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Leaving should be okay, so long as you have even a modest source of income.

Leave, don't tell them where you're moving to, move far enough that you aren't likely to run into them when doing the weekly groceries.

Pay a visit to your local cop shop and have a friendly chat, let them know your concerns about leaving, don't mention the drugs, so that there is a record of your worry should anything actually happen.

>>18344773
I've lost my job and I'm looking for another one. That was the big issue today when I had to go some where to look for a job though the workers union I'm in. They've stolen my money, drained my bank account, sold my xbox, smashed a tv of mine, sold a tv I bought them ($500). They do this thing now that if I don't give them anything (money or whatever) I get treated like shit and have my things broken. I feel that it will get physical soon and I don't know why I don't just have the balls to get up and leave. Tonight I had a small thing of rumplemize, my brother comes in an takes it, I've had the thing for years and felt like drinking it. The moment he saw it he took it and when I asked for it back all hell broke loose, punched me in the face and threw ajax/w bleach all over my room and got all over the clothes on my bed and probably ruined them. They'll break the things I have or just flat out take it from me.

I'd be asleep at that time of day too. I know it's hard but just sit on it and see if you get an apology tomorrow.

>>18344693
She didn't fall asleep. You wouldn't believe how many times I've heard that excuse from women. She didn't want to tell you no for whatever reason so she reached for the convenient excuse that has worked before.

>>18344715
what the fuck is your problem

>>18344566
Don't drink. You are opening Pandora's box that will lead you down the path of a party animal that will drink and screw your way through dozens of girls and then around age 25 wonder wtf you were doing that whole time and if it's too late to get your life together/find true love. Go to the movies, an amusement park, a trip to someplace you have never been. Drinking and partying is a meme that will destroy your youth. Don't do it.

>>18344566
Liquor before beer you're in the clear
Don't mix different types of alcohol your first time and I would recommend sticking to beer. I always feel better when I get drunk off beer as opposed to hard liquor.

I don't like drinking at all, i mean there are a few drikinks out there very cool but they don't worth getting drunk, really dude be careful when you have to deal with alchool, it's not cool how it looks.... hope you'll never going to assist/partecipate to rave party cause they are very sad indeed :/

>>18344520
Stories like this make me thankful i don't have any friends that are girls. She sounds narcissistic and self obsessed. It isn't your job to inform her that she isn't a universal object of desire. Let her entertain her delusions in that tiny little head.

>>18344520
Let me guess, your friend is very forward, often sexually, and demands a large amount of attention.

Your friend seeks out these people, whether or not she's even consciously aware of it.

Could be. I have this same problem. I don't even know what to do about it anymore. So I just stay home most of the time and try not to get too close to people to where they'd get the opportunity to develop feelings.

Don't compare yourself to your peers. Compare yourself to the curriculum. This is unhealthy behavior and you're just going to keep second guessing like this.

Look up impostor syndrome. It's a thing, and you're not alone.

>>18344526
Yeah, serious issue for grad students too.

Teaching depends on where you live, and what extra education you get in terms of competitiveness. If you're in america you pretty much can get a guaranteed job in teaching through teachers for america program. Prove yourself and you'll have a job for a life time.

No, literally NO ONE gives a fuck about your college gpa unless you're an engineer with only a bachelors. ffs it doesnt even really affect your chances for grad school in a huge way.


With a masters and 15ish years experience you can make as much as 90k a year as an elementary school teacher (yes even kindergarten which only have half days) in some states. And considering the job is typically 8 hours a day or less a day AND you only work 9 months out the year is a pretty good fucking deal..

>>18344526
>Impostor syndrome
Damn, it seems to really explain so much of my personal struggle, even outside of my education.
Though I do have legitimate problems with work ethics and general laziness, constantly bashing myself with sense of inadequacy is only making things worse.

I still find my chances of employment in the future quite low, but I'll try to keep these things in mind.

>>18344567
>Teach for America
The interview/resume process seems quite selective, but it sounds like a promising program.
It looks like they have recruitment at my uni, I'll look into it and apply for it next year.

>>18344393
Are you using them correctly? That's never happened to me.
I think I liked the shape of the Durex ones more than the Skyn's, but they were a little more expensive.

>>18344443
how do you misuse a condom?

>>18344498
By not putting it correctly, using wrong lubes with it, etc.

>>18344322
if you want a good time, she's your woman.

you'll learn a lot about how to please a woman, that's for sure.

no hang ups, just chill.

>>18344341
I just wonder if erections are overpowering my better judgement

>>18344356
probably, but what did you think they're for?

there's a time and a place for everything, and this may just be the boost to your confidence that you need.

you'll see, it'll be easier to score once you've finally gotten beneath the sheets with a woman.

(and lost all notion of their saintliness)

first

burn everything related to your crush. letters, pictures, etc, get rid of all of it.

next, obtain a copy of the book 'Gorilla Mindset'. it will help you strive to greater heights within yourself, and if you give it a chance and apply the lessons within the book to yourself, you might get over your insecurities. who knows, maybe they'll never bother you again

Breakups are meant to teach you a lesson, m8.

Also go full no contact. Stay single until you're happy as a single man and content with your lifestyle and physical form. After that, you're ready to get back out there.

>>18344083
dont listen to that fuck above me. dont burn everyhing, you will like to look back and look at those notes and things later in life, it is part of your history. Im assumming you just broke up, so just give it a month or two and you will be good and new.

>>18344075
stupid question, i bet you don't even have adhd

>>18344075
python is a great language to start with. the best advice I can give you is make sure you stick with it. It's better to practice an hour a day for a week rather than 7 hours one day and then none for the other 6 days.

>>18344089
If it's a stupid question why bother posting in my thread, seriously?

Habitat for humanity?

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>charity work

>>18344065
getting over yourself


You could work at a food bank sorting food. If you have a job that you can use to help a charity you could offer your services for free. Clean up trash with a group.

>>18343975
>To spare the guys here
You really think straight women like to see that shit?

Anyway, not clicking.

I don't understand your first question. If you're asking if I liked someone but hadn't even gone on a date with them yet, would I still talk to/date other guys? Yes, probably, unless I was really, really interested and I know this person is interested, too.

>>18344070
No but there is no other way im sorry :/, Im asking would I ever be cheated on because of my dick, because I always worry about that. it would destroy me...

Cmon I never bump but at least one honest responce would be apreicated.

>>18343900
I should also add that I have had depersonalization disorder for 10 years.

I have not worked for 4 years and have been sitting in my room going insane. I developed OCD over the past 5 years and idk I dont fucking know what to do . All I know is i dont want to be this person anymore. I want to live a normal life.

Fuck. I want this to end.

>>18343900
OP I'm in the same boat, so take my advice with a grain of salt.

You need to take control of your life. Do the things you know you have to do to sort your life out. It's going to be hard, uncomfortable, and sometimes might make ropes and guns seem so much more tempting. But it WON'T EVER CHANGE if you don't take those steps yourself. Things won't just fall into your lap. Snap the fuck out of it. Don't waste away like me, you'll regret it.

>>18343729
Wear a condom and don't eat her out.

Bring her a teddy bear.

>>18343729
relax and enjoy yourself, that's the most important thing.

and don't forget to write a report on /b/ when you're done.

>>18343670

So that brings me to the past two weeks or so. A few days after she told me she left him she asks if she can come over and play some video games. Eventually we end up kissing on my bed and she tries to initiate sex. I decline saying it's not a good idea. However, she initiates the kissing again and we end up having sex. I don't want this to sound like this wasn't consensual on my part, I was just hesistant as I wasn't sure it was the best idea.
Since then we've started hanging out again like in February, and have had sex a few more times. But I don't really want a relationship with a single mom. I've always said I would never date a single mom, but here I am basically doing that. I haven't hid this from her and she has said she doesn't want to label us. She has said she doesn't want a relationship right now regardless and would want to wait for around a year before we decide to actually date so I can see what it's like to be with a single mom. The way she explained this made me feel a lot more at ease, as I thought dating her would essentially make me the dad immediately and I don't want that right now (graduating from college in about 6 months).

Cont.

>>18343675
Basically, I'm just extremely confused on what I should do. Regardless of what we do, I don't think I'm going to date anyone before graduating (I live at home and this was really the reason I had never dated before her asking me out last year). On the one hand I definitely have feelings for her, but I'm not sure how much of that is just because she was my first etc. On the other hand, I have my whole life ahead of me and don't want to get tied down with a kid (that isn't even mine). Don't get me wrong, I want kids, but I just always pictured myself waiting until at least my late 20s, so I could have experienced life as an actual adult and built up a nest egg of sorts to give any kids I have a great life. If we do start dating in about a year I will more than likely have a nice job, but I won't have gotten to experience life that much. She has also said that I might change my mind in a few years, so she would be willing to wait on me. However, I really don't think that's fair to her or the kid and couldn't live with myself if I did get back together with her.


I could add more to this, but I think I've gone on long enough for any readers to draw a conclusion. Thank you so much for any and all advice.

>>18343670
1. Post longer than 2000 without tldr doesnt deserve replies at all.

2. Realize that dating ex is bad because for whatever reason you broke up in the first place IS STILL VALID.

It is like trying to repain shattered mirror. Go find new gf. Good luck.

Shit or get off the pot.

>>18343590
So either pick up the pace or quit?

>>18343582
You could take some courses online. Getting a degree is better than not but if you could speed up the process it would be better