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>Deleted all of my social media accounts on January 1st
>Started walking to the library every day
>Lost 25 lbs So far
>Canceled my cable and Netflix subs
>Read and write every day instead
>Starting to regain an interest in my hobbies
>Actually have read about 30ish books so far, this year
>Starting to notice that others around me are always glued to their phone
>notice that people can't really hold a meaningful conversation

What exactly is happening here? I took the simple advice that you guys gave my back in December of "Go outside" and "delete your Normiebook accounts", and it actually is working, but how?

What should my next step be?

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So I need help on how to cope. I'm a senior in high school, 18. I've got a huge, and I mean HUGE crush on my history teacher from sophomore year. She is 32 but she doesn't look a day over 20 and we click really well. For the past two years I've visited her a lot after school and we sometimes spend 2 to 3 hours just chatting about life. I help her around the class and school sometimes and we are as close as a teacher and student can get, probably well past that. She's beautiful, compassionate, has amazing aspirations, literally my perfect woman, I love everything about her and we really click. She even stated that I'm mature well past my years and she admires me for that, she could see me being a great husband.

I need advice because I don't know what to do. I know I'll never be able to be with her, I even briefly considered asking her out to coffee or a museum after I graduate but that's just a fantasy tale. I know she's single, but I don't want to ruin anything or make it awkward, and besides, I'm just some kid, I offer almost nothing to her. I don't even have low self esteem, I consider myself fairly attractive, I'm somewhat /fit/, but damn. The age/experience gap makes me feel worthless, and on top of that society has a negative stigma for that kinda thing, also I think it would be illegal for us to hook up. She probably wants someone her own age.

How do I stop thinking about her? How do I not spend every waking moment wanting to blow my fucking brains out because I'll never be able to be with her? I would give anything to hold her in my arms for one night, just once. I can't deal with this, it's driving me insane. I can't get her out of my head.

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Long story short, met a girl last summer, talked a little on facebook and always made some kind of excuses to not go on a date.

Fast foward to March, I message her about going rock climbing and agrees. Date goes super well, like we clicked, even got physical, ate together and as I was about to drop her off, I leaned for a kiss and she said "I'm hard to get".

Fast foward a bit, invite her on another date, says she has exams and will get back to me. Never gets back

What the fuck, where did I do wrong? I had many dates in my life and I *know* if I did well or fucked up. This one was among the best dates I had and just like that, she's gone.

What went wrong?

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My wife and I want to adopt a little black child

How do I raise him to become like an Obama tier black and not a thug?

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It's been a whole month since my girlfriend of 3 years and I have had sex. I've kinda sucked because we're both our first partners and now after three years lately she says she doesn't want to do it. I ask her why she doesn't want to have sex and she says "It just isn't as exciting. It's not new, you know?". I completely disagree with her because I believe that having sex is something special between two consensual adults and it's mind blowing every time we do it.

I am a man of very high libido, I masturbate six times a day. And I have a 7.5 In. dick that is 5.5 In. in diameter. She also says it hurts which I can see, because she doesn't last more than 45 minutes even with an hour or two of foreplay. I've voiced my concerns but they fall on deaf ears apparently because she believes that she deserves the right to say "no". While I agree with her, that she does have the right to say "no", I feel a month without sex is ridiculous but i'm also of the opinion that she should at least consent. What the fuck is the deal? What should I do?

We plan on moving in soon (Febuary 2018) and I don't know if I can handle dry spells like this. Cheating is not something I would ever do because I believe that you would have to be an immature prick not to value another person enough not to hold onto a commitment. But thoughts?

For those of you in relationships, how often do you have sex?

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So I'm going to graduate in 4 weeks with a BA in Communications and a minor in creative writing(I know, go ahead and laugh). I just got an email from a video game testing job in Lynwood, WA that basically offered me a minimal wage contract job, and they want me to train for 3 days next week. Even though it's minimal wage, I figure that if I gain experience in a game testing job, it'll look good on a resume rather than my shitty past experiences such as Walgreens, Gas Station job, etc. I told my folks about it but they pretty much crushed my good mood about it. They don't want me to stay forever if I take it unless it has benefits(dental/med insurance) otherwise it's a waste of time. While I did agree I wouldn't stay there forever, I just wanted a job immediately after graduation so I'm not like the many other college kids who have no job, and pack on the debt for god knows how many years. I figured that maybe a few years of experience, I could apply to better jobs like Microsoft, Nintendo, and Bungie's gaming division. I guess my parents tone and "meh" attitude throws me off because they said go for the job, just don't be "too invested" in it. What the fuck should I do? Take the job and gain some experience, or finish the last few weeks of school without interruptions and find a job afterwards?

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Question from a female preferably to other females, but anyone can answer.

Should I ever confide in my female friends that I am a childhood sexual abuse victim? I'm 25, and finally started making some new, close friends after high school. They are all awesome, and I really feel close to these girls.

Some of them ask me why my family and I aren't that close and pretty much broken. The reason is most of my family broke apart into believing me/not believing me when I finally admitted I was being sexually abused by my step dad.

Is this something you tell people? Honestly, the only other person who knows this about me is my boyfriend and he hasn't told a soul.

I'm kinda worried about judgement. Fearing things like "Oh anon behaves like that from the abuse." Just because I'm severely socially inept and a lot of people admit to me having wishy washy moods and behaviors (in reality I'm just nervous as hell).


So yea, do I tell friends this or just continue awkwardly beating around the bush when friends ask me more personal questions?

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I have massive brain damage to the point of being on disability money and I'm undiagnosed everyone thinks it's my autism but actually I'm dying of a brain disease what can I do?i need to get a diagnosis soon

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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, fart guy and the guy who stuffs his pants
Fuck off

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Is IT a "gross" career to have?

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How do you approach someone you just found out is suicidal, but aren't supposed to know about it/ they would be upset if you knew. How do you help this person out? Do you try to relate to them on something, like how you may have been suicidal in the past, or what? How do you help someone when the people who are supposed to be the closest don't even seem to care enough to do anything?

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How long until I stop having imaginary conversations with my ex? It's been 5 months. They're not even about missing her, they're mostly about the break up.

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Hey, I mainly drink vodka and beer but the next time I go to buy some alcohol I'd love to try something different. My favorite vodka is absolut if that matters.
Feel free to suggest any other strong alcohol

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So there is a new receptionist in the company. All was normal at first, but then we had some really candid conversation over lunch. Turns out she is kinky, really kinky. We got to talking and a couple days later she straight up tells me that she wants to have a threesome with me and my wife. She lays down some conditions.
1. No one in the office finds out, ever.
2. Her husband never finds out. She is in an open marriage, but she says she wants to keep this private.
That one was kind of weird, right? I get the work thing, but the husband? In an open relationship?

Seems odd, but she is pretty good looking.
Wat do?

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I am currently in a one year lease at my apartment complex, where I have a full bath and utilities are paid for.

I stand on my feet and move around for 8 hours a day, so I like to soak in the tub when I get off of work. Today I got an email asking me to stop taking baths, as the apartment below me was having a leak. Apparently the tub, pipes, or ceiling are faulty, and the release of all of the water at once is causing an issue.

I don't want to stop taking baths, but I will if I have to. Is there any way I could swing this in order to lower my rent?