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>>18317578
He is secretly a cuck and enjoys hearing about how youve fucked other dudes. I bet you hed be down for a 3 way. Go ask him

>>18317578

Seems a bit bizarre to have that sort of a heart to heart after two years in a relationship. Who knows. Maybe it's been something he's been wondering about. Maybe he secretly plans on finding a virgin wife and leaving you for good. We couldn't possibly tell you what your bf is thinking. Ask him.

>>18317581
kek, i don't really think so. i somehow feel like he just wanted to know because it's big chunks of my life we never really talked about before... maybe i'm too optimistic.
he has that fantasy, yes. but mff, not mmfy

>>18317590
might be he wanted to ask since a long time but never felt it was the right moment.
i'll ask him later today why he asked me all that NOW.

>>18317167

Again she is married but I am single and have had 2 girlfriends in that time and one of them was a coworker that she was friends with. Out of nowhere she was being friendly again when she found out we were getting along really well, I ignored it because I wanted to focus on my girlfriend and she eventually stopped. My girlfriend would tell me she would get jealous when we talked or sat together for lunch etc.

There would be times when we would both mutally try to get along but something would always happen where she ignores me or starts avoiding me again at random and I would stop trying.

Now at this point, 3 1/2 years later we were getting along for about 2 months. For a bit she started avoiding me again and I got a little distant but she made an effort to be friendlier so I decided to keep going with it but then she started avoiding me again so now I want to know how I can end this how can I tell her I just don't want to play this game with her anymore it's been so long and it's so annoying now to do this it's just frustrating at this point.

>>18317167
>>18317169
bored women who dont get enough attention at home do this

you could probably fuck her, but for what purpose

>>18317179
I've had a few thoughts of why she does this.

She likes the attention from me but doesn't care for more than that or actually likes me but I just have a hard time thinking that would actually be true.

I mean I did it cause I liked her but that feeling is going away now cause it's been so long.

What would you say to her?

>>18317076
losing more than 5lbs per 1-2 weeks is can be unhealthy

asap? anon, that may be important to you, but please eat. you must have energy to survive, much more than what you say you eat.

have you been feeling slow or sad lately? also please prove you're 5'11, Asians aren't known for being tall

>>18317096
>slow or sad lately
Nope, feel perfectly fine. Actually, I feel happy because the semester is over.
>Asians aren't known for being tall
Well, I'm not going to take a picture of myself again just to prove my height. Just look at the picture for yourself and look at my proportions, I guess.

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>>18317096
Here's another pic since you don't believe me for some reason. This was a year ago and l was probably around 5'10" (and thinner) here

Basically, I just miss being thin and would love to be thin again. Got depressed and ate a lot to the point where I'm at (skinny fat/fat)

Don't deny what you are, but question why anyone would think it is wrong, and why you care.

Have you had sex with a woman?
Give it a try first and if that doesn't work you can revaluate if you want to give men a try.

>>18317056
Listen man, I can't deny who I am because it's not me at all.
>>18317064
I have, sex is usually great esp when I have strong feelings with that person. It's just that I keep getting these thoughts I don't need. I can't run from it, my therapist kept telling me there's nothing I can do, but I can't just let this happen.

>>18316738
You tried to be something you aren't, which is their father. You're going to have a perennially hard time filling that patriarch role without actually having raised any children.

Now the daughters aren't comfortable with you, and your partner should be able to spend time alone with her children.

I'd consider whether that relationship has the potential to satisfy your long-term needs.

>>18316738
This really isn't tricky.
Your friends are real friends and have your back here: you should ditch this woman.
Think about it this way - her daughters learned that behavior somewhere, do you really think it was from their father(s)?
You seem like a level headed guy who's looking for someone worthwhile to settle down with, so please don't waste your time on this woman.

Do you see your relationship being just you and your woman anytime soon. Or is it just gonna be more of the same shit. How long you been together sounds like youve wasted your time. Also these woman dont respect men and band together to survive. If this woman really loved you she would fight to keep you. Time to move on see what happens if she even cares

just be casual.


"hey what's up? how's life?"

if he's not responsive then just be honest. tell him you miss his company and that you feel he's avoiding/forgetting you.

Take the hint.

He moved halfway around the world and is now recieving bizarre ass pictures from you at 330 AM. He doesnt want to talk to you anymore. Hell, it took me a little bit of motivation to respond to your shitty thread.

>>18316726
This seems really smart actually. Hes one of the few people i know and actually talk to irl so I dont want to lose him.

What should I do if he's been ignoring me on purpose??

>>18316463
re-arrange some things, less emphasis on the figures maybe, but I do approve of the skyrim poster.

>>18316469
Where would you recommend the rearranging?

>>18316476
Maybe try moving youre "battle station" to a corner in the room

Not all men, not all women, yadda yadda.

It's PEOPLE that are stupid, not one certain gender. Everyone is unique, there's guys out there who think like you, the ones you know and the ones you build your world view around just may happen to be idiots.

In my experience:

Most women get along better with men. Most men get along better with women.

If you find yourself getting along better with the opposite gender, you are indeed just like everyone else.

>go through my entire life thinking I'm different
>like I'm not like the other girls

>tfw you find out you are not a unique snowflake

I second this.

I work out, I work (in a job full of old men), and my hobbies are all online / at home.

How to make friends? Preferably female (not for relationships, just because hanging with chicks is better than dudes)

Deattach from the outcome of making "FRIEND."

Slowly force yourself to make contact with people and learn from your mistakes. Don't let them crush your soul, learn from them. You'll eventually be a better people person at least.

>>18316251
How do you rebuild your soul after it's already crushed?

I'm almost 30 and I might start dating now. Why do I have such a huge fear of what my family will think?
>anon is DATING?
>he will be such a boring bf
>I wonder if his gf is as ugly as him
No one says that to me, but I keep thinking that that's what they think.

Girls:
How would I get you to keep talking to me online after you find out that I already have a gf? I just want to make some female friends because I get along with them better.

Confidence is pretty much destroyed at this point from the constantly being ignored, but I don't let that on outside of anonymous rants. But it is getting harder and harder to keep trying

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Girls:
I know that everyone has their own preference, but I'd like to collect a kind of census.

Would you rather:
>Date a man who is 30 pounds underweight or 30 pounds overweight
>Date a man who is a musician or an athlete
>What's the most important feature on a man's face?

https://youtu.be/ujh_Y6IjAaE

>>18314613
nice meme song

>>18314675
Thank you. I like it, too.

>>18314297

Cut all contact with her.
If she pesters you, get a restraining order.
If she break it, take her to court.

Simple.

Also, get a divorce.

>>18314297
I don't understand. You were both "aggressive" - what does that mean? You were having an argument? About what?

>>18314298
Shit, I don't know if I could do that. This is the only time an argument has become physical, but it was just so violent that I don't know.

>>18314299
To be completely honest with you, I don't even remember what the argument was about. Just that we were both drunk and angry at each other. I pushed her away and then she beat me.

>>18314122
Simply not give a shit. What else do you want to do? Wear heels? See it as a filter for superficial bitches, you really wouldn't want to be with someone whose affection is based on height.

get a manlet girl.

>>18314132
That's part of why I'm so self conscious about this shit. It's not really something I can help. It doesn't help that fraternities are trying to get me for the fall and I know how the girls are in greek life. I got around a lot when I was in a band but when that ended so did my sex life. I couldn't help but see correlations between that and what I've been convinced by myself is my biggest fault

I have similar legs, but they're very shapely so I don't mind too much. Never had any complaints, and I've caught a guy staring at them from time to time too.

>>18314071
Lose as much weight as possible.
I am the same as you (muscular legs, generally broader bone structure) and while I don't look petite my calves got so much better.

>>18314076
Was it like starring bc he likes it or disgusted?

You can't get/force someone to care about you. If they don't ask or listen to you like how you'd like you can communicate with them depending your relationship with them. If they don't show interest just lose them. You don't need more negativity as is.

Not OP but I get what he means. Nobody supports you when you say youre depressed. You can even lose friends and loved ones, and rather than hoping you get better, they just look down upon you.

I know that feel OP, it sucks.

who are you talking to about your depression? is it your boss?