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>>18400397
I was in a similar situation (except not in the 1% you fucking faggot).
I joined the military
I'm shipping out next month

>>18400410
What made you join the military?

>>18400422
>was a dumb teenager
>went to college
>wee wa I'm gonna learn some shit
>4 years later
>learn some shit
>nothing applicable to real job
>pop was military
>military now says join up, turn your degree to commission

That's that.
I can turn my dumbass academic degree into real world money.

>>18400260
Just get a hotelly

>>18400260
How exactly did you move the message to sex so quickly? I'm walking with a girl about netflix and chill but I've no idea how to start the sex conversation rolling yet.

>>18400323
Dude it's Tinder,

she tells me she doesn't sleep with the tv on but if i would like she could leave it on. So i agreed. She turned on the ac and i layed down with shorts and a tee on, she asked if i normally sleep with my clothes on, and i said no. She then said if i wanted to i could take my shirt off, I told her that i don't tend to sleep only without my shirt and that i usually sleep naked at home, she laughed and said she did too. So she then told me that if i wanted too i could take off my clothes. So i did and so did she. As were were laying there we were not touching but she started to put her legs against mine because i was warm. And she asked if i mind, i said no and we got comfortable but all that was touching was our legs afterwards we just laid there for a little bit and she ended up re-positioning herself in kind of a spooning position with her back in my direction. slowly she began moving closer and closer until her ass fit into my hips. We were spooning but our hands were silent. she began to rub her ass very discreetly on my dick. I began to get a boner. She felt it and went straight for touching it.

One thing leads to another and we started making out and i put her on top of me and we were dry humping and i would feel my dick penetrating her through our underwear. She kept asking me to just put it in. I didnt at the time but we got to the point where we had sex she came in under 5 minutes and came every 15-20 minutes after that. It was a total of 4 times. It was great but i couldn't bust. after wards she had her head on my chest and we were talking and she just bursts out in teas saying she shouldn't have done that, that she had promised her boyfriend (who she told me was her ex) that she was going to wait for him to have sex again. And she felt guilty and but i calmed her and caressed her and I told her that if she wanted to we could just act like it never happened. So we fell asleep together with her in my arms. She woke me up with a kiss and after that things went back to normal. I took a shower and got dressed in front of her and she did that same but when she was changing i grabbed her (I couldn't resist) she laughed and told me to stop (playfully) so i laughed it off and did. Afterwards we ate breakfast and went to uni. We were trying so hard to play it off like nothing happened. We then went to a museum together after uni.

It was a great day. The next day she was much colder (tuesday) she didn't talk to me or greet me properly but as we had previously talked about how we were trying to forget what happened and be friends which i understand but that shit hurt. Anyways the next day (wednesday) we were back to being friends just like when we met. We had so much to talk about and we walked around together. She invited me to comeover and study with her but forgot that she had a doctors appointment and would be going to her step moms house afterwards, and i also had a doctors appointment so we put it off. Today was a new and great day. We had 2 final exams and we did them together and got a perfect score on both(final exam was done with pairs of 2) We were both nervous af and have anxiety but we like to calm each other down. So today she went home after school like normal. And Ive been contemplating What the fuck i should do. I really like this girl, we have A LOT in common we like a lot of the same artists, music, writers, directors, movies, we talk about politics, theology, ideologies, philosophy and spirituality and we just get along very harmoniously. She is intelligent and a very intelectual person. I am a sapiosexual so this is a huge turn on. I always make her laugh and she makes me laugh, we always smile at each other and I am never bored or unhappy or uneasy when I am with her. It feels great to have met her. These last few days have been such an emotional roller coaster. I don't know what to do but i want to spend more time with her and get to know her better. So my question is, How do I get her to want me more ? What can I do and how should I act. Should I bring up the past? How should I handle the situation so that she becomes mine? Should I ignore her? Should I be As platonic as possible? Should i tease her? Should I steal a kiss from her when she least expects it? Should I invite her over???? I Need Advice & help Pleaseee!!!!!

>>18400062
Why are you doing this? What is your end goal for this server? If its just to talk with people in game then make private channels in the server for mature people, and being mature also means not leaving when stuff like that happens not just the people saying it. I dont get how people get offended that hard and I feel bad for most people that act like that yelling slurs thinking its hilarious, they wont get that far in life

>>18400062

if you're in charge of your server, moderate it. if you want the pussies to stay, you gotta placate them, and frankly i dont think its 'pussy' to get annoyed with someone constantly yelling 'NIGGER' over a mic. thats not remotely the same thing.

>>18400062

Take a step back and consider the fact that you're genuinely concerned over the general "vibe" of your online chatroom.

Go outside, dude.

>>18400060
Do you think it went well? If so, I'd just ask her out again.
>hey, i enjoyed myself last whatever, wanna meet up again?

I'll let others judge whether that's good advice lol

>>18400065
yeah, it went well thats why we kept talking. she seems into all this, but if i dont text she doesnt, she never starts convos, and i feel uneasy because of that.

>>18400083
>she never starts convos

Most women do this, don't let it bother you.

Wonder Woman

>>18400010
Wonder Woman

wonder woman

>>18399742
i'm 30 and much less successful than you. it's all about your perception, i mean, does doing these things make you happy? yeah, it's pointless, but what isn't? you aren't going to cure a serious disease, you're not going to go down in history as an important scientist.

the truth is, you don't matter. i don't matter. 99% of the population doesn't matter, so you just do what makes you happy and stop thinking about what you "should be doing" based on a made up set of rules by people who only see you as a walking dollar sign.

>>18399742

Grow up and stop being insecure about yourself. You can play videogames if it makes you happy.

League is a MOBA but anyways, as long as your business it taken care of and you're happy I don't see the problem.

>>18399629

You are a fucking idiot.

>>18399648
I know, im disgusted with myself too

>>18399629
Alright guys. I know im a bitch but come on i need some help here

bump I guess

You should see a professional counselor or therapist. It would be good to explore why after this ling the emotional pain and suffering has not subsided enough to really begin living again.
Once you are in a place to live life again you will be open to finding the feeling you had with your ex with someone new.
Circle of life, especially with breakups or death, it seems like you are right in a place where you can't move in to full circle to live again.
Good luck anon

>>18399582
Have you gone on dates? How have you tried to get over her?

don't fuck her, are you a charity?
or you can simply tell her you don't like her, or that you still haven't gotten over your ex, you don't even have to hurt her.

>>18399540
do you want to fuck her?

Are you desperate?
If not, please have some standard and stop thinking with your dick.

Can you trust a girl?

More context.. I feel like it doesn't add up but thats because Im use to different.

Shes very innocent or at least plays it that way, and a tad simple, though she a lot older, has been in one loveless relationship but nothing since.

We all like attention right? She never shows that, however sometimes I feel like she has wandering eyes. I wonder what she does for attention a part from me? Or maybe I'm wrong?

I'm always putting scenarios in my head about her having the opportunities to do something behind my back but I've never been in a serious relationship. Is this because I don't trust her, or based on me?

Do I listen to what my gut tells me or is it just me worried about getting fucked over?

bump, I really want to settle my mind, it plays on it a lot. Thanks anyway that can give me advice, if I can help with anything I will.

>>18399473
Why are you paranoid about her having wandering eyes? What has given you any signs that this could be a problem?

this is the most pathetic thread on this board at this time. Yes, she'll think youre a creep.

Even if you're a good friend to her, asking for nudes still makes you a creep.

Besides you should ask for nudes BEFORE the exam. You already lost your chance.

No anon. She won't think you're a creep at all. You know what will make you look even cooler though? Asking her to fuck you for doing all those favors for her.

I'm just like you. Please help us out.

>>18399413

If you have a girlfriend... fuck her instead of watching porn?

>>18399427
That's not how it works.

There's no way of changing her, and frankly I think she took you for granted. I would suggest to distanced her for a bit, see how it goes from there.

>>18399357
Re the borderline, good thing shes on meds and all but fuck man, I grew up with a borderline mother and that shit is the worst. It fucked me up pretty badly. Consider this - you keep sticking together and have a family, and BAM, all your potential children are 100% guaranteed to have mental illness, no matter how good you are. That's completely out of your control, too. I have 2 siblings and we're all over 20, and all have some pretty serious issues.

As for the porn thing, I don't really think it's related to her mental condition. I hear there's a thing called being a "brat" in certain scenarios of BDSM where the sub acts out how they're not into it to goad the dom.
Anyway, fantasy is different from reality. It's easy to assume it's all about the "rape" scenario or whatever, but in reality it could be she's looking for a situation where she has no control, but still in a safe environment. If that's not your thing it's not your thing. You have no obligation to share kinks with somebody if you try it and don't like it.

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>>18399402
That might be a good idea, but we live together in an apartment and it would be hard to do anything short of moving out

>>18399461
It was honestly pretty fucked up. I'd get shouted at for half an hour because of something stupid like I cut bread on plate instead of a cutting board. It was a cycle where there'd be something she'd be upset about, she'd be angry for 2-3 days and I'd tiptoe around and try to get on her good side, we'd make up, and then next week there'd be something new. Looking back on it I think it was a way of controlling me - if it was it worked pretty well. I'm pretty emotionally resilient but I almost got broken by the constant abuse.

To be honest, I never really thought about the fact that our kids one day would have serious mental health problems. I don't know if I'd want to do that to them

With the whole BDSM thing, it's kinda weird - she seems to want complete control over a relationship (at least she did before) but wants the complete opposite in bed?? She's told me before that it's kinda like she can only ever be completely dominant or submissive, and that she probably would have ended up with an abusive partner if it wasn't for me

>>18399465
The meds aren't quite like that man. They're beta blockers

Sorry for the wall of text guys - it just feels kinda good to vent. I haven't really told anyone else about this stuff

>>18399231
Cont. It just feels like I'm all alone in this world, I've been exercising a lot recently I used to weight 230 now I'm at about 196 and still working out when I go for a jog or lift some weights I feel great but then as soon as I stop doing those the lonliness just sets in.

>>18399241
I feel as if I've wasted a lot of my life just working, I don't really have many skills outside of being able to always have a stable job. I do well in interviews but only because I practice for them I act as this person who is super friendly and outgoing but on the inside I just feel so depressed and lonely and shy and quiet.

Bump really wish I could get some insight on what to do with my life or how to meet new people with a relatively time taxing job