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0. Never even held a hand. In fact I can't even remember the last time I spoke to a girl my age outside of work.
Also 4chan probably isn't the best place to find an accurate representation of 18 year olds lol.

Im a 18 year old female, first time I had sex was last year. 17 is the most common age to have sex around my fellow teens but I have known a hand full of guys who didn't have sex untill they where in college or stuff like that and they where 22/21 at the time. Seriously, there is no rush. And if you are afraid you end up dying as a virgin, theres always a thing called hookers lol

>>18318697
you would be surprised by what kind of people are on this site (speaking from a decent looking girl who isnt autistic in social enviroment)

>>18318676
You either pass or fail.
Giving free degreed to retards and mentally impaired peoplr would be counter ptoductive.

>>18318715
So I have too sue my doctors burn out mones and then commit suicide

>>18318730
Ill bite since its a slow day. What would you due your doctors over?

>>18318352
I have the beginnings of being well read.

>>18318357

I dont know what that really means but thats cool dude

>>18318352

I like myself the way I am and I like the plans for improvement I have. Frankly, I have zero reasons to complain.

stop caring so much?
the more apathetic you are, the more life becomes enjoyable for you.

>>18318294

>I'm a /fit/izen and am rather handsome
Pics plz

I had such a dream as well a couple weeks ago and it had me down for at least 2 weeks, however, you'll feel better again. But since that wasn't your initial problem, I'll now get to that. You see, you're an introvert, obviously. You have difficulties talking to people and behaving well in crowds. What you need, since love is very likely what you currently desire most, is getting a girlfriend. Since you're an introvert, you may think "How the fuck am I supposed to do that?" It's actually easier than you think if you don't think too much about it. I bet you like a girl. Walk up to her, take all your courage and ask her out as in "Hey, you maybe want to drink a coffee somewhen?" or "Hey, you seen that new movie already? Maybe want to see it with me?" If they've already been interested in you anyway, they'll accept. Since you said you're sorta handsome, they'll very likely accept anyway. Then just do everything right at that date: Pay all the time, hold the door open for her and take care of her without seeming too obsessed. There's actually lots of tips on how to being a gentleman on the internet. However, don't wear a suit on that date. Wear something nice without seeming formal. That's a date and no business meeting. Then, if you're let's say drinking a coffee together, ask her personal questions. NO SMALLTALK AND NO TOO PERSONAL QUESTIONS THOUGH. Ask her something like "What's your favourite coffee" or if in the movie theatre "By the way, what's your favourite movie?". Just find something personal without seeming off or missing the context. If that date succeeded just continue dating her and after a couple dates you'll have someone wanting to hug you outside your dreams. Someone loving you. Just keep in mind that you have to love her too. Take good care of her, listen to what she says and never attack her in any way. Now, if you want more friends, that's a whole lot more simple. Find something you like or are good at. Join some club that has to do with it as.. [1/2]

>>18318289
As a Christian, i would say that you two could be together without you changing your belief system.

>>18318295
You could also try telling her that not everyone has the same gifts given at birth. Cite Matthew 25:14-30, or Luke 19:12-27

>>18318289
Dump the crazed bint.

Personally I'd have a full argument over why she's going fruity to set the scence, perhaps even save her from going full tard, but likely it'd just make the breakup more natural.

After all if you went passively into the night she may not realise her righteous path is actually kinda bullshit.

>>18318224

men tend to see it backward
>be a woman, dont need to work out ridiculously to be strong and compete with other men
>not many options for clothes, wear anythign remotely nice and other men will tear you to shreds
>do anything remotely interesting with your hair and people call you gay
>not able to wear make up to cover up ugly
>can't give birth, which means only option is impregnating a woman who could fuck you and the kid over in the long term

also
>girls automatically have prejudice before even knowing you

why is this supposed to be a good thing?

for the record you're not going to pass as a dude so being a trans dude isn't going to give oyu those things. you can already wear those simple clothes and will get less shit for it than a trans dude gets for just existing. being a trans dude won't in any way make you stronger. you'll save on hair cut costs, but end up paying for it as a social outcast. employers are more likely to hire a woman who wears no make up than a trans dude. you also DONT HAVE TO give birth even if oyu keep your vagina.

You probably have no idea what it really is like to be a man, you just project your vision of what you see. Both sexes have upside and downside, you just need to accept your role in this world.

>>18318224

Yes. I do competitive martial arts and no matter how good I get or how hard I train, I'll never be the best at what I do, simply because I was born in the physically weaker gender. It's incredibly frustrating.

That sucks, but you should visit her.
Your adoptive parents lied to you probably to protect you; would you have liked to hear you were a product of rape as a child or a teen? You're an adult so you'd probably take it better, even if it is hard to take in.

Don't hate your biological mom for giving you up, she was probably going through a lot of emotional pain when giving birth to you and having you. Not sure, but she may dislike you because you are a product of the pain in her life, BUT the fact that she has kept in contact with your adoptive parents means she does somewhat care about your well-being.

Your adoptive parents love you, and most likely, because your biological mother is still in touch with your parents, she also does care.

Meet her and put an end to your anger and frustration, you will never get this past your shoulders if you never approach it.

>>18318223
>that I'm a product of rape.
You're a product of dicking, like everyone else too. How it happened has no relation to you, it's not like you had any say in the matter or even existed at that point.

>To me though my adoptive mom is my "real" mom so I find it incredibly difficult to accept all of this
Well, she is your real mother in everything but giving birth to you.

>At the same time, knowing my mother was raped and knowing she suffered for my sake makes me feel like I'm obligated to talk to her.
Nah, you don't owe her anything. She suffered because of her shitty father, not because of you.

Though as for the question, I'd talk to her. What do you have to lose in doing it? You don't know what you can get by getting to know her but not getting to know her is something you're very likely to regret. In best case scenario, you might win and end up with two loving mothers.

>>18318223

That sucks man. The parents who you've known as your parents will always be your parents. They loved you enough to adopt you and give you somewhat of a normal life and that's saying something. They kept this secret for you is pretty fucked up but this is a common thing to do.

>A product of rape
I'm pretty sure all of us are at some point down the family tree, a product of rape. Rape happens 1/4 women and some of them are bound to be knocked up and produce one of us suckers. It's your life man. You define you, not your past or who your biological parents are.

>Should I talk to my biological mother?
Do this when you're ready. Don't talk to this woman just because your mom told you to. You can choose to on your own terms and that will help you own this experience. Fuck these people who make babies, adopt at their leisure, tell the truth at their whim. You don't owe anyone anything and you certainly did not cause any of their problems.

I hope this helps you feel a little better about yourself. I can tell you that being adopted into foster care and being passed around can be a lot worse. Own your current life and experiences.

same here
my gf keep telling me what type her ex is and how much she likes, and I am not that type at all
But Im not really worry bout that, are you serious with him? he's the one?

>>18318149
he's kind of inconsistent with this. he also keeps telling me that i'm all he ever wanted in a woman, personality wise and also physical. so i don't worry too much. but somehow i do feel like he would like it if i changed for him, which i just won't do. he would love it if i got tattoos/piercings and i just don't like the thought of that stuff on my body and clearly tell him that.
we're very serious, yes. we're dating since 2 years and living together. we do have plans to get married and have a family one day.
it's not like i'm pondering over this all day, but it came back to my mind yesterday when i told him i have to go to the piercing shop tomorrow to get something for my brother. he half jokingly asked if i'm also going to get a piercing and i answered "yeah, a septum piercing, so i look like a boar". after that, he gave me puppy eyes, kek.

i guess my main question is if a guy can ever fully recover from having had clear preferences for years that their partner doesn't match o if he will secretly always hope i change my hair and modificate my body... because that's somehow a rather unpleasant thought.

>>18318159
Well the way I see just a preference, you dont recover from that..
but yea I think he would really happy if you change a bit for him cause I will if my gf change something for me
maybe you can try get a cut little tat? I think you bf can tell the different between reality and dream, maybe you can become a lil bit of his dream type

Plastic surgery to fix their slant eyes

>bringing a child into this shitty world when there's thousands of parentless babies that have to suffer through some of the worst of it

adopt

so you are basically /pol/-tier redpilled but still want to live out your weeabo side?

jk

when they are your kids you better love them and treat them as your own. Unless you live in the east of germany, racists are not too great of a problem either.

The mental issues argument is irrelevant, because a higher chance means jackshit unless it's in the hundred fold increase range, learn what probility means. Any kid you might have is more likely to be born with surplus chromosomes than having a mental disorder. Kids can have all kinds of disorders, but you get them anyways and you love them anyways with a partner that you think fits your life style.

>>18317845
>Would reducing my fat intake help me lose fat?

You should ask your GP

If you consume less calories than you expend during the day you will lose weight.

So yes, cutting the calories from soda and junk food will help you lose weight.

it doesn't matter what kind of food you eat when it comes to losing or gaining weight. the only thing that matters is how many calories you eat.

look up how many calories you're supposed to eat per day and eat only like 80% of that number. keep track of every calorie you eat on paper. if you cheat or miscount, you're not fooling anyone because your body doesn't know the difference.

the kind of food you eat matters for your overall health, but if you're fat then losing weight is the priority. budget your daily calorie allowance so you get some healthy stuff but also some stuff you actually like so you don't get frustrsted. remember the only thing that matters for losing or gaining weight is how many calories you're eating per day. evey other method is a meme.

Thanks for the advice guys, I really appreciate that

>>18317794
just b chad

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I guess they were right, /adv/ really is one of the worst boards. How unfortunate

>>18317723
Similar story here ... although how the fuck is it a problem? I tend to ignore average chicks too.

>>18317725
Because finding a hot chick that's not with a boyfriend or 3 beta orbiters or her gaggle of female friends is rare.

Good to know someone knows that feel.

>>18317730
>3 beta orbiters or her gaggle of female friends is rare
Applies for average chicks too, and with them the chance that they get influenced by these is higher too. As for boyfriend, yeah it's more of a problem but surprisingly many don't have one, it seems to be around 50-50 from my experience in the 21-24 range.

Alternatively you can analyze what makes you stand out compared to the average guy and try to limit it. Although I doubt you'll be happy with average chicks either. No partner is better than one you pick out of desperation to have some.

Not sure I'm getting the timeline here.
How old are you now?
How old is your child?
How long have you been together with your husband?

>>18317685
Basically, I'm considering having an affair with T. It doesn't have to be sexual, but it probably will lead to that, if we're being realistic. Even if I had lashes and bruises covering my body, I doubt my husband would even notice. I'm good looking, and maintain my appearance, but he has no interest. The "chase" is over. I'm pretty sure he has cheated on me, including when I was pregnant and a full-time student 2 hours away. I start nursing school soon. I'm kept very busy with child-rearing, keeping the house tidy, cooking, and with my coursework. So trying to distract myself from my desires has not proved effective.
I just want to get my mind off of my husband. He gives me so much anxiety and makes me severely depressed which in turn affects my coursework and my ability to be a good mother, all the while being perfectly content with himself and how he treats me. I've put so much effort, patience, and understanding into this relationship. Again and again he does the same things. He doesn't "believe in communication". Even after a huge argument, the next day he likes to just pretend nothing happened or just ignore me.
I think if I put less energy into this relationship (and continued to cook and clean for him like normal), I'd be a better mom AND more attractive to him because not only would I be in a much better mood, but I'd be less "naggy" and upset.

>>18317706
Quite clearly, your husband has no interest in a relationship, and only wants an unpaid maid.
Leave him. Move back to your parents if you have to.

initating is ok, aggressiveness is not
i get turned off by it, as if i have a job of fucking you regardless if i want it or not
that sad i usually do my gf 3-5 times a day

He could possibly have an alpha male problem about you leading the sexual acts but that sounds weird and or stupid.
Every man wish for a girl that wants to have sex.

>>18317642
>Is it a thing or I'm just overthinking it
It's common. You initiate, you want to have sex when he might not be as horny as you, so there's an initial adjustment period in which he's trying to reciprocate, and you perceive it as he doesn't like it as much, of course if he initiates he would be there before you and vice versa.

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>>18317628
high school bae, still good friends

The madman.
Please storytime how a blowjob starts and ends.