not think I will achieve either goal. In fact, I am almost sure, or hoping I will die before the age of 40. I don't mean that in a suicidal, depressing, or pessimistic way. That is something I have been telling my mother for years and years. I am annoyed about the decisions I have made that brought me to where I am now, but I am not angry about it. I simply am, me.

TL;DR: No.

>>18296592
don't worry or worry enough to find solution and keep it cool bro

>>18296544
if you are conscious enough to acknowledge it you are not mentally ill may need a checkup like a light check up

>>18296547
This is not necessarily true. The UT shooter noticed himself "getting" ill, it doesn't have to happen all at once.
>>18296544
Go to a mental doctor. Not some info session or group therapy or something, a doctor.

>>18296547
I don't understand what that means

The thing is I really know I'm mentally ill. I really know.

>>18296553
I'm afraid, and having this on my medical record will ruin getting work for me, and its hard enough as it is.

just butter him slowly and keep it light,keep buttering your way up

anything angry is stupid and unprofessional

>>18296541
He knows you love the job and is stupid enough to work for low pay. He won't change your situation because he profits from you.

Write your letter of resignation. Find another job in this field now that you have the experience. I was in the same position as you are. My new job is a little more relaxed and I make $5/hour more than my last job. I got hired at my new company and quit my old job the day I got hired. Let me tell you that there's not a better feeling than doing that to your boss.

>>18296526
I don't know if you are venting or seeking advice, but I suggest you cry yourself to exhaustion, recover, and move on. Death is inevitable, stupidity just speeds up the process. i.e., your bird is dead and you will never get it back. Cheer up. :D

>>18296532
how do I get over with guilt

>>18296536
buy another one and roast it with butter and pepper