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Hey /adv/
Hope you can give me some advice and shit.
Will outline how I got into situation and then where I am now.
>Finish Uni
>Don't want to live with my mum again
>apply for jobs where my friend lives after asking him if it would be ok if I crashed at his until I got the money to move out
>It's aight, it's a landlord doesn't care much kind of property
>saving up money is hard, took a job change and 6 months
>during that time, I said I'd move in with one of my friends friends to save money at the time
>couldn't get a place due to me not having a decent enough job or ID
>Friend says fuck it, will wait until after education to move out
>I need a place so land a 2 bedroom one
>Deposit, rent, bills, set up, council tax
>Other friends around every week because "Let's see your place" and "I need a place to crash"
>Have my own place finally, it's fucking divine
>start buying gay shit like a welcome mat and a kitchen clock and some ornaments
>Friend from before says "So about moving in is it ok for Monday"
>Wait we're still doing this
>Grown fond of having my own place for my family and friends and possible girls to come over
>He moves his stuff in
>His mum obviously thinks it's permanent
>"Yeah you can do a lot with this place Son"
>Two weeks in
>Massive regret
I don't have my own place anymore. It's a guy who doesn't understand that when I come home from work I just want to do what I want and not have him come into my room of my paid for house and talk about wrestling. I've told him not to pay anywhere near the amount he should for bills because I really don't want him invested in this place. He's taken over the living room and has a dakimakura with him and it's like why.
I told him that it's fine to stay here until he gets a job, and we'll see about where we go from there, but he and his mum obviously think he's moving in afterwards.
I guess, I want him to move out but I'm feeling like an absolute bastard about it.
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do you love this man..? that could be a possible problem...
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>>18388368
I don't love this man.
It'd be pretty gay if I did.
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>>18388371
does he love you???
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I asked a classmate if she wanted to watch a couple movies together, we live in two opposite ends of town.
I asked where she'd like to meet and she said that it should be a place where we could crash or a cafe/bar. I told her that my place is free if she's okay with it and she said sure, she'll bring the booze.
I'm reading this as a sign of interest, now my question is: my apartment has two bedrooms, I don't want to make the assumption that she wants to sleep together and make it awkward if that isn't what she's looking for but at the same time I don't want to be like "here's your room, good night" and miss out on this chance.
How do I figure out if she wants to sleep with me or not?
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>>18388336
Spend the evening with her, build attraction with her, point and tell her which room is yours and she can sleep where ever she wants. She'll do exactly that
Make sure the other room is made, tho
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>>18388336
Your clue will be based on how much she drinks. If it's little or nothing, she ain't stayin'. If she gets sloppy drunk, she'll be too lit to drive home and have to stay. She'll probably get real horny and this will be a fun evening. Have some condoms on hand just in case. But don't leave them on hand, move them to dick or they won't work.
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>>18388391
That's rape
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So my girlfriend and I just got back together after a month apart and she confessed to me that she fucked her ex boyfriend in between
I still wanna be with her but I can't shake that this stings
Am I allowed to be upset cause I feel like absolute dog shit and dont know whether or not to be mad or sad or what
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Why did you two break up in the first place?
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>>18388242
Logically no, you don't have a reason to be upset. You were broken up. You had every option in the world to do something similar. For whatever reason, she felt the need to seek other dick while single. Most people would say it's way too soon. But it was her ex, someone she was familiar with, so it is to be expected. It would be worse on her if it was a random new guy. Then it'd fall into slut territory. But seeing as it was someone she had a relationship with at some point, it is easy to see why she would run back to that. She clearly has issues being alone. That's the bigger problem here. She feels the need to always be with a guy. That's a reflection on her not being independent. Bad sign.
But emotionally, you're right to feel weird. It doesn't matter, though. The bigger problem here is you're back with an ex, who is incapable of being her own person, who feels the need to seek the comfort of familiar things. This relationship will not last. You are a comfortable thing. She'll branch out and find something new, become comfortable with that, then leave you. And you'll wonder why you were such a fool.
Do not get back with exes. Move on. You already fucked up. You're not going to get over this. The fact it bothers you so much right now is a clear indicator you will not let it go. It's going to eat away at you. This coming back together that you two are doing is not going to last. Her, because she's flippant. you, because you're harboring resentment. If you're smart, you'd get off this sinking ship.
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>am I allowed
what are you fucking talking about, if you wouldn't be upset you would be a fucking cuck
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How long do you usually wait after a break up before trying to find a new girl?
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>Trying to find a new girl?
Why are you doing this OP? Are you a desperate NEET?
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>>18388182
I was just curious. I'm not planning on actively looking for a girl right now
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>>18388206
You don't "find a girl" you're looking to date. You find a girl if you're just looking for a quick fuck and duck.
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What gives your life meaning/makes you happy? Of course everyone feels anxious or even miserable a certain portion of their life, and i am grateful that I feel content as often as I do and shouldnt complain. But everyone apart from maybe the most enlightened yogis feel a longing for something, right?
I realize many unfortunate people would kill to be in any of our seats, and I feel silly for wanting more than the luxuries of a middle class life, but the feeling is still there and reason wont erase it.
I lead a very repetitious life which pretty much consists of 50% escapism (weed, video games, movies) and some time spent hanging out with friends and soul searching through literature, meditation and a monthly drug trip (this also goes in the escapism category) and work a job im satisfied with. The one tangible thing i lack and the source of most of my sadness is a girlfriend, which is a realistic goal for the future.
But even getting that would probably not satiate my thirst for a state of pure happiness and nirvana. And I know thats an improbable goal, so whats a good substitute? What makes you genuinely happy, what sparks your joy for life?
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Nothing in life makes me happy apart from the suffering of the stupid. My spare time consists of escapism 100%. I play vidya and browse the internet to escape the depressing existence that is my life and I don't know of anyway to change. Antidepressants just dull me to reality so I don't even feel real happiness. I stopped taking those antidepressants but nothing physical has changed, I still do the same stuff. The only thing that changed is my mental state (clearer thinking but more depression).
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You know that illness where people think they are dead and have like a coma like state in their brain? I think I have that, either that, or I just don't exist. I cut myself deeply with a scalpel several times and felt nothing. I get ignored by everyone. My eyes are the eyes of a dead person and my skin is as pale as a blank lightly green white sheet of paper.
I think my brain is damaged in some way. I'm gonna get checked on it soon.
I pray for death everyday, but then I see, I am already dead and there is no way out of this hellish cycle.
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>>18388258
Nah, you're probably just an emo edge lord. Someone who actually had that condition wouldn't be able to recognize they have it.
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LDR, do I confess? help! 2017-06-05 03:29:43 Post No.18388120
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Wah /adv/ I'm in a pickle. I met a great guy who is cute and smart and just my type. But the problem is that i met him online: he lives in another country, you see. Really far away from my country. So anyway we sometimes message each other and chat and it's all nice but I have a really heavy crush on him but I'm being realistic and I know that
a) he may be not interested in me like that and
b) ldrs never work and since I can't move to his country and he can't move to mine starting anything would be pointless
So! I don't want to keep being friends and just lusting after him quietly cause it seems dishonest towards him and our friendship. Now here comes the big question: do I tell him I like him and find him cute ect or do I just let go and kinda stop talking with him???
If you were this guy which option would you prefer? Please help me adv!
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please help! ;_;
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>>18388120
In one right noe for 5 years and its going downhill, not sure what's happening anymore, do yourself a favor and don't try it unless you plan on living in his country or he plans on living on yours
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just let go. ldr's don't work, and you'll be keeping both of you from finding relationships with people who are actually available. in my experience, it's not going to work out in the end, and you'll both just be hurt.
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Hey /adv/,
I'm about to finish uni having achieved a decent overall grade in a politics degree and need some advice on what to do next because I'm at a loss. I had no goal in mind when deciding to go to uni other than to put off having to decide what to do with my life for 3 years and now my time is up.
I need to get a job as soon as possible because I can't stay at my parents' house long-term but I have literally no idea how to look for a job or what kind of thing, if anything, is out there for someone like me with a meme-degree and no previous experience in anything. I'm in the UK at the moment but would prefer to live pretty much anywhere else and would rather not work in London if I can help it.
Any advice, career/job ideas and inspiration is appreciated.
Feel free to use the thread to ask for advice if you're in a similar end-of-uni situation.
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>>18388059
MI6
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>>18388083
Not sure if you were serious but it seems like it would at least be worth looking into. I'll consider throwing them an application, can't hurt anyway.
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>>18388059
civil service
politics
multinational corporation
retail
longer term - law shcool
>Hang out with old friends from school.
>Only "friendship" I actually had since school was one dude who had great connections to things.
>Life took a huge turn around for me recently to the point I value my days off.
>End up going to an after-party, where the guy tells me he's been tripping on shrooms all day and has snow-white too.
>Everyone else has been going to the bathrooms way too much making it obvious he wasn't the only one.
>Realize I shouldn't be dipping my feet in this pool right now but end up staying for a good time anyway.
Should I honestly still hang out with these people? I know they'll never convince me to do to hard drugs, I come from a family of what that shit brings in, or would it just be better to drop them and live a life of loneliness?
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Just don't do drugs. And if they bother you, make new friends. Step out of your comfort zone
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You have two choices. 1. Become clairvoyant and do the longest line of coke you've ever done and be bffs or 2. be a softcore weak ass pussy and die alone... you're choice
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The drug life is the thug life hardcore all the way DO IT JUST DO IT!
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Hey /adv/. How do I stop being ashamed of my sex life? I'm 18 and in a relationship. Girlfriend is same age. We have been together for 1 year and a half. We haven't done much sexually. It's just been rubbing and kissing. I want more than that, but I never have time alone with her. I try to hangout with her but she is either tired or busy. It sucks. Whenever my friends ask about my sex life l tell them "We have done some stuff, but we haven't had sex yet" then they ask for details and they find out it's just rubbing and kissing. I seemed to get shamed for it. Friends joke about it. Even my girlfriend does. It's so fucking irritating. How do I cope /adv/?
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Just fuck already
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>>18387959
Well i mean he can't for the reasons stated above so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
As for op dude theyre just fucking around. Its kinda funny and jokes are jokes. Unless they're straight up attacking/mocking you in a hostile manner theres no problem. Grow thicker skin.
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>>18387971
If being tired or bust was as much as deterrent as OP claims no one would get laid. Bro she's young. Girls like adventure. Go on a drive and fuck her in the car. If you need it to be special or you can't make shit like that work, I'd make the argument OP isn't ready. Sex is sex. Let's not complicate it
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My girlfriend lied to me about some major events that severely affected our relationship negatively, she's made two other major mistakes in the past but I decided to stay with her and work things out because this time around she seems genuinely sorry and desperate not to lose the relationship because I treat her very well. Occasionally however, I'll remember everything she's done and it saddens me, when she notices or I bring it up to her she gets upset that she can't help me feel better and is seemingly hit by guilt all over again, this makes me hesitant to bring anything up at all but it would also be nice to talk to someone about it to vent yknow? I don't want to continue pestering any of my friends with it, would staying quiet and enduring it be the best way to maneuver this?
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>"this time she seems sorry"!
>she gets upset because you remind her of what a piece of shit she was
sounds like she ruined the relationship. Keeping silent will just make everything fester, if she betrayed your trust and you find it hard to continue your relationship, just dumpe her like she deserves. She's basically guilt tripping you into feeling bad about doing anything drastic.
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>>18387915
She definitely did a number to the relationship,for the first 7 months we never even had an argument, she's definitely lost my trust but for the past 2 or 3 months she's been good, she listens when I tell her to do or not do something, shes realized that I've been right the whole time and have never steered her wrong so she takes my word as gospel now, on top of being sorry and all that I find her extremely attractive and so do a majority of people that meet her or see pictures so my train of thought is a hot yet obedient family oriented woman is worth keeping even if it took her a bit to get it together, everything she did was never out of malice but from bad training and insecurities, it's still her fault 100% but I decided to hold on because I think it'd be worth it now that she's shaping up, or am I delusional?
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>>18387926
What exactly did she do to fuck things up?
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I want to find a religion 2017-06-05 01:44:43 Post No.18387902
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Can someone help me find a religion? My mom was a pentecostal protestant, and while they were nice, I didn't believe in their doctrine. Other protestant denominations are too casual for me. I have a bit of interest in Catholicism, but from what I know, there's numerous problems with Catholicism such as the controversies with the higher ups and the European Pagan influence.
Judaism and Eastern Orthodoxy are also both probably the most interesting to me, but there aren't any communities for those religions around here afaik. What religion do you practice /adv/?
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Don't be stage 1.
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Religion of peace
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Buddhism or Methodist.
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When is it acceptable to wear a bikini? How fit do you have to be? I'm 162 cm tall and weigh 50 kg, but will weigh 48 kg soon. I've been lifting the past few months and am almost out of skinnyfat/chubby territory. I'm also a chestlet. When is it acceptable for me to wear a bikini? Should I wait until I have well defined abs (I cannot get a flat stomach for the life of me so have to aim for abs) and a peach butt?
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>>18387833
If you're confident enough you can wear a bikini.
Not gonna ask you to post a pic cause if you wanted to you would've already, but your measurements sound fine.
If you're completely flat I would just wear a tshirt and bikini shorts though
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>>18387837
bikini bottoms, I had a brain fart
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>>18387837
I'm not completely flat, pic related is close to my size, I might be slightly bigger.
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I have a crush on a pretty awkward and shy guy since last year.
I always felt like he had a thing for me as well. He is very sweet to me - he compliments me quite a bit (both on my physical appearance and my personality), he always tries to cheer me up, he goes out of his way to make me happy. He often says stuff like he feels that he doesn't deserve me or that I'm too good for him. He talk much more than he talks to most other people (even his parents). We hang out a lot.
Recently I try to start physical contact but he doesn't get the hint. We were watching a movie at my place, I hugged him and kissed his shoulder, and he just froze.
He's not virgin and had girlfriends before, so he shouldn't be scared to go for a fucking kiss.
I don't want to scare him off and be too forward, but I don't know what to do at this point.
Does he just not like me?
Should I just go for the kiss? Should I just tell him I like him and I want to date him?
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He's probably gay and you will die alone. GAME=0VER
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>>18387815
>He's probably gay
He gets hard when I touch him. He had 2 girlfriends before. Never showed interest in dudes.
>you will die alone
I have other options. I just really like him.
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>>18387814
Inform him of your demands at gunpoint, Or just tell him what you want from him in detail without being to explicit.
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How much is it appropriate to spend on an engagement ring? I'm currently broke as shit and have about a year and half left of school but I really want to propose next summer to my gf. We've been dating for 5 years and have talked about marriage. I feel bad that I won't be able to afford a nice ring but also I don't wanna wait any longer than one more year :/ is it acceptable to get a bigger diamond once you have more money?
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0 dollars. do not fall for the jew scam. diamonds are literally worthless clear stones. get a gold and silver ring that's actually valued at current prices.
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>>18387795
This OP do something more personal. If she insists on the rock she's trash anyway.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=N5kWu1ifBGU
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>>18387786
>implying your sow deserves anything other than a pussy full of cum
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I'm feeling guilty.
So, I choose to not have sex. I tried it in the past and had a bad time. I don't really care to try it again. However, I just realized that even though I choose to not have sex, that I sext with girls every once in a while. Realizing that makes me feel bad about myself. Infact, a girl is sexting me as I type this.
I don't understand why I'm even doing this.
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Attention. Either continue and acknowledge your motives or stop.
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>>18387760
Yeah I should probably stop
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>>18387724
Don't see why you think you should feel guilty. If you don't want to have sex but want to sext, that's your choice. That probably won't always be the case, but if it is, who cares? Definitely worse places to be in right now.
I almost want to say "Stop feeling bad" but that's pretty shitty advice. Basically just know that nobody is judging you harder than yourself for this and that it's pretty baseless. It's fine, anon, just do what feels right.