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>>18298672

Also, girls online are, you know, in the same boat as you: Rejected IRL. So obviusly they'll be more clingy.

>rejected constantly

THat's what caught my eye. How often do you ask girls out?

>>18298690
Well, I guess so. Last girl I did it with (just right now, like always, every fucking time we finish I fucking a lot of regret for the time I "lost", although I guess it's somewhat valuable to practice flirting with them) told me she broke up with her bf like 1 year ago and havent had sex for 6 months so. And some others seem like slutty/easy girls.

To be really honest, I don't ask that many girls out. In this last 5 months, maybe I've asked and tried to flirt with... 3 or 4. But I don't meet girls I like that often. And for years every girl I like rejects me. I don't feel like I set the bar that high, I don't know, should I be asking randoms out even if I don't like them that much nor we don't share much in common?

>>18298701

4 girls in 5 months is a lot.

> should I be asking randoms out even if I don't like them that much nor we don't share much in common?

If you really are at those numbers, the you are already asking randoms out.

Don't go around asking girls like this. It destroys your reputation and most will reject you just because you are not that compatible. So you feel a lot of rejection when really you are just asking too many girls.

As for what to do, try new things, meet new people, and try to do as I said above.

>put linux tails on a thumb drive
>boot up tor
>disable scripts on tor
>use a VPN if you're super paranoid

congrats now you can play on the dark web

>>18298647
TOR use, but not content, can be detected given its structure.

>>18298647
There's nothing of intrest anyway unless you're into cp.

>>18298591
Bro your dick was hooked up in a sweet 1 bedroom apartment for ten years. He's gonna be a little home sick.

>>18298591
(Cont)
The whole ride from there to my house she wouldn't shut up about how she's going to keep me up all night and its going to be the best sex we both ever had and I'm just thinking this doesn't feel real it feels like a dream yet I'm to getting in the mood because she has all these expectations and I'm probably going to have ED again. Well sure enough when we got to the house and started making out and she tried sucking my limp dick I still couldn't get it up. Then she whispered "I wanted to fuck you back in 9th grade science class" into my ear and tongued it and then sucked on my neck and gave me a massive hickie. That turned me on enough to get it up and I fucked her good for about 7 minutes or so then I went soft again. She didnt give up though. She kept at it until 3 in the morning as i went in and out of being erect enough to fuck and I ended up going down on her and making her cum but I never finished bc I only could fuck her in intervals. Luckily she told me it was still good for her and she wants to do it again but hopes that next time ill be able to keep it up. It was so frustrating because it should have been the best night of my life but it was ruined by the god damn problem and I don't know where it's coming from. It really sucks by I don't want to let her down again and I'm worried that I'm going to be avoidant because of it like what happened with the other girls. I think I really like this girl, or just really want to have good sex with her. What should I do?

Go to your doctor and talk about it. They'll understand and prescribe you with something like viagra. Did you jerk a lot as a child/teen? That might be why.

>>18298584
she is gonna whore with tyrone and wants to feel good about being a whore so she tries to get a "No ofcourse baby no problem! :)" type of text. She isnt worth your time man, after this the only thing that will happen when you get with her is getting cucked. go back while the road is close. cry a couple weeks and youre back to the old you. Find someone worth you

>>18298584
Her whole message was bullshit.
for one she's a speed dater, dates a guy for a few months then drops them and gets another. This is a sign she can't handle being alone but she doesn't want to get to close either. What ever it is she has abandonment issues. Her, just saying how great you are is horse shit she just wants the feeling of being with new guys. She's addicted to the honey moon faze. can't blame her. But just forget her she's a whole ball of issues you don't need in your life. If she's saying how great you are and how she doesn't deserve you. You know what she doesn't deserve you. Your better than her. Fuck that bitch!

>>18298584
>but is she just saying all these things to make me feel better
Yes

Sounds like you never tried to fuck her and only kissed her. Hope i'm wrong but hey,this is what happens when you don't keep escalating things.

literally just gotta keep going. Im really sorry to heat about it anon but you need to not be chained to your past.

>>18298582
Define ''still pretty mad''. Is it just a small recurring thought or are you so pissed that you can't function normally? If it's the former, don't worry about it as it'll probably fix itself with time. If it's the former, counseling is the way to go.

>crash
>driver doesn't die
>passenger does
10/10 mad

>>18298579
You're worrting too much. He isn't cucking you probably. Although I'd check his closeness with that whore friend of his.

>>18298579
If he's working on a production, 10pm-2am is normal. But that shit about the acquaintance rubs me wrong. If my girlfriend told me she met up with a friend for coffee only for after the fact to tell me they went to his house, I'd be a little "why did that happen?"

Sounds to me like you're worrying too m-
>He hasn't lied to me about anything else before (that I know of), apart from one time when he met a female acquaintance of his for coffee he initially said they met in a cafe but later he told me that he actually went to her house instead
The fuck?

>>18298532
How on earth do you have no way to make new ones? I'm completely positive you're making that part up

>>18298542
I don't like any of the people around me

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>>18298532
Accept reality as it is and enjoy what you get

>>18298525
make your life better

>>18298525
Become a better person

>>18298525
Yes, but do you care about profile matches or actually meeting and fucking them.

It's a tough one, but most posters are probably going to side with you, however strictly speaking, yea you are.

If someone's passed out it doesn't matte if they consented at some point in the distant past (that you might be misremembering or misunderstood) because they can't consent in the moment, and you're relying on them being okay with it when they wake up.

Plus on top of that you were told earlier in the night she wasn't down for it, then when you still went for it she told you to stop, and then you went for it AGAIN anyways.

So yea, you raped your girlfriend. However, you apologized and she accepted it so it's water under the bridge hopefully. Just don't do it again.

>What should i do? Should I even say anything more about it?
Don't text her about it, just apologize again and tell her you won't do it anymore when you see her.

>>18298511
alright let's have a serious talk babe. I've been in your shoes in one department. The inexperienced sex department we've all been there let me tell you a little story.
>lost my virginity to my first girlfriend
>we fucked all the time for the first 4 months
>then she took the pussy away
>withdral symptoms
Dude pussys a drug. It's obvious fucking her while she was asleep was a big no no. But I understand your rapey actions. At the same time you need to sit down with your girlfriend and talk about a few things. Explain how you were in the wrong and deeply apologize. Next ask her if she's still comfortable with staying in the relationship. Rape is rape. People talk about fantasys like getting fucked while they sleep. But there off handed comments and if there true statements. Like something you wanna actually try, you need to set grown rules for that shit. Like safe words and other measures. But that isn't the case. Next if she wants to stay in the relationship. Put some restrictions in, to regain her trust over time. Like no sex for a few weeks we'll go at your paise and be sexiual but not to overly sexual and not to under sexual she'll feel unwanted. Now there is another scenario, that she doesn't really care and it's no big deal. But that's usually said by people who were sexually abused as a kid. Was she sexually abused? Any way good luck and ya that was totally rape never do that again or you become a town rapist. Only you can pervent forest fires.

No, your not a rapist....

You molested her if anything.... but still shes your girlfriend, its not a big deal just talk it out.

>>18298490
You could try shrooms or LSD. Even if you don't get rid of your social anxiety, at least you'll have a fun time trying.

>>18298490

You could deal with the root reason of your anxiety.

>>18298520
This is such a bad idea
I have social anxiety and took rec. drugs to help
I instead am now being medicated for schizo and depression

>>18298485
Some times life gives you one golden opportunity and then poof it's gone. What I'm trying to say is you need to fuck that Mexican jail bait. Trust me what would you rather have? a few years with a girlfriend? Or one of the best spank bank deposits? You have that for life.

>>18298485
If you're not committed to anything then go ahead but be careful of STIs

>>18298506
Normally I'd agree but the gf potential is a virgin and I'm pretty sure she'd run if she found out I fucked a high school kid while talkijg to her

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>>18298461
DON'T try to distract yourself. Let your feelings exist: only then they will go away.

Really wonder these feelings and don't fear to ask yourself questions even when they seem obvious or stupid. Think about this in every perspective. Ask yourself for example why is it so important to you to find someone to love you romantically? Do YOU appreciate your existence? Is there something you could do to make this happen? What's the worst that could happen if you don't solve these feelings? Is there other ways to solve this? Do you feel lonely in some company in particular? Do you already know people who you would like to love you? Do you also feel sad, angry, embarrased or other feelings when you feel lonely? Towards who or what do you feel them? How does your body feel when the feeling come over you? Do your shoulders, hands, stomach or other body parts get tense?

My advice? There will always be something we want to improve in our lives -and I'm not saying we shouldn't- but saying you can't be happy until you achieve it is insane. Happiness can also be had from working towards your goals. You have to accept changing your life is going to take some time. Give yourself a break and permission to fail sometimes. Take it as you will.

>>18298461
Probably the ultimate red pill is that you're on your own in this world. Other than your family, you can't really fully trust anyone (and even your family may be untrustworthy in some extreme cases). Loneliness is part of being human, because we are all individuals with fundamentally different interpretations of the world.

To cope with this I'd suggest you either take up some work to keep yourself so busy you don't notice. Otherwise you could embrace it with meditation or a personal hobby which allows you to enjoy life on your own, or with others.

You will never feel complete because of other people. This feeling comes from within and you need to become at peace with yourself.

>>18298461
There is at least one lurker who will read this and feel slightly less alone and more relatable.

Just by sharing, you made their life slightly better, and they will probably never tell you that.

what do you wanna do?

>>18298481
documentaries...fashion journalism...investigative journalism...all of these interest me

>>18298510

Then why do you jeopardize your biggest desire by making that question?

Look, consider the following:

I went for a major in Aerospace engineering and, since its start, I've been miserable. Not because of any particular things related to the major itself but because I couldn't care less about fucking planes, wings, turbines, or anything that has to do with air flowing over a surface.

As a result, for the last 5 years I am getting close to completing around 50 - 60% of the program. You read that right, 5 years. And I might have to stay in school for another 2. And for what? For a degree I couldn't care for, for an opportunity to get a job I wont even try to get (because I dislike every last bit of this).

Wasted time, wasted effort.

Don't be like me. Don't be THAT guy. Go for something you really want to do and DONT be fooled by people who will come here and tell you that you should do X because its better than what you currently want to study.

But what do I know? Take everything I am saying by a grain of salt. Its the same ol story of ''follow your passion''.

>>18298455
i got dubs, but

>now she won't talk about, in very vulgar details, about other guys she likes, like really vulgar details of her camming for the guys

should be

>now she won't stop talking about, in very vulgar details, about other guys she likes, like really vulgar details of her camming for the guys

>>18298455
Why don't you ask her? Call her out on her bullshit. If she's trying to make you jealous she'll probably confess, if not then she's not interested.

>>18298468
because she avoids the question, she also avoids insinuations that i want to kill this crush i have for this girl (aka her, but never explicitly tell her), and she also doubles down talking about her 'daddies' on snap when i talk about my ex.

i don't get this.

>>18298409
Go to a real professional hair stylist (i.e. not a $10 chain hair cuttery), and discuss it with them. They deal with this stuff all the time.

>>18298419
They actually don't. It's very rare that a hairstylist will actually pick a haircut for you. They will basically ask you questions and you end up picking your own haircut anyways, "i.e. do you like X or why?" "Idk whatever you think looks good" "Yeah but which one?" That way, they can't be accused of anything. I've been to dozens of different hair stylists in my life and only two have ever actually given advice

>>18298434
Yes, you have to pick your own hairstyle. You can't just walk in and go, "Do what you want."

But a good one will work with you, and let you know what should and shouldn't work on you.